MollyElise

I understand you don't want to tell your parents, cause they'll get their feathers all ruffled, but I think that is the best thing to do. Let them know that you would like to ask a girl to the game, BUT need to know if you'll have the tix first. Good Luck!

OK I live w/ my wonderful BF of almost a year. Recently I have had some health and legal issues that have cost me alot of money. Adding up to several hundred dollars. I also probably blew too much on halloween and BF's birthday, but nothing totally extravagant. Now I basically don't have enough money, I was short $90 on my rent and have been borrowing money for daily expenses from him. This is making me feel very odd, first off I feel incompetent, needy, and like a loser. The other feeling though is that by making me feel "lower" it makes him "higher" to ME, these are feelings I am experiencing, he is not holding this over me or anything like that. BUT anyways, feeling slightly indebted, and needy towards him has been a HUGE turn on! Throughout our relationship I have been more dominant, but this has kind of "turned the tables" and... yumm! Last night we went to get pizza and we had been talking about money, he got out to get it, and I swear that he looked the MOST attractive he ever had to me! SO uhm... is this OK it seems kinda codependent, but it also feels kinda warm and fuzzy. Anyone have anything similair or comments to make?

Ultimate_you. Your first post seemed like the guy was a jerk and I would say, maybe not abuse, but not a great boyfriend, if my bf did that I would deffinately be really upset. Your second post though, was slightly disturbing. Im concerned from your post that you may be in a very bad situation. What do you mean by "have a chance to get away". I think you need to talk to someone in your support group (do you have one? or are you isolated?) if this man is threatening to kill you, then YES he is abusing you. That is totally inappropriate. Abuse doesn't have to be a physical action, its about how someone makes you feel, words CAN hurt as much as fists. If you are hurting and scared of him, then you are being abused. If you do not have a support group, then please get in contact with SOMEONE a counselor, a shelter, the police. Good luck, you are not alone.

surfdog had good tips for form. Squats are great to build up muscles in the whole leg area. In fact squats are one of the best exercises you can do for your whole body, not only are your legs really working but so are your back muscles, and stabilizers (abs). I have done alot of studying on weightlifting during the last year, if you have any questions, please feel free to message me.

Finz! aww that gave me all kinds of warm fuzzies, especially b/c I can tell that you are looking at this straight, and will make a good decision! I never thought of enotalone as a tool like this, but I bet it helps you being able to go back and look at how he made you feel and being able to remember some of the specific things that went on. Good Luck!

Resident - First off I am very sorry to hear that your having these medical problems. I suggest that you go see a doctor, there could be any number of things going on, it could just be a fluke, but I doubt it due to all the other problems you've had in your reproductive system. Cysts on your ovaries can change your cycle but Ive heard of them INCREASING your flow. Please go to a doctor. If you cannot afford one, go to a public health clinic or Planned Parenthood. This could be very serious, please see a professional as soon as possible.

because you have a broken heart. keep on getting up and pushing as hard as you can everyday. Try to do stuff that he wouldn't want to do. Pick up a new hobby. Learn to enjoy your own company. Only time heals a broken heart. Good luck!

hmmm thats something I think I would keep to myself and my bestfriend for quite a while. Deffinately wait until he's said "I love you". BUT if you really believe that, then nothing will scare him away, b/c he is "tied" to you.

WChollin ~ I think that you are feeling overwhelmed and upset right now. Alot of things are buzzing in your head and nothing seems right. First off, it's all going to be OK! I understand you made a financial transaction that wasn't how you would normally handle your finances, and then hid it. I know and you know that you weren't trying to cause trouble, or do something bad, maybe it wasn't the best decision, but the good news is, it's only money, I think the more serious issue has to do with hiding so much information from your hubby. Why didn't you go to him when you realized that you needed more money? I think that is the root problem. Was it b/c you had spent some carelessly? You were afraid of his reaction? Or b/c you just don't know how to talk about or handle money? Whatever the reason is, focus on that, and trying to fix that. Goodluck hon!

I agree w/ Gilgamesh (like the pic BTW) I think he does really like you, but probably has been burnt b4, wasn't looking for a relationship, and then w/ you leaving for school. You dont need to be not talking to ppl b/c it will upset him, I think yall need a real heart 2 heart, his jealousy will prob continue to be an issue, but I think firstly yall need to decide to be in a romantic relationship. If ya figure out how to stop jealousy, let me know, k? =) Good luck!

Hey hun, your boyfriend is with YOU b/c guess who he wants to be with... YOU! Really, you need to not worry so much and enjoy yall's time together, not fight about him hanging out with his male family members! I mean gaaawww what if he didn't want you to go hang out w/ your aunt or sister, I mean REALLY. Give both of yourselves a break and KNOW that he loves you, hey and have a GREAT time out w/ the girls. Maybe see if you can join them for dinner or hang out for an hour or two (but then really leave afterwards with a smile and a kiss) Good luck!

Mike-E-Mike... I don't know where you got that information re fat turning into muscle, but it is TOTALLY 100% WRONG. I would agree w/ the guy who said don't use it for a long time. Also w/ everything people are saying about water and if it over taxes your liver then please be sure to drink TONS of water while your on it. Good Luck! Beefcake! Beefcake!

