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  1. keenan

    Why?..

    keenan replied to PRSOV's topic in Emotions and Feelings

    Great question; I wonder about this all the time. Wish I knew.
  2. keenan
    Unless the person asking is my gynecologist or my therapist, yes.
  3. keenan
    Shut UP. Are you serious? Foxlocke, I'm sorry that your brother is a boob (pun intended), but that is just too funny. I can't imagine being any more obvious. You'd better go to the bank and stock up on one dollar bills for a visit to the local strip club in case your other brothers ever bother to contact you. I'm sure they believe such places are wrong, but it sounds like they'd make a special exception just for you! You rock.
  4. keenan
    I would repeat my earlier post word for word, except that I would add that you should try to be brave.
  5. keenan
    I'm sorry.
  6. keenan
    If you NEVER would have gotten involved with your ex if you knew how this other girl felt about you, then pedal backwards as fast as you can while there's still time. Stallion, your ex has caused you so much pain. You deserve a fresh start with a girl who is obviously crazy about you.
  7. keenan
    Calm down. She's jealous. If you really want her, now is your only chance to jump in with both feet and try to get her. I don't care how you do it, but you have to *convince* her that she's the only one you want: Send a HUGE bunch of flowers to her house, get down on your knees and sing her a stupid song, write a long and heartfelt letter and deliver it in person tomorrow morning with a bunch of cinnamon rolls...whatever. I know this goes against all the Tough Man rules that the guys on here lay out, but I don't think this is the time to be macho or play games. If she cares enough to be ticked, she probably still cares...but her pride is wounded and she probably feels a bit embarrassed and vulnerable because of it. In situations like this, many women like to be made to feel special. If she really thinks you're cool, she'll take "I'm an idiot" to be a legitimate apology.
  8. keenan
    Sorry if this is obvious to everyone else, but I just need an explicit "connect the dots" here: Did she tell you that she never wants you to talk to her again because she's mad that you're hooking up with your ex? Is she mad b/c it's your ex, or that it's just *any* other girl? Could she have reason to believe that you led her on? And Stallion--Whatcha doing hooking up w/ your ex???
  9. keenan
    I assume you mean, "which I can't change." I am over it. You're the one who asked for our opinions. Good luck to you.
  10. keenan
    First, how on earth do those two sentences go together? Second, if you "really can't help the way you feel about this," it seems ironic that you expect your aunt to be able to do so. Umm...yes, that's exactly what was said.
  11. keenan
    Nice photo, Pru! Now I don't feel like I'm talking to HAL.
  12. keenan
    Awww, thanks for the good news. I'm proud of your mom. Come to think of it, this is probably how societal attitudes change. People think that they're *against* something (i.e., homosexuality or a certain racial or religious group), then they meet a person who fits that description who turns out to be a *wonderful* individual, and all those attitudes start to crumble. That mismatch between what we've been taught about "people who do X" vs. the real-life fantastic and loving and caring behaviors of the "person who does X" standing before us causes us to adjust our beliefs in one of two ways: Either we decide that the stereotype is wrong, or we decide that the person before us is actually not very wonderful. In your case, your mom's love for you has caused her to challenge some deeply-held beliefs about homosexuality and religion. Your brother has taken the opposite strategy--he's decided to ignore his love for you in favor of his theories. Thank goodness *most* people love and care for the individuals in their lives enough to adjust eroneous beliefs, and then share their newly found wisdom with others. Yay for your mom.
  13. keenan
    This man has been molesting you for 25 years? Did he molest you when you were married? Have you ever said anything to anyone, including your ex-husbands?
  14. keenan
    Are you joking?? Her children are going to be upset because they're losing the family dynamic that they're comfortable with: two parents living under the same roof and spending time together--whether driving to school, doing chores, eating dinner, or hanging out in the park on Saturday afternoons. This has everything to do with one parent leaving the marriage for another love interest, and practically nothing to do with the gender or sexual orientation of the love interest. The only reason this will be relevant for the children is because adults who should know better will make them feel awkward and embarrassed about it.
