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I have an employee who although a hard worker, seems to be struggling with some of the general practices of his position. He is an automotive technician, but really has a lot to learn. Before I even go any further I want to say I am not anywhere close to considering termination. He's reliable and honest, his skill level just needs improvement- which takes time. In the past when I have pointed out things, for example an inspection checklist should be done a certain way and how recommendations are to be made on the work order, he has gotten very defensive, even argumentative to the point where he just said "well you do them your way and I do them my way" which of course is wrong, I told him no, the checklists get done my way. now came a type of repair that he is not certified to do, he asked me if I wanted him to perform this repair, I said no, you aren't certified for it I need for one of the other guys to do it. to which he replies "well as long as you're not putting down that I am refusing work", I addressed this immediately with him, explaining how I would never expect someone to do something they aren't certified for and that I am concerned he has developed the attitude that I am "out to get him", he did not really respond one way or the other. so my question is how do I, as a female manager, and a predominantly male field, communicate with this person in order to get the best work out of him, get him to do the best job he can without him constantly feeling as if I am out to get him...how do I make him understand that I WANT him to be successful here?
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that is really not enough to be concerned about, we loose up to 100 strands per day, naturally
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you should be washing your hands after mastubation anyway, so the two hours scenario should not be a concern
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I think you both need to mature a bit, there is a LOT of game playing going on, and that will never allow for a happy and healthy relationship.
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all his friends were flirting with me....why?
punchy504 replied to cinderelly's topic in Dating Advice
nyways I was wondering why thses guys would do this when I was dating their friend? because you let them.... -
Is it dangerous to get attracted to women with boyfriends?
punchy504 replied to yo's topic in Dating Advice
Is it dangerous to get attracted to women with boyfriends? depends, do you like getting beaten up? this really is a no brainer- if people are in a relationship the only right thing to do is stay away -
I agree with the above poster, I also think when you don't know who you want to be with then you really don't want to be with either, you just don't want to be alone either. You should only be with someone when you are sure you don't want anyone else besides them.
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money and fidelity seem to be the biggest causes of divorce. The most important thing I have found is when you find someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, it is important that you are a team together, you 2 against the world kind of thing (as corny as that may sound). never let it get adversarial between you two. be each other biggest cheerleader, not the biggest critic (this does not mean constructive criticism is out.)
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I think you need to work on being independent in your own right, finding happiness and fullfillment in yourself and stop this cycle of male-dependancy you are in.
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wouldn't that make you a prostitute?
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Hi, just wanted to let you know RayKay, that I did have the discussion with my bf, brought it up the way you had suggested. Everything went well, he is back in his own place, no hurt feelings- thanks!
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you guys could join something TOGETHER, then you would definitely have sometthing to talk about, ballroom dancing, cooking classes might be even better etc.
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I'm turning 18 on Sunday and moving out the 21st.
punchy504 replied to Scaredof18's topic in Parenting and Families
ok, my impression seems to be a bit different than the others right now. you seem very gung ho to be turning 18 and turning "adult", and you will be moving out etc. buuuuuut why can't you be mature enough to tell your family that you will be leaving? It takes a lot of maturity to be out in the real world, a LOT of dealing with things you don't necessarily like, if you are not mature enough to initiate and get through one conversation that, granted, will be extremely uncomfortable, then maybe you are not yet mature enough to move out...? -
she could apply for a work visa, to replace her student visa(if she has a job)
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I think that is what I will do, thank you so much. and no the "shabby chic" thing just isn't my cup of tea, lol, trying to build a comfortable life is kind of thwarted when you have to totallly start over every 5 years
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I did discuss this with him in the beginning, and more recently I kind of brought it up in a joking way that it was like we are living together and that is against the rules, but ...he's still here Maybe be less joking about it. If you phrase it as a joke, he may think you really are okay with it and are bending your own rules. I agree wholeheartedly with this, a few days after I had joked about it and he was still here I thought to myself the joking probably wasn't the best way to approach it.
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very true raykay, but I think for me to live with someone, even if the marriage fails then at least I am protected somewhat if it does fall apart. not that I want what isn't mine but I never want to end up sitting on pillows on the floor for 2 months again that was a hard lesson.
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I did discuss this with him in the beginning, and more recently I kind of brought it up in a joking way that it was like we are living together and that is against the rules, but ...he's still here
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I just don't want to put myself in the type of situation again until I'm sure it's permanent. He's great, but I decided after the last fiasco to live my life differently, not live my life for the guy, to just live my own life, but that is hard to do when you are basically living with someone. I enjoy my alone time too. There is the problem, it's not like he is doing anything wrong, I am just of the mind that until I am married my time and my home are my own. To do with as I please (of course respecting the relationship) but basically doing what I want when I want without having to consult with someone about it first. does that make sense?
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Hello everyone, haven't been on in a while and I have really missed it here A little bit of history here... I am divorced, a year or so after the divorce I met someone I thought might be "the one" we ended up living together for 4 years and then broke up tragically, dv, harassment from him etc. After that relationship I decided that I would not live with a man I was not married to again. Mainly because in that relationship I lost everything, I ended up leaving with nothing- that's right NOTHING, in my new apartment I actually lived with just my bed and a tv I bought from a friend for over 2 months that was my only furniture, while I got back on my feet, I had to buy my own car from my ex because he had titled it in only his name not both like he said he would... ok now the problem... a little over a year ago I met a great guy and we have been dating ever since, he is great, possibly headed toward marriage, but the issue is he spends the night ALOT. In the past 6 weeks he has spent 2 nights at his place, so he is basically living with me. How do I tactfully tell him that this is against my rules, I told him in the beginning I would not live with someone who was not my husband, but now how do I tell him to keep the overnights to 1 or 2 a week without offending him.
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Poll for the guys: what makes you pop the question?
punchy504 replied to Luciana's topic in Relationship Advice
I have to agree with the others, this has got to be textbook emotional masochist stuff. You are convincing yourself that the situation is better, that he is better, that you are better, when really you are fooling yourself about it all. and really a prenup should protect you always, not just in old age. read your posts as if your friend wrote them. -
I agree with the above poster, you are twenty years old, the quickest way to get rid of the belittling and the intrusiveness would be for you to move out. If you are not willing to make that step and establish your own independence then it's almost as if you are agreeing to the way you are being treated.
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she blipped accross his mind (and subsequently right out of his mouth) he wasn't trying to hurt you, and all of us at one time or another have an ex pop up in our heads wether we want them to or not, and it sounds like he may not have been paying very close attention to the conversation or he should/would have caught himself before he said it. I would chalk it up to one of those things that happen for no good gosh darn reason, and take it slow with him I am sure he did not mean to hurt you
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tell her about that concern of yours and being drunk is never a good excuse for poor behavior
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maybe you should not be in a sexual relationship with this person or at all until you mature a little bit it is natural to masturbate his masterbating has nothing to do with you you are responsible for your orgasms have you told him how to make you orgasm if you are not comfortable telling him how to help you have an orgasm then you shouldn't be having sex don't you masterbate?