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I agree with target312 (and everyone else) 100%. This is not about you; it's about him. You guys are equals--never forget that. He's not treating you like a partner and a friend, but like a doll that he can dress up and manipulate and then toss aside (or hurt) when he feels like it. He calls you names?? That's NEVER ok, no matter how wonderful he is the rest of the time. I say you take his advice and get a backbone, then use it to find the strength to walk away from this. Good luck, sweetie.

Hey! Hang in there, ComputerGuy. I'm really surprised to read this from you, because I think of you as one of the smartest, funniest, and calmest people on ENA. Maybe I just haven't been paying attention lately, but I had no idea that you felt this lousy, or that you were shouldering such a heavy burden. I'm so sorry that you're in such a negative spiral right now, but really--you're great! I don't mean that to sound flippant, I'm just being honest. First of all, it's obvious that you're really lonely and depressed. It's scary how much these can feed off of each other: When you're feeling like crap about yourself and don't have the energy to get out of bed and tackle the world, you inadvertently end up isolating yourself and driving people away. It's a terrible positive-feedback loop. Have you told your friends how depressed your feeling, and are you letting them help you--or are you pushing them away? Second, are you seeing a therapist to talk through some of these negative self-image issues? It would be useful to see somebody for a lot of reasons, actually: general depression issues and coping strategies, the self-image stuff, tips for dealing with stress, talking with your parents, and having the energy to keep going when you're feeling low. Third, you aren't ugly at all! That's your picture, right? I don't even know where those comments are coming from. You're very cute--you have a very nice face (honestly!) and I love that intellectual 'physics guy' look. You don't have to be a he-man model to be appealing to a whole lot of girls--you mostly just need to be funny, sweet, friendly, cute, smart, and interesting, and you've got all that. I have a hunch that the depression is just eating at you, and making you sink into yourself so much that you're not projecting any positive energy. Fourth, what is going on with your folks? Why are they kicking you out? Lastly, you seem really down about money, too. Are you in school, or are you working in a 'career' type job? In my experience 'computer guys' do pretty darned well, financially! Maybe you're just in a slump right now and things will get going for you soon. Sorry for the list of questions, but your post really caught be off guard. Take care, hon--you've got ENA people always. We're real. Hug.

Not pompous. Honestly, I just understood what Dako meant and was puzzled by what seemed like deliberate antagonism. He really wasn't suggesting that all the 17 year olds out there begin their coffee dates by talking about sexual preferences, and anybody who knows him is positive that sex isn't "all he thinks about when talking to a woman." Sorry for the derailment, folks...I'm just on edge these days. My sarcasm was tacky. jordan_2, my first thought when I read your post is that there are so many interesting things to talk about that it's hard to make a list! One thing that nobody has mentioned is that it's sometimes helpful to fall back on talking (in a nice way) about people you both know. You can learn a lot about a person by getting to know their friends--how they met, the kinds of things they do together, etc. Not so much in an interviewing way, but in a more casual, "Hey, I notice you and xx hang out together a lot. S/he seems pretty cool; have you guys been friends for a long time..." way. Things like that can lead to funny stories, reveal unexpected hobbies, and just generally help you learn more about what your new person likes and dislikes in others.

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Funny. For years and years, every time I took one of these I would get INTJ (Mastermind Rational). I just took it again for kicks (twice) and got INFJ (Counselor Idealist). I guess I'm getting to be a softie in my old age--less likely to tell people what to do; more likely to listen.

Congrats to both of you. That cord is cutting off the circulation to my brain (though my heart seems to be getting plenty of blood).

Really? That's crazy and cool. Happy Easter.

No * * *-kicking from me. Just a hug.

Poor you! That's terrible; I'm sorry.

I almost hate to do this for all the worms that could come out of the can (or caterpillars, depending on your political/philosophical perspective), but go read The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand. If you liked that, read Atlas Shrugged.

...and a floor.

Maybe they could just take a class together in how to do all that. Sounds like Dako could teach it.

Don't forget to floss!

My dad was a dentist. He didn't get braces until he was 25, and he had lots of fillings (but fine breath LOL, INFJ). I think it's that, like anyone, dentists don't decide what they're going to do for a living until they hit late high school or college. By then they have a few cavities like anyone else. He flipped out when I got MY first cavity when I was 16, though. You'd think I'd gotten pregnant and eloped with a bank robber. Sheesh.

That's a very manly use of tears, by any standard. Even sobbing would be perfectly acceptable.

Ok. I'd like to change my answer, please. (But it depends on the movie.)

Yeah, they're more expensive, and they're also a bit more fragile. If they're in the back I wouldn't worry about it. Nearly everybody has them, unfortunately. Don't stop smiling because of them! Smiles are lots more important.

Hi joe666. Welcome to eNotAlone! Which tooth do you have a silver filling in now? They usually just use silver for the back teeth, and porcelain or other white 'tooth matching' materials for the front ones.

LMAO. Fine. Hair, feathers, WHATEVER. Extensive downy skin covering.

Your avatar suggests otherwise.

My one exception? Two eyebrows are better than one. Actually, according to the NY Times style section (2+ weeks ago), the metro look is now "out" and has been replaced by men who wear ENORMOUSLY full bushy beards. LOL, unless you're a lumberjack or a married Amish man this looks is also a bit affected in it's own way. Imagine the upkeep! In fact, the article claims that metrosexuality was never a real movement among American men, and has mostly been manufactured by Madison Avenue. Of course, since that's true of everything in the NY Times style section, one wonders why they bothered to write it! Who knows.

metros or real men, you ask? real men!

Awww. Look at that soft side! Wow, Shadows Light...that was beautiful. Thanks.