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    I remember being very fond of Optimus Prime (the Transformer) when I was about 9. My first alpha male, LOL! I remember that I though it was kind of odd at the time, so sometimes I'd purposely not read the comics or watch the animated show just to prove to myself that I wasn't weird...making the whole situation even funnier, of course. It seems to be pretty normal. I think it's actually a good way for kids to figure out which character traits they most admire and identify with--kind of like reading DragonLance books. The characters are like real people distilled down to their essense, and so you can just pick and choose what you like. Like Sex and the City, actually!!
  16. keenan
    Amen, sister. I've been lurking. I like nearly everything Poco said except this. I gotta say, if a guy criticizes my hair on a first date I'm not going to feel challenged by him...I'm going to feel p*ssed. MAAAYBE light teasing about a belt or a pair of shoes on a third date ("Hey, Han Solo called...he wants his belt back")...but only if it's clear that we like each other and he's not going to be some freaky potential abuser who gets off on trying to erode my self-esteem one water drop at a time. IMO, the only way to use the sentence, "Your hair is very pretty, but it would look much better [up in a ponytail/down]" is to remove the words BUT, and MUCH BETTER. How about "Your hair is very pretty. It would look great in a ponytail." That way you've expressed a preference that is different from hers, but you haven't insulted her.
  17. keenan
    My suggestion is to be polite to her aunt, but maintain NC with Caroline unless and until she contacts you PERSONALLY and tells you that she misses you and wants you back. Family members sometimes have a hard time letting go...just like we do. ;( For all you know, her aunt may be trying to orchestrate a reconciliation by telling each of you that you're missed by the other. Too many romance novels....
  18. keenan
    I think that scene was over about 15 years ago. But no worries--I don't expect you to keep up with the cool kids, NJRon. Hey, do you have a black cape that I can borrow for tonight?
  19. keenan
    Like DN, I'm a super fast reader. I suspect that I also don't read every word. I scan chunks of text and eat them whole. If I miss something, I go back and read more carefully. I was amazed when my husband tells me that he literally reads every word in front of him at the same speed as when he's reading aloud. For me, reading silently and reading aloud are completely different animals. The subvocalization points made by anonymous_presense really resonate. I don't know how to learn to do this. I feel like I've always done it. Sorry to not be helpful.
  20. keenan
    Oh, that is sooo true. And if there's a vampire involved, he has to eat the garlic, too. Wait...maybe that's a different thread.
  21. keenan
    preppyusa, Since there seem to be many varied opinions about this woman's motive in contacting you...perhaps you should simply consider whether you WANT to talk to her again. Take away all the weirdness and the potential guilt, and just think about what's left. Does talking with her sound like fun? Are you interested in anything she might have to say? If not, do both of you a favor and just let it go. She'll get over it.
  22. keenan
    I have those moments all the time. One thing to realize, Goldeye, is that even if somebody else is in the same physical space as you are when you're experiencing something so beautiful and fragile and fleeting, they're more than likely not in the same mental space. They may also experience the moment as heart-stopping, but their experience will only be an approximation of yours...and vice versa. When you meet somebody who seems to have a very good overlap with your own 'sense of life', hold on tight. The only thing worse than not sharing such a moment with a loved one is TRYING to share the moment with the person standing beside you...and realizing that they don't feel it. I think this is why we feel such a powerful connection with people who share our tastes in art, music, and literature. Those are more common & tangible instantiation of the fleeting moments you describe.
  23. keenan
    Sorry, melrich. Late night temper flare. What's also weird, LostInMyThoughts, is when you have a friend or s/o who has the same name as your PET. LOL. It's kinda hard to explain to somebody that you think their name is a really good dog's name.
  24. keenan
    But if you tell her that you love her, don't tell her that you're not IN LOVE with her. That line deserves to turn to dust, even if it's true.
  25. keenan
    But you did hiss at him, didn't you? Your first post was on March 10, 2006, Momene. For how many years have you been on this board, exactly?
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