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ok I will just let things go as they have been. Here's the rub though, she has dated other guys, and I think she still goes out on dates with other guys, but the big dates she goes out with me. I just wonder if she's keeping me til the next guy comes around or if she is just being weary. She also knows that I have dated others and sometimes it just seems like she's checking up on me to see if I am with someone else or not. ie. She called me the other night when I was making dinner and just started talking, but she slipped in a "are you alone". So I just wonder what she's thinking and wanting sometimes.

Since a little before Christmas my ex has been showing more interest in me. She took me out for my birthday, bought me presents for Christmas, and has pretty much been calling me everyday. We have gone out on a few dates on the weekends and had a great time, she even actually kissed me again. We have been sleeping together off and on since the breakup in June, but she would always get distant after a while. but now it seems different she calls a lot more she says she wants to be with me when I ask her out instead of just going out with me on a date because she has nothing better to do. Should I bring up our relationship again or should I just see what happens. I don't want another heartbreak again.

My ex girlfriend broke up with me in June. We had about a month and a half apart, but then slowly began hanging out again. We started sleeping with each other again and have since been sleeping together a few times a week, but she has made it clear that I am not her girlfriend and that she is confused as to what she wants. We also went on a few trips together like to Vermont for the weekend, and Mexico and she acted like my girlfriend then, but when we got back in town, things would go back to the same thing. Now she has gone out on a date a couple of times with another guy. They went out Saturday night, then hung out with me on Sunday. We went to a play and she was putting her arm around me and resting her head on my shoulder and holding my hand, kissing me and stuff, and then I stayed over on Sunday night. So why does she sleep with me, but go out on dates with other guys? What is going to happen? I would love to have her back as my girlfriend again, but she still says she doesn't know what she wants. She gets jealous if I go out with other girls, but she doesn't want to be committed to me. What should I do

I spoke with my ex again, we have managed to speak every day this week. I explained to her that I don't want to be her parachute or her backup guy while she goes looking around for Mr. Right. She told me I shouldn't feel that way and that she is just confused. Then she asked me what I wanted for Christmas and my birthday and invited me to a dinner with some of her friends. We sleep together occasionally but we have not been intimate in a couple of weeks. She has a date on Saturday night, but plans to go out with me on Sunday. My emotional state is totally in shock. She is the source of all my happiness and all of my pain. I know I shouldn't be with her and I will probably end up getting hurt even more, possibly to a point of severe depression that I won't be able to handle. but I know that if I leave her or she leaves me the emptiness will totally kill me and I don't know how I will survive. This is what scares me. I guess I'm afraid to be alone, I just want to be part of her life again like we were. I don't know why she had to change.

I have been trying to do no contact with her since she dumped me in June, but I can't bring myself to do it. I don't know why I am so addicted to her. She is my life and I just want her back with me. She tells me things like "if it's meant to be it will be" then she goes out with other guys. I have gone on a few dates and she knows about them and sometimes she acts like she cares other times she doesn't. Sometimes she is so caring about me and other times she is so angry with me. I just can't picture my life without her. She says she doesn't want a relationship, but then tells me she's lonely. I am working on NC but everytime I see her call or she leaves a message it just pulls me in. I also can't go a couple of days without talking to her it drives me crazy. How do you all do it.

My ex broke up with me in June. We didn't see each other for about a month, but still spoke. It was devastating. I sank into a serious depression. Towards the end of July we saw each other and began to hang out again. Since then I have stayed over at her place a few times a week and we have even gone to Vermont for a weekend and Mexico for a weekend. BUT... her attitude has not changed, and it has been killing me since then. I have not been happy since the breakup, but I just get a nice fix when I am with her. She is now dating other guys and it is just tearing me apart. She still says she loves me and doesn't want to lose what we have, but she seems to be looking for someone else. She has even gotten a little distante lately. She is going out with a guy this saturday, but has plans to see a play with me on Sunday. I know how you guys feel, but I can't seem to let her go. Help

My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up since June. After a couple months of separation, we began to sort of see each other. We have been sleeping together a few times a week lately. I found out she went out on a date with a guy on Wed. She invited me over today and we were sexual with each other, and she was also very affectionate, but she told me I had to leave because she is going out on a date with this guy again and he would be picking her up shortly. Why does she still hook up with me and go out on a date with some other guy?

I went out with a girl last night and we had a great time. We made plans to go out again sometime, but how long should I wait to call her and make those plans?

Hi Missy I have had the same situation with my ex. She dumped me over 3 months ago, but I have not gone more than a week without talking to her. At times I thought we would get back together. We have slept together since but she always turns cold by the next day and tells me it will never be like it was. I have tried to tell her about NC but I can't get the words out to do it. Right now it's been 3 days since I last spoke to her. She had been phoning me about every other day, I rarely ever call her. Like I said there were some times in the past couple of months where we had great times together but she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. Please help

Has anyone used any of these online psychics or witches to try to get there ex back?

