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  1. djedix
    Can i ask you a question. Not to be all rude.... but do you think your behavior.... and the way you treat your wife is justified?
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    Unlearn the way you have learned to live with your ex. Don't be afraid of being alone, more then likely it's only gonna be temp. amount of time Don't look at the phone, hide it, shut it off, throw it at the wall if you have to. Learn who you are again. be you. In time dreams & feelings will fade. The tears in your eyes will dry up. The anger will visit, passing in and out over time. It's ok, be angry, they left you. You're not alone, we're all here with you.
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    Honestly, I broke a girls heart once, way back in HS. She was a good girl, and kinda everything I wanted. We became friends because I was trying to get with this other girl, who at the time didn't want anything to do with me. I had to make a decsion on what to do, I was so fed up with tying to get the unintrested one in dating me, i gave up. so I dated this girl who liked me. As soon as the the other one found out... she completely broke down in tears.. we talked towards the end of the day... and one way or another, I ended up breaking up with the new G/F, to still try to get this girl (who eventually we dated for 2 years and had a wonderfull relationship). I totally wrecked the 'good girl' At the time i didn't really care, cuz i was so focused on getting what i wanted, it didnt matter. I look back now and wonder what woulda happened if made the other decesion, where would i be now... it would be intresting to see. I could never do that again, and i hope i don't end up in that type of sit again.
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    Because you cared so much about this person, would do anything for them, and they made you happy. You might have actully loved them. But then they left, when you didn't want them to, so you can't stop thinking about it. We fill our heads with the good thoughts, and times we had with them, because that's what we miss the most. We tend to froget all the bad things that happened, and caused the relationship to die.
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    A text message is contact. NC is no contact whatsoever.
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    How would you feel if your boyfriend was alone with other girls, without you knowing? Your acting very selfish.... Drop the ex, and stick with the boyfriend, if that's what you want to do. The ex is making movies because A) he is intrested, and B) your putting yourself in a situation where he is able to become intrested. You can't have both.
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    Girls! I know you're in a hard place. I've been there. I've been dumped by my fiancee in Jan. I was physically sick, and used to sit around on the weekends hoping for a phone call, or something. I would wish that she would just finally snap out of this new person she became. I wanted her to come back to the path of the life she told me for the entire time we were togeather... the life she said we were going to have togeather, and she saw it no other way. Well eventually she did see it another way, and she left me..... But i've learned so much from this experience. I'm not afraid anymore, of being alone. not 1 bit. I know deep down inside that everythign happens for a reason. I think i know the reason why she reentered my life....She entered my life to help me find the old me, and bring him back out. Even thou she left, I changed, I am the person i used to be. I love the things i once loved before, thigns i frogot, and things i thought were lost again. I have matured so much out of this. I can't look back. I don't want to look back. I want to move forward and meet new people. I want them to experience this new me, and the love i have to offer. and in Time, someone will find me, and will want the same things as me, and we will live happly ever after. Till then, I'll survie. because i know this is only temporary, and this pain, is fading every single second.. time will heal you all. Time...
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    You might need a little time to find yourself again. You don't wana hurt other people by going out with them and constantly thinking with the ex. It's better to be alone, figure yourself out, and then move on. That's what i did. I'm about 3 months since i lost my fiancee. I was going out with her for a year, but i grew up with her for like 10 years prior. Then she just walked out. I just recently started dating. I was scared at first, but you know, when i was with the new person, the ex never crossed my mind at all. If you can't stop thinking about her, you might need a little more time to heal. Everyone takes a diffrent amount of time. Don't get down on yourself thou, because eventually that pain will go away, in Time.
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    Don't look for love, it comes to you. It finds you, and you'll notice it when it does. Look at me, 4 months after a broken engagment i've already met someone new. I didn't look for them at all, they found me. (who knows how it will turn out, but i woulda never guessed i'd be where i was today 4 months ago)
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    My input It's all a matter of how much you cared about that person. I think it's harder if you really love someone to see the do this. We can't think like them, and since they dumped you, they arent having any of the same feelings of rejection or anything we have to deal with. Sure they still feel sad, but they probally arent questioning what they did wrong, and what they caused, to us, the dumpee, and the thoughts that now fill our brains. They are able to move on because that's what they wanted to do, that's why they dumped. Is there hope for them to c ome back? only if they go out and see, and learn that you were what they truly wanted, but then you have to make the decsion to let this person who put you in a state of crappyness, back into your life. I've broken up, and gotten back togeather, and it usally ends up in another break up. As a dumpee, i'm ready to move on here, and i want someone new, and better. I don't care if my ex comes back. She had her chance at me, she had the ring on her finger, and she threw it all away. That was her only chance. She ran from me, and destroyed my dreams, and left me here asking why?... She's not worthy of another chance. I'd rather give it to someone who won't run. And that someone will come, in Time
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    She's wondering what your doing. more then likely she's feeling alone, and knows you'll listen if she can get in contact with you. It probally makes you want to call up the band, Superkick her, and go for the pin (wrestling joke)
  12. djedix
    Relax. Ask him to come hang out with you and some friends, do it for a little while, and see if then he wants to hang out exclusivly with you, in time i bet he will if he likes you. Let him get to know you! Slow down!
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    Only move on if your ready to do so. If you want to move on, then go for it. If your not sure, give it some time, be yourself, do your thing for a while.
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    nice guys care to much, that's our problem.. Same thing with me, my ex had tons of baggage, and when she broke up with me she had no reason... she made up a reason to break up. I wanted to help her, but i couldn't because she wouldnt let me, just like anyone else with baggage. I have a nack for wanting to help people who are sad, or whatever. I've done it a few times, and have gotten my heart broken in the process. Am i really attracted to these types of girls? no, not at all anymore. I just want to find a nice girl, with no problems, and who knows what she wants, and what she wants to do with her life. Is that to much to ask? It's a little hard not to fall for someone with baggage, but if you relize that your really not going to help them, then you'll back off. We have big hearts, and we c are to much. that's the nice guys problem...
