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yikes she should go to the Doctor. She could have any number of things happen including pregnancy.
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Yeah, kind of not used to it. I forget that we come from two opposite backgrounds as well. He, a very small town, me, a very big city. I'm finding a lot of differences and it's actually kind of interesting just new to me is all thanks for the posts I appreciate it.
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How about "I'm not good enough for you"? That one throws me even after explaining that I picked that person because I thought they were special, etc,etc.
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Mybf's cousin (girl) calls him pretty much daily and talks forever to him. I'm not jealous but I find it kind of odd, should I? I'm close to my cousins as well but they don't call as freqently. What do you all think.
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I hear you. I'm still working on this one as well. I just hope that you at least live in a town that has as many guys as girls. I guess take things slow, that way you get to feel comfortable with the guy. And if you get any "gut feelings" that something is not right don't be afraid to speak to the guy about it. I think you'll find that guys are kind of scared too even though I still find it hard to believe. Most importantly, you have so much going for you especially having brains, that is key. So don't be scared you have a lot to offer you'll be fine.
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I would say that your sense of humor and making others laugh is key to self-confidence, simply because whether it's a girl or a person who could use some cheering up, someone is always going to appreciate a person with a sense of humor. So, build on that aspect and see where it takes you. Sounds like you're headed in the right direction.
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It depends on how mature you feel the guy is. There are guys out there who are more mature than what their age states. Your 31 what business is it of your parents, my aunt thought it was a great thing that I was dating a guy that was 4 years younger than me and she's in her 60's. So whatever you feel is right is right. And,guys will be immature about certain things until they die anyways, I saw this in my grandfathers actions toward his girlfriend, it kind of surprised me actually but it showed me that men can still be babies. Anyways, you get my point sorry for the nonsense there.
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Yeah, that dude is one big looser . He is far too selfish to be with someone who is as giving as you are. Keep the NC thing going, and be ware that of course he's going to get in your face to upset you. Hold your ground and be strong. Obviously, he knows he messed up but too late for him. Guys like that never change they only make you feel worse about yourself so that they can feel better about themselves.
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Hey, hey, hey, let's not fault the person or whatever he/she/it may be above. If you are a good person realize that some sexy lady out there is going to see that, as long as you continue to do good, and she is going to love you more than this other person could even imagine. So, don't dispair if something is not right then there must be something you have over looked as the way to go girl, hobby, school, something. Open your eyes a little find something that makes you forget her and gives you some fullfillment. Perhaps your buddies would like to see the old you back, who knows. Take care and don't stop being good guy no matter what we need more of you trust me.
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It's killing me being so quiet and conservative.
little242 replied to Hero_99's topic in Emotions and Feelings
I know this sounds stupid but hey go with the flow. Instead of running away from sarcastic people stay calm realize that you are smart too make a snide comment back. Just loosen up a little. Don't be so hard on yourself, there's a lot to be admired for being a serious worker. Perhaps someone in your past made you feel guilty for having fun, maybe not but your grown up now on your own have some fun. Talk to a counselor or a good friend about ways to help you loosen up, trust their judgment and don't be critical of them or yourself. Lifes too short. Once you relax a little it'll take time but all will come to you in the end. Take care -
Wow, that is so not cool of him. Especially since he was talking to his friends girlfriend! There really is no respect for you. He's the last person who you should get married to and have kids with, that would be putting yourself and your potential family in such a bad situation. He sounds like a real jerk I would move on if I were you.
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Go with what makes you feel comfortable. However, be careful and be sure that you really like her she is young and thereforeeee may be prone to reacting in an imature way that could land you in jail. Make it a point to meet her parents (I don't know what the laws are for dating a minor in the UK) if that may be an issue. But hopefully things go well just be aware since things are so new, that's all.
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Sounds like she's the type that loves games and perhaps you should consider avoiding. She already knows that she can get away with kissing and then leaving who's to say that she won't hurt you even more?
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I'm not expert but this one seems to ring true: Men who intentionally keep you from doing things that make you happy and content with yourself.
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Your feelings are what they are. And for someone to deny that is bogus and controlling. You both should seek help from a professional before this all gets out of hand leaving you feeling completely helpless.
