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  1. Alright, this is a rant because I need to get this out and can't talk to anyone right now. Basically the month of March feels like it will be full of drama for me..... oh, and it's random high school problems so if you don't want to listen to this juvenille stuff believe me, i completley understand. Moving on... Problem 1: one of my best friends told me she thought i was a brat becuase i whined to much last time we hung out (i was sick) and i guess i did but im mad because i don't know why.... Oh, watch this... I feel bad for this girl if it's true # So yah.. Problem 2: I never get to see one of my other best friends because she is always with her new boy friend plus she isn't part of my main group so i almost never hang out with her now... and it sucks problem 3: some of my friends not in this group feel neglected because there are only a few of them who can hang out on certain days which im busy on.... problem 4: im so tired and sore all the time (i have a medical condition) and don't want to bother talking about it because i don't want to be the one who whines all the time problem 5: i think im starting to whine and all my girl friends are getting mad (i hate when i wine but i always listen to their problems and i feel like whenever im having a bad time i cant say anything because they wont want to listen) problem 6: school work but who doesnt have that issue....ive got this one convered i guess problem 7: im scared to death of sex or anything sexual related....im innocent and modest. oh i don't drink and am not very outgoing and im prety much the only girl in my group like that (i know, the old jump off a bridge analogy....) problem 8: i think i like this guy but my guy friends hate him and that would never work out then problem 9: i have a friend who keeps making jokes about us doing sexual stuff but i dont know if hes kidding anymore.... a relationship would never work out though, we almost tried before... that and one of my friends likes him.....oh, the farthest i've ever gone is kissing someone that i was dating...im quite conservative in that aspect problem 10: i think i may be depressed.... Sooooo those are my problems.... some of them lol. This was a rant because i can't say this to anyone else because im seen as having a perfect life with nothing to complain about. I feel awful everytime I complain becuase i know my life is so much better than others so do i really have anything to complain about?! Ugh... Help, please. Thanks in advance.
  2. uhm, they may think its drugs....it depends wether its in your carry on luggge or you other luggage. definatley don't put it in any carry on bags.
  3. Say something! There's nothing worse then not taking the chance and wondering for the rest of your life what could have been.
  4. I think it all depends on your definition of sex. If you see having sex as just the physical act, then I could possibly see why some may not view loosing your virginity as that huge of an issue. If you see sex as making loving and having not only a physical, but also a spiritual, connection, I don't see how it couldn't be a big deal. It is not only the physical act but the symbolical and spiritual one as well. To me loosing your virginity is a big deal becuase of the type of connection formed and because I see it as a sacred act between two people. That is my opinion atleast.
  5. Don't worry, I didn't take offence. No i'm not trying to prove i'm above primal instinct at all, that's definaltey no the case.
  6. Hey I can definatley relate. Same age, same psychiatrist-of-the-group title lol. I'm still trying to figure out where to go, lol. Ah well, c'est la vie.
  7. I'm single and i'm happy. I have fantastic friends who are part of my family. It would be nice to have a boyfriend becuase it adds a different type of relationship to my life. The problem is finding someone who fits in well with my friends and with myself...never mind my schedgule lol. I guess i'm just waiting for the perfect fit, the one with whom I will make a new schedule. Until then, i'm happy with where I am. I'll just take things as they come and be happy in the moment
  8. Yes, I do want to be intimate, but I just don't know to what extent... When I say sex, i'm talking about any type of sex. At the moment I don't, but if I did have a boyfriend right now I would want to be intimiate eventually in some manor....
  9. Thank you for all your help and comments, everything is apprecitated. There was alot of talk about asexuality and after reading the definitons it is definatley not what I am, but thank you again for the help on that matter. I do have sexual desires towards the opposite sex, I just repress them and never act on them, and I feel like I should do this the entierty of my life. While I do realize that I am young and my opinions could easily change towards this matter, this is how I currently feel. I don't think i'm doing a very good job of explaning it, but sex just seems wrong... even if I do want to have it, and i don't know why I feel this way, but I do...
  10. I guess that could be part of the reason, i've never really been in that situation before...
  11. No, my friends who have had sex it either ended it a mutual way that they were happy with or they are still with their partner. I understand that having sex can bring people closer together and they can share a great feeling, but the way I see it, letting someone invade me just for a feeling that doesn't last can't be worth it, especially when the main point of sex is procreation. I'm a romantic and want to fall in love and get married....I just don't want to go father then kissing and my friends think that theres something wrong with that.
  12. I used to think that i'd have sex im my first serious relationship, then i decided i'd wait until marriage, then i decided i didn't want to even then.
  13. I'm not a germaphobe or anything like that... I was never taught sex was wrong. On the contrary, my parents talked to me about it and basically told me when I need contraception to come to them. I just don't feel like I could ever be that close or open with someone. I still have...desires? i guess, feelings of sexual attraction more like, to guys *blushes* but I just don't want to act on them....
  14. Recentley I informed my friends that I came to the conclusion that I didn't want to have sex. They assumed this ment until marriage, but I said no, even after then. When they asked for clarification I told them I did not feel the need to ever have sex...even with my husband. My friends told me that it would be virtually impossible to find a husband like that unless he had some sort of medical condition. They are quite aware of the fact that I want to have kids after i'm married, so when they brought this up I said i'd just rely on invitro fertilization. In smaller groups they have been brining this topic up a couple of times every weekened and i'm not quite sure why. Basically my question is, is it insaine for me to think like this? I'm not asexual and I am sexually mature, that isn't the problem... I just don't feel a need now, nor do I feel I ever will, to engagae in this activity...I have a few friends that are currently sexually active, but most are not, though they plan to when they are in a commited relationship. I am the black sheep in this flock. I just don't think it would be that impossible a thing to do, go your whole life without sex.... I was just looking for perspectives on this outside of my circle of friends. Thanks very much.
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