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  1. coollady1957
    After reading this thread I am still not understanding exactly what happened. I realize that the doctors have not treated you appropriately in your opinion, but we do not yet know much background about actually occurred between them and you that upset you. IF you feel comfortable doing so , maybe you could elaborate a bit and give us more detail of how each doctor visit became so horrible for you . Sorry you are having troubles with finding a doctor that will treat you in the manner you are expecting. Yes we all should expect to be treated with respect , and courtesy at the doctors, and be comfortable giving them medical history, or talking about health issues. Please let us know what transpired at your doctor visits that caused you to become upset.
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    robowarrior is right, we all have our ways of dealing with loss and difficulties. Sometimes it may seem cold and uncaring if we joke and dont sit around crying all of the time. I say whatever gets you through this is all ok. Some people may not understand it, but not much we can do about that part. i lost my husband three years ago and I have been through every scenario possible to oversome sadness and grief.
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    I agree that if you are going the home remedy route ,that a heating pad or something would probably alleviate some of the stiffness, pain, etc. along with maybe some over the counter pain meds ( ibuprofen) . Now you have me curious !! Are you gonna tell us what happened ? CL1957
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    Hello. I am very sorry that you are enduring physical and emotional ordeals. What are you doing now as far as professional help , mental and physical wise, to get your health and life back in order? I know that you want to be healthy so that you can raise your daughter and be around for a long time for her. Would you care to elaborate on what has brought you to this point thus far? You will find that there are many helpful and concerned people here on ENA. I hope the best for you and that you will come back and talk to us here and let us know how you are doing.
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    First of all I wanted to ask you how long you have been in the relationship ? and what is her age? It is great that you have been sweet enough to give her those thoughtful gifts and flowers already. I am sure they are greatly appreciated. Are you thinking along the lines of a gift for the holidays or just a gift in general ? The only thing I might suggest is not to go over board with giving too much too soon. Dont get me wrong I think it is awesome that you are so sweet to want to please her with little offerings of gifts. Sometimes as much as those thing are appreciated there is a line where it becomes too much. I hope that makes some sense.
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    I agree that it can become a bit awkward depending on who the people are that are touching your pregnant belly. It seems that for some reason people are just fascinated with a pregnant tummy and that there is a baby in there and some how they are just drawn to touching. As far as strangers ever having done that to me before, it never happened. However there were some extended family members that did do that. I am sure people mean well when they do that, but I was never comfortable with it. Of course my husband could touch and rub my belly anytime he wanted , which was fine. My daughter used to rub my belly when I was pregnant with my son. All of that was acceptable but I didnt want any others touching me.
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    It could be stress, or eye strain. I sometimes get an eye lid twitch or kind of in the corner of my eye. Most times I assume that it is something irritating a nerve in the eye area. Sometimes I will gently rub the eye lid or wherever the twitch is coming from and that sometimes stops it. However, I am not really sure of the cause.
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    I understand the difficulty of having to have a pet euthanized. I have had a dog that had kidney cancer and he was a long time pet and wonderful guard dog/ protector. He was like a member of the family. I have had many cats over the years as well that had to be put to sleep as well. It is always difficult to do that, no matter how many times I have had to go through it before. My thoughts are with you and I realize the empty spot you feel inside for you pet.
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    Eight years ago my daughter had a torn meniscus from a softball game injury. The repair surgery was quite simple and it was done on an out patient basis. She was prescribed pain meds, and was in a knee brace/support for a while, but was able to be up and around with the aid of crutches the first day or so. After the initial surgical pain was better after a day or two she was able to walk with out the crutches. The crutches were more or less just a support to keep the weight off her knee for a short time. She went through physical therapy for about 5 weeks, just to make sure the knee was going to stay in proper working order. It was a pretty quick recovery. Hopefully your husbands injury is not extremely severe and can be corrected with the simple surgery and therapy as well.
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    I am very sorry southerngirl that your family situation turned out as it had with your grandfather. I can only imagine how you might feel by not having been notified promptly of his passing away. My goodness girl you have been through a ton with losing so many family members in the past five years. I wish there had been some way things could have been different and you and your grandfather could have spoken and resolved past issues. You have been through a lot but I feel that you will be fine. Take care girl.
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    southerngirl , did your grandfather just recently pass away. I missed the thread since I was not on here but a few minutes yesterday. You have since removed the first post.
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    No I have never had PID thank goodness. If I were you , if you think or are feeling that there is a problem, I would be making an appointment quite soon to seek medical advice. Please take care of yourself and do not let any of your concerns go too long before getting checked out.
