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  1. coollady1957
    Just out of curiosity how old are you and your GF? A lot of people have hangups about sexual fetishes that might seem a bit out of the ordinary. She may not feel comfortable talking dirty about her feet to you. As you have acknowledged, you have to decide where you priority lies. If she is a loving, caring, sweet GF and does as much as she feels comfortable with on the foot fetish, the maybe you can come to an agreeable ground on what she is or isn't willing to do on her own regarding the feet.
  2. coollady1957
    I too think it would be wrong for you to go out behind your girls back just to find someone to satisfy your total foot fetish. I agree with melrich in that you should think about what your priority is , and decide whether this girl you are with is most important or your foot fetish. Going along with Anna's post, I would also ask you ....or I guess I would say I am assuming that you are wanting your GF to do things to, or with your foot so that you can get the complete satisfaction from your foot fetish.
  3. coollady1957
    Yes, definitely keep us posted on lilac indi and how she is doing ,if she is not comfortable talking about anything here right now.
  4. coollady1957
    I wouldn't date her if you are going to have to hide it and be sneaky about it. I personally hate deception with a passion and if I were your cousin I would be very upset with you and his GF as well . Only see her IF they break up and then let him know that you want to date her. Otherwise, don't do it.
  5. coollady1957
    Enjoyed your poem. You a great knack for writing . Maybe it is something you should considered doing more of.
  6. coollady1957
    Great post sillygurl ! You had the right idea about the reasons to chose NC/LC in your case. That is what is is all about, figuring out what we need for ourselves. When are content and happy and come to the realiization of what we expect out of life and relationships then we can move on in whatever way life takes us. Good luck and best wishes on the continuance of your relationship if this is what you feel is right for you. After going back and reading your previous threads I think you are on the right track with taking it very slow and with much caution.
  7. coollady1957
    Enjoyed your poem and thoughts.
  8. coollady1957
    I agree with Annie, I dont think that you should try to talk this woman out of returning to work there. If you tried that route it would probably be found out by others and probably wouldn't look good on your part. It would reflect badly on you I think if you tried to persuade her not to return so that you could keep the job. I also agree with annie about talking to your boss and expressing how much you like it there and maybe something can be worked out to keep you employed there.
  9. coollady1957
    I am still lost on the part about " take care of you". Does that mean that everything is possibly going to be left to her, and that he has an oral agreement with her to give certain things , or money to you at his death? Even is she is the chosen executrix of the estate, if there is anything designated to you in the will, then she must give it to you. Sometimes a spouse will leave everything to the surviving spouse and to no one else and sometimes assumes that the person will share with other members of the family through a prior oral agreement. Many times that ONE person that everything is left to , will NOT "take care of" as you have put it ,or share just based on an oral understanding. If your dad and his wife only have an oral agreement, then I am not sure how that will hold up once he is gone. IF there is anything specific that you want of your dads, then if it is not specifically spelled out in the will then I am not sure she can be forced to give you anything unless she choses to. If there is a life insurance policy he would have to have you listed as one of the beneficiaries for you to receive any of the money directly. Otherwise if the wife is the only beneficiary then she may or may not chose to share a portion of it with you. Are you and your father close? Can you ask him to see a copy of the will or at least ask him specifics on what he intends to do with certain things ? Does your father know that you and his wife only tolerate each other for his sake ? If she doesn't like you for some reason I wouldn't be so sure that she will follow through with any oral agreement she has with your father. I am just throwing some thoughts out there, and not sure that it actually answers any question or concerns that you have.
  10. coollady1957
    Lady Bugg here on ENA might could answer that. I have no idea if it is possible to continue working without a license since you didn't pass the state board. Maybe there is a temporary license or something, I honestly have no clue.
  11. coollady1957
    Hello SG, Welcome to ENA. Whenever you are ready feel free to throw out there any questions or concerns you may have....
  12. coollady1957
    I am a little confused as well about the " take care of me" part. If there is anything that you father wishes to be done for you or given to you at his death then it should be in the form of a Will, stating whom is to get what at his death.
  13. coollady1957
    Sounds really strange for someone to not be upfront about when their birthday is. However, I guess it could be as some of the post suggests and he just doesn't like birthdays or celebrations. But then again, you said he was supposedly up for a cook out with his family and even possibly going out to dinner with his parents for his bday. He bounces back and forth about his birthday being Septemeber, then October and then back to September which just seems a little odd to me. How old is he anyway? How long have you two been dating?
