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  1. funnyCAgirl
    The thing that makes me like someone the most is when they call the next day briefly to say they enjoyed themselves but I have time afterwards to let it "sink in" without the feeling that he cant be trusted. Thats just me.
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    I hate to say it but it does not sound good. The problem with online dating is that there is so much more to chemistry between people then just thinking they are cute from their picture and being able to communicate with one another. In general, its a good way to open a door to see if there is a connection, but I think you were just sensing there was not a connection.
  3. funnyCAgirl
    YOu might have confused her by not calling her. Give her a few days. If she does not call you for a week, you should call her again.
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    I like the list of flirts above and I think those are sure signs that an assertive girl really likes you. The problem is that girls can be shy too and her signs may actually seem like she is not flirting. The other thing is many girls just flirt with everyone they think it cute because the attention feels good - and they have no intention of it going anywhere. I have actually observed a 20 year old girl flirt with 7 different men in the same room over and over for a whole month so much so that any one would think she was completely into him. Later when we talked she was only into one of them and she seemed offended when one of the other guys asked her. That type of girl is the danger. So I guess what I am saying is if she is flirting with everyone else just forget about it.
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    Let me know if I am wrong, but most men dont just go around asking girls out that they dotn even really know. Guys who do probably do very well for themselves, but in my lifetime I have only been asked out by someone I barely knew maybe 10 times. All my relationships have been with men who were not so brave. There are so many ways guys get around this like getting involved in groups or going to bars where you will see the same girls over and over... becoming friends just happens... and then asking her out is not so official... sometimes luck just puts you out together on a project or something. Thats just some thoughts on how to get around your shyness. The truth is it sucks to be the girl too because we have just as many questions about you guys... why is he not asking me out... why did he not call me back... It just sucks for everyone.
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    I think this depends on the girl. Girls with lots of issues like guys who make them feel bad about themselves. Personally I like a guy who treats me with respect, does sweet things and listens to me. That is something that just makes me melt and I cant help myself. For me seeming too "nice" means there is no spark and it has nothing to do with wanting to be treated worse.
  7. funnyCAgirl
    First off, good for you for calling him and asking him out in the first place. It takes guts and the fact he said yes shows that he thought you were cute and fun to be around. His initial reaction was to say yes. That is a great compliment and shows that you were not off base. The thing is that people are at all different points at different times.. he could be interested in someone else, be hurt by someone, be in the single mode or just feel like being alone. One of the hardest parts of getting together is finding someone you really like that is at the same point as you . I guess my point is dont take it too seriously that he backed out. I dont think you should hang on to hope either, but it is definitely not about you. The other thing is that in the beginning people find any reason to avoid one another. The fact that you called him for a date means that you should have been extra cool and reserved about going on it. You know becaues you already went out on a limb. It was driving you nuts that he did not confirm the date with you so you broke down and called. This is a lesson many of us learn the hard way, but next time tie your hands to a chair. He may have still backed out, but you kinda sealed that deal because you looked too assertive. If he had any doubts he would have felt weird about your call. The last thing is that I know sometimes it is unavoidable and your mind just takes over, but it helps to try to resist liking someone so much until you know they are really available. Not just do they have a girlfriend, but whether they are the type of person who likes to hang out with girls and is looking for someone. In the end good for you for going on out on a limb. that really shows that you have lots of courage. I hope you know that this guy was just a fantasy and his not going on the date really means nothing about you.
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    Her pause is normal. I have been asked out by people I really liked and paused because I got really nervous or been surprised by someone I was not expecting and paused Her pause is a sign of something you just cant spend a lot of time trying to figure it out. Go on your date, have a great time and let us know how it went. If you think too much before you get there it may effect how nervous you are at the time.
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    I belong to a web group called sparkpeople which is a personal training web site. It gives lots of food, exercise and chats for training. There is a fee I think it is $3 a month now but it is totally worth it. The other thing is I am kinda of a workout addict - meaning I have tried all the different work out programs - I really like the body for life program which is a book you can get at the bookstore. It works amazing.
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    I think lillady has an excellent point. If you talk to him it may just be as confusing as it is right now. Most people dont want to say I left you because I liked someone else or half the time they dont even know why. Is it possible this is just a good reason to get him on the phone and maybe reconnect?
