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  1. Genesis
    I do not think that he is bitter at all, I think he is just explaining the simple concept that many people just do not get. We must learn to find happiness within before we can truly enjoy others. I did not take the post as you must never fall in love or have friends. I feel that so many people on this forum cry and cry about their ex when in most cases our ex's are not thinking about us at all. He hit it right on the head: Until you realize that you must love and validate yourself, with out relying on others to validate who you are, you can never move on and heal from a break up.
  2. Genesis
    You should not get in the habit of two timing girls but, if you want a relationship with one you will have to choose. My ex was a Gemini and they are known for being players and being really fickle.
  3. Genesis
    Hell no! Let her "Baby's Daddy" take care of her! It looks like she is just using you, and I would think hard about this one. Maybe you can be their as a friend but do not put anything on hold for her. Like school or work. She got herself into this mess so she will have to get herself out of it. She held her virginity for you but then gave it up to some a$$ hole who has left her; he had to or she would not be hunting you down. Unlike others there is a baby involved now;are you ready to be a father to this baby. B/C she will try to make you into the kids dad if you get back together. If so go for it!
  4. Genesis
    Just bring up your ex in your next conversation around your parents and see how they react tell them that he is trying to get back together with you. see what they say. I am afraid to tell my parent about my ex too, b/c he wants to marry me. I am not ready for that right now so, I do not know what to do.
  5. Genesis
    How long have you been trying to get in touch with her by email? I think you should move on it has been three years and she may already have a boyfriend or worse! She may not even remember you. I do not remember all of my co-workers sometimes after many years. Well give it some more time maybe two weeks, after that move on and seek out other friendships. The best adivice to any one is to move on, thinking about your ex all the time is not good for you trust me I know!
  6. Genesis
    It is so sad how people do not know what they have until it is gone. If you want him back you must continue to play hard to get. Do not play too hard to get just act as if your life is ao happy with out him, but you would love to have him as your friend. It works for me all the time, they all come crawling back, but the million dollar question is will it work out after you get back together? My ex is back now I do not know if I want to get back together. Why are you divorcing in the first place?
  7. Genesis
    I did nothing for my ex's birthday, I was so mad at him for many reasons. I did not give him a card or a present or even acknowledge that is was his birthday at all! Well I had reasons to not talk to him. He is actively pursuing me now. I guess a simple card will do nothing more. When you start to figure out his schedule, just go to the gym at a different time. When classes start this fall sit in the front of the room so you can not see him, he will have to look at you b/c he will be sitting behind you. Good Luck.
  8. Genesis
    HELLO MEN OR BOYS! Just be friends it makes me so sick when a guy just uses you for company just b/c he is too weak to stand on his own two feet. Deal with your issues with out dragging someone else into it. If you can not stand to be alone you do not need to have a girlfriend in my opinion. I hope these poor girls that you are using wake up and see you guys for what you really are. lonely, needyand dependent. You do not have to be that way. Learn to enjoy your friends company or your own. Good Luck, I hope I did not offend anyone.
  9. Genesis
    I think it could be a little bit of both. Love and Lust. The only thing I see wrong with high school relationships, is that when you go off to school the relationship sometimes ends. This is what happened to me, but you never know unless you talk about it. I would not have sex with him, you want him to be able to make up his mind with out sex clouding his decision.
  10. Genesis
    I am not sure you never know with guys? I would say that it sounds like he is not interested but I could be wrong. My ex and I have not contacted each other for four months and now he wants to get back together. Just see how things work out, that is what I am doing. Just take one day at a time.
  11. Genesis
    I think I recall responding to one of your posts in the past and I remember telling you that you may be on the rebound. It is never a good idea to start dating again if you are not ready. It took me a year before I could get into a relationship and be ok with it. I did date however I just never got into a relationship, many of the guys I dated asked me to be their girlfriend but I said no b/c I was not over my ex yet.
  12. Genesis
    Most colleges have career counseling and it helped me alot when I first started school back in the day. He can take a test that indicates his skills and his interests. What is he passionate about, that may be the key to finding where his talents are. He may not be a deadbeat just unfocused right now.
