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Heya.. 14 years is a long time to let go in just a day. Be strong for now. It's going to sting a little along the way. I'm going through a similar situation as you are now except that it was only 3 years and not 14. I am so amazed by how long you two stuck with eachother. NC is so so so hard. Because you've just been so used to being 'with' your ex-girlfriend. I know it even hurts to see the word ex-gf. You might even feel like you're in denial like it's not happening. I feel like that right now. Except my ex-boyfriend wrote me a real long letter asking for me back that he'st rying to change, etc. I don't even know what to think. But as of now. For you, I feel like I need to know a bit more about your relationship. I don't understand why she is being so short and cold towards you even on the rare dates you've had with her. One minute having a great time again together and the next minute she says nope its not going to work. The best advice I can give you right now is that you NEED TO BE STRONG. You need to give her the time to realize what she's been missing. Instead of you always missing her. She needs to finally realize what she'll be missing too. Don't cave in. Because she's probably expecting you to call her or contact her. I hope the best for you. I really really do. I know how much it hurts.. You can pm me anytime kay?

The pill works immediately. I went through this situation already. And I read distinctly from the PLANNED PARENTHOOD website that it states the PILL works IMMEDIATELY. If she takes it properly- meaning, every single day at about the same time. If she misses a pill, and all that sort of stuff--she needs to refer to the instructions that came wiht the pill. i could explain it to you want just pm me if you do. I woudln't worry about it tho, it works immediately. But do make sure if she's taking it everyday properly. But james, if you're worried...i would get hte mornign after anyway. That way you can just not have to worry anymore. I've done that before. kay! good luck!!

this happened on DAY 12 of my cycle......may period ended on Day 6, and 6 days later, this happened, and that makes it day 12.....hope this added info helps.. but i did just read up on the pill....and it says that it works immediately if taken within 24 hours of your period...which i did..so i'm feeling a little bit better about it.. but any feed back still helps thanks a lot for reading my posts ..xoxox

thanks for some of the replies sorry for not being as complete in the details.. The condom slipped off him. I found it slightly hanging out of me, the rim and that. And he did cum in the condom. I'm worried about spillage, etc. i had been back on the pill 12 days, the night that happened, but i'm not sure if that would have been enough days for the pill to become effective. The dr. i saw at the clinic said the pill works immediately but for some reason i'm really skeptical about that. So the next night of the incident, i saw antoher dr. at a differnet clinic, and he gave me 10 pills of alesse, alesse is just an ordinary birth control.. He gave me 10 of htem and said that it was the same dosage as a morning after pill. i'm just worried about my chances of being pregnant right now. i'm due for my period in about 5 days.... Any help at all?

Hi all, I have been on birth control for about a year and a half..and i recently stopped, and got off the pill for a month (while i was on vacation)....As soon as i came back, i got back on the pill..12 days back onto the pill, i had intercourse, but the condom had sliipped off. Does anyone know how effective the pill is? having been back on it only 12 days and had this happen??? As a precaution- i did go to ta clinic and ask for a morning after pilll. Instead of gettign plan b, they gave me 10 pills of Alesse to take and said it was the same dosage as a morning after.. Any advice on how effective my birth control pills were being 12 days back...and what are my chances with what i've said..? Thanks for taking the time to read

dumbest question, never thought about it, curious. can girls get preg swallowing cum?

Yes, on Aug 10, he is set up for an appointment to have a colonoscopy. It may have been the other way around though, I think he said it was going down his throat and not his bum. Either way that will be sorted out on the 10th of August (which I will be out of town until September) I feel goddamn pissed off at him and his mum for being so stubborn for my family for being so overly aggressive....

