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  1. LiquidCherry
    At first I minded that my boyfriend watched porn but now it doesn't really bother me too much. He actually went through and showed it all to me. He even showed me the ones he has because the different girls remind him of me in various ways. For some reason that helped me a lot, just knowing what it was he was looking at. He also doesn't mind if I look at porn, in fact, I think it's encouraged. I really don't but he's gone as far to buying me a video he thought I would like. He did pretty good but again, porn just isn't my thing. I did find that I became less threatened by it after watching it together though. I suppose I'm kind of neutral on the subject now, so long as it's not an addiction.
  2. LiquidCherry
    I was cheated on by my ex husband. In fact he ended up getting her pregnant while we were still married. It destroyed our family but it was okay in the end. I didn't want to stay with a cheater and I didn't want our son thinking that was an acceptable way to act in a relationship. (ps. He cheated on new wife as well and is going through yet another divorce) You're ex is a cheater. People can make mistakes but that's not what she did. Call her a Big Fat Cheater, she deserves it. Look at it this way, she's doing to this new guy the very same thing that she did to you. And why? Because that's the way she is. It's a MAJOR character flaw. I know you feel crushed but in a way you should feel relieved. Relieved because even though it hurts to find this out, you found this out. People who can't remain faithful really don't deserve your time and caring.
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    You will only fall in love if the timing is right. And by that I don't mean fate, I mean you have to be open to new love and sometimes getting to that point can take a lot of work. Even if the right person comes along if you are not ready for it love just won't happen. Luckily I believe there is more than one right person so all is not lost. Waiting for love can take a lot of patience. It was 6 years for me, it's more or less than others but always worth it in the end.
  4. LiquidCherry
    I don't love the way my boyfriend fidgets and shakes the entire couch. I don't love the way he picks his nose. A lot. I do love every little and last part of him though. Like others said, when you love your partner you love them as a whole, even the parts you don't particularily like. I learned in elemantary school that traditional Japanese artists would intentionally paint a stray mark on their piece. Why? Because there is no real beauty in perfection. I've always been fond of this bit of insight and I think it applies to your question as it does to many aspects of life.
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    My guy has a thing for redheads which I am not. Once in awhile I'll dye my head red for a bit which he loves. (I dye it often, I don't even know what color it really is.) I don't know of any guy that won't date a girl because she doesn't have the preferred hair color. I've dated guys that liked brunette, blonde, red, and black. I like chestnut brown hair the best. My boyfriend is blonde. Color just isn't a biggie.
  6. LiquidCherry
    I can think of no other way to say this: He is not with you, he is with his girlfriend. And he is not going to leave you to be with her, it is that he hasn't left her to be with you. I am very sorry for the situation both you and the girlfriend are it. It seems you both fell for someone sneaky and dishonest in the way he handles commitment. I wouln't give him the chance to choose and make it very clear to him that he cannot have you, not now and not ever again.
  7. LiquidCherry
    Wow, I never even thought that it could be an esteem issue but it does make sense. At least you made a breakthrough in your conversation this time and now you can begin to resolve the issue. Best of luck!
  8. LiquidCherry
    I wouldn't let my boyfriend cyber either. Heck, I'd see it as a huge red flag if he asked me if he could. I don't consider it intellectual cheating. I don't consider it emotional cheating. It IS cheating. If you feel the need to cyber.. Is it because you get turned on by reading sexy stories? Try erotica. Or do you like creating one with words? Write your own. Or if you simply like cybering could you try doing it with your girlfriend? Is this something you crave because you're not satisfied with your relationship or do you think that you'd feel like this regardless of who you are with?
  9. LiquidCherry
    She already knows that you want to continue seeing her as you already told her. Reminding people of how you feel when they feel differently often only makes matters worse. She said that she wanted to see what happens with the course she's taking and I'd assume that's where her priorities are at this moment.
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    Regardless of if he wants to get back together with you or not it seems he does need a roof over his head at this moment. I wouldn't exactly feel that he was using you though.. Sometimes people need a bit of a hand. If this were to continue and he made no efforts of either working things out with you or getting his own place it would have to be stopped but a few nights, I think that's understandable. I know it's hard because you do have feelings for him. I don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds like it's becuase of your actions that this situation came about and so I think it's only fair. No matter what happens between the two of you, you've been offered a wonderful chance to grow and better yourself. If you truly want to show him that a relationship could work you're going to have to make efforts to make some changes in yourself. And if you truly want to have any long term relationship with anyone you'll have to do this anyway so you really have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
  11. LiquidCherry
    Flames by V.A.S.T. is my favorite but most anything by him is amazing. I fell in love with my boyfriend while we were listening to that song so it's a favorite even moreso now.
  12. LiquidCherry
    I had a similar problem to yours last night. My boyfriend showed an extreme lack of enthusiasm (sp?), hardly touched me and made little effort even though he started it. My level of arousal nose dived and I just couldn't do it. It was a pretty crappy feeling too and I can't imagine feeling that way for as long as you have. Anyway, he asked me why I stopped I told him that I was feeling kind of sad because it didn't seem like he desired me sexually. He thought about it, cuddled with me for a bit and did a 180. Anyway, my point is that you've told your boyfriend what the problem is and he hasn't made any changes. Maybe it's because he doesn't have to. He does it his way and gets everything he wants without having to lift much more than a finger. Maybe he'll get the point when he realizes he's not getting sex. If he doesn't.. You said it yourself: "I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling like I'm not all that pleased sexually."
