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Hi there, I agree with Avman's post. You have to realize the reality- he is gone. And what you wish to pursue is pure manipulation which he will see clearly- that would only push him further away from you and have negative feelings towards you. Having a child for the sake of winning a married man back into your life will only complicate your life so much more. I am so sure that there is another man out there that may even be better than the one you thought you were so in love with. Try to move on. If he really really had feelings for you true enough for him to consider developing a long-term relationship with you he would not have returned to his wife. You have to recognize that having a child for the sake of winning him back will do you no good nor will it do the child or your relationship with this man. He may not even forgive you for it.

Hi Sushi You sure have been through hell of a lot. I commend so so much for the responsibility you've taken and just the capability of being able to carry on with your life and your son's life the best way that you can! After such abuse, I'm not sure how anyone could just forget it like that as much as you or anyone would wish it just didn't happen. The police and other such authorities are so complicated in many ways as you have mentioned. The important thing is that you focus on the protection of your son and yourself- no matter how difficult the task may be. You could seek help perhaps through a lawyer, I say that as i'm wondering I guess you have joint custody? Maybe this could be dealt with. The other- seek a counsellor to help you relieve and move past this horrbile experience. The most important thing I wanted to say though was that right now- at this moment, you have done the best thing possible by picking yourself and your son up and doing what you can to avoid this man. And just to remember that not the whole world is bad nor will the rest of your life be because of this experience. It is really only a matter of time that you start to mend your heart and all the pain that he's caused you. If i were in your situation, I think i would have handled it much worse. You are doing great! The other thing I highly commend you for is -listening to your son. A lot of mothers find it so hard to believe things their young children claim has happened because they are so blinded by the way they seem to "know" their partners. Just know now, you are away from this man. And from this day forth, you can start a new life with your son and yourself as you already have because you know and I know, there is no way you will ever be in that situation again. At least now, if there were any situation in which you had to see this horrible man, you are aware and will atke precautionary actions! It's just a healing process now and beginning your life away from him- you've moved past him already...look ahead to the future and how much happiness your son and you will share and not to the past because it will only hold you back. You have stepped forward! Hooray! You can feel free to express anythign you'd like just to get things off your chest or what not....PM me anytime. I hope all goes well!!

Ha! No, personally i woudln't leave my guy if he had stretchmarks. I woudln't even care!!! Anyways, my sister feels exactly the way you do. She has stretchmarks on her thighs and her legs, and she's goign mental over them. I did overhear somewhere on tv or on the radio or in a magazine- god knows where i read or heard this, but i DID hear about it that there is a cream out there that will help it fade away. You know what? I remember! It was from TV i was watching a program on pregnant women...And after pregnancy they have all these stretchmarks. So there is an avilable cream out there that should be avail in your local stores to reduce its appearnce. And even though you're a man, dont be embarrased to get it even if it were made for preg. mothers!! Say it's for your "wife" in teh end you're the one who gets all the gains from using it!

Another question - For experienced users Do you think the Pills or the Cream is more effective? I know i shouldn't stress out about this, I'm 5'4 and 125. Still, any replies would be greatly appreciated

hotels are so costly..just for sex??? Well if you want it romantic, maybe i suppose. Anyways, I've done it quite a lot of places..I'd lvoe to in the theatre next. Anyhow, the car? I know its compact, but it can also be hot....I've done it in the car about a million times and of that i've been caught once, quite embrassing. So I'm not sure if i recommend, I definitely would if you have found a deserted place. I find that having that risk of being caught makes things really hot. I've done it even in a park/beah in broad day light right by the ocean..again in the car..seats completely back. In a broad day light situation, I think the best thing to do is doggy style! Alwyas nice to switch it up ! The golf court idea i think is fantastic. But you HAVE to make sure no one is around. You dont want to make the costly mistake of being caught and being fired. If you were fired for it, when future employers make reference calls, the golf place won't talk too highly of you i wouldn't think. Anyways, I guess my point is. If you want it to be romantic..Maybe a hotel would be more suitable..I think your bedroom is fine but you'd have to loosen your girlfriend up about it. It's locked. It would take atleast 45 seconds for mum and dad to break it down. So you've got plenty of time to zip your pants. But first things first, make her comfortable with it. A romantic atmosphere isn't always the case though. so try considering other things!...Even at a park late at night, deserted place, near some bushes....lay some blankets down..not even kidding. But becareful. Cos yes there's a law against having sex in public places. Well i'm pretty sure. But in my opinion. some risk is pretty hot!

