sisterlynch

I would try and balance the feelings of good and bad. You really shouldn't be remembering the good times only, you will cling to the memories, and you will never feel like he did you wrong, so you will always keep him close. This will not do with an ex, since he may use it to try to manipulate you into doing something with him. I would recommend no contact on this one.

I am really sorry that this had to happen. He sounds like a class A jerk. Why do you think it happened the way that it did? Don't blame all men on this one guys actions, that would be a mistake. How do people feel about the fact that he broke it off, then allowed her to be fired? Pretty weird timing, huh? I am sorry for him and his wife, I hope that she is aware of his business lunches!!

It really isn't up to them. They are not progressive in the way that they are reacting to the situation. This is not maure of them. They are probably dealing with an empty nest syndrome or not wanting to let go of the control of the child...either way, let them have their say, but totally ignore them!!

My feeling is for the child. The child needs to learn to love in a consistent manner, and yes, adult relationships involve sex, passion, intimacy, love, lust. He will never leave her emotionally while the child is involved.

Do what makes you feel good, just because someone has a special title next to their name, it really means nothing if they don't know how to be authentic. When you are 19 or 20, you are still innocent. Take your time to mature and grow your gills slowly, so to speak. Don't let others question your sincerity. It is an endless cycle, educate yourself now and then again, later. Stay the course, was what someone told me, when I was questioning my ability in a certain field, and it meant the world to me, and it still does. How about this: You can do more, better, when you have an MBA...that will send the censors realing.

We all think about it occasionally. It is different for everyone. Learn to be optimistic. Don't look on the rotten side of life. You will never get better then!

It is sort of rude and offensive to argue with people over their personal bodies. It was interesting to read about the male perspective of a girl losing her virgity, thank you.

I think that you should playfully ignore him until he tells you what he is feeling. I trust your instincts.

I think that all the education that you can gather in a short time period is worth it in the long run. It may give you some seniority over people, it may get your foot in the door, it may help you be more focused, it may make you feel superior. You never know until after you have completed something how it really makes you feel. There is always change and growth.

I will listen to the story.

The story is a little confusing, did she leave you for another friend? You knew that she has this sexual disfunction, or addiction before you even thought of having sex with her. You never really felt anything but lust for her. Now you have the strain of thinking of her with the guy that she was with before you? The guilt that you are feeling is a form of punishment for your lack of judgement. Guilt is like a warning system that you did a bad thing, and eventually you will get over it. You need to put your passion into art, or someone that you actually like and lust at the same time.

When you are looking at your gf's "area" you will notice a pointed area at the top. That is the clit. It should stick out a lttle. You don't have to touch it too much, because it is very sensative to pressure. Ask her if she has ever orgasmed from laughing too much. Below that if she isn't a virgin, then you will see a small round opening, and a larger round opening. These are all relative, and within about 2 to 3 inches of each other. The smaller opening is the urethra, that is where the pee exits the body, that is very sensative, so don't rub that if you can. As far as getting her to orgasm, you want to make her feel safe and warm, comfortable. Don't talk too much unless it is to compliment her on something. Use three fingers, then do a quick back and forth movement, like you are waving to someone. Ask her how she likes it if she is quiet, is she is making noices, then you are doing the right thing.

You need to find someone who has been terribly depressed or stressed out before and ask them how to deal with your issues. It helps to think long and hard about what is really (and be specific about...) bothering you.

These types of people normally aren't the most reliable wittnesses, other children and the bus driver. You should move him to another school, let the school deal with the boy in their own way. You also have to teach your own child sexual boundaries and what is and is not appropriate on the bus, in the classroom, etc. Kids unfortunately learn by watching others. He needs to be better directed than many other kids would be.

I learned how to meditate in a consciuousness studies class and when ever I feel down, I break out the candle and do it again. It some how releases your pent up feelings.

I think that is the biggest draw back in a relationship, when the other person is failing to mature at a normal pace. You should look into changing your environment to create a need to grow. Don't worry about the one that got away, worry about the others that you have not met yet.

