MollyElise

If you will look at my statement, I did NOT say that a person with education has only gained a piece of paper. BUT that a person without a formal education can achieve all levels of knowledge that someone with an education can. As to doctors, even with all that education, even with that piece of paper, they are still wrong sometimes, they still mess up, people still suffer miserably until they die. AND on top of that, a doctor would not be a doctor without that piece of paper, that would defy the definition of a doctor. K - I got more, but I have to get some work done today

Your cervix is the opening to your womb. It is at the top of the vagina. When you have a pap smear, the dr. takes a "smear" from the cervix. The only time I have felt my cervix was during sex, and that is the pressure you feel during very deep penetration, kind of feels like the end of your vagina, like a wall. I don't like to have my cervix pushed on during sex. But I don't think that it would hurt you. If there was to be damage it would have to be a force much stronger than just from sex. Like I said I know my gyno pushes on it plenty! I have no idea why you would be having a stomach ache after sex. Your post makes me think that you are not very sexually experienced. IF that is true, I would say it is most likely your body reacting to nervousness. If this continues to happen then I would talk to your doctor about it.

couture - I am in a very similair situation, except Im the one in a relationship, with a guy at work that I would love to be dating otherwise! BUT we are just friends, I don't want to leave my dbf, b/c someone came along, I mean my boyfriend is GREAT, and I don't want to lose that. NOW if our relationship starts to suck, and Im unhappy, I will leave the relationship, then I can see what is available, but not before. He very well may like you, but LOVES his gf, by telling your sis that, he's setting up some boundries for you and him. Good luck!

O this is a favorite one of mine! =) Their are several types of education. During this post when I refer to education I will be referring to the formal education system that is most commonly in effect today. (BTW I live in the US). I think education is a crock. I think it is a system that controls, scares, and manipulates society. I think that the only thing a person without education will deffinately lack is a piece of paper. I think that all people are informed of the opportunities that exist, but I do not think that all people are offered those opportunities. I believe that many of the world's problems stem from education, people are told that what they are taught at schools is infallible, absolute, pure; BUT the truth is, it is a person's view, very often their information is wrong! I think it is ridiculous the importance that is put on formal education. I believe there are some lines of work, that yes you will need a lot of knowledge and information, BUT a degree does not prove that! I think western education has been overly influenced by western religion, and that it has taken over the role that the church used to play. Now our education system tells us what they want us to know, they way they want us to know it, and it's right. In general, education today does not encourage free thought or real growth. The US education system encourages you to grow and think, as long as its within their defined boundries. I would like to clarify, I think that knowledge is wonderful, I think that research, thoughts and questions are magnificent. I believe in learning!!! I DO NOT agree with Americas education system. that's my $0.02

I agree w/ hubman01 move on! no good here! My first (and thank goodness only) heartbreak took me almost 2 years to really get over (and we were only together 2-3 years!). Just keep going on, but be aware of your weakness still! My normal formula is X=amount of time dated 1/3X=amount of time to get over a serious love... of course there are factors that change this formula. SO I figure you got about 11 more months of really having to fight against contacting her, but by Christmas next year you'll be totally healed!

well I probably agree with Gilgamesh and avman on this one. BUT first off, how old are you? have you had relationships before this? How long have you been together? do you live together? Thanks!

I don't think this guy sounds very trustworthy or understanding. I think that you are SMART for not trusting him, until he's earned it. Cheat on me once, shame on you, cheat on me twice, shame on me! Have you had similair situations in your relationships? Do you have trust issues in other areas of your life? Have you been cheated on or have you cheated in the past? You are not alone!

well can I ask, why don't you want to sleep with him again? For whatever reason it is, you will need to tell him, b/c he will probably want to be physically intimate with you (not necessarily sex, but more touching, kissing, etc than usual for a 2nd or 3rd date). You jumped the gun on this one, doesn't mean it won't work. I slept w/ my BF on our first date, and then felt very much like you, and wanted to slow down, I talked to him about it, but we still had sex the problem w/ sleeping w/ somebody too soon is it can set a precedent...

uhm I don't know about ADD, it's possible but no reason to come to that conclusion from what you told us. You said this was new, ADD is a disease you are born with and this would be normal if you had ADD. BUT I do think that there is something going on in your life you aren't fully aware of. There is no way for me to tell you what that is. When you start to feel like this, or afterwards start thinking, let your mind wander a little bit, then ask yourself questions, like why I am upset like this? Oftentimes I will hear my brain scream out the answer, such as "because Jane Doe is a stupid winch!" even if I am not aware that Jane Doe has upset me so much, (not necessarily a person, could be an event, a place or just a situation) I then ask myself more questions, like so why do I think Jane is a winch? b/c she hurt my feelings - What hurt your feelings? the way she treats me - How does Jane treat you? like a stupid kid - What is a stupid kid? Am I a stupid kid? Why would she think that? Just keep asking yourself questions, hopefully you'll find the answers, and if not, its a good exercise to help understand yourself beter. GOOD Luck!!