Hey girls...well guys too! I have a huge issue with looking good, looking fit, looking healthy. I work out doing Pilates twice a week, try to do it as much as I can. Just about a month ago, I've really been almost feeling 'depressed' about looking good. I'm definitely not depressed, its just that frustating feeling that I'm not going anywhere. And i know that's normal because everyone always wants instant results. I've been doing this for almost 2 and a half months, and no results the slightest. I know there are fat burner pills- of course, Ephedrine is the ONE to stay away from for several health reasons that they obviously do not advertise or warn on their products. Today was my first time ever even goign to the Diet section in the pharmacy to see what they had. My eyes were off all the Ephedrines, and i cued in on one particular that was ephedrine free and I went up to the pharamacist to ask her about everying i could on this product. Of course she didn't recommend it, no health authority would but she said this was probably the best product there was safety wise and health wise. She also said it would be a great booster- to help gain initiative and motivation to keep exercising and eating well (just because lately, I've felt like what's the point- i'll never lose any weight) I didn't end up buying this product- I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM ANYONE WHO HAS TAKEN THESE PRODCUTS AND TELL ME WHAT YOU CAN. I also saw an ad for a Fat burning cream from Vichy, there also other sorts of brands. But this one in particular drew my attention. I did infact purchase this product today and just about 15 minutes ago, applied them to my thighs.... Has anyone bought this cream or any othe brand of a fat burnign cream - If you could share your results with me and the progress and everything... I'm not totally overweight, i'm not like 400 pounds or anything, and i dont have anything against overweight people. I hope I haven't given that sort of impression because that is not my intention at all..Its just something for myself that I feel is important to have my body feel adn look well maintained. Can anyone help me? I would greatly greatly GREATLY appreciate any sort of response, I'm just starting to feel soo frustrated that I'm not ever going ot go anywhere.

Hey, I think that's a question you need to talk to her about. Cos there are a lot of friends I have that have a "friends with benefits" type of relationship. Strictly friends but they have casual sex with eachtoher all the time. But maybe your friend does want more? She's the only one who could really answer that.

Yes that's my question to, was your husband like this before you two were married? When you two were just dating, how was your sex life then? I agree with the other post in that, if your sex life was atleast 'alive' then, and now it's just completely gone, i think there may be some honest underlying problems...Get back to me about it

Try to enjoy your vacation, this might be a new start for you get your mind off him and just enjoy where you're going to go!! You've got a life without him!! Make sure you believe it!! Just have fun girl! I know breakups are difficult...sometimes a vacation is just what you need

I can't begin to tell you that i feel the same as you. I dont know why I feel that insecure about him too. I've been dating my bf for 2.5 years... With your situation with him going out and not coming home til 9am in the morning that's quite the circumstance and i can see how that's left you that eery feeling. But I think as gfs, as their partners we have to realize that they do need their own space sometimes. They can't always do everything with us. I never tell him not to go anywhere when he does, and I know he would never cheat on me but i can't help but to think that he might..even tho i know he wouldn't. I think almost every girl has that insecurity because of all the things we hear these days. And we can't blame it on all the hot slutty girls we see out there as much as I'd like to but yeah...its just that difficulty we have to step up to .....

i dont know if this helps or not, but ever since my new schedule of getting up at hte same time.. i've been acing my classes!!!

Sorry i missed to comment on your part about 'how can you hold a job' I am the worst person at getting up, my boyfriend could tell you all about it. I'M THE WORST!!!! having a job is a differnet story though because it COUNTS. people observe you wtihout you knowing it things could get back to your boss. Adn i'm sure that would come into your mind! I'm the laziest person in the world, and i can never get up.. but when it comes to a job, its important and its important to be punctual b/c you'll be fired if it keeps up!! I hope you come to realize how important it is in a work setting! i'm sure you will!! you'll over come this bad habit of not being able to wake up.. Start slowly by trying to wake up everyday at hte same time