Hey everyone, My bf has been having severe abdominal pain, constant diahhrea with blood for 6 months. he gest this ab pain almost every 30-45 minutes throughout hte day, that is what ihave noticed. And from what he says, after he eates, he has to go to the bathroom allt he time. i'd asked him what colour the blood and he kept telling me for 6 months he idn't know. and i asked is it deep red or bright red...and he kept saying i dont know.....today i asked him, he actuallly told me and said it was deep red. Is this bad??? i know there is a diff with the colours. After a long awaited appointment with the GI Specialist, the doc says that he might have Colitis. My bf has been very hush with me on this subject as much as i try to help him and console him and i'm very understanding and sympathetic. sometimes, most of hte time i dont think he's telling me everything b/c he thinks he'll scare me or realize how serious his situations is. So those are the symptoms i know of.. I'm trying to persuade him to get a second opinion....everytime i mention it to him or his mother...they seem to get soo upset with me. Btw, his mum is a nurse, but she hasn't actively been one for almost 30 years. But whenever i mention something its like she disapproves and i'm not sure if its b/c she's a nurse and thinks she has the superior knowledge and so what she says must go. b/c i coudl flat out admit to her without shame that i undrestand she absolutely has mroe kowledge but i just wanted her to listen. we had waited 6 months to help my bf. and i had before recently suggested to both my bf and his mother separtely to tyr goign to the Emergency...b/c you get fast results...its like a cheat path to get to see a dr asap. both diapproved strongly. I just awnted him to be able to see a dr he was suffering so badly....i idn't mean any harm the other day someone had mentioned to me to get his colon cleaned....i guess that is what people call an ammena (sp? i've only heard it never seen it spelt) i dont know exaxctly what it was but i came out adn asked his mother if seh would tell me about it and if she woudl consider it. At that time i didn't even know the name of the procedure and i kept describing it as geting his colon cleaned with water...and seh goes 'AMMENA' and i'm like "ammena??" and she just kept saying the word to me with a frown ..and the sister as well...and i'm like okay waht is ammena...and they said when u get insert a huge tube up your rectum and flush it out with tonnes of water...and i said i think that is what i am talking about actually i was sure it was...and they disapproved so much...i dont know much about the pros and cons with this procedure so i had no right to be upset with their reaction... But honest to god i dont knwo what to do. My bf is no longer able to go to work and is on medical leave....and actually had to go to the specialist again. And now another appointment is set for the hospital aug 10 to do more testing to clarify it is colitis.. please if anyone can help and give me their thoughts on what it could be...and especially waht the colourof the blood could mean?? I hope he does not have cancer, he keeps telling me he does, jokingly but i tihnk he's actually seoirus.. And the doc's have said they dont thikn it is colon cancer...but i'm just freaking out horribly..and he my bf is getting so upset with me that i keep suggestnig things ot him today i suggested i think it would be a good idea to get a second opinion...and i just got hell for it....i'm alreayd making this post so long i dont want to keep you all but....like i jsut dont know really what is going on..and i'm leaving in 2 days to visit my family in malaysia for a whole month...and i feel so sad that i wont be able to be with him righ tnow.... what do you think about this? has anyone gone throug this or experineced his symptoms....

That's awesome!! I like your attitude!! By the way, I've seen you posts around the forum. And I've been meaning to ask, are you really 42 years old and is that really your picture on your profile? Cos in that picture, you're beaming of youth!!! 8) Anyways, all the best, sounds like things are going to turn out good for ya! Keep that attitude!

Hey! You're already half way there to getting better grades!! Ahhh --good for you! Realizing and coming out for help is great!!! Kudos! Anyways- You're in highschool right? I think it said 15 on your age. But you could correct me if I'm wrong. I know with highschool you don't much leeway in the classes you want to take besides your electives. And of course, if you're heading towards the sciences or the arts. Well thats how it is from where i'm from.... That's the sh*tty part. Oh well. The thing is in highschool---i managed quite well...by taking sweet notes during class and doing my readings at home. And i mean REALLY review your material. Read it over and over again if you have time. With my notes from class, i'll add my own at home. That's one way of doing it. Anyhow....I don't really think i need to say more b/c i think you realize that you want to improve..and it really just takes that self-initiation ...and now tha tyou realize it, you'll put in that effort to study more, make more notes, review review review. Another good tip, become good friends with your profs...and when you dont understand ASK. I use to ask a hell of a lot of stupid stuff in class---after awhile i realized all those questoins i asked wasn't a matter of me being stupid b/c i never understood a bunch of stuff...it was me wanting and having the eager to learn...and you know your teachers see that in you...and sometimes that might just give you an A if you were a percent away.... Ack! i'm goign to stop gabbing! You'll be fine!