  13. Genesis
    I am sorry to hear that you feel so bad about the breakup. I know that most couples do break up right before going away to college maybe this was for the best. When you start school in the fall look for new friends to keep you busy. My Freshman year in college was sad for me b/c I lost my bf to another girl at his school. Their fling did not last but to this day we are still friends even though I would not want to date him ever again. Good Luck go out and have fun!
  14. Genesis
    Do not worry the most important thing is to try to pay off your debt. I know of a 30 something year old woman who lived at home with her folks due to her debt , but she found someone and got married and moved out! She now has a wonderful husband, baby and a house, plus she is debt free! If someone loves you they will look past where you are living right now. As long as you have direction and goals that will let you eventually move out of your parents house, you should be fine. I know so many people who think they have it made b/c they are not living at home but they have tons of debt, and will not be able to buy a house or car in the future b/c of bad credit.
  15. Genesis
    Thanks you guys. He said that I was too clingy and needy, but I guess his opinion has changed. Since I did not contact him or even contact him for his birthday which was a month after we broke up. Well what he did was really strange. I think that he wanted to date other women. I also think he was talking to a girl behind my back. He became really distant which made me believe that he had something going on with someone else. I would ask him if that were true but he never admitted to doing wrong, so I really do not know if he cheated or not, but I think he was ready to see other people. I think he wanted to see other girls and see what others had to offer. I think he has dated several women since our break up but, I guess none of them have compared to me. I think he was felling bad b/c I moved back home after I graduated college a year ago. Making us an LDR couple. He was still in school and having some problems. To Sweetypie: My ex called me after four months of no contact. We have been broken up for four months also.
  16. Genesis
    I am wonding can you forgive someone who has wronged you? My ex has come crawling back to me with a strong declaration of love for me. There are no questions or doubts as to him wanting to get back together with me. He seems like a different person. He has told me that no other woman compares to me and that I am the best friend that he has ever had.He says that he has had plenty of time( four months) to think about this and he wants another chance.I know this is not about a hook up thing, b/c He knows I will not sleep with him. I wonder if his pleas are genuine? He has been trying to get back for at least a month now. I told him that we can be friends b/c I do feel that I can forgive him enough to be his friend; I however do not know about being his girlfriend again. Forgivness for me has been a supernatural effort, that I have only been able to do through the grace of God. What shoud I do?
  17. Genesis
    Maybe you shoud look into fertility treatment. I would ask him straight out if he loves you. I can see where he was coming from about the dinner, when you said that it was already cold and that he should have fun, you were giving him permission to stay out late. I think you could be more understanding about that issue. Men are dumb sometimes you have to tell them exactly what you want. He figured O well I might as well stay out b/c she said the dinner is cold and to have fun, so I am going to have fun. Be clear with what you want next time, apologize to him and tell him that you are sorry but you also need talk about furture plans. He may want a child of his own so, your relationship may be in jeopardy. Give it about six months to try to work things out. Try to make him fall in love with you again. Men like understanding women who support them and make them feel good about themselves. If the two of you are not going to get married in the next couple years I do not see any reason for you to be living together like a family if you are not one. You need to talk to him or you will never know how he feels. Write down everything you want to say to him so you can be focused. Find a time when you two can talk for at least 2-3 hours with out distraction. and NO FIGHTING, WHINNING, and NAGGING NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO. This is what makes men not want to talk to us. Good Luck I think you can work things out. You can not live in a bubble forever and not know what is going on with the man who loves you. TALK ,TALK, TALK it is the only way you will know where you stand with him.
  18. Genesis
    Yes I am going through this right now . My ex and I broke up and now he wants me back. He says that he loves me so much and wants me and only me. She is taking you for granted. Let her go and see what happens. My ex came crawling back maybe she will too, but you can not sweat her or it will not work.
