coollady1957

I have started dating again recently. Nothing of a serious nature, but have had a few dates where I met a few guys for dinner after having talked with them on line ,through emails, phone calls, and etc for a while. A few of them have been people that I met through an online date site a while back, where you post your profile and wait for potential matches. I notice that many people and mostly guys will put in their profile that they seek an "open minded and adventurous" female to date and become involved with. At times I have scanned through some of the profiles of women and rarely do you see a woman saying that they desire "open minded and adventurous males". My question is this. What do most of you guys define as being "open minded and adventurous" in a woman ?? I have found that most of them say that this is what they want in a woman, but few of them can actually tell me what that means to them. The ones that HAVE offered an explanation usually come out with a comment such as ...." You know , in bed, sexually open minded and adventurous" ..... or some other comment along the same lines. No explanations of being open minded and adventurous in other areas of life and relationships have never come up with these guys that want open minded and adventurous. It seems the majority refer to the open mindedness and adventure only in the sexual context. I am not trying to make any generalizations about guys. I am only stating what I have experienced so far. So what do you all ( men and women) think? Give me some thoughts . I have just been trying to figure out what guys mean when they say this, since few of them offer to elaborate on what they mean and when they do it seems to be sexual in nature.

I am so very sorry for the difficulties you have had to endure over the past month. It is certainly a disheartening and scary thought to realize the violence that is out there in our world, and why people choose to do such things. Please take care and come here to talk with us at anytime.

Congrats on your weight loss. Ten pounds in 6 weeks sounds like a healthy rate for losing to me. I have always heard that between 1 - 2 pounds a week is healthy but no more than that in a weeks time. So yeah, 10 ten pounds in 6 weeks is good. I am currently trying to lose some more pounds myself but I have come to a bit of a plateau and am getting a bit discouraged. I am sure you will reach your goal and I am pulling for you.

He will certainly be in my thoughts and prayers. as well has his family. It is so sad to hear that this has happened. It hurts my heart every time I hear of one of our troops being killed or injured. I daily keep all of our troops in my prayers. I have been through having my son age 20 , in Iraq for a year , whom just returned safely in July and now my young cousin age 26 is in Iraq just outside Baghdad.

Wow your tummy has grown !! How cute !!!! I know you are excited that little Ian will soon be here. I can remember how I felt 25 years ago when I had my first baby. I can't wait to see pics of the baby. Be sure to take lots of pictures. They have a way of growing up so quickly, right before your eyes. It seems like only yesterday that mine children were tiny babies, and they are now 20 and 25 years old. You were mentioning the amount of weight that you have gained ,,,,,,,,, and I remember my mom told me that when she got pregnant with me, that she weighed 120 lbs and was 5'8'' and she only gained up to 134 pounds in 9 months. I was born at a healthy 7-lbs-13- oz . Good luck and take care girl. I hope the best for you and your husband on your journey as parents to little Ian. Babies are one of the most precious things in life. Treasure every moment.

I just wondered how this situation is panning out. Did you make any of those phone calls to child welfare services? I have been quite concerned over this little girls welfare.

I completely agree with Hoss. Since it is only the second date, in my opinion ,I would just meet him at the restaurant this time for sure. Hope you enjoy your date.

^ I agree with Annie on this. I think it would be worth a shot to give it a face to face meeting before you decide. I have met quite a few people where their photo or even a web cam did NOT do them justice. Actually I met a guy about a week and a half ago that I had communicated with only by emails, IM's and phone calls , and just on the friends level with for nearly two years . I had seen his photo's and webcam and he struck me NOT as ugly, but not one of the most attractive guys out there , just by looking at the pics and cam. This guy has the most awesome personality, attitude , and tone about his voice when he speaks. He is very smart, hard driven and educated. The moment I saw him face to face , I was really blown away by how he looked so much more attractive in person. Actually he was more than just attractive. Along with having that great attitude , confidence and since attitude, he was what I would call "hot" after all. So bottom line , in my opinion don't just take it that his looks are exactly what his photos show. I have experienced that first hand , so I say give it a try and see, you might think he is quite attractive or even hot too ,once you see him in person.

