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In my experience I would give yourself a little time to re-group and perhaps see if that is something you would want (being friends that is) after awhile. Of course it is nice to end up friends but it is extremely difficult to do that when the emotions are running high and you are not in a place where you seem to be over him. You sound really nice and I would hate to see you hurt further. Hang in there and maybe concentrate on yourself for a bit beforehand.

Hey bud - I feel your pain and am still going through it myself. I know that you feel incomplete right now and you are thinking all the good that you had in your life was because of her - honestly dude - not true at all. It will sting but you will feel better and better every day. Look at it this way - the worst pain is over and you will just start to feel better (a little bit every day but yes still better). If it helps what you are feeling is completely normal. There will be other girls and there is a whole world out there waiting for you to embrace it - there is life after this girl. Try and remember all the things you enjoyed before meeting her and go out and do them again (surfing, hanging with friends as examples). You'll realize that you are a good person that has a lot to offer. I know you want to feel better right now but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. As I said - hang in there and it does get better I promise.

Dude mine did that to me to and believe me it killed for the first month or so. Then I talked to a few friends who said that she was mostly doing that to feel wanted again and it was to get her mind off me. The shame is she is just prolonging her own healing by being with some random. Any idiot can go out and get laid but a true feeling, cool, intelligent person realizes that this is not the way to heal and takes the pain to be a better person and learn. Plus whomever the guy is - well he is just a Rebound - I certainly wouldn't want to be him anyway. You sound cool - you'll punch through this. Find a better person than her and treat her good.

Thanks everyone - I'll be keeping an eye out for all you guys if I can return the favor and offer some advice. Allbeit from someone who has to touch the stove to know it's hot so to speak People on this site rock.

Hey there, I'm the guy that started this post. I guess every situation is different but I did end up calling and regretting it. She just hung up when she heard my voice and it felt terrible. I really did have good intentions. Oh well. I guess she was not ready to talk to me again - if ever. Sad but true. Thanks to all advice - I guess it could go either way depending on the people involved.

Thanks for the feedback. I really appreciate it. I am getting conflicting opinions as some of my friends that think I would be doing it more to make myself feel better than to be showing a nice gesture to her. They think it will just hurt her more to hear my voice. But then they don't know her and were not in the relationship so perhaps that holds less credence. It seems to be 50/50 so far....... I am leaning more to calling that is for sure. But then it would be hard all around to not talk about us.

I've lost someone that was very special to me in a mix of mistakes by myself and her. I feel like many that I will never meet someone as special and amazing as her. The feeling is overwhelming. Anyway we dragged out our breakup and now we are not speaking although I fight every minute (it feels like) not to call her and see how she is. It's been only a matter of weeks not talking. I would give anything for another chance but there is just too much history. My question is this.........it's her birthday this weekend. Should I call or not call? Would it make her feel worse on her special day even tho my calling has the best intent. Or is not calling a better idea - will she think I am a heartless guy if I don't? Advice/help here appreciated please?!