Hey all Thanks for all the replies. We have both been out of town this week, but she has called me almost everyday. I haven't called her once. We have had good conversations. I asked her if she wants to hang out next saturday and she said she would love to. Again I don't want to put all my eggs in her basket, but at the same time I would like us to finally be back together. Should I ask her what she thinks and wants, or should I just continue on and let things take it's course. At this point no matter what happens it will hurt again. The two options are: She says she doesn't want to see me anymore or she wants to be with someone else. I'm am very afraid of one of those things happening, but I don't want to let me fear ruin what might be turning around into a good thing again.

My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. We had limited contact after the breakup. I never told her I wanted her back. Anyway last week I asked her if she would pick me up from the dentist after my wisdom teeth are pulled and she said yes. She was a little apprehensive about it and I said that I would find other means, but she said she would do it. Anyway she took me to the dentist and drove me back to her place. I slept for a while. She went to the store and bought me some soup and stuff and took good care of me. That night she got into bed with me. Her phone rang and the answering machine got it. It was her ex calling. I asked if they were getting back together and she said no they were just friends, but he was coming into town this weekend and they were going to get together for dinner. The next morning she took me home. She called me from work and said that I shouldn't be alone, and she was going to pick me up and take me back to her place. That night we went out and had a drink and then went to dinner, we had a good time together. We went back to her place and she laid next to me on the couch and put her head on my chest. We went to bed again. Before we went to bed I saw a note from one of her friends saying "good luck with Cutie Ryan" I asked her about it and she got mad. She said there was nothing going on and he had a girlfriend. We went to sleep. In the morning she curled up next to me and put her arms around me. We messed around a little bit but did not have sex. She made me breakfast and we sat and talked. I asked her if she still had feeling for her ex and she said no. I asked her if she had feelings for another one of her exes whom she had also been recently talking to and she said no. I asked her if she had feelings for me and she said "well that's pretty obvious". I was confused. We hung out that day and had a great time, but she was going out with her ex later. I went home and hung with a couple of friends. About 11:30 that night she calls and asked how I was doing. We spoke for alittle bit and she said she would see me in church the next day. I went to church and she shows up wearing lipstick. She never wears lipstick. After church she said she was going to hang out with her other ex and play tennis. Later that afternoon she calls me up and we end up hanging out. she asked if I noticed her lipstick and I said yes. I asked her about all her guys she's been hanging with and she said she has no interest in any of them. I asked her if she was interested in me and she said yes but I am confused. We went to a couple of parks and she was very affectionate towards me and very sweet. We went back to her place and she laid with me on the couch for a while. I stayed over again and we spoke a little bit. She said she doesn't want to hurt me. I told her why would she and she said I don't know. The next morning I left and told her not to be a stranger. She said she probably would be during the week because she would be very busy with work. She called me Monday late morning and we spoke. She called me again on Tuesday and we spoke. she called me twice today and we spoke. My friends say she is messing with me and I will end up getting hurt, but I think she is sincere. The way she was acting was not like her. she has been so sweet and caring and affectionate. Do you think she wants to work it out or is she messing with me?

Why is God putting me through such pain. I can't take it anymore. I am living in false hopes that she will come back. I am living with the fear that she is with someone else. I am living with the despair of her not wanting to be with me anymore. I can't stand the fact that she doesn't love me like she used to. I was so good to her. Nothing I ever did was right. Why does God do this to me. I am a good person. I go to church I help others. Why God Why?

It's been almost 7 weeks since she broke up with me. She came up with a few excuses. We spoke a little after the breakup. Lately we've been speaking a little more. We got together one night and ended up sleeping together. She said she felt guilty and that it didn't mean we were back together. She says she misses me. She said if we keepthis up one of us will get hurt. We got together a few days later for church and lunch, and even hung out a bit in the afternoon. She was a little more defensive, but she was still willing to hang out. I haven't spoken to her in a few days. I want to work things out with her, but I keep getting mixed signals. Does she or doesn't she. want to work it outl? I have not begged her or told her I want her back. Should I tell her?

It has been over 6 weeks since she broke up with me. We have stayed in limited contact. We had some things which needed to be taken care of and some other stuff we needed to do together. After a month of not seeing each other, we finally got together to take care of some business. It went well. We get along great now. I have not begged her to come back or told her I love her and things like that. Last week we met again at her place. Somehow we started talking about the things we missed about each other. She started rubbing my arm and asked me if I wanted to stay over. I did. It was a wonderful night. We held each other and kissed and just enjoyed being with each other. Later that night she said she couldn't sleep and I could go home if I wanted to. I stayed. In the morning she snuggled up to me and said she felt guilty, and that this doesn't mean that we're back together. I agreed with her and told her I didn't think it was a good idea for us to get back together right now. (Even though I want to so badly). When I left she gave me a big hug and a big kiss on the lips. I saw her again this Sunday at church. We had to teach a class together. Her friend was with her, and she told me that my ex had a dream that I wasn't going to show up on Sunday and asked if I had called her Saturday night. Weird. We went to brunch afterwards and had a good time. Later that day my ex and I went to the driving range. She was friendly but distant. I gave her a hug goodbye, and that's the last I've seen of her. I know it hasn't even been a day, but I want to know what she's thinking. I am getting mixed signals from her. I want to get back together with her, but right now I don't know if she wants to. Any input would be helpful. Especially from a girl's point of view.