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my opinon is you should accept that the relationship is over. Hoping is a bad thing because you leave yourself hanging. As of now, the relationship has ended and you have to find your own way. Give him the space that he asked for but dont wait for him. Move on withyour life.
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option 4: DISTANCE YOURSELF from this friendship and give it space. You want more from the friendship then she does. From what i gather you are a female and she is a female. She may not be into the lesbian relationship as you might be. Your moods are swinging up and down, you are frustrated and insecure because you want her to feel as much about you as you do about her. It isnt going to happen. I am sorry to say that you may have to distance yourself to stablise yourself. This friendship is not healthy for you anymore even though she and you 'care'. In the end it is superfical actions that is hurting you. Walk away for a while to gather yourself
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Tiredman, i am in there with you. Hang in there.. you are not alone.
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Killing feelings
freedom replied to northernlights's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
aaarrrggghhh. You can't rid the feelings without having to remove yourself from her. -
Computer/video games - how to break the addiction?
freedom replied to caro33's topic in Relationship Advice
maybe "the computer games are effecting our relationship. i am feeling neglected and i dont want to compete against a computer. Can we make some time for just us?" You cannot stop him from doing what he wants to do (if it is an addiction) he will just get cranky. I got off it by not installing it and found there is more to life. -
being in a relationship that is constantly on the move is a problem. Being able to see a solution that will solve the problem but needing a major sacrific on either side is hard. Having the patience to let the problem solve itself thru time is torture! We have to learn PATIENCE!!
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yes. i have.. but i put a wall. I was tempted bu yet disgusted.
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i have been waiting for a post like this. A statement that points out flaws of women in general society and the reaction to it. looking at it, i find it funny that when women post heading like, What's your boyfriends flaw?? there are reactions to it that gleefully critisize the male gender, but when a male post his point of view about women he get shot down for it. Though it may be generalisation, his point are true in general society, you can "see" it. Though it may not apply to you, there is a trend. It is just silly to deny the existence of current womens behaviour in a society that they see they can take advantage of. It is a joke to deny the existence of the current descrimination against men and it plays through here. THough some men and women do feel that this post is unfair, i think he has a fair point. It may not apply to YOU directly but there is truth to it.
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it isnt respect. you are assuming. If you ask thouse guy if they really want these women as wives, you will get a different answer.(unless these guys are low ultity goods then they are not worth knowing)
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jealousy probably occurs when you think you own more then you do. You dont own her or anything of hers. you have to let go. if it was meant to be it will be. Take a step back from your relationship and remove the control part.
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good grief!! Make a statemtn! "i accidentially found porn on you omputer, i think it would be sexy to watch it together and try some new positions" Make a bold statement that you are willing to do that with her. Yes you are gong out on a limb but you are a man. It is your job.
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are you etremely good looking? if you are, watch out that you maybe his trophy. if you anything other than that, well time to tell him that you are bothered by the materialistic crap and that you dont see those things as imporant to a relationship.
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after 2 years most people will have figued out where they are in the relationship. Find out where you sit in his life or simply ship out.
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you are not getting the information from the source. What you are getting is data. To get true information talk to him directly. It would remove the anxiety.
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i have a different approach. The next time she bring her wieght up, tell her that you have noticed her gaining weight and offer her to be her coach and then strategies with her. If she hooks on, explain to her the goal and the time period that you will be a coach. (do not do it for more then 4 months coz it will become a boring routine and she will depend on you too much.) you aim is to set out a workout shedule and food list. THe most importnat thing is to STOP ALL fizzy drinks. She can have water and cordial to take the blendness out of it, monitor how much cordial is mixed and slowly reduce to 'colored water'. Basically, the idea is (if she bites) to give you some power to stop her from eating crap and force her to workout. It is about you giving her the extra shove to reach her goal. What i dont undestand is this. How does any1 eat a whole tub of ice cream by themselves. It is sick! I was brought up with one scoop and that is enough, two scoops when you do something that is totally amazing like run a marathon(which i have yet to do). I think she will appreaciate that. Remember, she can eat anything but it is just how much of it she eats, but NO pop.
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walk away, you are giving too much
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I'm in love with my girlfriend and her sister..
freedom replied to Luck of Irish's topic in Relationship Advice
as an adult you would make a decision and stick by it. ( So easy to say but so hard to do.) If you stick with your GF then you have to conrol yourself around the sister. If you choose your GF sister you will loose both -
time to move on. he didnt change, ou just didnt see this side of him. Your expectations of him are different. time to move on
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THe longer your list, the higher maintenance you are, the more controller you become, the les likely you will find a mate as you are to demanding and controlling in what you want/ expect. Relationship is about giving & taking, mistakes will happen along the way that will effect your list. Leaving a relationship when i falls outside your 'requirements' can mean that you mightn't given it a opportunity to grow or you have become so inflexible that you use the list to comfort your insecurity.
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Sure i would, i highly recommend it!! it is great to have you heart ripped out stamped out split out, dragged through the crap ) It is the greatest thing on earth! NOT!!!! if he a filing, the he can wait after he files to see anything will happen. To me, this really is a daft queston. Sorry for beig rude.
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good greif... you are giving us all hear say d making it bigger and bigger. why dont yo ask information from the source? You guys have been out togethr for nearl a year but you cant talk to each other with simple things like this?? how can your relationship last if you cant communicate openly?
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Yes, i have seen that, i didnt intend to if i didn come accross that way. unfortunately i dont intend to leave people out. Shold have stated a new link.
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i will, but not right now... later.
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What i am pointing out is that as much as we men have flaws and women having the right to complain about it. (which i am greatful because i learn from these posts!) I feel that a thread like this is so bais in which it justifies the complaint of the BF and the innocents of the complainter. Most people just complain about the SO but yet they haven't made any changes themselves. I am just wondering that if a male put up a post like this what would the reaction be?
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Thank you sharing both side of the story. it is nice to be able to see that someone here is not just pointing the finger andventing at one person and willing to take responsibility for their own faults.