MollyElise

Just dance around on the floor, look for girls you think are cute, try to make eye contact. Being at the club is all about body language, trying to talk over the music and alcohol is pointless. It's just a dance, you can ask a girl standing close to the floor, you really don't even need to speak, just kind of motion towards the floor while making eye contact and raising your eyebrow.

K - well I have little experience in this. What do I say?

K - well I have little experience in this. What do I say?

Hello all! I met a guy a couple weeks ago at a bar (while overly intoxicated), gave him my number, he called about a week after I gave him my number. I talked to him on the phone one evening and he seemed pretty nice though there were things I wasn't crazy about (he talked about $$ alot). Well he called me last Thursday right after work and asked me to meet him for dinner, so I went to the gym then met up with him. He seems like a really nice guy, but there were some things I didn't like, I wasn't really attracted to him (though not turned off), he had this really BIG truck, like I could walk under it big, and he brought his 4 year old to dinner, and again, he talked about money way too much (I should not know he gives his ex $921 a month in child support after 1 date). He called me on Friday night but I was in the middle of something said I would call him on Saturday, well Saturday was busy and I didn't call. He called back yesterday (Sunday) and left a VM. As nice as he seems he's not someone I want to continue to date. Do I need to call him to tell him this, or is it allright to just not call him back?? Thank you for your replies!

So.. I was on vacation and met this guy, he texted me that night about how great he thought I was, asked me to meet up w/ him and friends at a bar the next night, met up had alot of fun, kissed good night. Monday he texts me about how it was the best weekend he's had since he' s been here (2 years, here's the kicker he's a navy guy). We talk on the phone once or twice during the week says he wants to come see me this weekend the plans fall through due to his car being broke and relying on a friend for a ride. He goes out on the boat for a few days, returns Friday, calls me and asks me to come down, him and his friend will pick me up (3.5 hour drive, each way). I change plans, he picks me up, we drive back and hang at his friends for the weeked. Saturday he seems really distant, no physical contact, I start to worry that he's regretting this. We go out Saturday night to watch the game and he just starts gushing over how much he likes me, how he hasn't stopped thinking or talking about me since the last weekend, and how the more he gets to know me the more he likes me, tells me how him and his friend were talking about how "perfect" I am when I stepped away from the dinner table earlier. He says he's just very private and personally confident so he's not real mushy, on top of you type of guy, which I relate to as I am very independent myself. That night we have sex, very very good sex, he says the best he's ever had. Go to sleep, wake up. Who is this guy? VERY distant. His friend and him drive me back, he really doesn't talk much, his friend even brings it up. Drops me off, impersonal kiss. So I'm kinda like wazup at this point. Oh and his phone was blowing up all weekend. BUT he talked to his mom and some of his friends while I was around, and they knew who I was (obvious from this end of phone conversation) Monday noonish I text him "Thank you for such a fabulous weekend, I haven't stopped grinning yet" he replies a few hours later "That makes me feel good!", doesn't call Monday, doesn't call Tuesday, then calls today (Wednesday) in the late morning, with not much to say. I really want to ask him what was up on Sunday, but was at work and it just wasn't right at that time. I am really confused, I guess I am just one of those girls that really needs a call at least everyother day. I mean he drove basically 14 hours to see me, was a true gentleman, but then kinda freaked. Whats up with that! I am new to this whole "dating" thing Ive always rushed into relationships, and I think I need to learn how to slow down. So any insight into what you think may be going on would be appreciated as well as any tips or tricks to get me to cool my heels would be great to. Oh and if my ex is reading this, BUGGER OFF!!!

Cool, I'm so glad to get these responses! So... how/when do I let someone know that I am not into an exclusive relationship, one guy is very aware of it and is also dating other people. I haven't told the other two anything yet, but I have also made no reference to "looking for a serious relationship" or anything that would make one think that I am... Do I have to say it up front? My girlfriends have told me that I don't have to unless he expresses a desire for an exclusive relationship... I would prefer for them to be aware of my situation, anyone have any help with this?

Hello all! I am recently single (almost 3 months) and am really dating for the first time in my life. Previous to this I would start dating someone and fall into a relationship. Recently, I've worked really hard on my health, and thereforeeee my looks have definitely improved and I am being approached for my number and dates very often. This is fun, but confusing as it is not something I am used to. I am having some of the best fun of my life, living single on my terms in the fabulous summertime! I do not want to get into a serious, committed relationship, but definitely enjoy spending time with boys, flirting and having sex. I currently have 3 guys I am seeing and every time I go out I have others asking for my number. How does one handle situations like this? Is it okay for me to be dating 3 guys at once? I think anymore than that and I might go a little bonkers… I mean I like all 3, they all have things I enjoy about them, but at the same time I am not ready to settle down with any of them, or anybody really at this point. My idea at this point was to date them, one or two of them are bound to either piss me off, start not liking me, or in some other way leave the picture. I don't know, I sound like a whiny brat, but I don't want to totally screw up and be a total B***H, I just want to have fun… Oh and as far as sex, I'm not sleeping with all of them, but I have no problem doing that, I am a safety girl and if I want to share my body with someone, that's my business, so please no harpy BS. What do you think? MollyElise

Thank you for your responses so far. I think that moving out the sooner is better. Breaking up is hard to do, my emotions right now are screaming to stay with him, nice and safe. My head has told me and continues to tell me I need to leave. I need to allow both of us to find someone or thing better suited for eachother. It's just hard, and it seems so much easier to just stay. I get to questioning myself, but I go through this round and round, and I still have a little voice saying, you should leave.

