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  1. Just focus on your end and figuring out when you can move. Once you do that, let her know and give the notice you need to. I'd keep out of it as much as possible meanwhile. This is a dumpster ready to burst in flames. Don't worry about putting it out, it's her dumpster. Just worry about getting away so you don't end up holding a sack of garbage ...or the baby.
  2. Funny I was just thinking of that today. Ugh your poor son. It was hard enough as a full grown person with years of experience to draw on, but for young people...what a mind screw. That time feels lost and fuzzy and sometimes I have a hard time remembering how long it's been or how long we spent in it.
  3. You are badass. So much compassion and strength in you!
  4. I agree with Wiseman. I'm sorry you didn't get the job. Is your wife working or otherwise contributing financially to the family? If she's not, that has to change. If she refuses, you have a much bigger problem. Have you seen a doctor for your depression? Is it situational?
  5. I won't be cheering it on nor congratulating people getting knocked up wildly lol. We are talking about creating life here, least it deserves is a little bit of thought and consideration. And things don't magically sort themselves out just because babies are cute. Anyways I think OP was more looking for validation and she finally found it in some posts. And social media will take care of the rest.
  6. I wouldn't worry about "fair share". If you want to leave her, leave her. She's not operating any different than you have, just whatever is opportunistically convenient at the time. There's nothing left to stick around for except risk to your health, ego boosting her as things suck more for you, and fights. And read my first paragraph again for why there's nothing to fight for anyways even without this guy.
  7. And what do you think about all that? I can tell you, with all those kids, he's not going to have the time nor money to splash around so a lot is going to fall on you. Gonna be hard. Poor kids .
  8. Have you made up your mind already then or are you still considering options? Honestly it doesn't sound like you've put much thought into this at all. I mean, just because you are pregnant doesn't mean "oh well, too late, looks like I'm having a child now". Of course your career will be impacted by this. He's 56, has a professional job and a 9 year old child he will have to split his resources and time with. He won't be able to not work. He won't be able to be there all the time when he's not working, he has other responsibilities. You can't expect the 9 year old to work around you either. Of course people will talk. And some won't be happy. And for those who are important in his life, you'll have to work with that and learn how to manage all that if he remains in your life. Have you thought about what life might be like for you if the relationship goes sideways and you become a single parent? You've only known him 6 months. Consider all that and more when making your choice. Be proactive. This passive sort of attitude won't serve you nor the baby if you choose to continue the pregnancy to term. Have you been to a doctor yet?
  9. I celebrated with a steak and a bubble bath. Because why not?! I can. And I hope every woman who wanted to celebrate had a good one. I like hearing about the women that others here admire. The living and the dead. I like too thinking of the women going all the way back, all different lives and circumstances, and our connection. I'm not a stickler for men being in the mix and it not being a female leading the song. There is a female vocalist for this band too, and she's ethereal, but this is a damn good song that speaks to me about women and female energy.
  10. I'm really sorry about your friend. I hope she has a speedy recovery too.
  11. I get the flu shot because I'm regularly around the elderly. A flu probably won't kill me, but giving it to someone else might kill them. I'm thinking it's the same reasoning with asking parents to get it. Their kids could give it someone else through the school and activities, and it spreads to those with compromised systems. I'm not giving an opinion either way, just saying I get why it may be asked.
  12. Yeah polio is no joke. I personally know 2 people that had it in their youth. Both still have the same issues your step dads sister has.
  13. It feels nice to have someone give positive attention. And when you thought that was threatened by another girl, you confused not wanting the attention to stop for interest in him. It's ok, it's all part of the learning curve of getting to know yourself well and your feelings. He was giving pretty good signals he may be interested, so the asking out doesn't seem out of left field to me. He thought the interest might be mutual so he went for it. No harm overall on either end.
  14. What do you like to do with your time? Hobbies, interests, things you are good at? If your confidence is low, athletics can help with that. It's something I love about exercise. Through the toughest times in my life, it has brought a mental and physical boost. It's great for mental health as much as physical health. No matter where you are at, it can give you tangible accomplishment. And accomplishment builds real confidence!
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