1. Have you ever been in a relationship where you had to hide your feelings for each other? No, but I have worked in an office where there were "secret" relationships going on... everyone at my work could tell there was something going on. Its prob easier if you don't actually work hand in hand and the bigger the company the easier prob to hide it. 2. We all know that a relationship involves compromising for each other. Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt you're the only one who is trying to make things work out (All your partner wants is the benefits from you compromising and never give anything in return)? YES unfortunately, I think that this uneqaulity usually stems from one person being more "into" the relationship than their partner, I would say the only way for this situation to change is for the taker to WANT to be more involved and giving, no way you can make someone care and give more without being abusive. 3. When would you say if you're partner is a little overjealous/paranoid? I would say that when/if my partner made me feel like he was being overjealous, I mean alot of times it has to do with little things, but basically if my partner is trying to stop interaction btwn me and anybody else I think that is being overjealous. GALS ONLY: 4. Ladies, in your opinion, when would you say when a guy is: -Needy? if he's constantly asking for things (not nec material, but time, attention, etc.) -Stalking? if he's watching or tracking me somehow without my knowledge -Snob? if he thought he was too good for my friends or anything about me -Just showers you with the right amount of attention. when I feel loved, supported and all warm n fuzzy BASICALLY you cannot force anyone to "be" a certain way in a relationship, they are acting on their FEELINGS and as we all know those can't be controlled. Good luck with your boss, you had to fight tooth and nail to get her, this is what ya get.

I think you should tell her, she should love you enough (as a friend) to understand. I think you won't be able to get over this until you tell her.

I agree with enadevoli, you need to see a doctor. BUT to put your mind at ease, it's probably nothing, an ingrown hair or boil. I have had a pimple like bump show up on my privates to disappear the next day once or twice, could be your body fighting infection... any number of things. If you haven't been fooling around then you shouldn't worry. I don't know if I would tell your hubby with him away and all, maybe after the dr. appt, but no reason to give him some info that his imagination could take over. Good luck!

I would end it with "I hope to hear from you soon, bye" or "Hit me back" or "until then" good luck!

O why won't us women ever understand! I have been in this girls shoes... break it off with her, b/c she is thinking you've changed your mind. Men tell women they don't want to be serious, and then she says Yes! thats what I want too! when what she really wants is to be in any type of relationship with you and then once you see how wonderful she is, and how nice yall's relationship is, that you'll realize that she is the one for you. I bet she is going NUTS wondering where your relationship stands, talking to all her girls about how much you seem to like her, yall act like a couple, and having all types of dreams of how it will be once you get over your commitment fears. Let the girl go, EASILY. goodluck.

Hey there OmegaMan ~ Firstly, what type of addiction are you dealing with, this may help... I understand if you don't want to say, but there's a huge difference between drugs, shopping, and eating.. ya know? they can all turn into addictions. I have beat 2 addicitions this year, smoking and eating. Whenever I get a craving I let myself know OK if you must then you will, but I have to do "X" first and will work on a small project, nothing stressful, just normal stuff, like wash the dishes, call my mom, cook dinner, wash my car, ANYTHING to get my mind off of it, usually by the time I finish my "project" I have either forgotten the urge or can control it. Now the second part of this is, giving in every now and then. With smoking, if I was having a few drinks I could have 1 cigarette. On the weekends I let myself eat 1 meal that I REALLY want. Its about realizing that you don't want or need this addiction, that you DON't want it. Good luck! remember everyone falls, its getting up that counts!

Sounds like she's one of the many people who is "Falling in love with a friend" you see people who are in her shoes everyday on enotalone. Now what do YOU think of her?

Why not consider spending some of your OWN money on your education? There are plenty of people who don't have the money or a first degree that need help to pay for college. I understand you may not want to foot the bill, but its to better you, why would it be someone else's responsibility? I am sure you'll happily take any raises that come along with your new degree.

I deffinately think you should give it to him!

It sounds like she realized you were right, she doesn't have time for a boyfriend right now. She has way too much stuff going on to be worrying about whether she's given you enough. If you really love her, then you should let her go, let her grow, let her live.

DaXMan - I understand that you would like a relationship with this girl, anytype of relationship. You are setting yourself up for pain and disappointment. Let her go, she for whatever reasons doesnt see the great guy that you are, maybe she needs glasses?? Dont worry its great that youve been open with this girl, you got your answer, now keep your dignity and leave her alone. Also please remember, it usually takes about 9 "No's" for 1 "Yes"

Route - I think instead of trying to figure out "who likes me?" you should figure out who YOU like and ask her out... no need to guess on that one

using antibiotics while on the pill can reduce the effectiveness of the pill. I talked to a couple docs about this and they've told me its a crap shoot. Most of the time antibiotics will not affect birth control. BUT there have been some instances where effectiveness has decreased. So can antibiotics affect your birth control? Yes antibiotics can decrease the efficacy of your birth control. Will you get pregnant if you have sex while on BC and antibiotics? Probably not, but do you want to take the risk? The factors that change the results are unknown at this time.