Hello, I used to post alot, not so much anymore. I would really appreciate any insight, advice, or anything about my situation. It's one I knew I would face, but I don't know really how to handle it. First off, I'm 25, my BF is 27. I've been with my BF for a little over two years, our relationship progressed quickly and we were living together within 3 months of our dating. While getting to know him the last two years I have realized for many reasons he is not the man I want to share the rest of my life with. In all honesty I think I always knew this but hoped that I had misjudged. What makes this really awful is he is a wonderful man, great boyfriend, fabulous lover and all in all just a terrific person. Our styles do not complement each other though, we bump heads constantly. The life I would have with him is not what I want. But I really do love him as a person, cherish him as a friend and still enjoy spending time with him. So last night I broke up with him. We have been arguing alot over the last month and I have been honest with him about the fact that I am not happy with our relationship, he also has not been happy as well. This did not come as a surprise to him, but hurt him very badly. He is a very sensitive man and I really think this is breaking his heart, but that he knows it is what needs to happen. In the meantime, we share a 2 bedroom condo and a couple mutual obligations that should end within a month or so. We are supposed to talk about what/how/when we want to do what tonight. I would like to live toghether and share some things, but separate our lives in many intimate ways, such as not watching TV together in the evening, not sleeping together (both the active and resting kind). This would only be temporary until our obligations are done and we have both had time to find other living arrangments, say the end of April, beginning of May. Things we would continue to do our workout 3x a week(we are mid-training in a competition, this finishes in April). Continue to prepare and eat together (this will be the hardest part of singledom for me, I love to cook, especially for him b/c he enjoys it so much ). Maybe share some weekend, leisure activities, like movie, go to a museum, shopping. I am not planning on dating while we are in this transitional place, and would hope he would do the same. Also, I do not want to tell the whole world yet, but I know he will have a problem with this. I'm sure he's already told several people, he's the only person in my life that knows I'm even thinking along these lines. I've come to realize that I am a very private person. I appreciate any thoughts or notes. Thank you! Molly Elise

I think it makes no difference. That person, the one that you will spend the rest of your life with could walk through the door today, doesn't matter if you've had a relationship before. I think if anything it means you aren't wasting times on the ones it isn't. And my premonition is that you will have a girlfriend at some point before you turn 20. =) Good luck, and remember you are not alone!

I think you need to continue loving her like you have been. Respecting what she needs and wants. Not all roads are smooth, be true to her, yourself and the love that you feel. Find strength and peace in your feelings and try to understand that she feels torn. Good luck, and remember you are not alone!

I had HPV, was treated topically and now am totally HPV free. From what I understand it is totally gone, my paps come back clean. My doctor has told me that I should not have any flare ups, its been 3 years since I had a clear pap. I think the best thing to do is first off get the warts treated, then make sure you are eating a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water, sleeping 8 hours a night, and getting all your vitamins. Your body can beat the disease, so beef up your defenses.

yes thats a small clitoral orgasm. they only get better!

CONGRATS ROUTERX!! I am so happy, its kind of exciting too. I remember when you were on here asking for advice on asking her out. I am very happy for you!

Ive heard it takes 2-4 weeks of impregnantion for an at home test to be able to read the hormone levels - and tell that you are pregnant. Since it is believed that women ovulate 2 weeks prior to their period (which is when you would become pregnant) within a week after your missed period a test should be accurate. I took a test once and it was negative. I was like cool, went along my business. Few weeks later ended up in the ER for vomiting. Surprise! you're pregnant! =( so trust me you can deffinately get a false negative.

Thank you both for your comments. I took a walk outside at lunch, and am trying to put everything in perspective. Things will get better, and go more smoothly. It was good to get back to work today. TGIM, first time I've ever felt that.

Hi all. I need some views on my life right now. It seems like everything is just going wrong. I am not doing well at work. It seems like everywhere I turn their is a mistake, or I am not doing it right, or I forget something, causing me to feel very inaffective, and depressed. This came to a head last week when a co-worker confronted me with a situation that I was involved with (and frustrated with) and ended in me crying. I was very embarrassed and got in trouble from my boss. Wednesday night my best friend called me and told me that she is pregnant - illegitametly. I want to be as supportive as possible. I have told a few people, and felt like they judged her, and myself due to the situation. SO I went on link removed message boards (where I post frequently) and posted about the situation. Well that got ALOT of responses, the majority were negative. A few people who obviously think alot of themselves got involved and just made me feel like I am trash. I know I am not a mover and a shaker, or someone with huge intentions. But I don't think that my life, or lifestyle is something to avoid, or put down. My BF is right now in a very menial job, but he's kept it, makes enough to survive, and is satisfied. Fine with me, for now. I tried to talk to him about future career paths he would be interested in, since their is no chance for growth in his current occupation. I suggested that he look into becoming an auto mechanic, (he is currently a vacuum repairman). His response was, that it was too hard, he might screw something up. He is more interested in starting at the bottom rung of the retail ladder, and work up it. I have very little respect for retail positions, and do not like the idea of my partner working in that atmosphere. I guess I am being a snob, but I think everyone has to draw a line somewhere. Also my SOs mom was in town, staying with us all weekend. She got to watch me catch my stove on fire while trying to boil eggs, lovely. I just remembered that I am PMSing, that gives me some hope, next week should be better. If anyone has some words of wisdom (please nothing rude, or mean, about how dum, uneducated and worthless I am!!) I would appreciate it.

