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okay guys, here's the story. my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now and we've just started having sex recently. he really wants me to go on the pill but i'm not sure i want to. i've heard from friends and family that it has alot of side-effects like gaining weight and cancer...stuff like that. i just wanted to hear from people who are currently taking the pill...is all that stuff true?? please let me know......

hey there eelrahc, i have been in a similar situation. my boyfriend had the same problem your girl is having. he was in love with two women. her name was angel. angel and my bf had been dating off and on for 2 years. he really loved her but she wouldn't commit. well i happened to meet him during one of their "breakups". he and i started spending alot of our time together and eventually started dating even though she was always on his mind...or so it seemed. it got to the point that he was almost obssessed with trying to get her back even though he loved me just as much. it put alot of strain on our relationship and i started to question whether i should leave him or not. eventually it got to the point where i couldn't take it anymore. i told him to decide...her or me. i explained all my feelings and let him know how much he was hurting me. i gave him the option of breaking it off with me and just being my friend. when i explained how i felt to him and gave him a choice.....he chose me. i hated that i had to make him choose between us. it's a tough decision to make but it worked out for the best. you have to decide if your girlfriend is mature enough to make that decision.....do you think she could handle the pressure of having to choose? if you think she could...then i would definitely recommend telling her how you feel and letting her know that it would make you feel better if she finally decided who she wanted to be with more. hope that helps.....

the best way to tell anyone about anything....is to be 100% honest with them. i have dated several guys that my friends/parents didn't like. each time i just told them that i wanted to decide for myself whether the guy was bad for me or not. you know what's best for yourself. if you tell them about dating him and they give you hel* about it, just remind them that no one knows yourself better than you. only you can decide if he's worthy. just be honest and tell them. it will save alot of trouble. if you lie or if they find out on their own they might get their feelings hurt. hope that helps.....

IMO it's a matter of psychology. once someone has made their mind up about something, there is no way of changing that. they already think that he is bad for you, but i wouldn't let that bother you. if you really really really like him and he is different with you.....well then go ahead and date him whether they like it or not. you can prove to them through your relationship with him that he really is a changed/different/better guy than they thought him to be. stand up for yourself and your relationship. there really is no neutral way because somehow someone will always be upset or thinking that you could do better. hope that helps.....

Valentine's day can be special without all the gifts. sometimes people get sooooo caught up in daily life that they don't appreciate eachother the way they should. alot of the times Valentine's day is a day that you can remind that special someone just how special they are to you. For valentine's day my boyfriend and i didn't buy eachother anything. we went to a movie and then went back to my place. i made a very romantic dinner, and afterwards we took a bubble bath together. the whole night we just pampered eachother and talked. It gave us a chance to bring more romamce into our daily lives. Yes i have to agree that people do sometimes misunderstand the importance of the day. most assume it's all about the gifts...but it's not about that AT ALL. Valentine's day is supposed to be about love. The love you share with someone special and when you don't have someone special you tend to be bitter towards ANY holiday like that.

The early signs of pregnancy The first reliable sign of pregnancy is missing your monthly period. Other early signs may include tenderness in your breasts and changes to your nipples. You may need to wee (urinate or pass water) more often and find that you are waking up during the night making trips to the loo. You may also be constipated and feel tired. Your sense of smell may become more sensitive and strong smells, such as coffee, can really turn your stomach. You may also have a metallic taste in your mouth. A missed period is a good indication of pregnancy Breast changes may indicate pregnancy Morning sickness may happen early in pregnancy Your sense of taste and smell may change in early pregnancy Your body works harder in pregnancy and so you may feel tired The bladder is irritable in early pregnancy if you are not pregnant, i would reccomend being more careful. sex and pregnancy are very very very serious things. once you are pregnant there is no turning back. i wish you the best of luck. hope that helps.....

it sounds like things are going okay...i mean you said you wanted her to trust you again. ya know start over as friends...well that's what you got. i know it might be hard to handle because you still want more. but there is alot of trust issues involved. in order to win her back you have to take it slowly. you said well to show her you have truly changed you have to do things differently now. take it slower and be more relaxed. enjoy your friendship and when it comes time to make your move you will know. starting over is really hard to do but if you have patience it will work out. hope that helps.....

i definitely agree with Nifty_Swifty1. for a first date you should keep it light and fun. first dates are usually a chance to get-to-know eachother better...that sort of thing. if you really feel the urge to make a move...the most i would reccomend is a small goodnite kiss on the cheek but first dates are usually 100 times better when you just have fun and there is no pressure. you could always go see a movie and hold hands. i think that is very sweet and romantic. plus it doesn't take things too fast. hope that helps....

i would have to say that these two are the best: 1) Ask for her phone number 2) Ask her out on a date asking for her number may no always work like you want it to. i would say the absolute best would be just aking her out on a date. it's direct and it gets the point accross that you are interested and want to be more than friends.

well i'm not much of a baker....but it's something i can try. i know the video thing is a great idea...thanks. his favorite game is a wrestling game...i thinks it's called Smackdown or something like it. i'll have to rent it so we can play that. thanks for your ideas...i could use the help.

well i hope it all works out for ya. just keep on keeping on. the best thing to do is to take it slow and not rush anything. i really believe if she loves ya she will wait til you are ready.

i have lots and lots of trouble with junk mail. i have at least 300 spam messages in my mailbox daily. alot of those emails are from dating services and companies wanting to enlarge my p*nis.... it may have been just another junk email message. others can also sign you up for stuff like that. anyone who knows your email address can sign you up for anything....so it may have been a friend of hers who signed her up. if it bothers you too much just ask her about it. she should be understanding....just don't be accusing when you inquire. hope that helps......

cheated on you? man....no one should have to go through that. i would definitely say that you should not go back to her right away because the trust is gone. i wouldn't give up on her completely because she may have changed or just realized that she loves ya. i'm no expert but i would tell her that i just want to be friends. tell her that you want to build that trust up again. if she loves ya then she would be willing to wait until you are ready to trust/date her again. and if you're never ready to date her again at least you would have your friendship with her. it would also give you the chance to see if she really changed or not. but then again...that's just my opinion...i could be wrong.

have you tried talking to her about it? i have been dating my boyfriend for a year and i still have a profile in several different places. they all say that i am in a "long term relationship". i mainly kept those profiles because i like meeting new people and making friends. my boyfriend knows about them and trusts me. maybe she believes that you trust her and is just trying to make friends. if it bothers you extremely you should just talk to her about it. the way to solve any problem is just talking it through.

if you're worried that it's a bad idea to go back with her.....then i would suggest waiting. tell her that you would rather be friends for a while, that way you could build something even stronger off of your friendship. i don't know why you guys broke up so i can't really say you're stupid for going back to her. but if you are having doubts about your sanity/stupidity then obviously you should try just being friends with her for a while. if things start to look better then you could always try dating again. hope that helps.....