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  1. lilcherub
    I don't know what else to tell you except, if she hasn't returned your calls or she has been busy when you called. And she has your number then give her space. In 3 weeks give her a call again and if she is still to busy for you, then try to forget her. Otherwise it can make you out to look, desperate, or like your obsessed or harrasing. Especially if she hasn't displayed any interest. If in three weeks you manage to talk to her on the phone, be bold and ask her if your wasting your time, and if she would like it if you lost her number and stopped calling
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    Don't mean to be bold, I am 24 years old and if I can remember back to when I was 14 , I believe I often thought about what it would be like to get kissed by a boy. You have plenty of years ahead of you to be kissed by a boyfriend so try not to rush it. Cause with the younger generation, its a kiss that leads to more. Especially if your unaware of your body/feelings, and that leads to teenage girls having babies. But if it is important to have that kiss, be bold we live in a generation where its okay for the girl to make the first move. Kiss him, if that is what you think your relationship is at.
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    I wouldn't try to read into his motives in regards to the time spent when he is not working. If your really interested in this guy, patience is the key. Give him time to heal and if there is another reason other then friendship. Then that will work itself out with time. Rushing or pressurin him will only push him away, just enjoy the time spent as (friends) have fun. But don't hold off or out for him, see other guys get out with others and you never know he may come around with time.
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    I would be wary when it comes to no contact orders, it could be a trap that has been set up. Do you really want to take the fall if her intentions are not just and true. Or do you trust that it will be a safe situation to go into. She could have others there waiting for your arrival to teach you a not so nice lesson. I have seen it happen several times before. Just caution when it comes to giving into her invite to break the no contact order.
  5. lilcherub
    Lately there seems to be a war between my heart and mind. Five months ago I left my relationships because of doubts, uncertainty in regards to my ex fiancee's motives (infidelity?Lies?Second Identity?) didn't know fact from fiction, whether he was coming or going. With a upcoming baby in the future it made my decisions harder. Hence the reason my heart is in war with my mind. With that came the information regarding, drug dealing, threats to safety of people dear to me. Why because I chose not to be his puppet on strings anymore, giving in to his wants, his control, and emotional abuse that followed after telling him those two words " I'm pregnant" I left him and he didn't like it. Three hard things for me right now is as follows; 1.Why do I still love him? Is it because I am carrying his baby? 2.Can I raise this child on my own?(The baby was no accident it was planned by both of us) 3. Where will I get the strength to fight him, if he does follow through with his threats to get custody of this baby so that I never see my child again. Bottom line is was I wrong to leave him in the first place, due to my suspisions of infidelity, drug dealing, and well the alias i.d in his wallet. The only thing I had to go by was hearsay, and then visual seeing his alias i.d, and all the phone messages from other girls telling him they love him, miss him can't wait to see him...... its confusing, maybe its being pregnant,getting closer and closer to this baby being born that I have doubts I made the right decision leaving when I did. I never planned to have children without a father in the picture.......
  6. lilcherub
    Coming from me as a women, the truth on why a man loves you is all the afirmations we like to hear. The question you need to ask yourself is do you really truly love her unconditionally and why is it you love to spend time with her, why her whats special about her compared to any other woman in this world. The answer that you seek are not going to come from strangers but from your heart. If you truly love her and are not one of the many guys that say it for the sake of saying it because thats what women want to her. Sure we as women need to here those words as reassurance that our relationship were in are real. But only say it if you mean it, cause not meaning it hurts more when the truth come out. Thats all I can give you for advice. Look inside yourself for the answers to give her.
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    How does one deal with the other when trust has been broken. I called off my engagement, just after I found out I was pregnant. I was with this man that was my world, I loved him and gave everything of myself to him. We planned to have a baby, I just didn't expect it to happen so soon. Just before I found out I was pregnant, I started to have doubts in my mind, that he wasn't being faithful and something didn't feel right with our relationship. The man I loved, the man I knew, had me doubt the person he was, because he had I.D in another name that was not the one I knew him by. Of course he denied everything, on top of that he had more girls calling him then I could make heads or tails of. I separated from him after I found out I was pregnant because he became emotionally and mentally abusive trying to control me. It went as far as me leaving my home and hiding in a womens safe house. Because of the baby, I tried to give him a second chance to prove himself for the (baby)sake, it only made situations worse, he started threatening the safety of my friends because I told him I had my sources in regards to his second identity, after that happened I told him that I didn't want him to ever call me again, that when I was ready I would call him. I hung up the phone on him, he called back approximately 18times I ignored the phone and didn't anwer him, then he left a message saying he was going to go by my house and speak to my roommate and find out where I am from her if I don't want to tell him where I am, and when he does we will talk in person. Thats scared me so I called the police and requested a no contact order, to cease and desist all attempts to contact with me. And that when I was ready we would disuss the baby and circumstances around it. I never wanted my baby to grow up without a father, so i tried everything to keep him involved regardless of my doubts and the abuse he put me through. I moved 12 hours away from where he resides, and got the courage to call him today, he has no respect for me , I don't think he ever did and it really hurts everything that he said. The thing that hurts the most is him saying that I won't be a good mother that I am unfit because I won't be working when I have this baby. I am taking leave for a year, I do get money from employment insurance for the year, anyway he mentioned to me that his aunt will be filing for custody and that I will never see this baby again. A baby which I have supported finacially while it grows in my womb, a baby which he had never been there for through this process, and I gave him several oppurtunities to be a part of this baby. It takes two to make a baby, and in an idealistic world two to raise a baby. People around me say just to forget he exists, to leave his name off the birthcertificate. What is your opinion or advice? Would you erase the person from your life.. if it meant protecting an innocent life?
