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  1. savannahohsavannah
    I had a similar situation once and it turned out that it was only relationship stress making me late! You said you took the test, and if it's positive good luck. Don't get uptight until you know there is something going on.
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    If she has a restraining order against you and she says she's knowingly moving accross the street from you, go to your attorney and tell him/her exactly what happened.
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    Also, if I'm reading your posts correctly, your gf is still in hgh school, and you are an adult? That's asking for trouble right there! Even if you are only 21, when you discussed going to her proms and with her when she's getting her drivers license, well you do that in my state at 16. If you are 21 and she's 16, where on earth are her parents? To me I think you had too much of an age difference at the wrong time: i.e. one of you is an adult, and the other is still a child.
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    I didn't see that you had told how old you both are? When a young woman or young man cheat on their SO, it can be simply a symptom of relationship immaturity. I suspect that is what this is. Next time, you will know that when someone cheated their way out of their former relationship, they will likely do that to you as well, and you won't go out with them. You will wait for another girl to come your way....
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    Are you sure these "wants" are really not just a sign that you want complete control in your relationship? I'm thinking this is a sign, not necessarily the guy you need. A guy who'd give it all up for you would wind up with your disrespect, admit it! Savannah
  6. savannahohsavannah
    Don't sleep with this turkey! He's using you for sex, and he's going to find another girl to date if he hasn't already. Leave him alone and if you see him in the hallways don't say anything. Savannah
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    How old is your father? Does he have normal hearing? Has he ever been psychiatrically hospitalized? Does he accuse your mom of cheating? Has he ever cheated on her that you know of? Savannah
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    When I was 13 years old I met Miss Cook. She was 87 and had never been married, and when I asked her why she responded that she never found anyone to marry. I've seen recently up close and personal how much trouble you can cause yourself by marrying to be married. One of my pals did it, and it ended in divorce within ONE month. So, I'm not the type to just jump into marriage for the sake of such. I don't believe my age is pertinent to this discussion, although I'm probably older than you think. So no I'm not 25 and bemoaning my single fate! Sigh.
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    Mistakenly? I think the urge to be a couple is primal.
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    Cosmo had an article in the last few years about which ex's you could keep in your life and which were so toxic that you had to let go. I think they said the hook up ex was problematical because your connection was physical and that was hard to change. I fell for this guy online and had to let him go because it turned out that his only feelings for me were *erotic* as he termed it. It sounds like this fella is doing the same thing to you. I hope you dump him pdq.
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    But I can't seem to do it! I'm really upset. So much of my adult life I've spent alone and I wanted to make some changes, but this finding a mate is something that I cannot dictate nor do alone. I'm having a birthday today and it's bringing it all into sharp focus. While I believe that I can find someone, I haven't. Sigh. Does anyone else feel this way? Savannah
  12. savannahohsavannah
    Really. A new job sounds like the best idea here. I would, at the risk of sounding reactionary, caution you against going into a restaurant where it's privately owned for a ton of reasons. You may not like corporate restaurants, but they have advantages, like benefits, rules the management has to follow and you can transfer if you decide to move. Start looking today, and see if any of the corporate entities that we all adore are hiring!
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    At the risk of being unkind, you have been very honest about your feelings, but what they show is still some immaturity and inexperience. I think you need to get into counseling to straighten this all out. You should also stop drinking right away. It seems to me that you are using it as a crutch to express how you are feeling to her, and she probably experiences that as hurtful and abusive. I'm guessing that's a big part of the reason she wants to leave you. #1: Get into counseling, not as a couple especially, but simply for you. #2: Quit drinking. #3: Take a good look in the mirror before you start judging her by her looks. Are you Nick Lachey? I can guess not.
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    If your new spouse has a baby on the way with another woman that he never told you about? I know you can do it with insanity! Is lying about children another case? Any divorce experts out there?
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    You are going with a blame the victim mentality. I think you should just forget about the past. Who you are today and who you were yesterday could be two different things. Do you always worry so much? It's not like you are going to marry this chick and leave her in charge of a fortune that she might let her next lovers fritter away after you die, is it? So be still! Savannah
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    I agree with Gracelove 100 percent! Savannah
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    I don't think I'd want to be with someone who took that attitude. When you marry you get a package deal, someone's present, past and future. To think otherwise is unwise in the extreme. You sound like someone who might be afraid of their past. Savannah
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    Some issues beg for the no privacy attitude! Any child is one of them, because it points to responsibility or irresponsibililty of the person. Abortions can affect the womans ability to reproduce again so I think it might be a good thing to tell a potential marriage partner about it. Better that than in the OBGYN's off later, trying to explain the fact that you didn't think it mattered, and now you can't get pregnant. People tend to get huffy that their sexual behaviors are their own private business, and it may be so for your friends and co-workers, but your SO is someone who can be affected by your past behavior. If you had had unprotected sex with an HIV positive person, would you expect your new SO to want to know? Would you believe you had a right to know if your new lover had an HIV + diagnosis?
  19. savannahohsavannah
    It sounds like you married him too soon, or too young. He should not keep a child, even one given up for adoption, as a personal secret from YOU. What else is he hiding? Privacy only goes so far, in marriage.
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    You sound really jealous! I can see that it would be annoying to have her texting/calls cut into your private time with him, but why not just turn the phone off when you are together? It's obvious that he likes you enough to be with you, and if he shoots off with another girl, you can't really change that one either. Your independence can keep him with you, your jealousy will likely drive him away. Sorry, I know it's a bad situation for you, but if one of my guy friends' new girlfriends responded the way you have, to ME his old pal, I'd suggest he dump her PDQ! Savannah
  21. savannahohsavannah
    YOU are right on the money girlfriend about respect. I say don't change a thing. Keep the ex hookup out of your life until and unless he gets *serious* with one of your pals. You don't want him hanging around.
  22. savannahohsavannah
    If she finally succeeds in killing herself, what will you do? What do you tell yourself? That you failed her? I think you are setting yourself up for that! She can't rely on you to make her happy or well. Number one, that type of relationship never works for on the long term, and number two, your needs get ignored. I wish you could get some perspective on this one. I hear that you are trying to think about you both, and I respect that, but only up to a degree. Emotional investments in relationships are best made slowly, and what future do you see with someone who might not want to BE? I can't tell you what to do, but I think it's clear that she has needs that YOU can't meet. She needs to be well in her own heart before she is truly free to love you.
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    I am having some problems deciding how much I should tell a guy up front. I've had boyfriends who won't tell much, and I've decided that I've been much too open. No, I don't have six legs or anything, but I think it's a good idea not to spout off some things, even though they are things you would reveal to someone with whom you were thinking marriage. What kinds of things would you tell, and when? What do you see that you owe to a bf, SO, or hookup?
  24. savannahohsavannah
    It's the only thing that I can think of to help you really. I think it's hard to break up anyway, but after about six weeks you should be feeling better, and if you aren't, well, that's a bad sign. A therapist can help you come to grips with the realities of your life, and accept the things that you cannot change. Good luck to you ! Savannah
  25. savannahohsavannah
    Please don't feel bad. I think you should go to your obgyn and tell them first. I believe about 30 percent of women are anorgasmic. I'm convinced that much of it could be psychological. But from your description, you make it sound like you don't FEEL. Something could be wrong. Check it out.
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