Break all contact with her. Delete every number you have of hers. Box anything you have that reminds you of her. Have a drink. Cry. Then do not contact her. Live your life. It will get better!

I think she's freaked out. She sounds like a virgin to me. If you want to continue seeing her I would do something that shows her this. Write her a sweet letter, or send some flowers. She likes you, she sounds very insecure. I would think long and hard before pursuing this girl.

TMA I do know that her personality, lifestyle, morals, beliefs and values all go against cheating. I know that her choices up to this point have supported what she claims to be. AND I know that Routerx doesn't need that thought floating around, all it would cause is negativity. She deserves his trust, she has done nothing to compromise it.

Hey Routerx! First off please disregard what TMA said, you and I both know that is not the situation with your lady. Secondly, I have friends who try to look out for me. And I can picture one of them saying that to me. I think you need to meet this guy, and then assess the situation. I think that you should trust your GF enough to believe that she is not being naive, that this man has no other interest in her. UNLESS something at this dinner clues you otherwise, which is why you should want to go meet this guy. Very likely he could be a nice older man who is concerned for her, and knows how sweet she is and just wants her to get what she deserves. I guess at the bottom of this is trust in yourself, Joy, and your relationship that whatever this "friend" is trying to do will only bring you two closer together.

I saw an article recently which said that their have never been any good studies regarding your metabolism slowing/shutting down at night. I think your metabolism probably does slow down a bit, but to the point of sitting in a chair. I mean all your vitals are still going. Will be interesting to see the results. I think a big part of this "myth" is due to people who wake up at midnight and have a 1,000 calorie meal on top of a normal diet.

Every situation is different with sex. Also you have to realize that to a girl foreplay is VERY important, if you make out for 30-45 minutes 5-10 minutes of sex should satisfy most women.

First off, it is impossible to "spot reduce" their is no way you can control where fat will come off, you can strengthen the muscles which will give you a better look, but riding a bike doesn't cause you to lose fat on your thighs, it causes you to lose fat throughout your whole body and can help the muscles in the legs tighten up (if enough resistance is used). I think your big downfall is your eating. Until you start eating more, more often you will not be able to lose weight. Only feeding it once a day will cause your body to use its reserves. I know this sounds backwards, but right now if your body goes after any "reserves" it will be going after your muscles, not fat, which will then cause your metabolism to go down, and you will not burn calories as efficiently. You need to be eating a minimum of a 1200 calorie diet. I understand that you do not have much available time to eat and exercise. But you have to realize it is all a matter of priorities. You have the time, but work and school are greater priorities to you. Is that how you want to live your life? If it is, then don't worry so much about this, worry about getting through school and getting plastic surgery later on. But if you want to be healthy you have to make it a priority. Try getting some healthy snack foods, good deli meats and cheese (roll it up, great snack), keep some boiled eggs in the fridge, raw nuts, granola mix, meal replacement bars, clean fruit, corn tortillas, drink lots of water (carry a big bottle w/ you), of course celery sticks, single serving yogurt, string cheese, single serving cottage cheese, tofu, jerky, maybe you can find a single serving soup in a cup you like, their are alot of healthy varieties available now a days. Just by changing your diet to eating more, small meals I think you will see your weight drop. Add in an hour of exercise (1/2 weights - 1/2 cardio) 3-5 days a week and you will see results. It seems to me that you think that work and school should be your priority right now, and maybe it should be. Maybe right now isn't the best time to start a weight loss program, if you do not have the time to devote to this you may end up discouraged and gaining weight. I have seen it happen before. Above all you have to learn to love yourself no matter how you lock. Good Luck, and remember you are not alone!

1: If something negative if happening in someones life, why is it that others around them try to portray that they are worse off instead of supporting? To let you know that you are not alone, that bad stuff happens, and that they understand. Its about trying to connect through similair circumstances. 2: Why are there political arguments on gay marriages but not straight i mean its only a sexual orientation and we were given free will? Because of our Judeo/Christian roots. The bible says that it is a sin, and as much as America may have separate church and state the truth of it is that our laws and government were set up based on Christian morality. Easier Questions: 3: What makes you feel positive? Loose pants, no lights on the way to work, money in the bank, being with my girlfriends, working out, accomplishing something. 4: Finally, whats your view on the world today? I don't know how to answer this. My view is too limited to see that big a picture.