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  1. kellbell
    hey there, It's so weird how this works but it seems like the more we push, the other will pull and vise versa. If I were your situation, as hard it may seem to do, I would lay low for a few days and let him contact you. It seems like this relationship is a bit one-sided and you are doing all the work. Let him come to you. In the meantime, try to keep yourself busy with other things. I know it's hard but the more you push, the more this guy is going to pull away. Take care and good luck with everything.
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    Hey there, What was he like before you guys got a place together? How have things been since you guys moved in. Could be he was just really cranky about moving. But at the same time, I think he was extremely rude to you while you guys moved in. I would tell him straight out, say, "look, I think your behavior was very immature the other day, you really hurt my feelings and I WILL NOT tolerate it in this house." You have to nip this behavior in the bud before it gets really out hand. Once he figures out he can do and say what ever he wants since you guys shacked up together, it's only going to get worse. People will treat you as you LET them. Don't let him. He will definitely respect you more when you speak up, trust me on this one. Good luck with everything and take care.
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    She didn't want a committment at that time. She wanted to be able to get to know you while she had some contact with this other dude without the guilt. It has nothing to do with her having a month to "figure things" out. It got her off the hook at that time. But in the meantime, she is not obligated to let you know what she is doing in her life while not having a decisive committment to you. I guess my advice to you is to lay low with this young lady and keep your options open with others. She did, why not you? Wishing you the best and take care.
  4. kellbell
    He likes you and he is being very flirty. If you like him back, then maybe flirt with him back a little. Maybe he's just trying to get an idea how you would react to his advances to see if you do it back.
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    Hey there, I am so sorry you have been going through this all week. I think now this is driving you crazy because of her indifference and your cofidence is being compromised a bit. That can make anyone crazy! You are starting to second-guess yourself which happens in situations like this. But I stand by what I wrote to you a week ago, let her come to you. If she wants to be with you, she knows how to contact you and where to find you. She will contact you sooner or later. In the meantime, I would try to do things that take up your time and keep you busy. Things will get better. Hang in there.
  6. kellbell
    Don't stay with him out of pity, afraid of hurting him, or because you invested 10 years with him. What's important is YOUR happiness and what's right for you at this point. In situations like this, somebody always gets hurt, question is, do you want it to be you by staying with him? Give him another chance if you feel in your heart that's what you want. If you feel you are at the point of no return, then I would try to work on you and get out of the relationship. I wish you all the best and take care.
  7. kellbell
    FWB works on a case by case level. It depends. I have known people who have no troubles, and others who fall in love and all kinds of jealousy gets in the way. I guess to answer your questions, set boundries and keep lines of communication open.
  8. kellbell
    I thought he was your ex and that he broke off the engagement with you over the summer?? If that's true, he has every right to be with another lady. What in the world would you be in the position to walk in on him anyway??
  9. kellbell
    Then you can't blame him for making you feel like crap, you've had plenty of opportunities to leave him but you went back to him. You HAVE to take responsilibity for your judgements. You can't love him, it's called dependency otherwise you wouldn't pull the revolving door with this dude. Believe me, I have been in the same exact place you are now. It takes for you love yourself enough TO KICK THIS GUY TO CURB ONCE AND FOR ALL!!! Best wishes and take care.
  10. kellbell
    Happy Belated Birthday! Have you thought about talking to someone about things? It sounds like you may need to get some perspective on things and stuff you are having difficulites with. There is nothing wrong with talking to someone. Feel free to PM me anytime too.
  11. kellbell
    For what it's worth along with what KayRay, happiness is the ULTIMATE REVENGE!!!!!!! Showing people they have not got to you is by far the best way to go.
  12. kellbell
    Dump him and cut all ties with him. I know it's hard to take this in, but people will treat you the way you LET them. So in a way, you have to take responsibilty for your actions in that sense. By you feeling you want revenge shows you have not. Obviously this guy is not for you and chalk it up as a learning experience. Getting back him is instant gratification but will not help you in the long run. You will still feel lousy nonetheless.
  13. kellbell
    I always figured, it's a date when the man pays for it all. Dutch is when you 2 split it. Eiither way, I hope you have a good time.
  14. kellbell
    It's always good to hear when people are doing well and good to hear success stories. Good for you.
  15. kellbell
    Well, you're right, it's childish. I always believe people will always get what they deserve, good or bad. It's called...karma. Believe me, if your man is up to no good, it will come back to him, it always does. Karma has a way of getting back at anyone way worse compared to what you can do. If he's treating you like this, why are you bothering with him in the first place? Put him on ice. Just curious.