  8. lilcherub
    How long does one in love wait to be with there heart? My Man = My Heart. 2 months, 6 months 3 years forever........ Everyday spent apart, feels like a sentence to life in prison. The world around you seems to be moving, but your world its at a stand still waiting for that one word to make all things go in motion. Loneliness.longing for that touch, for that kiss for that reassurance that what you have is real and your not living in a dream... that any moment you will awake at its all a nightmare. Confusion on how you feel when you go out with your guy friends, knowing you miss the feeling of being held in strong arms....confusing how you feel about your LD Love....... All brought on by lonliness.............. wondering how many out there are going through what you are, and how may are able to stay strong and focused on there heart. Missing the intimacy of two people in love with each other...... wondering if its cheating thinking of being with another..... Temptation growing stronger, but you don't give in.......... When it comes down to it your torn between two. Your heart and Your Sanity
  9. lilcherub
    Give all your troubles over to God......... if you are meant to have a wife by your side while doing god's work. Then God will make it possible, he will put a partner in your life that will understand a life without material possesions being a factor. Trust in God................... With god all things are possible even those that seem impossible. Lilcherub
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    Myself personally I have not, I would like too say that still being a virgin at 25 is very honorable and there will be someone out there that will love you for who you are and appreciate that you have waited this long to be intimate with a single soul. I have had many friends who have found true happiness and they waited till they found the right one before they gave themselves completely. Think of all the things your saving yourself from worrying about, unwanted pregnancy(yourpartner), Std's, HIV..... the list goes on for things to worry about for those who have given in and given up their virginity.. SO its not to late to find love at your age........Don't lose hope all will work out in the end.................In Divine Time. When one door shuts another will open..... Lilcherub
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    Betrayal,rejection,hurt, just some of the feelings I have had in the past 14 hours that I have known how my roommate truly feels about me. You see my roommate was my friend before I moved into her apartment with her.(She was the one who made the gesture of wanting a roommate to begin with) And before she was my friend she was my supervisor for one day when I was working for this clothing store and they needed a fillin at another location. Anyway bottom line is that she has told me that she cannot live with me that she is to anal, that she has always had a hard time living with people because she is too set in her ways. She knows full well that right now financially I can not afford to get my own place, before I moved in I had living on my own in my own apartment, and gave that up to move in with someone I considered family, like a big sister because I thought it would be fun. Before I moved in something catastophic happened to me at work, I tore a ligament/tissue in my foot and have not been able to return to my three jobs since. I have been living here for 4 months and now she is springing this on me. She says she has never been able to live with other people, that she had roommate when she was younger and that didn't work out. She is sorry for the inconvience. That she is not going to kick me onto the street, but that she wants me out ASAP, and she gave me a deadline of tomorrow to tell her my plans on what I am going to do. I have cried, I have vented, the thing that hurts the most is that she has known from day one that it probably wouldn't work, thats what makes things hard. She hasn't said a word to me since last night accept asking me if my fiancee called hoping that he will come to my rescue and fly me out to be with him so she doesn't have to feel guilty. Oh yeah weeks ago, she told me maybe I should get my own phone, wait a minute(its in my name) I hooked it up before i moved in so she would have a phone. And I also pay half the bill *LOL* and she has the nerve to tell me I have to get my own phone line. Should I walk away from this friendship?Is there anything to salvage? Oh yeah and would you cut the houseline phone off if it was in your name. Please I need advice.................. cause I thought she was my friend....... and now I don't know what to think.