I wear different bras almost every day, when I feel crappy and lazy I wear my non underwire, aint "helpin" anything comfy bra, I have my white utilitarian for normal days, and days when I have something special going on or just want to look extra cute, I bust out w/ the pushup! Also maybe you could look into buying a bra that is kind of "inbetween" like a regular wonderbra, that way it will probably be more comfy (I know w/ the water bra, I am VERY uncomfortable and sweat ALOT! ewww) but still give you a little bit more, and would allow you to "transition" also I think if you start rotating your bras, including the water bra and a push-up w/ your sports bras, etc. nobody will notice except for you. Also guys aren't going to say anything, your girlfriends will if anything, and just say hehe o yeah I got a bra that does wonders, but isn't very comfy. Good luck! and remember you are beautiful no matter what size your breasts are!

Stacie - I could've written your posts when I was 15! It seems like the only guys that were attracted to me were older men! Well now Im (almost) all grown up and men my age do find me very attractive. I would suggest not worrying about it so much, spend as much time as you can with your friends. Good Luck!

I say give her your moms ring, I think the sentimental value if nothing else will get her. Maybe you could have a bigger diamond mounted in it? then have the original diamond put as a baguette or saved for the wedding ring. And about the platinum, the reason she wants a platinum ring is b/c that is what is in style right now, and styles don't last forever! Yeah I would replace the diamond with a new, big one. Good luck!

Well Ive known a few random people who did serious drugs, but nobody ever very close to me. BUT alot of the people who are close to me smoke pot, and they function as productive, reliable adults, so I guess a positive experience. My negative experiences with drugs have been pretty much limited to alcohol, now, I have seen people beaten, wrecked, sick, and just hurtful when under the influence of alcohol. SO maybe I'll start a lil debate, because I honestly think that pot is a safer drug than alchohol. In fact if I had children I would be more accepting of them coming home stoned than drunk. Thats my $0.02 Molly

I know my BF loveess orally pleasuring me, infact its a mutual foreplay, b/c it turns him on so much! I think it has alot to do with sexual maturity, I remember when I was younger hating having oral performed on me, b/c I felt uncomfortable and thought that the guy hated it. One day your gonna find yourself imagining the smell, and enjoying it.

''you can only truly love someone when you have learnt to love yourself.''...? 1: i was wondering what it means? I think it means alot of things, first off that if you don't love yourself, then how can anyone else? if you don't love yourself then you most likely do not treasure or respect yourself and most likely have traits that personify that. Also, if you haven't learned to love yourself, the only person YOU KNOW you'll be with forever, then how can you learn to love some other person, who you don't know 1/2 as well as you know yourself. If you do not love yourself then you will not be able to receive love from other people, at least not in a positive way, I mean how could you respect someone who loves you, if you don't love yourself? Also by loving yourself you form a certain self-respect, confidence, which is an attractive trait for anyone. 2: why you have decided on it? Because I have been in relationships where I didn't love myself enough, I allowed someone to hurt me because I didn't think I deserved anything more, because I know Im worth being in a relationship where true love can grow, mainly because not loving yourself is very scary. 3: and as a final question do you love yourself? if so to what extent? and has anything ever stopped you feeling that way? YES I DO LOVE MYSELF (as often as possible... hehe ) one of my favorite quotes "I want to run into my own arms!" (Jackie from 70's show) but I really do, honestly I wish I could meet more people like me. In the past I didn't love myself, I was embarrassed of who I was, don't ask me why, cause I can't figure it out! Not to say that I don't care and love other people, in fact I think the confidence loving myself has given me, has allowed me to be more open and vulnerable in my loving relationships, allowing them to grow. Molly

I think that if you were in that situation, you should say, we've been dating for a few weeks. I mean unless yall have made a commitment to each other then thats all your doing, going on dates, getting to know each other. I think that when you and the person you are dating can talk about your relationship and the roles, then is usually a good time to say "boyfriend" "girlfriend" b/c you've reached a point in your relationship where your working as a partnership and communicating.

