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    Don't worry. They'll be sad to see you go, but happy for you.
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    Way to go. I hope and wish you success.
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    Wow! I hope you don't treat your significant other the way you treat your employers. This is why you need to be honest and real with yourself. To go to school is not a decission that's made on the fly, so now you must deal with the consequenses. I suggest you be honest with your employer and put off school until your employer has time to recruit, hire and train your replacement. I'm pretty sure they will work with you as long as you're forthright and honest about your life changing decission. Your not only affecting your employer, but also the people that depend on what you do for the office. Your position is a piece of a larger machine that many good working folks are trying to smoothly run. Don't be selfish and do the right thing.
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    Your sister did have experience in the eye of her employer. You don't need to have worked in the business in order to have knowledge. For example, if your sister works retail she may have great communication skills, attractiveness, confidence and realness to her that translate into a sellable presentation skill required to make the company more money. This is why you need to do heavy research and intelligence on the top three companies you find most appealling to work for. Once you do follow the negotiation tactic I wrote about and let them say what you think you're worth, then add an additional amount to that in order to reach a happy medium. If the employer is not willing to negotiate then you really don't want to work for someone that has personality and controlling issues. Trust me, when I hire new employees I look to see what type of positive confidence they have more than their experience since that's the best predictor of future success with me. I also like go getters and this type has an ability to give themselves monetary worth. I figure that if they try hard to get what they want in compensation they will always try hard to do their job.
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    IMO justme009, Well, you need to decide what sector of the economy you like. Public service does have its benefits when it comes down to retirement, less stress, medical, leaves and very tough to get fired, but there are no long term financial rewards to achieve. As for the private sector you have the ability to earn more, more freedom to pick a specialty, deal in a real business environment and network with your industry, yet there are none of the safety net benefits that the public sector offers with an additionally higher level of stress since it's highly competitive and cut throat. Basically, you need to decide what personality type you are and what really makes you tick as a person so you can be comfortable with your decission.
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    I used to hate all that humanity stood for with it's perversed corruption of what I thought was the human soul, but it all changed at the age of 28 with a quote from the character played by Kevin Spacey in Swimming with Sharks: "Look, I can appreciate this. I was young too, I felt just like you. Hated authority, hated all my bosses, thought they were full of * * * *. Look, it's like they say, if you're not a rebel by the age of 20, you got no heart, but if you haven't turned establishment by 30, you've got no brains. Because there are no story-book romances, no fairy-tale endings. So before you run out and change the world, ask yourself, "What do you really want?"" This made me reassess my place in life and answer the question: What do I really want? I know I want to enhance my intellect, I know I want be comfortable, I know I want to be loved, I know I want to maintain my humanity, etc, etc, etc....... So, I quit hatting the world and decided to lovingly join the world. This has truly given me the happiest years of my life and success in my career. It's amazing what a positive healthy mental attitude can do for a person.
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    Hello vermilion, I suggest you put down "Negotiable". This is a simple, yet deep question that will determine how much you will make as an adult. In negotiations the person that quantazises the compensation first is at the weaker position. thereforeeee, as the subject of compesation comes up when interviewing always flip the dollar amount to them by smartly and politely asking what do they think would be a fair pay for this. Use your inexperience to your advantage, but be knowledgeable of the company so that they you can see if their taking advantage or not. How do you become aware of their pay? Go and talk to their employees a few days before to feel out the pay situation. This is the most important ability you must master so you can earn more in your future. I hope this helps, MG
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    This whole subject boils down to our anthropological nature as humans. It's awesome to see modern women progress and succeed, yet they are not required to; men are. Remember the big argument I started with my thread about this core issue; Women do not 100% need to provide or are perceived as loosers for not being capable of providing; men are. It still surprises me how defensive and hypersensative women are when confronted with a reality check. Are we accusing you of being freeloader? Heck no. We dumb men worship the ground you walk on and even go as far as picking you over our deity. We just want there to be an honest assessment of our concerns.