  19. Genesis
    You should talk to him again and tell him how you feel. Give him some space, he is taking you for granted. In your next relationship do not live with a man unless he is your husband, I do not think the living together helps. He already thinks of you as variable that is constant and will not ever leave that is why he does not listen to you or try to change. What was he doing out so late did he know that you had plans or was it a surprise? Do you think he is having an affair? He may just feel pressured by alot of things, give him some space. He may resent you for not being able to have kids, but you can adopt. If he has not asked you to marry him by now or at least in the near future, maybe he is having second thoughts about your relationship. Be patient with him, and talk to him in a peaceful not threathing way. Things will work out.
  20. Genesis
    Do not worry your girlfriend is not pregnant. You may have got and STD however, but I doubt that. If she has gental warts or if she has herpes they can be spread by skin to skin contact. Since you are both young and each others first or virgins , I do not think you contracted an STD. You sound like a very young man, so before you start to have sex or hook up with your girlfriend again. You need to learn about sexual reproduction in addition to safe sex practices. Here are some topics that you should research befor having sex: 1. How to properly use a condom and other birth control methods 2. Sexual Reproduction- how pregnancy occurs and the stages in pregnancy 3. You need to know about Sexually Transmitted Diseases & How they are transmitted. If you are going to be sexually active or fool around you need to know the responsibilities of having sex and there consequences.
  21. Genesis
    It looks as if due to his upbringing maybe he does not know how to show you very much affection. I would be concerned that he has not let you meet his parents. When a man is deeply in love with you he wants you to meet his parents, and usually the parents are dying to meet their childs love interest. This family may just have some type of disconnection with people they may be very anti-social which may have nothing to do with you. The big problem that I see is that he has not told you he loves you. Has he at least said it by now, since you have been dating for 4 years? If he has not said I Love you by now, you should consider breaking up with him. There is no reason to continue to live with an emotionally void man. If you are 37 you are still young and can date other men, do not let this guy waste you precious time on this earth. My ex and I broke up, it took him loosing me to see that he was really in love with me. You can not stay with a man who may not really be in love with you. I have read stories here where some men have dated women for 6-10 years and were never really in love with them. You need to have a talk to him about his feelings for you. If it does not get better you may have to dump him.
  22. Genesis
    Do not go there honey trust me. You will ruin your friendship, that is the most important thing. This man has boundary issues and if he would date his ex's friends he will date your friends too( when its over). Things will get so weird at your house with your roommate that even when this Relationship fizzles out, you rommate may still dislike you.
  23. Genesis
    All men find other women attractive, your man just did not think how it would make you fell if he told you, your friend looked nice. I have been there before. I just told myself that I look ten times better than her! As long as he loves you do not worry. Trust me honey your problem is nothing compared to most people here. As long as he is not hitting on her or trying to hook up with her behind your back do not sweat it. Make up in areas where she does not compare! He may like girls who have a little meat on the bone Example: J. Lo , so do not knock your friend. I am thin and skinny too! My BF Loves women with curves so I get kind of jealous too!
  24. Genesis
    I think that 19 is too young to settle for the type of relationship you are looking for, but then again I may be wrong. I generally think that it is a bad idea for people to live together with out being married. The reason I say this is b/c people become too clingy and begin to take each other for granted. Your ex is soo young that she may need time to be on her own for a some time. the best thing you can do is to back off and let her decide what she wants to do right now. After four months of parting and being single my ex came back to me. MAybe your ex will see that no other man compares to you, but she can not see that if you are breathing down her neck all the time. remember that the Bible says that Love is patient and if the both of you can not wait or be patient , then maybe you do not have true love.
  25. Genesis
    The most atractive thing that a man can do is to be collected in a time of crisis. Trust me many people make the mistake of chasing their gf/bf down too much and they end up just running away. Woman want what they can not have sometimes. Your girlfriend may be ready to have time to herself to be with friends or to date other guys. How old are you? Maybe you may not be ready for such a long term commitment at your age. Well the best thing you can do is to give her space while continuing to be charming and kind. Let her know that you love her and then just do not sweat her so much! Good Luck Play hard to get , but not too hard!!!
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