I can't say that I have done this, but if it were me, I would find out the city where they are living and file a police report on them. Call up the police in their area, or in your area, and say that these people molested me when I was a minor, and then they will have trouble getting jobs that require a police report.

When we are making love, having confidence is the biggest turn on. People have to know what they are doing in a way that says to others, I was born to do this at this very moment. Do oral stimulation on her.

We all have things about ourself that we don't like and would like to get rid of, the problem with drinking too much, or doing anything else that avoids dealing with the problem, is that it is basically bad and unhealthy. We all need to take advantage of the time that we have on earth and live for the good of ourselves and others. Drinking or doing anything else that makes us feel like we are having a great time (when we are not), is really a waist of time. You need to do something more productive. Taking drugs is only an escape from reality, and it makes reality shabby in comparison.

You probably need to take some time to think about why and how much you have been drinking. You don't want to be in a situation where you are drinking to excess, because then you must depend upon others to get you home, and you need to think more about yourself and your options in life, rather than letting your emotions be controlled by binge drinking. If you are drinking so much that you can't remember what happened, then you may be having some alcohol poisoning, too. This in time will ruin your health.

But doesn't it get crushed or tired just from being in the car too much? Maybe I am making excuses for him, maybe he is just getting old all of a sudden, is that more like it? You 2 aren't making fun of me, R U?? Here is another quest, maybe this is for the women, I kind of thought that all the guys were gone from this thread, any how, so hide your eyes if this is offensive 2 U. Is it possible to use Nair down there?? I had a doc tell me to use that to remove the unwanted hair, but i haven't looked into it too far, so to speak. Here is another ? that I have that is more of a social nature, and not quite so sexual, is that all right?? It is something that I was curious about, it is sort of like a timing thing, that I am not so good at. Time seems to go by much more slowly for me than for others appearantly. Since you all seem to be good listeners, maybe I will get to my point: The type of business that my husband is in, has to do with nepotism, they look to train other people to do it, it is a part of the real estate workings--they look for people that they know, because it is an apprenticeship...there is a guy that I know that is about to graduate from college, and my husband may be looking for another coworker to train, since the people that he is working with now, are going slowly -- I think it is time for them to get in a new person, and I want to recommend someone. I have never specifically asked the other guy if he is interested in this type of work. I have mentioned this guy to my husband in the past, but it wasn't the right time, he wasn't looking for another person at the time, that I used to talk about this one guy to him before. Would it be wrong to give my husband's card to this guy, and tell him how to approach the situation, and how to get taken seriously, etc. I am afraid to mention the other guy to my husband, because I dont want him to get mad, and then the answer is definitely no. Maybe I am thinking about it too much, but if people ask the new guy how he knows my husband, and he says through his wife, would that seem tacky?

One thing that I have heard of is to write a letter, then throw it away. Maybe that might help. Sometimes putting your more intimiate relationship feelings into words is the best way to put it behind you.

Talking to a lawyer is a good idea, because the school will likely listen to a lawyer...Take him to a family physician, and a psychologist too. Tell them the story, then have all that written up. Leagally you can't record someone without their permission. I am pretty sure of that. Make sure that you know the names of the other children involved too. Something to consider is to talk to the parents of the other children involved. Maybe get a time line, of what led up to the harassment. How the kid approached your kid. That would help. In the future, keep having your son tell you all the things that happen to him that sound weird. I would strongly consider changing schools.

Maybe I didn't make the point clearly that his skin on his area is sore. It may have to do with spending long hours driving in the car, as well as not having sex regularly. When we do have it, he complains that it is sore. We use all that jelly and everything.

This was for extra credit? How are you doing other than the extra credit. I had a wacked out sociology teacher last semester, this kind of sounds like something another professor (I) had talked about, where you maintain eye contact, then give them a bad or silly look after a while, it is sort of mean to some people. You lost your nerve, and now that one is over. I wouldn't put a lot of thought into it. I have a feeling that she knows who you are, maybe she had some other people contact her, and she didn't feel like she had the time to deal with another classmate. Don't beat yourself up over this.