hey... i WAS in exactly the same position. For a year and a half, i had been skipping classes once a week or so at university....and every night i'd regret it adn go "why did i skip today!! was it that hard to go to that class!" Like i realize how important it is to go!!! Thats why i'm getting all these goddamn C's!!! I HATED having that feeling of 'not knowing what was going on in my classes and having tha guilt of not going to school when i paid so much to be there!" During all this time i worked about 20 hours a week, tired as HELL!! Well this semester guess what? I'm still working 20 hours and MAKING ALL MY CLASSES. i think i've missed only 2 classes this entire semester. This is how i did it. For hte past year and a half i realize my classes were scattered all over hte place. So this semester, i scheduled all my classes at the same time, 8am, as early as it is, but whatever. This was so much easier for me to get up everyday at the same time instiaed of like it was before, which was, one day at 8 next day at 10 next day at 8 then 11am, etc etc... I think its way easier for you to get up if you just havea ll yoru classes standardized at the same time that you get use to this routine of getting up every day at the same time!!! Try scheduling alll your classes at the same hour next semester at a reasonable hour..

Hey Maddy, From the sounds of what I've read, you sound like a great person to know! It's so hard for me to understand why you wouldn't have one friend..Well, you now what Maddy! I would absolutely LOVE to be your friend! Message me sometime!! Promise? I've been through highschool not too long ago, and its deifnitely not all perked up to be what it is. I know you've herad that your highshcool yeras should be the prime time of all times!! But then haven't you also heard that college years are the best years of your life!! There is a whole world outside of highschool. Believe me...! With boys, ..boys boys boys...Boys are great! But on the other hand, if we don't have a guy in our arms to hold on to, we can also live wihtout them! Well, anywyas Maddy, I dont want ot keep you reading this all day..So message me if you'd like kay! Just if you wanted to know..I'm Natalie, i'm 19 and from canada! Nice, eh? haha i'm just kdding you with the "eh" there.. Anyways, hit me up!

This is a touchy issue. If andrea and derek were REALLLY close and had a great relationship that she's not over yet, don't hurt your friend like that. Althought you're not close, it's not appropriate. You might cause more strain on your relationship wiht your old friend and it might make it hard to pursue your new relationship. May be wait til it dies out, her feeilngs for him or what not, and til she's over it, then i'd say it'd be fine.

Yeah i know life sucks sometimes but i CAN'T BELIEEVE you stopped watching "King of Queens" THAT IS MY FAV SHOW TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyways~ About how things have been going with you..I know how hard it is to get over a break up. Its' never easy and sometimes it takes years to get over someone that special. But to be honest, even though, i'm one to really believe in a true true love, there are many others out there that can do the same for you. 1 girl out of the entire universe? Perfect for you? The same one you lost? That may be true, but there may also be a universe of girls that you haven't gotten to know... Party I think that it hasn't happened for you yet, is because you haven't accepted what's happened between you and your ex. And until you do, you can finally open your heart up to other people, the same exact way you did with your ex. There are tons of people out there to love, and i know that some are extremely special to us. but is it worth taking our lives away? When there might, just might be someone else out there more special??

Hey girl.. Here are some of the answers to your question....But first ..breathe...kay...if its comforting at all, you're not the only one in this situation. It is in fact true that taking other medications along with the pill will make it extremely less effective. You should be cautious about this. I know you're worried but if you have been using condoms along with taking the pill you should be fine. When you first start the pill your very first time, it takes 2 months for your body to get use to the hormones and be effective. So during the first 2 months, you should also be using condoms. I can't tell you exactly your chances of being pregnant because i'm not sure when u had sex with or w/o condoms.. The best tiem to take a pregnancy test is the day of your missed period. The morning is the best time to take it because your urine is most concentrated. You should CONTINUE on the pill if you still plan on being sexually active. The pill will not affect hte outcome of hte test. i hope this helps at all!

Hey Yeah my bf use to do that, but i think he knows it's kinda like 'what the hell man' so he doesn't... I dont know why it hurts me and upsets me when i see him going bonkers over some friggen britney spears..do you get like that?? Like when we're with his guys, and they'rea ll like ohh did you see that britney video and they GO ON AND ON bout it..i'm just like what the fcuk.. its not like she looked like that all her life. God she's got trainers every day, shes got ppl telling her what not to eat and she's taking pills to help her burn fat.. whatever, guys are pigs sometimes

I slipped into the heat of the moment today and really would appreciate feedback. My period ended just 2 days ago. I had been on the pill for about 10 months now but 2 weeks ago. I got off it because of some issue about my bf and me (you might have read the post "sex and being catholic") I guess it's obvious to say that we've started to be intimate again. And I started on the pill last Sunday (today is Thursday). But anyway, to the point now, today we were just playing around and he was naked and i only had a g string on adn i was riding him...just on him..he wasn't in me...Now I'm curious if there had been pre-cum and if that could have gotten to me. I was off the pill (Alesse) for one week, and the very next day after I got my period!! And since the period, I went right back on the pill. Is it effective?