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    I wont give you any " I told you so's" either. I have kind of been there once where i met a guy and he was completely the opposite of how he had portrayed himself. There are many psycho's out there, but yet there are a lot of good decent people out there as well. I am sorry you had such a negative experience , but if I were you I wouldn't give up on finding a special someone out there eventually. I just recently about a month ago met this awesome nice guy. At that time I had basically quit looking and just decided that I would see what came to me in the future. I have played it cool and collected, and so far it is working out pretty good. I am sure in the future you will find a nice guy, just don't give up, but don't rush it either. After all, I am 49 years old and it is just like I am starting everything new again in my life. You are still young and have so much time ahead of you. I hope the best for you.
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    I am in agreement with the other posts. The likelihood of your getting pregnant under your circumstances would be very very slim to none. I wouldn't worry myself over it for the next month at all if I were you.
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    I have never been dumped. My first relationship was with my boyfriend who became my husband many many years ago. The only reason I am not with him is because he died Dec. 2003. I have been in one serious relationship since then and I was the one that dumped the guy because he was lying and cheating on me. I dont think he would have ever dumped me had I been one to have accepted his lying and cheating ways. He wanted to play both sides of the coin and have his cake and eat it too. But I wasnt gonna stand for it. So far I have not been back in a serious relationship since then.
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    Hi Dani, glad you are home. Take it easy and take care of yourself. Glad things finally got better for you...A lot of people were worried about you.
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    Oh I am definitely addicted. There is no way I could leave for 30 days.
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    Hello to you alwaysalone . I am sorry that you are going through this difficult situation. I understand how difficult it is to walk away from a relationship and from someone you have developed strong feelings for. If you feel you need to confront him be sure you have your thoughts together and what ever proof you feel you have. I have been in a quite similar situation to yours less than a year ago. My now ex cheated on me with women, he had cyber sex online and sex chats with women. He lied to me , tried to cover it all up. I too found accidently, when he left his yahoo messenger logged on one day after leaving my house, many messages, emails and chats on his ID. I confronted him and he continued to deny it, even when it was right there in print on the computer. I took him back after the first cheating episode, but behind my back he had continued his nasty activity. I just feel that when people have lied, decieved and cheated in a relationship , that is is then time to move on. As difficult as it is and as much as you feel like you will fall apart, most of us are able to recover and heal and go on with life. I am sure there are men out there that deserve you much more than this guy does. You yourself DO deserve a better man. If he has been sleeping around and cheating, I agree with the poster that suggests you do not have sex with him anymore and also get tested for STD's/STI's because you never know what he could have brought home to you. I understand you have deep feelings for this guy and you feel that you cant be with out him in your life. If he loved you and cared for you as deeply, then he would not be doing such things as lying and cheating on you. I truly feel for you as I have been through the same type thing. I got the courage to part with my now EX and move on with my life. The many great people here on ENA have given me much support with this as well as my family.
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    What a wonderful touching poem that is that you've written for your father. You have a great knack for writing. I am so sorry for your loss. I realize the difficulty you must be going through missing your father, especially on his birthday. . Not quite three years ago I lost my husband and the father of my children. It is always hard when those special times come around. My late husbands birthday will be Nov 10th and I can understand the feelings of missing a loved one that is gone. My thoughts are with you.
  20. coollady1957
    I agree with the others. It doesn't seem very likely that you could have become pregnant. I wouldn't worry over it too much between now and when your period is due to start. I highly doubt there is anything to be worrying over since you were protected with the pill, and the condom.
  21. coollady1957
    That was a very touching poem. Brought some tears to my eyes. I am sorry you have had to endure such heartache.
  22. coollady1957
    Manda , I so wish that you would come back and talk to us and let us know how you are doing. You are in my thoughts........sending you ((( HUGS ))).
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    Is Dani still going to get to come home soon? Who is it that has been helping take care of little Ian during all this and how is he holding up through all the daily activity ? I will be so glad when Dani is home and recuperating while enjoying her much missed time with little Ian. She will certainly need to take it easy and get her strength back and not do too much too soon.
  24. coollady1957
    I see nothing wrong with tattoos. There will probably be some people that recommend not getting one at all. I wouldn't tell you to get one or not to get one. But if you do get one, be sure you fully think it over on what you want and where. Be sure you go to a reputable establishment and inquire about their health and safety guidelines that they use while tattooing. I like the idea of visiting the place a few times and getting an accurate idea of what you are wanting and discuss it with the tattooist. My son is 20 yrs old and he got his first tattoo at age 18 and now has ten of them. My daughter is 25 yrs old and got her first one at age 18 as well, and now has five of them. They both have tasteful and well done tattoos. I never told either of them not to get one. Afterall they were adults and of legal consent age to get one at age 18, so the only thing I did was advise them of the safety aspects and permament aspect of getting tatts and then they made their own decisions. I find tattoos to be quite sexy even though I do not personally have any. I think that if they are not offensive and are tastefully and professionally done that they look great.
  25. coollady1957
    That's great news that things have improved so much and she may be home soon. I can't wait to see pics of Little Ian.
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