  16. kellbell
    My take on this subject is the ONLY way you will know someone is cheating is actually catching the person(s) in the act. I mean there are signs of course but since cheating is definitely a sensetive matter, one has to be absolutely sure of it before accusations can take place. I mean lives and relationships can be destroyed if you are wrong. Unless you SAW this dude doing anything questionable, like kissing another woman, I would not say anything. Just my 2 cents. I hope everything is ok with your friend.
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    Shorty, I had the SAME EXACT ATTITUDE with this one dude I wanted to be with. Because we did get along, had good conversations and such. But he treated me real bad in others ways too. More bad than good I should say. I have a hard time turning my back on people as well, especially when I see the good in them. Hoping he would come around and such. Let me tell you for the record.... THEY NEVER COME AROUND!!!!! Not as long you as your are around taking his crap. He will come around when you leave and never look back. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
  18. kellbell
    Good for you, I don't think you are being paranoid or being played. She doesn't have the heart to tell you how she really feels and kinda stringing you along. It does necassarily make her a bad person because it happens. I just would cool it for awhile and let her come to you if she really wants to spend time with you.
  19. kellbell
    Ditto what Guest wrote.
  20. kellbell
    Wait until she contacts you. I don't know, it sounds like she is not all that into you. I know when I am totally into a guy, I can't wait to get together, I am psyched about it and I NEVER forget what was planned. You are not on top of her priority list and at this point, she should not be on top of yours. Sorry to be blunt, but I think you can find someone else who remembers plans you made and can't wait to be with you. Just my thoughts. Wishing you the best and take care.
  21. kellbell
    Nikkers, I have seen so many posts from you about your situation and none of them have been good. This guy has done nothing but hurt you, upset you, caused you a world of discontent, get mixed signals gane playing, etc. I think you are too young to be bogged down in all this drama and with one guy who in my view, is a loser. Sorry to be so harsh but that's how I feel. So if I were in your situation, I would move on from this guy and give him the cold shoulder and go out and have fun! Enjoy being young, stop wasting your time. Wishing you all the best and take care.
  22. kellbell
    Shadows Light is absolutely right in everything she wrote. When you are used to being treated badly, then that's what you expect. But when someone comes along who is nice and loving, it does feel weird and a bit scarey too. Very normal, I have a friend who went through the same thing as you. I would do what Shadows suggested, you might want to see someone about things that have happened in your past and help you come to terms with it. Also, with this fellow in your life, enjoy the moments with him. You totally deserve it. Do what feels right. You are doing great in your life. Believe me, there are a lot of women in your shoes who go the other way. Be proud and take care.
  23. kellbell
    I'm confused, did you 2 break up or on a break? I am not sure on the status of your relationship. I dated a guy who liked to hurt me, I have no idea why but he did. Now I know whym because I LET HIM. I could have said something, stood up for myself, something. I would not let this guy hurt you like this. Tell him you won't stand for it. Tell it to his face, not in IM. He's using this phone bill as an excuse to poke at you. I don't even think he even expects the money, it's a game to him. I mean if you were together, would he have expected you to pay for it then? I doubt it. If I were in your situation, I would tell him you will not stand for being treated like this and would appretiate it he stopped. Tell him after your class and then walk away, don't let him have the last word. Then ignore him completely! Don't talk to his friends because you are going to find out info that you can live your whole life not knowing. You deserve so much better than this, don't waste your college years on a some little boy who likes to play petty games. Good luck and all the best best.
  24. kellbell
    Give me a break. That's what was soooo important?? She made it sound so urgent because she wanted you to contact her in order for her to find out what you have been up to. It's her guilt and curiosity getting the best of her. I am willing to bet she wasn't counting on you following strict NC and being very strong through all this. That in itself, would make very mad, the fact she underestimated you. Even though she says so, she does not understand at all. She has no idea how much she has hurt otherwise she wouldn't be trying to contact you over petty sh!t. I know this is hard. But know this, you are not alone out there and come here when you wanna talk. Hang in there, you are doing great!
  25. kellbell
    Wow man that's horrible! Keep that whole thing in mind in your moments in weakness. After reading about that party she had, I cannot possibly imagine what is so important she has to ask you about. Geez! Blow her off man. Let us know how everything works out ok.
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