Hey, I've been on the pill for a year. Yes there are side affects but this is not true for every person. So you actualy won't know til you go on it. I've been Alesse and it is working great for me. Besides this, my doctor told me everything about it before i went on it...from all the side affects...and if your doc doesnt', ask. Never dont' ask. Its your body. Take care of it right?? If you have any medical conditions, you should tell your doc. The pill is not advisable for those who smoke. I know that for sure because there was reading material that came with the pill. The Pill provides information about the pill itself and all of its symptoms and POSSIBLE side affects (keep in mind it affects like 1/100 women) and so on. Many girls don't take it just for the reason of protection but also to ensure regular periods. The pill helps woman have periods on time so that they know when to expect it!

It's always hard not to worry when these situations arise. And i am the QUEEN of Worrying. You shouldn't start to worry until her period hasn't come on the day, plus or minus 2, it should have. The best way to absolve your worries is to get a pregnancy test or go to the doctor's to do this. It's probably your best bet to go to a doctor and tell him everything you have told us here at enotalone and he coudl tell you more precisely than any othe rperson here what may be happening. Other wise, you should really consider getting your girl a home preg test ONLY on the day she should have gotten her period. The other thing you should remember is that periods come late. Usually when you don't expect it to. It's normal. I remember when my period came late A WEEK (and i'm alwyas on time) I FREAK thought I WAS PREGNANT!!! But no, i wasn't !! So sometimes its late b/c its just late! And the other thing i've learnt from experience is, the more i worry about the what if i'm pregnant etc etc...the worry delays my period even more!! Always HAVE protected sex so that you relieve your worries. So don't creat worries for yourself. Hope the best for you! Get your girl a preg test

Contracting? That's rarely been the case, once in a while. I dont know what's wrong? And with women cumming? i have never cum..I'm always very wet but not for somethign to shoot or come out like any guy. Cos i've heard everytime a female cums she 'cum's just like a guy except that its not as thick.

Just something to ask Me and my bf have been together a long time...we've been doing it for about 2 years....But now i've just really thought about it...I dont know if I'm ever having an orgasm or not. Usually, things get so hot I get that feeling when u're just about to fall downwards on a roller coaster and then I get a huge rush kinda like when u're holding in your pee for so long and let it all out at real fast all at once! Taht's the kind of feeling I get when I'm at max... Having an orgasm has always been a hard thing to define for me. So i was wondering from what I've mentioned, does it sound like I'm having what most other girls are feeeling when they're having sex..?

To all the younger readers out there especially and of course everyone else I just wanted to make a note that I have read many many posts on here about pregnancy. And I feel the greatest sympathy for yall and hope that the best goes out to you guys. But what i wanted to say really is, PlEASE PROTECT YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE. IT TAKES 2 SECONDS TO put on a CONDOM. IT TAKES LESS THAN A SECOND TO SWALLOW A PILL. When you look back, you don't want to be saying "I wouldn't be in the position i am now if i had just put on a condom or took my pill last night" The consequences by far exceed the good. So please do yourself a favour and your lover a favour by not casuing the stress you need in your life. USE A CONDOM or GO ON THE PILL. I just dont want to see you guys hurting and in a dilemas....

Hi Vanessa As i was saying to a lot of young pregnant teens here. When i went to my local clinic to ask about pregnancy options in case i was in the situation. One clealry stood out to me that i think clearly applies to you. If you are early on in your pregnancy like you are now, There is this option of taking a pill that will abort your baby thru your monthly period you get. At age 13, as much as you think you want a child, it is not an appropriate age to. How much doy ou have in your bank account? AT that age, i'm not sure that you have enough to continally support yourself or your child. And with the sounds of your sister, i'm not sure she'll approve of it too much. You have the rest of your life to live and so many more experiences to go through...When the time comes when you are ready to really have a child, you'd appreiciate it more than wanting to have the child because the father of hte child may seem like he wants it. Think reasonaly adn logically dont let other things cloud your mind about the truth of the matter. You are too young, but please hold yourself up and stick it through. Go to the doctor and tell him yoru situation and do what is best.