I agree with what avman said, and after seeing how he acted after you didn't move, I would jot this one down on the, "Im sooo glad I didnt do that" list, by how easily and quickly he was able to dismiss your relationship, he must not have been as involved as he led you to believe. With his move and his divorce, I believe you may have been his rebounder. I dont think most people mean to get in a rebound relationship, its just that after so much hurt and pain its almost impossible to build a new, strong relationship.

Incognito, hun I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I went through an ordeal very similair. My mother has too many mental problems to list, but thankfully now is under medication and is doing really well. Unfortunately this is your mom, and you are still her child. She is an adult and you cannot force her to do anything. But honestly she's sick, its not that she wants to be like this, its what her body, chemically is making her do. I do not have any good advice, I do not know how I made it through (being told my father was Kareem Abdul Jabar, that the devil was hiding diamonds to tempt me, lining my room w/ noise booby traps in case she came in to hurt me) I REALLY DO UNDERSTAND. My mother and I are now very close, but during the time that she was so sick I had to stay as far away from her as I could. I believe that this is the best course of action for you and your brother, I think if she was well that is what she would want you to do if you ever felt threatened by ANYONE (that would include her). Im sure your mother loves you but has alot of personal demons and health issues to deal with first. I know its hard to see your mom like this, and that you want to help. But your mother is an adult, and there really is not anything you can do to help her, except for keep yourself safe, go to school, and know that she loves you. If possible see if you can help get your brother in a safer situation (maybe his father can let the school know about the situation and that she is not allowed to see him or come on school property). I do not think she should be having unmonitored conversations with him. Talk to your brother about everything going on, let him know that you love him, it sounds like he may be the only family you'll have as an adult, and you don't want to lose track of each other, which can be very easy with all the changes that both of you will be going through in the next ten years (just general growing up). Good luck honey! If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to PM me. You are not alone! Molly

Well I dont know the answer to your question, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone, I too would like to have more info on this subject due to the fact that I believe I may have some repressed trauma. I was unduly rebellious and promiscous until recently, also I have some other symptoms that I never realized were symptoms until some research, such as the fact that I am HORRIBLE with names, which is a symptom many people exhibit, several other things as well. Good luck with this, I hope someone comes up with a good answer.

Hello all, 24F, Texas, live w/ BF of 1 year for 7-8 months, very happy! great guy! love him! OK so thats me... now my situation thats clouding my mind is that there is this guy at my work, B, I first met B about 2 months before I met my BF, I instantly got the HUGEST crush on B, didn't talk to him, but would watch him walk down the hall, and just ddrrroooollll, he had just gone through a divorce and I jotted it down as a crush. I meet my BF things progress, I mean he's GREAT. WELL B and I have formed a "buddy" friendship over the last year. He is still one of the most attractive men I have ever seen to me, and I like his personality. I feel like some of our convos have deffinately been somewhat flirtatious, and I actually am beginning to think he might now have a crush on me! On top of all that, my boss was like, you know B sure is a nice guy, yall sure do get along well, telling me to date him! Now my work is pretty conservative, and my BF... isn't, neither am I really, but I am very professional and able to pull it off, he's not. I know the people here think I need to "do better" but he really makes me happy. Right now I am just kind of rolling down the river. But about once a month I have some incident w/ B that makes him the only thing I can think about for days! This is one of those incidents. Murphys law! Dream guy gets a crush on you when your in a happy committed relationship! arggghhh

I deffinately express myself verbally, I can talk and talk, it also helps relieve stress just to feel like someone can hear what Im feeling. Blah blah blah!

Maybe see if he's in a club that you could join? Or just try to "run" into him a bunch, sooner or later you will have an opportunity to easily begin a convo.

I would let her go on about her business. If you try to intervene you will be just a pest. She may be acting a little wild, but remember she is the girl that you love, and she will very likely pull her crap together, if not, theirs nothing you could do anyway. Good Luck!

Well I can't say for sure if she likes you like that, but probably. The fact that she is standing so close to you and using so much eye contact deffinately shows that she feels comfortable around you and most likely is attracted. Nobody chooses to stand w/in 1 foot of someone they don't like!

Sorry, but yeah he is a deadbeat dad, fact of the matter is, even if his son was with him, how would he be able to take care of him? A responsible father wouldn't lose his license, would have a job, and would see his son. The reasons why he hasn't done this aren't important, they are EXCUSES. He is a deadbeat dad, and will continue to be one, until his ACTIONS show that he is a responsible father. O and the mother is no excuse for him not being there for his child, even if she isn't, that makes him even more needed. The person who is getting hurt the most is his child.