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    Heyduh, I'm in sales and I've seen countless multi-level marketing businesses in my time. This is one of them. Please read the following link from the Federal trade Commission about MLM's. link removed Also please read Wikipedia's link about this subject; link removed and; link removed All I can suggest to you is that if quacks like duck, it walks like a duck and it looks like a duck, it is a duck. But, if it's "geared towards better relationships and healing..." you want then what better place to do so for free than here with the authentic and loving members of this awesome site, ENA. See, now I'm selling you. Goodluck with your decission, MG
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    Streangth2007, No, Ive never been in a situation like this, but please go consult with an attorney. I know if you proceed in family court this may cost you a bit, yet in my line of work I've never seen a "friendly" divorce with assets in the middle. One word of advice I'll want you to follow is to completely remove him from any title to asset you're going to keep, specially your home. As a real estate investor in California you wouldn't believe how many times I've bought the 50% interest on property from a disgruntled ex-partner at a discount and them force the sale of the property through a court sactioned sale. It didn't matter what type of vesting was on title since what ever the amount of owners were on title it was always equally devided on any Joint Tenancy or Tenancy In Common regardles if it's community property or not. Once again, please consuolt a family law and real estate attorney in your jurisdiction in order to obtain the best advice and/or results from this dissolution of marriage. MG
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    I'm in sales and one thing I always look at when meeting a new client or investor is to look at their shoes and jewelry since this is a great way to see how much financial sense they have. Maybe it's the same for women.
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    NH; Don't let women in on our secret about what pair we notice first. they may get the wrong impression and want to discuss shoes.
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    LOL! Good one Dako. That's a line I used to use many moons ago when I noticed , hmm, attractive women.
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    I feel you fiance's pain. I too went through a lot of childhood abuse which one day I may chare on ENA, but for now a great resource to me over coming my childhood issues was a great book by Dr. Laura Schlessinger Bad Chilhood, Good Life". This has been the best book I've read so far that put it in its most applicable real perspective. It helped me heal and acknowledge what happened to me as a child was not my fault and to understand why I was put in such a bad environment. Please take a look at this book and read it together with your fiance since it will heal the past and bring your relationship closer. link removed
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    If you have to, I suggest you keep it positive and constructive, yet stern enought to get your emotions accross. Remember that you both are hurt by this and creating more pain is not the answer.
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    Melrich is right. Think about it this way. When he was interested in a romantic relationship he loved and respected you enough to set you free by bringing it down a notch to a friends relationship. Now you can love and respect him enough to bring it down another notch to a an acquaintance relationship. This means that if he ever talks to you again just traet it as any relationship you may have with an everyday person of the street. Just remember that the hurt your feeling now is equally felt on his side. It's not easy to reject someone you care for. He has to look out for his mental balance in all this. Respect it and you and he will become better people for it.
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    Goodguy78, (Or should I say Mr. Selfish Knight In shinning Armor) Look, Crazyaboutdogs has it right about her. She is using you. She has many psycologicals issues to deal with since she needs validation from all the attention she needs from flirting. It keeps her on top of her manipulative game. But enough about her. You too have issues. You get your validation from being needed by a psycological projects. Hmm! Notice that you start by being a "good guy" self perception and later complain about not being appraciated. Do you really believe that you can change people for the better? Wow! Talk about being narcissistic. There no way you can change anyone. The only way people can develop a healthy life is to change themselves. I think you need to stop dating for a while and reasses the why of what you want to be in relationship life. You really need to figure out that healthy women want healthy men and on how to achieve this state of being. This is the only way an unselfish caring woman will ever truly love you.
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    Hey Jilligirl, I'm glad everything went great with your interview. Yes, send them a thank you letter, but make sure they get it before your next interview. I once received a thank you in the form of a small See's Candy chocolate box. It stood out of the rest and wound up hiring the person due to attention to details in communication and sincere character. Be sincere in which ever form you give thanks. Good luck on the next one and God bless.
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    I second this motion.
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    Jilligirl, As an employer what I look for in a possible employee are two things: 1.) Weather they are an educated follower or a educated leader; a. An educated follower will always put the company and it's needs ahead of "most" everything, is very reliable and will not quit within the next three years, thereforeeee lower employee turnover. b. An educated leader will always put themselves ahead of the company, will have a hidden agenda to learn in order to leave asap and plays a confidence game for better positioning. 2.) How can they make me more money as an human asset; I like employees that think outside the box as to how the business bottom line can improved. I appreciate authentic salesmanship in all my employees. Be real and tell them what you can do to make the company better. Show them the value you bring. This is my thought on this.
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    Thanks avman for your care and due dilligence on keeping this site real to all.
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    Thanks avman for your care and due dilligence on keeping this site real to all.
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    Hey jeg779, The thread title states " She is Extreme Christian / He Not So Extreme" Can you give me more info on the status of both your faiths since the answer to your dilema lies in either the secular world or the spiritual faith world?
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    Have no regrets and live for another chance at communicating your true self in a positive manner. Remember, insanity is to keep repeating the same situation and expecting a different outcome. You have a great attitude on how to proceed with your future. So, focus on you and learn to wisely discern which are emotional, physical, financialy and spiritually healthy men that you can slowly build a friendship that one day will lead to the man of your dreams. Plus remember that a man's success includes making time for the important relationship of his life, aside from his diety.
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