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I dunno... If I wake up tomorrow and coffee is illegal... I may just have to shank somebody fo' my Folgers
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That pretty much sums up mine. Don't we sometimes forget that the same dependancy we see in hardcore drug addicts or alcoholics keeps us buying coffee every morning? Even eating bread; you wanna see withdrawals? I dare you to go without it for a week
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I'm really sorry man, I didn't mean to skim and post... Talk about reading more carefully before opening my big mouth The same advice still goes about Myspace... It's still kinda like stalking. The shy thing... the right girl won't make you feel shy, as long as you give her enough of an idea you're interested (you are still going to have to ask her out, but you won't have to wonder what the answer is)
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J, everyone here wants to help, but I really don't think anyone is going to be able to read through that... it's just plain illegible. Can you try to say all the important parts in a few sentances?
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Thinking of seeing a psychiatrist...SCARED
Rain__man replied to laboheme's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
Good for you going the no-drugs route. While I'm an occasional fan of "recreational" drugs, perscribed junk is as bad as any addiction, and always taken lightly, as if zoloft was like asprin. Just make sure you shop around for your therapist will you? After seing one when I was younger, I have a serious distrust of the reasons some people get into that field. If they sound like someone who's "been there" instead of just reading abut it, sign up, take it all with a grain of salt, and keep fighting the demon. You can take care of these problems by yourself, and any real therapist will tell you that. Sometimes you need a little more powerful ammunition, though, ya know? -
Ok, first off... STOP GOING TO HER MYSPACE! I really had to put the smack down on myself to keep from doing this w/ my ex, but it is no different than following her around, or driving by her house every day like a wacko. It's gonna suck for a long, long time. Get used to it, and work on you, quit worrying about her. Like any breakup, there's tons of stuff you did wrong, and tons of stuff she did wrong that you will use to create who you are going to be, and to figure out what you really want. This is as much for me as for you buddy, but "Quit snivelling and get back to work!"
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Not even worth getting mad about... she's not what you're looking for. For whatever reason, something else is always more important. Quit taking it as a personal affront, and just step back and say... nah.
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Yes there is... YOU ARE LETTING HIM. Get the hell outta there, a dumpster's better than what you are living right now. You'll find a way, but even on your most selfless level... you are teaching him that this is okay. For both your sakes knock it off.
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Beautiful... and sad. I remember those tears, they werent long ago That I cried for one who could just pack up and go. She meant the world when I thought she cared But alone in the dark, feeling nothing but scared, I found my own stregnth to look for me and move on. Will you lie down now, and break down? Give in to the dark that seems to surround? You have the chance to take what you have and get better, Some are still out there, who believe in forever... The hunt is on... are you prey, or predator? Sorry... a few cheesy lines there, but not bad for impromptu
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Why worry about it? If she's strong enough to not, you shouldn't either. Being the older one, she kinda has the heavier end of that stick, while you, at worst, get bragging rights. That short of a gap means a lot more in HS than it ever will again in your life so, respect to her for being willing to work with it
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Husband jealous over my 15 YEAR OLD BROTHER
Rain__man replied to Beautie's topic in Relationship Advice
I'm tempted to say that maybe you guys should have dug deeper before beating up on the husband... I'm pretty much with teddy on the "ick" so far... The whole post is just phrased wrong... why would there even be a question of "jealousy"? -
It sounds like you really made a commitment to better yourself - for yourself - after the breakup. Good work, man. As someone who is making the same commitment, I'm proud of ya. I would not even consider a relationship with her, personally. It sure sounds like she killed off the girl you fell in love with. That other person might still be inside somewhere, but she is the only one who can decide who she wants to be. You are a good example of being proactive and taking responsibility for who you are, maybe by being her friend you can try to teach her this, but I would not even try that until she decides to get away from the * * * she's dating.
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Ok, I withdraw my previous post then. Darlin, just move on. It sucks, and it really feels like it would be better to keep the contact you have with him, but all it is doing is holding you back, while keeping him afloat. There are consequences for his actions, and it really doesn't sound like anything you are doing right now is ever gonna let that sink in.
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Should I Just Give Up?