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Yeah, I have to agree with "sayer" it's not easy. You should look at it from the perspective that it sounds like she respects you and doesn't want to hurt you by going out with you and then later finding out that she's not ready. Guys can do some really twisted things to girls leaving them in a whorl of emotions and unsure of themselves, that may not be the case here for her. However, since it was such a long relationship, she may still have left over feelings for him that she needs to resolve. You don't just get over someone in a day unfortunately. So I would say to stay friends with her, who knows what can happen? 8)
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Ok, don't worry no need to fret. I know it seems like this is all confusing and that she will be the only girl in the world, but realize that you are 14 and will probably have lots of girls later on. So, remember to keep self confidence up no matter what happens. She is young too, and young girls are pretty scared from lack of experience with boys, as well as confused about what they want. It sounds like she likes youif she's asking you out again. So why not go for it. But most importantly, realize that both of you are young and there is no need to take things so seriously, just have fun no matter what there's time to be serious later on. Have fun and take care
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need advice on getting my g/f to open up to me more...
little242 replied to Borashi's topic in Abuse and Violence
Keep letting her know that you are there for her. Sometimes it's hard for those who have had a painfull past to be open for the reason that they may have been taught to be quiet and keep to themselves and that if they share their feelings then somehow they will be punished for it. Sometimes it's hard for them to trust others perhaps those that were close to her or she believed to be close to her ultimately hurt her. So be patient and supportive she'll eventually open up at some point she just has to feel safe enough and it sounds like she is trying so don't dispair. -
First of all if you think that you will never be loved or don't deserve it then, it won't happen. Somehow, when you honestly think this people pick up on it and it may even lead you to the wrong person. I know this sounds dumb and perhaps you have heard it before, but you should really try to take up some hobby or do something that will give you more self confidence. Through learning to dedicate to something that you enjoy you will find that all other aspects will become positive as well. This will take time so be patient and expect some fall backs, but also realize that those fall backs have some lesson to be learned within them so all is not lost as long as you accept it and keep your eyes open for the good that is soon coming. I wish you the best of luck Take care
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Get over her how ever you can. Obviously she's not very nice. Judging from what you have said about her she sounds kind of manipulative and stuck on herself so my advice to you: STAY AWAY FAR, FAR AWAY BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE
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yeah, I couldn't agree more. Thank you for your help.
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I hope this isn't too long. Basically my bf and I broke up because he claimed that he couldn't decide between me or another ex-girlfriend. Mind you she lives by him I'm in another state. I phoned him telling him that I wanted to return his stuff and that I had a date that night with a friend to cheer me up. He started saying that he thought that he was already regreting it and asked if I loved him. I said that I did. Then he says that he loves me and starts crying and saying that his ex doesn't love him. Anyways, I still go on the date with my friend and come home to find a message from him saying that he loves me and that he spoke to a friend who said he was an idiot for breaking up with me. Here's the question, should I trust him and take him back or should I give it more time it's only been a day. I'm just not sure what to do.
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It sounds like he's doing a lot better now that you two are apart. I'm not sure who broke up with who but it sounds like he's moved on. But that does not mean that you shouldn't talk to him, but you should also realize that he may be better off and you may be better off just being friends if it jepardizes either one of you being yourselves.
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my bf is dissatisfied with my breast size
little242 replied to parisian_pink's topic in Sex and Romance
He's complaining about a C-cup?! There is nothing wrong with your breasts, I wish I were a C-cup, how ungrateful of him. Anything more would give you back problems and other problems down the road. If he's going to be that hung up on such a silly point rather than consider the whole picture then maybe you should tell him to hit the road. -
First of all I give you credit for seeking professional help and not relying on alcohol to alleviate the problem, so that is a start. There are medications that can help but you should try to seek that as a last resort. Perhaps your therepist may suggest some group therepy/relaxation technique type programs. I think most it is important to realize that you are not the only one who has this problem. I know that I do at times but like jumping into a pool once the initial contact is made then it's done. Another thing to realize is that women are just as shy sometimes perhaps more than you think so don't take too much of a non response as negative trust your feelings. Women always admire men who get the courage up to come and speak to them and if they don't then you don't need them anyways.