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    It's just an easyier way of telling you that they don't want to be with you anymore. I hate it because it makes you hope that they will come back, or that they are being truthful. Usally they are not, and have someone else in mind. Which is unfair, because you're left with a broken heart, a false sense of hope, and no one.
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    Bro welcome to the club. I can't exactly explain why they do it, but I know exactly what your feeling. your like "what the hell?" Everything was so perfect, and she's leaving! I had my fiancee do this to me. look up my posts if you want the entire story... but anyways i'll use mine as an example. I knew my ex for 10 years. I remember in HS, she had many boyfriends. She's weird like that. It seemed like every time she would break up with a guy, she would find someone else to go out with, almost in the next few days or a week or too. It was very odd. She actully broke up with my best friend in HS, because she said she was in love with me. I denyed her at the time because, she did this the nite of graduation, and also because i'm not going to hurt my friend like that. Anyways with me, it was the same story. I thought maybe in time she changed, hell it had been 5 years. But no, she was the same person. The day she contacted me/came to visit me, and kissed me and crap... She was still going out with another guy. She broke up with him the next day, and then started going out with me. She told me the same things yours told you when she was leaving, how she wanted to be alone for a while, how she's been with someone all her life..... but you know what deep down inside i have a feeling, that i was just another one of those guys, and she's probally with someone else right now.Because i know she can't go on a while alone.... I don't really care, because I'd rather not waste the time on thinking about her. I mean yours could be totally diffrent, i'm just giving you an example of my past experinance. It seams like they hold out, till they find something a little better, or whatever it is they need. I don't know the reason, because everything in our relationship (i thought) was perfect. I gave her everything she wanted, and it was still not enuff.
  17. djedix
    Set a goal and work towards it. Defenitly get out with friends and meet new people. Talk to people you would never talk to. Listen to music! but not sappy kind. Listen to up beat songs and stuff... your favorite band, or what ever your type is. Get yourself pumping. Better yourself, Do whatever YOU want! your free! You'll have passing thoughts from time to time, but they will pass, and in time your sadness will turn into anger, and slowly fade away relize it's not the end of the world.. One MAJOR thing happened around me. A person i work with, a very young person (40ish) came down with a brain tumor, and he's in the hopital, and all messed up. He can't speak correctly, or anything. And the weird thing is he was like the nicest guy, inshape, great job here, everything any guy would want to be, and now he's laying on his deathbed almost. Stuff like that made me think, that my little problem is nothing, AT ALL compared to other peoples problems...
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    I've gone through this with my ex. She said let's be 'friends' and continue to talk like this. Well guess what? it's been 2 months since I last talked to her. Obviously, like you said actions speak louder then words. Trust me, don't dwell on it, it's not worth the time.
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    WoW is fun lol all my friends play it
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    I have feelings about an old HS sweethart like this from time to time. I always feel like i am going to see her.. It's this totaly random feeling where i can sense her presense or something. I can't explain it Well I had one last night, and guess what? today, I ran to the bank to deposit a check, and on the way home i saw her and a friend driving the oncoming lane. It's weird. I've done this so many times with this one girl, it's crazy. Sometimes i feel it, and i don't see her, but i see her parents. Just makes me want to pick up the phone and call her and see what's up.
  21. djedix
    If all you do is constanty think about wanting a g/f, wanting to be with someone, freaking out cuz your not with anyone, going nutz.... just relax.. they come in time! they come from no where too. Don't obsess, i don't think they like that much....... Just take advantage of being alone, and get out and meet people... you never know who your going to meet You just gotta be you. And when your yourself (HAPPY with yourself), they WILL see that, and fall inlove/like you/go out with you/use you for rides/ whatever it is LOL If your a raging lunatic, well... i dunno some of them like that.. j/k
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    I would die for a chance like this with my HS Weird thing is I find myself thinking about her more then my current ex even lately. Even during the relationship with my current ex and stuff i even thought about her and dreamed about her. I just wana pick up the phone and call her... but i dont think im ready for that. Go for IT!
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    link removed here's a start.. and welcome to enotalone
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    Haha Yea but you never know! What if he was single looking for someone? You'll never know cuz you didn't ask! a closed mouth brings no feet...
  25. djedix
    I don't want to really get involved. I think she tried somethign like this in the past. I think he rejected her then too. I sorta have a crush on this girl. So if i get involved, and say "yah shouldn't" it's kinda selfish. I don't know. I'd rather let fate take it's course and see what happens. It kills me to see her sad.. I've talked to my friend about it, he knows I've liked her for years.But that's not the reason why he doesn't like her, he sees her more as a little sister then someone to be with. Maybe in time he'll see the light i see, and that would be great for both of them! It wouldn't bother me one bit actully. My friend and myself are very much the same... I'm kinda hoping she sees that soon, and is like wait a min he's just like him! I'm also coming off this breakup with the fiancee, and I'm in the "I want to be alone" type of mood lately. I think she's wondeful obviously... I've been very nice to her lately, always asking her to come hang out with us and do stuff with us. She's kinda sad alot because a boy broke her heart last year and she never really got over it. In time she will. I just want to make her feel good, make her laugh, and put a smile on her face. I've been doing that lately, and i think she's been noticing it. I defenitly don't want to rush anything on this girl, well because i care about her! I'll let time take it's course if it's ment to be it's ment to be. If not, it's keeping my mind off my past, and it's helping me heal. And that alone is better then anything.
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