Sounds like you're about ready to start a relationship. No one can really tell you what girls to go to and which to stray away from because people always change. The best suggestion I have for you is to go into a relationship, or go into your serach for a gf, without any pre-judgements, assumptions or that sort of thing. That's what usually drags and brings things down. See things from a positive side! Because you know what? There are a lot of girls out there that don't cheat..And i'm sure you'll find one who won't!

Hey Hotchick, It sounds about well-overdue for a pregnancy test. So, no more delays! You must head out and do yourself a good favoour and take that test! From the sounds of what you have told us all here, I'd think there is a posibility of pregnancy. Yet again, only the test can clarify it. I only say this because of time you had sex (which was darn near close to your next period--usually females are pretty fertile by then)....Anyhow, every woman is different. Please update us on your situation. I hope you the best. But as one of the other post mentioned- it really is important ot know what you are doing before you have sex. The consequences, the risks, etc..I know sometimes in the heat of the moment, it's hard to make such a decision....but my best suggestion to avoid those heatof hte moment situations is to just GO ON THE PILL...youll never have to worry about having a time out to put a condom on. Though, for me, as effective as the pill is like 99%. I use that and condoms. Sometimes things just don't happen the way you think they will. And it has happened. So just a pre-caution for you and to other girls who are sexually active....play it on the safe side and just free yourself of worries! Best of luck

There's always something about the "infidelty" section that always lures as much as i HATE reading it b/c i really do lose all hope. It's kind of scary b/c i know I have a great guy but --as good as I think he is..he could cheat, now couldn't he? The thing is- men are just as likely as women to cheat. And women are just as likely to cheat as men. It's a depressing subject, I know. I hate thikning about it but I can't. And I think it's grown to become a subconscious obessessive fear that I have that as much as I love and trust my boyfriend..I can't really "trust" him. Is it from reading too much of this stuff??? I don't know, guys? is it????? Well, maybe. GUYS i just feel like....i'm LOOSING all faith in the TRUST in relationships that people should have with their partners....The lust that partners should have for eachother and the not other sex..AND i know my bf is a great and wonderful guy....I seriously think i'm becoming seriously insanely paranoid ...reading all this infidelty stuff.....its just scary....honestly, before i ever came on this site...i'd never known so much of this cheating going on ...I guess I'm scared it could happen to me..and i guess it could...but i just hate getting all pessimistic on my relationship b/c i have a growing fear of something that may or may not happen. Oh hell-- i dont know what i'm talking about

Thanks for your advice ! They are so weird. I never knew how infected those can be...I think one spread b/c another grew in the same area. But a couple nights ago, i saw a head develop and i tried popping it so that the pus would come out and some of it did...but it didn't really help. Though I found this Chinese Cream i have at home....I found it luckily and i use it for tons of things. I put it on, and it worked like magic, it pretty much drained itself and the whole thing shrunk and its almost gone now. Well for anyone who is curious it's called Mo Pi Ko. It's a chinese cream..not sure wehre you can find it...i'll have to find out. BUT THANK YOu..i think i'm cured!!

does anyone get boils??? they are bumps that grow to be prety big.....and pus collects inside b/c of infection..they last about 10-25 daysd and they are red and also hurt... how have you treated it if you have?

I ask kindly if you will be here to support me in my prayers for my grandmother, Helen (Nor Kuen) Yu. She means everything to me in this world. Raised me from the day I was born. She is suffering from cancer in her pancreas. She was rushed to hte hospital last Thursday after experiencing excrutiating pains in her abdomen. And since then, they have discovered she has had cancer in her pancreas and has spread, there is a blockage of blood supply there. There is hope and if you would join me in prayer, i would be most grateful. Please, please, join me in prayer for her to help her regain strength and good health to fight against her pain and illness. Join me in asking God and the Virgin Mary to hear our prayers and to answer us. I do want to say that your prayres are working. Miraculously. after day after day of having morphine/ tylenol 3, yesterday, she was able to go without any medication without much pain! She was able to sit up, smile, talk with us. Thank for your prayers for those who have been with me. Your prayers are starting to show through her. Thank you so much, thank you...