  12. lilcherub
    First of all I want to welcome you to this system as i see that this is your first post. From what i have read in your post you find yourself attracted to this girl, what you need to do is figure out whether its just a physical attraction. As i see it your at a new school,so your a new face and who knows maybe she is attracted to you to.Your youngand have plenty of time to get to know her if thats what in the cards(meant to be) what i mean is that is still early to be making a fuss over a girl you barely know, if you like her and she has a thing for you,wait it out let her come to you as right now she is in a relationship(dating) be her friend for now,get to know her before you become to infatuated with her outside appearance and something that cannot be at this time. lilcherub
  13. lilcherub
    Thats a tough one..... it could mean she is and you never know it could also be a way of expression for example , my boyfriend would kick my butt if I walked home late at night and didn't call him to get a ride. Don't read too much between the lines Lilcherub
  14. lilcherub
    It makes me feel good to hear that someone out there acknowledges and respect standing points in a relationship, its a good way to be. I wish you happiness it whatever the outcome of your relationship is meant to be. Stay strong and keep focused to what you talked about in your post. Best regards Lilcherub
  15. lilcherub
    That was very enriching and what I needed to hear regardless of the fact I am not broken up yet. The balls still in my court on that one. I hope that you find happiness with your new girlfriend Best regards Lilcherub
  16. lilcherub
    To understand a little more........... I had no contact with his ex's until she found me online last night and told me about what he apparently did. Thankyou for the advice when he gets back home today I will approach him if thats what is the best thing to do. lilcherub
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    My fiancee is back home in Texas and has been for the past few months while I am stuck here in Canada. Last night I was talking to his cousin and neice who lives with him and they mentioned that he been drinking last night. That they had never seen him that drunk before. Anyway I was playing on the internet and one of his ex's saught me out to tell me online through messenger, that he was really drunk and he come over they did their thang,now he was sleeping in her bed. She told me to back off cause he's hers now. What to do? Do I believe her? Do I get mad at him? How do I approach him? Do I wait for him to tell me? I have never had to do this before when its someone I love. Someone please give me some advice? Lilcherub
  18. lilcherub
    Just tell her that you enjoy spending time with her and going out, but thats all your looking for right now. You value her and want her friendship. The truth will set you free. Lilcherub
  19. lilcherub
    I hope that you make her day beautiful for her, she is a lucky women to have you. From the way you describe how you have the whole thing planned I can tell your romantic. I only wish that my fiancee could have been more creative like you. I wish you both the happiness that a life long commitment brings and heres hoping~to her saying yes. Goodluck. Lilcherub
  20. lilcherub
    This is going to be short and sweet. Two things you need to realise. 1.Your so young you have your whole life ahead of you,9 out of 10 times when your younger your inlove with the idea of being in love. 2. Highschool is a time to have fun get your education, not be talking about having babies and getting married. What you need to worry bout is the grades and your future career choice. Marriage is for later down the road. Lilcherub
  21. lilcherub
    The best advice i can give you is to be patient and realise that depression is an illness that will never go away, it can be treated, you can recover and not be affected so much but that requires heavy does of medication to control your moods. I wish I could say it will be easy for you but I cannot, and I wish I could say it will all work out but it may not. All I can say is that you need to be a friend more then trying to rekindle a relationship. And be there if she needs you, realise its about her and not about you anymore, but also don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of. Frome experience thats all I can give you for advice its not much but I hope that it can help a little. lilcherub
  22. lilcherub
    Look life is precious, you need to realise whatever it is that is putting you into these depressed moods, and snap out of it. Life is worth living if you make the effort. As for engouragement, I encourage you to do one good thing for yourself today and see how that makes you feel. And do one good deed for another and see how that makes you feel. And remember why it is that you are you and why everyone around like your parents all love you. Lilcherub What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
  23. lilcherub
    Smile There is nothing like honesty, be straight with her tell her that your interested in her as more then a friend, if she feels the same way she will respond if not, you'll just have to accept it and move on. Besides its not always a good idea to get involved with someone you work with. Thats all I can say in your situation. Lilcherub
  24. lilcherub
    Two things if your safety is being threatened then do whatever is necessary to protect your safety. If you have evidence that your safety is being threatened ie telephone message or a letter then call the police. Have them file a protection agreement on you restraining order if possible. Even if that means that the guy threatening you gets transfered to another school then by all means you need to do it before something happens like what happened to those kids at the other school who got killed by another student in there school. Lilcherub
  25. lilcherub
    Girl you need to love yourself first, your deisre to get into a relationship is purely to feel better about yourself. In order for a relationship to last it require both parties involved to have good self esteem to get through any problems that may arise. Your young, you need to worry about school, not boys. I was young once too, and desired to have a boyfriend in highschool. But I am glad I didn't because it would of interfered with my studies. You need to focus in your life right now and when its your time it will happen for you. Please just be careful, guys prey on the needy girls the ones that have problems with self esteem. And searching for an older guy will get you hurt because they are on a different wave length then you. PLEASE THINK ABOUT WHAT YOUR ASKING FOR. Lilcherub
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