Rain__man replied to Majoraslayer's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
Somebody on here has a pretty cool sig that's stuck with me... So I'll steal it! (kinda) There are 6.5 Billion people in the world, so if you're one in a million, then there are 6,500 people exactly like you out there. Don't lose hope man, my world looked pretty dark at 18 too, then I met a girl who changed my whole world. We're not together anymore, but she didn't cheat on me, and neither of us ever would have. There aren't going to be very many people out there who could be right for you, but you'll get better at looking for them, and more importantly, being worthy of them Take care, B -
Whatever you do, no games. Be real, respect yourself, and respect the fact that it looks like he's been doing some work to change himself, ya know? You need to decide based on how he acts if you want to give it another shot. If you honestly do, cuddle away! If not, or you're not sure, make that clear to him, and if you have to, leave halfway through the movie. I agree though, if things do start getting close, talk about it with him before you let it go anywhere, and make sure you're on the same page. Take care, B
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I can't tell if I disagree with everyone or not... Theres a difference between attraction and shooting for someone you think everyone else will think is beautiful. Attraction IS part of a healthy relationship, the other thing is the childish part.
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Sunlight is also a great natural antidepressant. Make sure you don't keep yourself locked up! Take advantage of that heat wave, and take a few beers to the park, lake, wherever you can just chill and relax in the sun. Also, don't expect yourself to just be "normal" through all this. You are going to be down for a little while, accept it, and vow to not let this become who you are forever, no matter what is going on in your life. Edit: Good time to steal Agen't sig... "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me."--Aleksandr Pushkin
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What are you thinking about when you "feel weird" about him? Do you mean he's fun to be around, makes you feel good, but he doesn't have a lot of the qualities you are looking for?
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It sounds to me like she may already think you two are going to be more serious than you do, and I agree with everyone, you need to lay it all down. About not wanting a heavy relationship and needing time to do yo' thing. It might be better to just let it fade, than to keep leading her on like this, if you think it through and want to be alone right now. She sounds like she's looking for an LTR.
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Don't worry, patch. Most of the ridicule will come from the guys who don't have the cajones to shave their own... well cajones One bit of advice though... never, ever use a razor that's been used before. Personally, I stick with a trim to the patch, and bic the boys and to the base of the shaft. Contrary to what might be said, I also have had a 0% complaint ratio... in fact much the opposite
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Well since only us guys are gonna touch this one.... -Self-centered -Acting Distant (I know it's an act, but just lay off and be yourself, quit trying to act like you're too good to act interested in a friendly conversation) -Bad breath, sloppy dressing, etc. (basically just trying to show how little you care) -the whole "I'm not pretty" bull... If I wasn't attracted, I wouldn't be here. If you really think you're ugly, just shut up about it and quit looking for self affirmation from me. -If we both leave a bar, and you say you'll call so I won't wonder if you made it home... call and say "I'm okay, have a good night". Don't agree to something like that if you're going to play games. -Playing games... just be real, and be yourself. Don't wonder that if you actually seem interested, I won't want you as much. If you date a guy like that, you're an idiot anyway.
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Ok fine. He's just being a wh*re, then
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Yes, and no. It's kind of a balance, but if I almost never masturbate, I would get extremely aroused and finish very hard and very quickly. Usually with this "big" of a finish, there was very little chance of a round 2, and even if I could start again, I couldn't quite finish again. By learning about yourself a bit more, and learning to kind of control and limit the first orgasm, you get a much longer and more enjoyable experience, for both of you
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It means he's whoring, "sowing wild oats", etc. that he's interested in you physically, and willing to stretch the truth a bit to hook you. Unless "no strings attached" is what you want, don't buy into his "romantic" possibilities. He'll tell all the others the same thing, if that's what they are looking for. I really can't relate to what he's doing. Even though right now I'm not looking for anything serious myself, wanting to juggle multiple relationships is kind of a sick state of mind, and people are only bound to get hurt.
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I really don't see a lot of topics in here related to casual or "friendly" relationships, and I'm curious to hear how most of you see the subject. I know plenty of the people on here must be in that phase where true love just isn't really on the menu, and you are looking for someone else who's in the same state of mind, who you can have fun with (physical and just hanging out, not whoring Obviously a caring, mutually satisfying LTR is what we all truly desire to satisfy the human condition, but what about the in-between times?