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i broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months about a week ago, and he was completely amazing about it. it wasn't mutual- he didn't want to, but i felt like my love for him had grown as more of a friend love. i love him but i'm not in love with him. i'd stayed with him for the past month or so just to make him happy, but i wanted a chance to be happy, so i broke it off. also, there was another guy, but he wasn't the main reason i broke up with my boyfriend- the other guy counted for only about 10% of my reasons. but the thing is...i MISS my boyfriend! he was my first, and so maybe that's why i'm feeling this attachment. i wish we could be how we were in our relationship (aka BEST friends), minus the sexual stuff (i'm not attracted to him like that anymore). but i miss hugs, laughing, being able to look at him without feeling guilty, etc. we've talked about this, and he said he's sorry he's causing me to feel like this, and he'd like to be friends too, but it was unrealistic of me to think that he could become like that right away, since he still had feelings for me. I MISS HIM. this my first time dealing with something like this. these feelings are giving me second thoughts about breaking it off..i just want to be with him so much. any advice? consolation? what should i do? ](*,)

i broke up with him yesterday, and he was AMAZING about it. i didn't just do it for loon, there were a ton of other reasons and my thought process on what to do was really, painstakingly long i hope i did the right thing...it's weird- i was fine for the first 5 hours or so, and then i started to feel really alone... (but i guess, after almost 10 months together, it'll feel weird being single) any advice on how long this "dark period" will last?

I think there is something missing...otherwise I wouldn't feel this way. And yes, we're very close...I tell him everything and really value his advice (partly why I feel so horrible for thinking about Loon)

Well, I have an issue... I am 14 years old (please don't let that bit of info. make you stop reading- teenagers have love issues too) I've been dating this guy for 8 months so far. He was my first love (puppy love, that is, but love nonetheless), first...lots of things. Things are going well, but in the past couple weeks I've kept on noticing another guy. This other guy isn't just "some guy". The first time I saw him (a little more than 2.5 years ago) I felt like the world had stopped. I blushed whenever he looked at me. I turned into a complete idiot in front of him, and even a glance from him made my whole week special. This feeling went on for 2 years (until I met my current boyfriend). Problem is, this "special guy" (let's call him codename Loon) is completely undateable. He dated a girl in my grade for 3 weeks...well, that was a disaster. He's not open enough to show feelings to people he really likes. But Loon is funny, and original, and nice. I know he liked me for at least 6 months on and off during those first two years. I think that feeling is coming back to him recently (I'm good at sensing emotion towards other people), and lately I've been feeling like I HAVE to be with him. I HAVE to at least try it out. Is this love? Is this what it feels like? Or, is this just a temporary infatuation that will last until I at least give him a shot and get it out of my system. My current boyfriend is amazing: honest, loving, funny, supportive. I know he would give me the world if he could, but we also fight over petty things. And if I'm supposedly "in love" with him, why do I keep thinking about Loon? Any advice would be appreciated from those who might be more experienced or have had similar situation (please don't reply that I'm a "silly little teenaged girl" and there are "plenty more fish in the sea, and I should just let go". Think of what kind of answer you would have wanted when/if you were a confused 14 year old girl, not wanting to break anyone's heart, and trying to protect the hearts of those she loves). Thank you

Attitude is EVERYTHING. No one wants to date a downer. Your personality really is the most important part, at least to girls who are really worth it. Focus on what you like about yourself, relax a little, smile around those you like, and let fate do the rest! good luck