FortunateOne

Great attitude and healthy way to approach this. Her's a thought that a dear friend sent me. "My thought for today ... Love, it's such a fragile thing. I think we live our lives assuming that certain people, like family, have an automatic responsibility to love us -- and vice versa. What I seem to be discovering is that ALL love has the potential to be: taken for granted, ignored, misunderstood, beaten, abused, not reciprocated. More simply, all love has the ability to die. Some deaths may be chaotic and violent -- like when one plucks the rose bud from its stem and shreds the lovely, delicate, fragile petals to pieces and discards them as something soiled and useless. Other deaths may be silent, calm, still, with the stench that only death can bring -- like the rose in the garden that's left un kept, unseen, forgotten, abandoned, to slowly, painfully, wither ... a lonely, agonizing death. I am beginning to understand what this means ..."

Right on Dako

Natalie, firscodj is on the money here. You need to reassess your relationship fundamentals and become the "nice lady" a nice gent wants. Do not repeat the errors of the past, but break the cycle now, while your young. You have so much life to go and be happy. Invest a year or two developing your self identity to become an awesome woman. As for a guy to save you, that's just not right b/c nice gent aren't looking for projects, they want an equally healthy lady.

Hi Kimmie, To give some type of good advice I would need to have a bit more info on your ex and you. I need this to see it what level of development you are in life. For example age of both, personality types, ect. Let me know if you can.

Ever hear the expression "Why buy the cow if you can have the milk for free"? You must make him work for it and test him as women know how until his commited to you for you, not for the "good times". Be smart and discernfull about this. Stop the cycle.

What do you mean by aggresive? Did you strongly flirt with him or worse. I'm not being nosy, but my advice would depends on the severity of what you think you did.

What exactly happen with a person with depression? One feels that the only form of comfort is one's pity, which becomes an endless well of sorrow and hate to one's self. These negative emotions build a fictional wall around us as one pulls away from family, friends and society. One becomes isolated and unloved in one's mind. Are they suicidal? Yes, yet the worst harm comes as one condems one's ability to follow through with it and futher plunges one into a deeper depression. Are they gloomy? It depends, one hides one's emotion in order to maintain some form of functionality in society, yet act gloomy to when in need of the selfish attention from others for self pity. Would the depression affect their ability to socialize or work? Yes, one becomes quite unfriendly, withoout knowing it, affecting all possible relationships with healthy positive people and as work goes one feel unworthy of success and thereforeeee give up the drive. Would it affect you towards making pesimistic decision? It does since the mind is convinced one is not worthy of a good outcome. Does it hurts you a lot? It hurts a lot as the physical self becomes unhealthy and it's increadible how one can psychosematically begin to feel a deep hollow pain in one's chest. How does depression affect you in life? Your life becomes a self induced torture session in all aspects, but until you get angry enough at the pity, then there is no paradigm shift in one's mind to change for the positive. And how do you overcome it? This is the most important question. Every person has to work it out for themselves. It sounds sad, but in order to start a healthy life one must first admit that the whole entire self induced pity was a false front to gain attention from the people around them. thereforeeee, one realizes that the universe does not revolve around them and one has to stop trying to control others to join the pity party. One has to start to give sincere love to all in order to be loved. WOW! By being totally true to one's self this disorder can be over come. I know that a lot of this destructive emotions manifest due to unresolved childhood issues that need to be let go. Most every one has had some sort of the same issues, thereforeeee forgive yourself and start a new life. This is how I beat the depression that dominated my life years ago. It was quite an awesome change that has turned me into a successful man and has greatly improved my relationships with family, friends, business, society and a wonderful woman.

I had this problem in my teens and the best way is to have him stop "finishing" with himself and you for a couple of weeks to reset his libido. Then when you do it his "muscle" memory will be in the past. Try it, it worked for me.

Ask your bank about the required deposit amount for a money market checking account; it's an interest earning checking. Also, check with them if they have an investment service rep for advice.

Mysteryman, you are young, enjoy this growth experience. Put aside your insecurities and ask her out. Regardless of the result. this will form you into a secure and confident man, which is all that most women want. Let go of the past and as the Nike commercial states "Just Do It".

I agree with everyone above, confront him and start working on getting out. This guy has "major" character issues to deal with and I would focus on the why these character problems were overlooked from the start. You deserve and want a better.