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  1. Kalika
    ... is that a bad sign for the relationship? I mean, if they don't care about meeting them either way, and are mostly indifferent about the prospect of meeting your parents, would you be put off by that? Does it mean they don't want the relationship to become more serious?
  2. Kalika
    Wow.. Okay, hun, you are definitely NOT ready for marriage. Please reconsider even referring to nathan as your fiance ... you may even want to reconsider being in a relationship at all if a grandmother's trashtalking could make you want to run into another man's arms.
  3. Kalika
    Have you suggested counseling? Your mom must be pretty upset if she's telling you about such severe marital problems. You can suggest to her that you will go with her, regardless of whether or not your father agrees to participate.
  4. Kalika
    Maybe you're too young to have a fiance? Just a thought.. even thinking about marriage is a serious step that most people your age are simply not ready for. Maybe you should reconsider the seriousness of your relationship.
  5. Kalika
    Honestly it sounds like he's trying to use you for whatever he can get, and not really considering your feelings or situation .. Are you sure his friendship is worth it?
  6. Kalika
    Lol I knew at some point that someone would think it was a personal thing ... hence the disclaimer at the end of the post:
  7. Kalika
    Say you have a partner that looks at porn (online, magazines, videos, etc). Just looking, no participating via webcam or anything like that. Assuming you have a healthy and satisfying sex life with this person, and that porn is something they view occasionally and have done so for years, do you have a right to ask that person to stop viewing it? Also, if they told you they would stop but didn't, what would you do? P.S. This is not a personal experience of mine, I just wanted to ask for your opinions.. !!
  8. Kalika
    That's what I told her, that she should've said something like, "Well.. we can go somewhere else, if you wanna come pick me up" or something like that ... I know so little about men.
  9. Kalika
    I was speaking to a girlfriend of mine last night and she was very upset because she and her boyfriend (of about 3 months) had plans to go out to dinner. So because he had to work late, he called her around 8ish to go out to dinner, but when he found out that the restaurant he wanted to go to was closing soon (Applebees), instead of going over to her place to hang out (or just going somewhere else for dinner) he just backed out of the whole evening and instead asked her to Applebees tonight instead. She told him she had plans for dinner tonight and couldn't make it. Even so, he didn't go over to see her last night. It seemed to me like he would rather just go to applebees than actually see my friend.. I'm confused, is this something that most people would be okay with or is it a sign that he's flaky and/or not really that interested in her??
  10. Kalika
    Some forms of schizophrenia are more treatable than others. Paranoid schizophrenia is the most treatable kind (I'm not sure what kind your sister has..) Either way it's good she's being treated for it.
  11. Kalika
    That's definitely what I was thinking reading the posts.. It's quite typical of someone who's cheated to accuse their partner of cheating, or calling them related names and such..
  12. Kalika
    I agree with syrix, if you are 100% sure, what would the point of telling him be? It would only devastate him if he held beliefs against abortion or wanted the child
  13. Kalika
    She's obviously not over the ex, and he's obviously loving it.. Are you sure you want to continue in this relationship?
  14. Kalika
    I agree with some of the other responders that part of the reason you can't get over it is because deep down, you know you're being hypocritical and treating your wife ruthlessly for doing something you're guilty of doing as well. If you want to save your marriage, you have to start being honest with yourself and your wife.
  15. Kalika
    It sounds like you're putting all your eggs in this one basket.. Who cares if this guy pursued you and begged to meet? Try to realize, just because he put Trust or Honesty as his most valued attributes does not necessarily mean he's trustworthy or honest.. I mean, how many people are going to put "I'm a creep" on their profiles.. just a thought.. Anyways I know how crappy dating nowadays is, especially in your case because you were previously married. It's hard. What you need to do is, date someone that's available to you emotionally.. Let him get to know you over a long period of time. Don't trust the first person that comes along, nor should you allow yourself to get so fixated on one person.. Good luck, I hope your situation improves
  16. Kalika
    Wait, one of the first things she said to you ever is that she's sex crazy?? And then she stayed with an abusive boyfriend because of the sex???? Big red flags waving high..
  17. Kalika
    Honey, the grass is greener on the other side... or so you think.. Your boyfriend sounds great, and chances are if he was not around you'd regret leaving him for Loon. Do you feel that there's something missing from your relationship? Are you and your boyfriend best friends?
  18. Kalika
    Hazey- I agree with you that the main issue is the fact that he put his arm around a stripper in front of her, disrespecting her and making her lose trust in him. However, I also truly think Batya is bringing up valid points, especially with regards to them both being drunk the night of the incident. Obviously the kids weren't with them, but excessive drinking on both their parts obviously didn't help the situation any, and if there had been some emergency with the kids, it's possible to assume they would not be able to respond properly if they were both drunk. That being said, alcohol does make you do stupid things but being it sounds like he has severe insecurity issues if he was willing to do that. Based on what he said, I don't think the eventual outcome will be good unless OP puts up with a lot. Mainly I am saying this because rather than being truly remorseful, he simply stated that he did it because he wanted to know that he still had "it" (or something along those lines...). That to me screams BIG RED FLAG.
  19. Kalika
    My professor asked me to provide him with a CV for him to write me a letter of recommendation to grad school. What is the difference between a resume and a cv? Has anyone ever written a CV that I could look at? I'm really not sure what the format is supposed to be.. Any information is very appreciated, thanks everyone!
  20. Kalika
    Hun I'm really surprised at you, honestly.. I mean, there are lots of guys out there who would give you a chance.. Granted he's been in the picture for a long time, but how can you be with someone who could say he did something hurtful just because he could?? What he did was INCREDIBLY disrespectful and I know of very few men that would even THINK they could get away with something like that. The fact that he was able to "honestly" tell you that he just did it to see if he could just shows that he'll do anything he thinks he can get away with. He knows he's got you and you might complain about being disrespected, but you won't really do anything about it. You teach others how to treat you. You are teaching him that he can disrespect you TO YOUR FACE and that you will put up with it.
  21. Kalika
    Ren - It seems as though you need to stop depending on your parents.. Haircuts and highlights fade away and need to be redone.. If you were able to find a measure of independence from your parents, that confidence will last. It seems as though you're trying to fill yourself up with "things" instead of learning how to be happy without them. The only thing you can do is just ... stop. Look at yourself and appreciate who you are without the stuff. And then do your best to work out a budget and stick to it. You are worth it.
  22. Kalika
    Hun no offense but if you can't even pick up a phone to call him, why should you be able to expect him to pick up a phone to call you?? Definitely hoss is right, the plans should have been more defined but either way, sitting here agonizing about him not calling you is rather pointless, wouldn't you say?
  23. Kalika
    Wow. That's really random.. As unfortunate as it is, maybe you should just let him go. For whatever reason he's upset with you.. You could try one more contact, just to tell him you were only ever interested in friendship with him.. if that fails, then forget about it. It's not fair of him to leave you hanging with no real explanation.
  24. Kalika
    I agree that you should have done what you did. That's not to say that he won't be able to make up for it... He might be able to, but the ball is in his court and he owes you big time. Or maybe I'm just plain wrong and you should tell him to go to hell completely ... Yeah I'm not good at this
  25. Kalika
    JUST GO CALL!!! It's not a big deal.. If you want it to go any further, you're going to have to learn how to express your needs without worrying about seeming needy or something. Edit - I have the same problem you do, but the only way to overcome it is to be forthright, and it feels a lot better in the end.
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