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    I know this must be a really difficult time for you and I am sorry you are going through this. If he was seeing this girl while the two of you were serious then if you stayed together you may just expect more of the same. I know it hurts because you want to know why. The answer is I think you know why... because he loved you but he is that type of guy. There is nothing he could say right now to change it anyway. You may have gone overboard in your response, but it can be hard when then these happen. You should forgive yourself. Eventually you will feel better.
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    It is totally possible that you are just not invited because it will be a small wedding and people try to keep the list small. Usually when people invite and adult they say "and guest" but if that adult is one of several family members and is under maybe 23 then I think that might be pretty common.
  13. funnyCAgirl
    i know what it feels like because I have been through the same thing. The only thing I can say is keep busy, call old friends and do things that will make the time go by faster. And maybe these things will help to build up some good feelings too.
  14. funnyCAgirl
    I think that it is really painful to end a realtionship and the only way to do it is by not having contact. It is a great excuse, but if you guys both decided to move on then you should not. You will feel even worse if you call her and she is out or does not call back.
  15. funnyCAgirl
    A promise ring is usually for people who are younger so are not quite yet in a place to want to get married, but feel like they are that committed to one another. Usually it means the intention is there to get engaged within a few years.
  16. funnyCAgirl
    I have had acne for 17 years so I am an expert on this subject. (My skin is perfectly clear now but if I dont do these things I break out all over) First off the best thing for acne is a monthly facial with an acne treatment. An AHA treatment at the same time (or whatever they recommend) will clear up scars. If you can afford it or your parents can this can almost entirely clear it up in a few months. Also I use proactive face wash and a sulfur/benzoyl solution - but I think that the actual products that work the best are based on the person. Never ever miss a day because once you break out it just keeps going. Based on your age I would suggest using all the proactive regimine. HOpe that helps.
  17. funnyCAgirl
    You should ask him out for sure. That way if he says yes you can go crazy for him even more and if he says no you might be hurt but you wont waist two weeks thinking about him and wondering.
  18. funnyCAgirl
    I know that it is much more p.c. to say dont do it, you will ruin lives, etc.. but sometimes these things are not what they seem. You need to trust your own instincts about whether you trust her or not. People when they are young do crazy things and maybe she just made a mistake getting married. Being married myself believe me the steriotype that marriage people interested in someone else are just going do that over and over again - or that they are always messed up in some way is just not true. No generalization applies to all oeople all the time. It is however a red flag that you should be careful and decide for yourself.
  19. funnyCAgirl
    It does not sound like there is much of a chance for a healthy relationship with her. If she keeps doing that to you that will never stop, right. eventually you will need to move on unless you can live with it. The question is is that time right now?
  20. funnyCAgirl
    pizza is a good idea for a teen because after you eat you can hang around for a while and talk. The more time you spend together the more the date will mean to her if you guys hit it off. Plus there are always the video games for some fun.
  21. funnyCAgirl
    I think you should just start talking to her after class and pretend you are walking whatever direction she is. (Its worth being late) If works out a few times she will feel a lot more comfortable when you ask her out. If you ask a girl before she knows you at all it is really uncomfortable - and I know for me the answer has not always been no I have been kinda startled.
  22. funnyCAgirl
    I'd like to think that lots of guys feel like they like the chase and the passion of being with someone the first time that they really care about.
  23. funnyCAgirl
    If you have made a big step by cuddling definitely call because if you dont she will wonder what happened.
  24. funnyCAgirl
    Unfortunately I think you are in a really tough situation. If a guy says he just wants to be friends, that's it. They just dont say that if they dont mean it. All the other stuff he is saying is to keep you hanging on so you will be there for him and probably because he does feel really close to you as a friend. I would just hate to see you hang on for this guy hoping for more. I have been there myself trying to read more into things and usually the guy gives you lots of little hints to help you in that department. As I get older I start to realize that if they want it they go for it.
  25. funnyCAgirl
    My heart goes out to you because I know how bad it hurts to be betrayed like that. His emotional distance right now is not helping you to feel better. I hope that the two of you will be able to see if your marriage will work and if so be able to work through this.
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