Hi there, I've been taking Atkins Accel pills that increase metabolism and am also taking birth control pills. Does anyone know if by taking the Atkins pills, if it reduces the effectiveness of birth control pills. (I know taking antibiotics affects the effectiveness of birth control pills). So i'm just concerned if the Atkins would as well. A tkins is ephedra free and contains --- Green Tea Leaf Extract: providing 50mg caffeine and 90mg epigallocatechin gallate Accelerator Blend: 166.7mg (providing 25mg total methylaxanthines): Yerba mate leaf extract, Brazilian guarana seed extract and Theobroma cacau seed extract Thyroplex Blend: 50mg Guggul extract (Commiphora mukul), bladderwrack kelp, DL-phenylalanine and L-Tyrosine Other Ingredients: Dicalcium phosphate, microcrystalline cellulose, croscarmellose sodium, stearic acid, magnesium stearate, silica and food glaze. Thanks

Hey Phil, Ahh, don't worry about it. I know that hopeless feeling you might get after failure but try to think about it another way- that if it didn't work out, you're better without anyway. And for the most part- under the most unexpected times is when you really find what you've been always looking for. Things really do happen Phil!!! So it's not like there is no hope!!! But I would agree- focus on what's really important like your schoooling and other things you love to do.....Girls will always be around...When you lose the sense of urgency of being with someone..i think you get a beter perspective of things!!! NO worries!!

Hey everyone... For the past month my boyfriend has been diagnosed with IBS...he gets severe abdominal cramps..Since then, he has been watching what he eats to try to eliminate which foods make him sensitive. But its only gotten worse. He went back to the doctors, which then he gave him pills to take that would relieve some of the symptoms of IBS and for 2 weeks now, nothing has improved. Now b/c nothing is working, they went over the symptoms he was having to the symptoms IBS would cause...and discovered that he has other symptoms that are not on the IBS list. In fact, they all match symptoms from Colon Cancer. Although, they all match, it isn't right for us to say that he has colon cancer. Though b/c of this, he is going ot go into the doctor's for testing for cancer. He is so scared..And what i need from you all is....some advice from those who's known someone young diagnosed with Colon Cancer...I'm not sure what i can tell my boyfriend. Although i did say its a good thing that he is going to go to the doc's for testing....i know inside he might feel like i'm agreeing with him saying that he has cancer. He is young, he's 19 years old. And I know Colon Cancer occur more often in those who are 50 years +. But there have been the rare occasions when the young teen is diagnosed. My uncle actually died from Colon Cancer 2 years ago...and he was 50+.....I dont know how to handle or comfort him for the high risk of him being vulnerable to colon cancer....he's scared, i am so terrified. Is it colon cancer???? I dont know Please some advice....

Hey there, I have been in the situation similar to you. I stopped taking Alesse after my peroid. And within a week, I had my period. After my period came, i decided to go back on the pill..and everything contined on smoothl. When you stop taking your pills, this sends a message to your body. And your body is informed to expect your period (plus or minus a week) Hmm......There coule be other factors delaying your period. Now, at this point, are you late? or still expecting your peroid?? If you are late, take antoher pregnancy test.......I hope things turn out but you should get your period soon

Hi everyone, I need some input- Since yesterday both my nipples have been hurting, like as if someone squeezed and twisted them to death. I've never had such an experience. I also hope this is not a symptom of pregnancy. I am on the pill and also use protection. I went to the local clinic today and was reassured not to worry. She also made me take a preg test to make me feel at ease. Although i know it is not effective to take a test , not until you have missed your period. She did check my breasts and examined it and said that they looked fine and healthy and did not find any lumps for sign of cancer. Has anyone out there expereince soreness in the nipples? It is only my nipples that are tender, the breast itself is fine. I'm scared, this woudln't be a sign of pregnancy would it? I should expect my period in about 11 days. Please help. Thank you so much

how can charlie be Rob's blood brother??? Is rob's father the same guy who raped your mother with charlie?

