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  1. angel1211
    I've been with my gf for almost a year and a half. We were having great sex until a few months she has been uninterested and says she is either tired or not in the mood. When we do actually engage in sex, I am doing all the work. She told me she just got off of birth control and claims that it is causing hormonal changes and probably why she is not that into sex as much as she use to. Is that true? Can birth control affect a woman's libido? Well, its frustrating me and making me feel really unwanted and angry. She says she is in love with me and still finds me attractive. I asked her if she was interested in someone else or having an affair and she swears on our relationship it is none of the above. Plus, she doesnt give me reason to suspect any foul play. I dont know what to think and feel right now. Ladies, some insight on this problem please, thanks.
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    I've been seeing my gf for about a year and a half. In the beginning she told me that she dated her best friend's brother for about 7 months. According to her, she liked him, but did not want to get seriously involved, so, of course, sex was involved. I have been having issues since she told me about her going to her house knowing that her brother might be there. Sure, the past is the past, but it still makes me uncomfortable. The issue came up again tonight and of course, we argued. I hate feeling like this but it just gets to me when she tells me she is going over to her house. She knows how I feel and she doesnt go over too often anymore because of me. When she does plan to go over, I become all quiet and distance myself. She hates it when I do that, in fact, she tells me that its not going to work if I still react this way when she plans to go over. Why do I feel like she has to chose b/w me and her best friend? You know, I feel bad but I cant help it. What do you think about this situation?
  3. angel1211
    Hang in there sillygurl. You have to be strong while in NC. It takes a lot from someone to initiate NC. I've done it in the past and it works wonders. If you fall back for any reason, you can always pick yourself back up again and start where you left off.
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    I believe no contact is only for you. You are trying to get yourself situated within. It's true that it could backfire and you will not end up with her.
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    So majord123, what happens when you get dumped, make a decision to move on and not look back but the dumper decides she made a mistake all within 48 hours. So I take her back but then start wondering if I made a hasty decision too take her back so quick. It doesn't matter, we are together and we both just want things to really work out. Is that possible?
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    I'm a 33 year old male dating a 24 year old female. It's been 6 months and it sure has been a roller coaster ride. We have our similarities and definitely our differences but for some strange reason there is something that keeps us together. I get frustrated sometimes because I am at a stage where I want to settle and she is at a stage where she is finding herself. It takes a lot of self sacrifice. It all boils down to how you handle things. It also takes a lot of patience and understanding. I love her with all my heart and she does the same. It's been tough but we are still together. I believe it can work if you set your mind it. Don't give up. Good Luck.
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    Glad to hear that you are feeling better RS. Dakota, I bet it sure does suck when you see your ex. I'm sure it sucks even more that she doesn't even acknowledge you. Women are really hard to read and sometimes hard to understand. Makes you wonder why they do certain things. I'm not gonna quit my job because I will be running into her. Like you, i'm going to suck it up and deal with it. Eventually, it will get easier. Time is the key. I look back to 3 and a half months ago and there I was in shock and disbelief. I was hurt to the very core. Now it is different for all of us. We don't realize it but we are getting better and making it through this. A friend told me once, if something ever happened to you, for example a terrible car accident, death (god forbid), would you want to go out miserble? (Sorry, kinda gruesome, just trying to make a point) You don't know what could happen to you the next day, the next minute. I force myself to be positive every single day so if god should call, I will not leave this earth unhappy. I hope i'm making some kinda sense.
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    RS and Dakota, I discovered a powerful stage that I have been hoping to come by someday. I have barely touched the surface of ACCEPTANCE and boy does it make me feel better. When you accept things the way they are, your outlook on life is much more positive. It will happen to each of us when we are ready. Don't get me wrong, like I said, I am just barely scraping the surface of ACCEPTANCE and it amazingly feels good.
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    Hey Dakota, question on guilt. Do you have to physically apologize to the ex about the things that may have hurt her in the past or is it something I can resolve on my own? At this point in time, even if it has been over 3 months, I dont feel comfortable comfronting her about anything.
  10. angel1211
    you know, i remember asking her the same thing as well. she told me if it was her choice, she would marry me. but because her background is muslim and i, christian, it would never have the approval of her parents. i dont know if i mentioned this to you or another member but her parents had found her someone to possibly marry within her own race and culture. she made her choice not be with me so she cant possibly say it wasnt her choice. i guess blood is really thicker than water. what is really amazing is that how can someone who says she loves you so much, give you up for someone your parents agree with. so while my heart still continues to mend, she moves on and gets involved with someone else. i dont know what hurts more, a woman leaving because she is sick and tired of you or a woman leaving you because her culture demands it.
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    Hey RS, you are so right when you say that getting over someone will be around the anniversary date. To that next month will make what would have been a year is really scary. I really hope that I am really busy that day and I will not even come to mind. If she broke up with after a year, I think it would have been harder. So in a way, i'm glad she did it earlier knowing that there wouldnt be a future for us. I'm already half way there in healing. At least she was honest right.
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    Thanks Softmoonlight. That was very nice for you to say. I think I need to change this date of the month as a time of celebration. Instead of sulking every 7th of the month, I think I will enjoy myself in some form. In fact, July 7th will be great right! Thanks again for the encouragement and you are right, the shortest ones are always the hardest and this is definitely hard but I believe it will get easier. thanks again
  13. angel1211
    Well, she ended it because of cultural differences. She's muslim, i'm christian. parents had found a suitor for her and being the obedient daughter, listened to her parents. gave me up very easily, well, that's how it seemed to me. she claims from the start of our relationship that i knew what could happen. true, but i didnt know i would fall deep in love with her, go figure. she wanted to be friends (violin playing in the background). we all know how that works. she was upset because she claims i understood her "SITUATION" but how (scratching my head). told her i needed space and put the NC sign on the front door. here i am 3 months later. sorry for the background info but when i do see her, i havent ran into in over a month btw, its awkward to me. we were once close and now we are strangers. i'll say hi and give her a fake smile but that is all i can do. i dont think she hates me for not speaking to her and i believe she would respond as any other coworker. what's funny is that she still asks about me through coworkers who end up telling me. from what i gather, she is very inquisitive in what i am up to. oh, did i mention that i would call her when i was ready to talk to her. she said, back then, that she is not gonna wait by the phone for my call. (still scratching my head) you are absolutely right about using what we learned for the next one because the next could be the "ONE". take care my friend
  14. angel1211
    I'm sure it was difficult seeing her at the gym. When I go to work, I always wonder if I am going to run into her. I have to just face the fact that we work in the same building and that I will have to see her. It would be nice to someday look back at this and wonder what in the world was I thinking. All I can say is that this is another learning experience and that we can only get stronger from this.
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    Saw one of your post's Dakota and it is really hard to bump into someone that you once loved, cared for, and shared many things with. It's weird how things change from closeness to distant beings. Does that make sense? I mean, you see her and you don't know what to think or feel. It hurts to see her and it stirs up old memories. I ran into a month ago at work, I had no idea what to say or think. I just said hi and that was it. I'm sure one day we will all look back at this a laugh in a good way.
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