Luck of Irish

That's kinda of a cop-out to the answer....because the girlfriend has no idea. As for her being relgious...she's not....at all.

Honestly....we tried it like once....and she stopped me after about 30 seconds saying she was grossed out.

She's a little insecure....but not really. In a non-arrogant way...she knows she's hot/desired. Not only by me...but by other guys. So it's not as if she feels ugly. And no...she hasn't reached orgasm before. I don't think it's my fault...because the only thing I've gotten to use is my penis. She also claims that she's only wet for 10-15 mins at a time....and then gets dry (but refuses to use lube). It just seems everytime I bring it up....she makes an episode about it and exagerrates. For example, if I mention sex that night....she'll usually sigh and say no. (Sadly) after sometimes "begging" (not literally, but continuing to bring it up)....she'll say "fine" in a pissed off tone. We'll then have sex. Horrible, I know....but * * * *...I gotta get it sometime. When I bring it up to talk about it as a whole.....she'll just say "that's all you ever think about" when it's not. She says my sex drive is too high...and I've explained to her that in the real world...no matter how nice a guy is to you.....every guy wants sex. I've also explained that me bringing it up once/week is practically nothing compared to most guys. She seems to not believe it. I'd also like to mention that I thought I had ED at one time. I saw a doctor, etc. Everything turned out to me normal...it was all emotional....I'm guessing the fact that my "love" didn't desire me was it.

Thanks for all of the advice everyone. I really appreciate it and it's give me some things to think about. I have one final question. If I bring it up one more time....act serious (which I always am)...and she says "If you need more sex, I can't give it to you" (and she won't see a counselor, doctor, etc.)....and I say goodbye....do you think I'll have regrets about leaving her (down the line) only because of sex? Thanks.

If we had sex twice/week....I would. You're a woman Annie (and a Mod)...so I'm sure you know what you're talking about. What's your opinion/take on all of this? Thanks in advance.

I'm sure she's into me emotionally.....in fact I'm positive. The sex thing is her fault....but the way I've handled it is partially mine in the fact that I waited until 2 years to start putting my foot down. As for my response to her saying for me to get sex elsewhere.....I don't just "take" it....I say to her "Why would you say that? That's just dumb"....and she'll say "well if you need more sex....you'll need to get it somewhere else...because I'm not going to have it every day" (even though we don't have it nearly everyday)....and I say I'm not asking for it everyday....i'm saying once/week...and she says 'welll i don't want it that much'....

To all 3 responses, She won't go to a counselor. I suggested it already. Here's the worst part we're only 23 and 22 years old. Usually people have sex like rabbits at this age. Every time I bring it up she gets upset too. She says "is that all you ever think about?" She also thinks that my sex drive is sky high. For god's sake....all I'm asking for is once/week. People do it 7x/week. I get it once/3 weeks.....and I want it once/week(at least)....I think a once/week compromise is meeting halfway.

I have a great girlfriend. She's the type of girl every guy wants to marry. She's funny, smart, adorable, PERFECT body, etc. One problem: she doesn't like sex. Yes I know....you're probably thinking I'm not good at it. That's not the case...because with my previous girlfriends...they seemed to love it. When we first started to have sex (in year one)....it was never frequent. It was once/week....sometimes twice. Year 2 it started to go down. I finally said something that we're not having as much sex as I'd like to or that we used to...and she said that she wasn't into it....and didn't like it. She said it did nothing for her....and did not pleasure her. Keep this in mind: she will NOT let me eat her out or finger her.....claiming it's disgusting. She doesn't give blowjobs either (different story). She also will not try new positions. All we do is missionary....and sometimes her on top. She will NOT try doggie....not matter how many times I've mentioned it. I told her it's hard to pleasure her when she won't let me eat her out or even finger her. She still says she doesn't want me to do it and that it's disgusting. I mentioned her going to a doctor to see what the problem is....and she refuses to do it. She says she doesn't want to....no matter how many times I've suggested it. Meanwhile....at this point I get sex once every 3-4 weeks....yes, I know, bad. She only does sex as a favor to me....and it's getting old. If I'm really horny....it doesn't matter....but if i'm feeling normal and just want to have sex ..I feel bad about it. She doesn't give blowjobs either...so let's keep that in mind. The thing is...I believe I'm going to marry her. We talk about marriage, etc. But honestly.....would I be dumb to marry someone who I'm only having sex with almost once/month now? Doesn't it lessen once you're married? Bottom line: I love this girl...but I need sex. When I tell her I need her to be more open about it...she gets immature and says "well if you need more sex get it somewhere else" (not being serious, in a sarcastic tone). 1) Rule out cheating.....I know she isn't 2) She wasn't molested/raped....brought that up before, and I'm sure of it Any advice, please?

The thing with that is...my girlfriend has done that to me before in reverse. She's said "You're in love with my sister " "You think she's prettier than me" "You think she's nicer/sweeter than me" etc. If I said it to her....she would know I'm not joking around. On another note....this really is a serious thread. It's not "eating me up" or anything like that....but it does bother me. When I see her sister....sometimes I'll honestly daydream that we go up into her room for 10 mins with nobody noticing and just have great sex with her. This sucks...

I'm going to make this as short as possible. In the past 6 months, I've realized that I am in love with two women. They both happen to be sisters. I have been dating the one sister for almost four years now. We've had our ups and downs in these four years…..but since as long as I can remember, things have been great. The two sisters are only 3 years apart in age. I am dating the younger one. Me and my girlfriend went through some huge fights a couple of years ago….stupid fights…but huge. She even broke up with me for a week. There was only one person there for me at the time…and that was the older sister. She would call me up and we would talk about everything. It was always comforting hearing her voice. She acted like a friend to me while I would be "bad-mouthing" (not really, but somewhat) her sister. Several times she told me that her younger sister did not deserve me and that I was too good for her. I've always remembered that. Here's some other things to add to the mix. The older sister has a boyfriend also (3 years)…and when they have broken up….she would always say that she wishes there was a clone of me so that we could date…that I'm the perfect guy, that I have a perfect body, I'm sexy, adorable, etc. I also find this woman to be one of the sexiest and most beautiful woman I've ever met. I know she feels very similar. She always makes sexual inuendos….more direct when my girlfriend isn't around. She's very touchy-feely with me….touches my arms, abs, etc. (I workout a lot) and always says she wishes her boyfriend had my body. I would say at least 50 percent of the time I masturbate….I think of her (to add even more). There are two women in this world who are perfect for me. My girlfriend and her sister….though her sister is a "little" more perfect. I can't talk about it with my girlfriend…because if I do, the relationship would be over. What do I do about these feelings (both sexually and emotionally)? It's bothered me for 6 months…and I don't know what to do anymore.