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Yes they have me on medication. I believe I am just more depressed about other things going on in my life. Like nothing is going right and they just want me to start feeling better. I want to stop doing this to men too. I know what I am doing it is like a routine the last three years. I don't want to fear being hurt I want to learn how to take that chance. From having one relationship where I trusted someone and they competely broke that trust while I was living with them repeatedly. I can be with a guy but the minute they say they like me alot or i start to develop feeling I do things that will push them so far. It's just this time I feel so bad because this guy was very nice at one point and we got along great now we can't even be in the same place at the same time without alot of tension.

I am already on medication for this I strated it three days ago. This has become a routine for me I have it down to a science. The thing is I never really thought about it until now. This person was someone that I would have loved to at least been friends with and now we can't look at each other we live in a small town and I don't even want to see him i am positive that he doesn't want to see me. We even play on the same ball team and I don't want to go to that beucase I feel so stupid for what I did. It's all a mental thing and FEAR. I am scared to take a chance on someone. I am positive that him and I will never talk again and that really sucks beucase I am friends with his family and I don't even want to go around tot he bar that they own. His brother said I can't take this out on his family and not come around that it would be wrong. I am not taking it out on the family I just don't want to see him. I love playing softball and now I ahve to quit that too..

I have come to a realization today. I have been hurt really bad by a guy that I dated three years ago and every relationship after that I pushed guys until they would leave or at least hate me. I have done it again with someone that I only had a casual relationship with things were great for four months and then about two months ago I pushed issues that i knew he didn't want like a relationship and a ton of things. I did it beucase I started to like him and am so affraid to be hurt agian. Lastnight I talked with this guys brother and I know I do this I don't know how to stop I have ruined every chane of being frieds with this person or every having anything with him. He things I am nuts maybe I am. I do this on purpous and I wish I never have becuase I do like this person alot. His brother even told me today that his brother likes me alot thinks I am a great girl but he never thought I would be like this. I have no clue how to fix this becasue I am affraid to talk to him in public I text message him which is a big no no. I hate myself for this and I don't know how to change it. What do I do??

I should clear this up I am the one that wanted something more I had feelings for him and he does not open up except one time he did tell me that he has not moved on from his ex which was three years agao already. I care about him so much and I told him exactly how i feel i gave him the opportunity to say let's be just friends I threw it out their and he couldn't even tell me that now he doesn't even act the same around me anymore. I mean maybe he didn't want anythign more and is afraid to tel me or maybe he jsut didn't like th idea that after like six months I wanted something a little more than casual

I guess anyone can answer this it is not really just from amale stand point also a female stand point. I have had a casual sexual relatioship with a man for a little over four months. After that long one is bound to have feeling for th other. I have them. I am not sure if he miss understands me but I told him that I think it is time to move on and that we should just be friends. Well ever since then he acts strange with me will not even look at me when I talk. I also gave him the option when I told him that I was developing feeling for him that if he wanted to jsut be friends he should say it. I can tell a guy that I just want to be friends if that's what I want. He for some reason can't come out and say let's be friends. I am not sure if he thinks by just being friends things will change and I won't stop in my his parents business or stay friends with his family. He acts as if I hurt him in some way when I told him all this his body language twords me is completely different. So basiclly why can't people just tell some one of the oposit sex they just want to be friends?? We were never dating in the first place..

That is for sure I don't buy it and he hasn't said a word to me about it even though we haven't talked since then or seen each other but we will see each other tonight. We will have to see what happens.

So I got a phone call last night from the girl that he slept with. Or I guess who knows now, that she has a boyfriend and all he did was come over after bar close to see her new house and they had a smoke together. While they were smoking he started hitting on her and she told him to leave that she has a boyfriend. So she said they didn't sleep together and he said nothing and won't say nothing but I will see him tonight so I can't wait to see how he acts.

Iceman26 What you said is most likely true this guys case. He is very self confident and does not approach women in a bar he waits for them to approach him. I know this because I have known him for along time. I never said that I don't except him it's just that every time we go ut we seem to have to have sex. I feel bad though about confronting him and I shouldn't. But then again at this time we are not dating, but he gave me his word then lied to me and I don't know what to say when I see him again which will be tomorrow. I wish he would have said something back when I said that to him. Was he embarressed about the girl or shocked I found out. Did he not want to hurt my feelings, beucase to me some men don't care about hurting feelings. I am nervous about tomorrow.