  14. coollady1957
    Gosh I am blown away by that news. Celticghirl had just posted here this morning on the thread about your friend lilac-indi. I am very sorry to hear what happened to your friend celticghirl. How and when did this all happen with the car crash.
  15. coollady1957
    cinderelly , I have followed all of your threads and posts about this guy. Follow the advice given in the past about this Girl if I were you I would NOT even consider or give a second thought about getting back with this him. He is bad news and I think you know this already. Keep moving on with your life and let him be a thing of the past forever.
  16. coollady1957
    Don't keep waiting. Move on with your life. She is keeping the NC and you should continue to as well. Don't sit around wondering and waiting to see if she is ever going to contact you. Doing that is going to slow your healing and moving on process.
  17. coollady1957
    Ok I found out now that she is 5'2'' and is at 84 pounds, possibly less by now.
  18. coollady1957
    Kramper I have sent you a PM, please read and reply if you can .
  19. coollady1957
    You mention that she is 5'9'' tall . I think it was in her thread about not being able to gain weight she says she is 5'2'' ? Here she says she is 5' 2'' . However, from the sound of things going on with her weight dropping so quickly and the chest pains she is having, she should be seeing a doctor quickly .
  20. coollady1957
    Are you aware of any eating disorder she may have? This sounds like what it could possibly be. IF it is not an eating disorder it could possibly be a serious illness/ disease that is causing her weight loss. She should seek professional medical treatment without delay. She should NOT have to ask permission to see a doctor for her health. Whatever abusive relationship she is in needs to stop. But right now the utmost immediate importance would be to seek medical help NOW. Her life could be in serious danger both from the weight loss issues and from the control that some abusive person has over her.
  21. coollady1957
    You have tons of red flags popping up with this guy . Like I said before, are you sure this is the guy you want to be with? Sounds like a rocky relationship based on all that I have read. He just seem like a less than desirable man to try and build a life with.
  22. coollady1957
    According to your first post your husband doesn't seem bothered by your nipples. I don't see why you should feel insecure about them. I am sure they are probably not "ugly" as you put it. Seems most womens nipples are going to have the little bumpy parts on the areola and most are going to get a bit shrively when it is cold. All seems normal to me.
  23. coollady1957
    If I were you I wouldn't worry at all about him ranting about your talking on ENA. You say you have nothing to hide, and you also need a place you can go to talk to people about your concerns and problems. I have read back on your other threads( it took some time) , and the guy seems like a real jerk sometimes and I am not sure he is a guy I would want to be with if I were in your shoes.
  24. coollady1957
    {{Hugs }} to you Ren and my sympathy in the loss of Abby. You were with her today when she needed you most. I am glad that your brother is going to let you bury her at his house.
  25. coollady1957
    Definitely touching ! It made me cry and recall the day I adopted an older cat. The cat was 13 years old at the time. I had gone to the pet store where my daughter worked. The Humane Society had a section of the store that they used for pet adoptions. There were quite a few big dogs, puppies, ,kittens and a few grown cats. This one cat caught my eye right off. Everyone in the adoption area was "oohhhing and ahhhhing" over the dogs , little puppies and kittens. This one old cat was sitting in his cage and no one was paying a bit of attention to him, but he was watching while all the other animals got all the attention. My heart sank at that moment. I pulled one of the ladies aside and asked her about the story of the old cat in the corner. She told me that he had been given up for adoption by an old man that had cancer and could no longer care for the cat. She stated that the cat had been there so long that he was nearing his "euthanize" status. I asked her to let me hold him and pet him in one of the private adoption cubicles. He seemed so happy to be out of his cage, his ears perked up and his purred so contently when I held him. He seemed to love the human contact and attention. She and I sat there while she continued to fill me in on Spooky's story . Turns out Spooky had arthritis in his back legs and hips due to being so overweight and old as well. He also had some stomach problems and had to have a special diet. While we were talking he curled up in my lap and went to sleep. At that moment I knew I had to have him. We filled out the papers and they did the adoption screening and I came back and picked him up the next day. Spooky lived for another 4 years until he was nearly 18 years old. Even though he needed a bit of extra special attention he was a great ,loving old kitty that thrived on love and attention.
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