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  1. funnyCAgirl
    Happy Birthday 8)
  2. funnyCAgirl
    I feel for you because you dont really even like this guy. Women have such a hard time having sex and not feeling anything. Your feelings are natural but they are not because you like this guy. He likes you enough to sleep with you so he obviously thinks your hot, but he is not looking for a relationship so he is distant. Dont take that personally because he just might not be open to having any kind of relationship. But you knew that when it started right? He is not going to make your pain feel less... he will just make you feel worse if you see him again. Keep your mind on someone who might actually be the one.
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    She sounds like a very insentive person who really pulled one over on you. Right now you have the upper hand BIG TIME. Dont call her back. Dont put yourself through that and definitely dont call her for her sake. She does not deserve that.
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    It is a little suspicous that Luke is trying to set you up with his friend. On the one hand he may like you a lot as a friend and he would not really be jealous if you went out with Chuck. Maybe he cares for you but not in that kinda way. Maybe he wants to date other girls and if he sets you up then you will be his friend still but give him some more space. On the other hand, people do funny things when they like each other. Maybe this is his crazy way of testing to see if it is him you want. He could really just be acting like a big fool. The only thing that makes sense to do is to tell him what you are feeling. He wants to keep you around so if he avoids the topic at all you might assume he does not want a relationship and just does not want to hurt you. If he agrees with you then maybe he will be yours. Good luck!
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    I really think it is just relationship idealism to say that it is impossible to understand why people have affairs with married people - because until you have been married for 5 or more years it is hard to understand how painful it can be. The truth is that these married people really need some emotional connection and if they find someone they like who is not married it would be confusing to both of them - and it might lead to an affair. I know you guys will say "excuses", "its not right", etc. I am just saying... it may not be right but it is human. I dont automatically think everyone involved is a home wrecker or a liar... Sometimes you have to look deeper at the issue.
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    I agree. She wants you. go for it before she moves on.
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    This is a very interesting thread and I feel kinda conflicted about what to say. Your wife may be seeking the approval from others she never got before, but more than anything she wants YOUR approval. I believe she is more and more encouraged by the things you say to make her feel good - although I know your intentions are not bad. She may think the two of you are enjoying this together. If you were to tell her that you are proud of her for being assertive, but that you find her most sexy with some things covered in public that would make a huge impact. In your considerateness of her mental health you just might be making things worse by encouraging her. Encouraging her to be beautiful and not naked is a much safer healthier path. I know from being a woman that some things covered sends the right message even if your body is smoking hot. Women in these types of enviornments are looked at in a degrading way and set themselves up for critisisms. She could be in for VERY harsh pain if she keeps this up. Far worse then if she does not keep up this exercise. What if she hears these people's comments? What if she is attacked or harassed? What if it goes too far? I also feel funny reading your critisisms. Wow it is painful to think that people say those things and that you are still able to encourage her. It also must be very hard to list the things you find unattractive about her body. I hope that you will try to encourage her to keep her wild side to her mental fantasies and to your bedroom. It scares me that she is pushing further and further out there. Let us know how it goes.
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    I totally understand the difficulty in communicating after years of marriage. Who knows why it becomes so hard? I ask myself that question all the time and it is a painful subject for me too. I agree that she may just be hesitant to talk with you about naming the baby because she fears the conversation will not go well. I wonder how different your relationship is now compared to when you had the first two children. As far as her comments about birth control to your parents, it seems odd. Why is she making those comments. Let us know how the conversation goes.
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    Two people fall in love, they have checked off their long list of criteria for a soul mate: ambition, similar goals, similar sense of humor, attraction, friends, commitment.... and then they get married. Why is it that you can have all that to start and then as the marriage goes on it just disappears. Couples take each other for granted, fight and all of the sudden the little differences in goals are huge.
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    When I was 16 height made no difference at all because girls grow faster than boys. It is so common that it is sweet. What she cares about it your personality and she probably thinks you are really hot the way you are.
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    If you have not done anything horrible to her then I hate to say it but it sounds like she is into her ex and is getting him involved in your relationship for that reason. It sounds to me like she is involving him in your conversations to be around him and create drama with him... to keep him around. She may sound like she wants to see you soon but if she completely had him end the relationship he would no longer have a challenge. It seems like major immature games to me. Unless there are things that explain her distance no other scenerio makes sense. You need to know that this girl sounds like she just needs to grow up. She is not someone you can trust and so please dont take her moves personally. Someone like her cannot be trusted.
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    I agree that you cant get rid of him. If she is into you and not him then that would just happen. For now, he's the guy. You need to decide if you want to wait or just move on to a girl who is available.
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    I think it depends on how immature the older person is...
  14. funnyCAgirl
    My experience has been that Labor Day parties are usually barbequing with neighboors or visiting with some close friends - maybe you just did not know anyone throwing a big party?
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    I definitely believe in second chances and this guy has really made a big gesture. I think you cautiously see what happens if you talk to him - if you still have feelings.
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    Have you really talked to people in your group about what is going on. If they dont know much and you mention it they may get quiet because they are uncomfortable. Also you have always been the mentor so it is a change in roles. You may not find that these people are going to be your support and look elsewhere, but dont cancel the group until you have had more time to regroup.
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    I dont think that a casual relationship turns into a serious one often, but it does happen. I had a relationship with someone which was the only time I have ever slept with someone the first night we met and although it ws rocky it just kept going until we were in love with each other - and we stayed together and lived together for 2 years. the problem is it is hard to get past it and you dont have a lot of romantic beginnings to look back on. Our relationship sucked most of the time, but we were very attracted to one another. I think the key was that for both of us the first night thing was something that was out of the ordinary. That might be why.
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    funnyCAgirl replied to jecht's topic in Dating Advice

    I like Metallicguys "Lets get together Saturday" kinda thing. Just because I thinks its sweet when a guy knows what he wants. The thing is the answer would only be yes if I liked him or was friends with him either way.
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    I hate to say it... she is just a pretty girl who is being nice. Your interepetation of her smile and wave might be clouded by your attraction to her. I am sure if she is as hot as you say then she is used to guys with their goofy smiles and drooling over her. She just might like it. That is very common.
  20. funnyCAgirl
    If you like him then wait it out and see what happens. It does seem like if he felt those things then he would have gone out with you but people do all kinds of crazy things and you just never know.
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    I guess what I meant is that I really like nice guys when I attracted to them and there is a spark. Sometimes men might misinterpet that a woman does not like them because they are too nice when she just really is not into them. Its no different then when a women thinks she said something wrong to drive a guy away and really he just is not that into her for whatever reason. I guess my point is that being nice is a very good idea if the girl is into you.
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    Unfortunately, I dont think he is that interested or he is interested and doesnt want to get in a relationship - either way I dont think you should not wait for him. I would hate to see you wasting time on a guy who is not thinking the same things you are. He sounds like a decent guy so his not calling is a bad sign.
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    This girl is probably going through a lot and her feelings for you may really be mixed up in all the change she has going in her life. Just because she bailed on you may not be because you were honest it may be lots of other things relating to her ex. I think being honest after the right amount of time is the best thing when the other person feels the same. Sometimes you just dont know.
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    definitely she is still interested. I think it would be great if you told her that you liked her better and wanted to see her alone. If that was all she wanted from you she would be at a bar where she could probably find that in a few minutes.
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    Who knows why he said he thought he loved you and then disappeared. I am sorry you have to go through that it sounds confusing, but actions speak louder than words. Unfortunately, his non-response shows that right now he is avoiding you. Maybe he will come back around but all you can do is either move on or wait.
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