BellaDonna You are very much right it does show his true colors. He is a sex crazed man and he couldn't keep his word. I think I am more upset he went for agirl he know he was gonna get some from beucase his brother had her and he had her. He is bad with relationships, emotionally I mean. He can't talk about feeling and at 38years old I would think he would want something more then just sex with different women. My biggest thing was I didn't and don't think he has any respect for women and if other women want to be stupid and be his botty call then thats fine but I am not going to be used for it. I just wish he would have said something to me after I told him I found out. I have no clue what he was thinking...

You are right it is about pleasure. The thing is that our relationship was getting to strictly sex. He said he would prove to me he could go with out sex and I needed him to prove it to me beucase my job takes me out of town for long periods of time. I think what mad him not want to say antything to me was that I had felt he proved himself and before I got to tell him he went and did that. I told him lastnight when I told him about the fact that someone told me what happened the night before. I had to prove myself to him. Beucase women before have hurt him divorce ( wife left for another man) girlfriend 8 years (left for another man). I don't know what to say to him beucase his parents invited me over for dinner tonight and this was before I knew about this..

So that is basiclly the question. Why can't people go long periods of time without sex?? Because I was with this guy andbrokeit off beucase it was just a sex thing and he said he would give sex up for awhile to prove it wasn't. Well he kept trying with me the past month and I kept turning him down beucase I wanted more of a relationship. So this past weekend he left and slept with someone his brother was with then he wsa with then his brother. The thing is he lied to me about it saying he still didn't fail. And I confronted him and he had nothing to say about it at all just kept silent and I walked away. I personnaly can go along time without sex??

Well I called him but he was out at a pool tornment last night so I sent him a text message about how I felt. I have not gotten a response yet and probably won't get one until I see him this weekend. Is it that hard for a guy to think about what they really want? I did tell him I can not continue this FWB thing that is going on beucase I don't want to get hurt or end up hurting him. I would rather it be more exclusive. I do know that that in itself will be hard though beucase he never knows from day to day what shift he is working and he is going to continue working and talking over his parents bar so he probably doesn't have the time to invest in a relationship and that is something that I want. Do I wait to talk with him about it when I see him this weekend or should I just move on??

It's been a little over a month now that I have been having this thing we could call it FWB with a guy in my town. It started out as not being a big deal but after awhile I began to have feelings for him. I have known him for about 8 years he is 38 ands I am 26. He has been divorced for at least 12 years and his last relationship was 3 years ago. He is a little shy I mean I have to start conversations with him. A week ago I told him that I really couldn't do this anymore because I was starting to have feeling about everything and didn't want to get hurt or him to get hurt. I have seen FWB situations where someone gets hurt and I don't want that. He asked me if I was trying to be evil for ending it. He is not someone that can talk about how he feels he is shy and I think scared becuase of the divorce and along relationship he had for eight years that ended after that. I want to be a little more exclusive about what him and I have going on and I am wondering if I should tell him and let him figure out out he feels or should I just move on?? I am so lost beucase I really like this man and I get along with his kids and his family. I am not afraid of the rejection it's just I need to know becuase I really can't do the FWB thing anymore and I want to give him the option for something more.

Thanks for the advice I will say it is really hard to get this guy to open up about his feelings becuase of his divorce and proir relationship. We see each other now in public and we talk and he always winks at me when he leaves watches my every move. Everyone in my nice small town is starting to think we are dating which is fine with me the thing is I don't really know if we are we meet up alot go to different places together all that stuff but like his brother said he doesn't talk about his feelings. I guess I just have to tell him how I feel straight forward and see how he responds if it is more of a casual sexual relathionship we have then I have to end it beucase someone always gets hurt in that situation.

How does one go about making an 11 year age gap relationship public in a small town and with a very old fashioned father. I have been seeing this man he is 38 I will be 27 we live in a small town and people like to talk and bash these sort of things. I will admit it is a little weird that I use to babysit his two children and they are now 18 and 16. He has been divorced for 13years I should add. We both enjoy each others company and I really would like to make it public and so would her. However I am wooried about my father since his sister in law married a man 14 years older and he didn't go to the wedding and she is not even welcome in our home. This scares me. He is fine taht I have a four year old son but I do believe before we make it public I should discuss the fact that I do one day want more children. The way he talks is that he doesn't. Should this be something we talk about first and before carring this relationship on any further. I need advice....