Hey I think if you've had these feelings against your wife for this long, I'm not too sure how it could improve. Though because I am a sucker for long lasting relationships- I can only suggest thinking about in the past how you got involved with her...remembering those qualities in her that drew you to her...something like that. But being realistic here, maybe a divorce would be best in the long run if this is such hell. How long have you been married together for? Have you tried talking it out in detail with her and tried executing a resolution plan that you both could compromise too. Sometimes I think t work things out you really really have to lie out all the problems as upseting and frustrating it is... It is probably a real good idea as you have discovered yourself to stay wiht your wife during her pregnancy...After things may change, and you might get the divorce you've alwyas been hoping for. The only problem i wanted to point out was the relatinoship you've developed for her friend that lives close by? Wouldn't this just bring more hurt and confusiong into everything??

Right now, I find myself in a position where I just feel tremedously overwhelmed with confusion about my mate, we've been together almost 3 years. He's 20, I'm 19- in a couple months, well both be a little older. I think I have seorius issues with self-confidence. This never occurred to me or was I ever a self-conscious person until we were together and having problems. And since, it has never gone away. To the point that I found myself in a drug store the other day purchasing diet pills, fat burning cream, etc. For instance, during the earlier times of our relationship, we woudl run into a biweekly occurrence of troubles that related to him fantazign of other girls while making love, maybe flirting and having 'moment's with other girls in lectures, etc. That was before, he used to tell me these things, but that had stopped but since then..I had stumbled into a world of depression/fear of never pleasing him. Other wise, how could i explain all of these past events? Ever since then, I had a huge issue with the appearance of myself. Now when I see a hot skinny big busted blonde walking down the street, I curse them to hell, prejudging them. I hate doing that. Honestly, i do, i'm not kidding you. I hate having this anger in me that shouldn't be there. When I'm with him, I'm always looking twice and three times more to see if he's staring at these beautiufl girls. Also during the earlier days, i recall him ALWAYS telling me how lucky he was to have snagged such a beautiful girl. And he would really be baffled with himself how this was actually happening that we were dating..and I was always like "me? pretty?" But after being together for 3 years, I haven't herad that agian. And since those incidents, i guess, its made me feel even lower down the chain of unattractiveness. All i know is now, i'm really struggling with an obessession with the way I look. I get depressed quite often about it, and with my mate, i am alwyas wondernig if he wants better? why is he with me? and often lately, i have turned silent on him because I dont feel right with him. I've foudnd that no matter what my friends tell me to try to help me I know it has to start within myself first. No matter how many times they say "You're perfect, you're so cute, you've got your future right ahead of you, everythign is goign well for you" It helps for about the 10 minutes they rant on a list about how great I am.. But as soon as the conversation is over, it's back to normal. How do i start with me? Besides this problem, me and him both also have other seroius issues about communication, etc. But that's something else....What my challenge is is taking one thing at a time, and I think this self confidence thing is my most difficult task and I don' tt think i can live on much longer always focusing my life about 'looks' I think all my intentions are is to please him and to have him appreciate me. But it's hard for me to see that after all the other times he's told me how's he's thought about being with other people, how he's sat closer to them in classes, stupid little things like that. And i have confronted him before and told him several times, maybe u are not ready for committment, but reassuringly he alwyas tells me 'yes, and i woudln't ever want anyone else but you, it would kill me inside if i dind't have you'. What is wrong with me..? I love him so much, but its killing our relationship. I need to fix myself.

Hey rat-freak, hope you're still around to read this. I can understand the awkward silence. Since my boyfriend landed a new job about a month and a half ago his hours are 99% night shifts. I barely see him ever. During the day when i'm at school and work, he's at home. But when I'm coming home, he's heading out to work for teh rest of hte night. It's hard to maintain what you had in the past after all the separation. When you're not wiht your babe as often as before the connection just seems to fade. Today my hun, awkward of him because he doesn't usually open up to me much. We were only able to see eachother this morning for about an hour and a half for mass before he had to leave for work. Just before he left he confronted me saying how we dont talk anymore. and how i dont talk to him. I dont know its just hard when you dont see the person as much anymore. Things change. I feel really confused about where we're heading rihgt now. Hope things work out better for hte both of us.