  13. LiquidCherry
    I had two serious relationships with virgins. Both of them left me because they wanted to sleep with other people. Well, technically only one of them left me. The other started making comments much like your boyfriend. His words: "There is the girl you loose your virginity to and there is the girl you marry." I saw no point after that. It was right for me to leave but I don't know what is right for you to do. I wouldn't suggest swinging, especially under your circumstances. If you let him sleep with someone because he is feeling curious now I'm sure he'll expect you to let him do the same when he is feeling curious later. I think ShySoul made a very good point.. Could he be content with only you or will he become bitter over time? On a side note: I'll never date a virgin again because of the pain of these breakups. I was left feeling like I wasn't enough and I want to be everything.
  14. LiquidCherry
    Eww. This is gross. I could never be with anyone knowing they slept with blood. Imagine getting to know their family. Ugh. Puke. Gag.
  15. LiquidCherry
    Every life, no matter how small, has a purpose. Every soul is eternal. You gave birth to a life that only belongs in Heaven. The loss of a child is the greatest heartache anyone can experience and I'm so sorry.
  16. LiquidCherry
    I can understand jealousy. I'm a little jealous of my boyfriends past even though number wise mine is more extensive. I don't bring it up ever though, I doubt he even knows as it's not his problem, it's mine. It doesn't make sense, it's an immature attitude and I don't think it *should* effect your relationship.. Problem being that it is. Does he still bring it up or is it you asking him if he is still bothered? If he's bringing it up at this point that is a problem. If he only says he's bothered when you ask him about it I'd say to stop asking. And if he ever says that you've cheapened yourself again tell him that you're going to find someone who can value you for something other than sex. You might be better off doing that anyway.
  17. LiquidCherry
    Thanks for the advice guys! I guess I won't talk to him about it again unless it happens to come up, preferably when he asks me. The reason why I mentioned a specific date is because of the whole leap year/leap day thing and I think it would just be a cool day to get married. I agree though, the marriage is more important than the date. And no, no bridal magazines though the idea is verrry tempting...
  18. LiquidCherry
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We have an awesome relationship but I keep getting the feeling where I want to know what direction we are headed in. We celebrated V-Day early on Saturday because of work/school we wanted to spend the whole day together and that was when we could do it. He bought me a beautiful ring which I love.. But a little tiny part of me is disappointed because I keep wanting him to ask me to marry him. (same thing at Christmas too) I know it's silly because we haven't been together for that long in the great scheme of things so I just decided to ask him myself which I did kind of. I asked him if he ever thought about marrying me.. And he said maybe sometimes. And then I told him that I'd like to get married 2/29 next year and he said that'd be a cool day and he'd think about it. Then he told me I'd better help him fill out his divorce paperwork. (Because I've done it before.. He's been separated for over 2 years now and neither one wants to salvage the relationship and no, they don't live together.) Ack! Is that terrible what I asked/what he replied? What do I do now? Do I buy him a nice watch or something in a few months and propose for real after the paperwork is finalized? Or do I just bring it up again? Or do I just keep my mouth shut and wait for him to ask me?
  19. LiquidCherry
    To me your boyfriend seems like he is acting cowardly. I think it is very unfair the way he blew you off without any explanation. I read once that most relationships end between the first 3 and 7 months which is hard if you're the one that doesn't want to end things becuase that's long enough to develop some real feelings for someone. If I were you I'd say to him that it seems like he needs some space, ask for your keys back, and give him nothing but space.
  20. LiquidCherry
    I got the feeling that she may be afraid too, like, maybe she lied to you about her age or what she looks like and is scared to meet you because of this.
  21. LiquidCherry
    Ick. I spent a few months once with someone who let it be known to me as well that they were going to decide if they still wanted to be with me or not. It was terrible. I tried to end things but I couldn't because at the time my self esteem was low and so I just ending up riding it out. It came to an end when he dumped me. It's not like I didn't see that one coming. Regardless of what you feel for her I gaurntee that it will feel better to either be with someone who knows they want to be with you or to be by yourself. I'm so sorry you're in this situation.
  22. LiquidCherry
    Smile next time, walk over and say, "Hi," and introduce yourself.
  23. LiquidCherry
    I was in the Army too and I HATED it. Basic was fine but the actual service was not anything like what I thougt it would be.
  24. LiquidCherry
    My only advice is to get a pregnancy test.
  25. LiquidCherry
    I read something once years ago that made a great amount of sense to me. This isn't a quote but it's the gist: It is impossible to find someone you will be in love with for the rest of your life so find someone you can fall in love over and over again. If people fell in love and that intense feeling you get for the first few months just kept on going I think the world would stop going. Also, I kind of like my routine and there isn't much I would want to change about it.
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