Southerngirl, have you decided on going to the doctor yet? I can certainly understand your fear of going ahead with that next step to see the doctor. However you fear getting some form of cancer, so I urge you to go ahead with getting it checked out. Best be safe than sorry that you didn't go sooner.

I don't think it would hurt at all to bring a little something. Ask your girlfriend is she has any ideas of a small something you could bring. I think a single flower would be nice, PROVIDED her " granny " isn't allergic to them. I think though , if you want to impress granny, just be on you toes, be quite respectful in nature and gentlemanly. A lot of the older ladies really appreciate that kind of thing. How old is this grandmother by the way ?? Is she a very elderly lady ?

Can we help you with anything? Is this about the girl you have been posting about? Also , I wondered if you had not left yet for your military training you had mentioned in one of your other threads?

I am following the replies on this thread. I am going to be doing a couple of interviews myself in few weeks for a new job, so I am always up for tips as well.

I just realized you are the same member that posted about having excessively sweaty underarms as well. Maybe you have something like over active sweat glands or something. I am not sure how extensive all of your underarm and foot sweating is. I guess the best you can do is to wash with the anti bacterial soaps and use the deodorants/antiperspirant and powders to help. If it is truly a serious issue for you, ask your doctors opinion.

^ Exactly what I would have said.^ The only thing I might add is that my grandmother used to always say,,,,, that after you wash your feet and dry them to apply rubbing alcohol to your feet , let that dry, and the either use a foot deodorizing spray ,but maybe preferrably a foot powder.

I hate to hear that someone started such as this. I was afraid this would be the outcome. I am just glad to hear that is seems that no one actually lost their life.

I am glad you feel you got an answer to what was wrong with him and why he was talking and acting so strange. But I too wonder, like Annie, why did he take so much of the cold meds? How much is a " ton ". Did he take it too often or too much at one time?

This is coming from the parents viewpoint. I am the mom of two kids age 25 (daughter) and 20 ( son ) . So I have been though all of the same scenario with mine and wanting to hang out with friends. My thoughts are based on the age you said you are which is 15. Much of my allowances for letting the kids hangout with friends was based on how well they were doing in school, and how responsible they showed me they could be. Such as coming home at the designated time when they hung out during the week. They were allowed once during the week during the months that school was going on . They were also allowed a weekend night with friends. Keeping curfew was of utmost importance. Also keeping up their school work was part of the plan. I think during school and on weeknights, that once week is fair. That is not to say that a friend couldn't come over for a while on a school night for a visit. If there was something special or different going on , there were always allowances made for those times within reason. It is not that parents dont want you to have friends and have a good time, but it is part of a parents job to make sure we show the proper guidance and upbringing. As you get older and show the proper responsibility , then yes, there can discussions about more time with friends and a bit of bargaining between you and the parents. That is as long as you hold up your end of the deal. True, it is really useless to try and " buck the parenting system" at age 15. Let me ask you this...... How is your school work holding up? Are you making good grades? Do you return home at the expected time when you are out with your friends?

I agree that it is going to probably going to be just a personal preference in most cases. Most females I would think wouldn't be opposed to it. It is a big turn on for a lot of men and women alike.

Hi,, sorry you have had to go through this. There is not much more that I can say that hasn't already been said. I can say to follow the advice you have been given , and dump this girl for good. She is no good. And definitely do not fall weak and go back with her. You deserve so much better.

I would want my guy to NOT be afraid of spiders. It wouldn't turn me if he were a little bit cautious about them but if he happened to be all "girly" afraid of them, I might tend to think he was "wimpy" . I am the one with the spider phobia and I'd need someone that would whack those nasty critters for me. I want'em dead. Every single one of them. NO trap and release for me. They have to lose their life if they are in my house. Other bugs I have no problem taking care of myself, but the spiders are a different story.

I would recommend seeing a doctor. It could be any number of things, including the appendix. You definitely wouldn't want to get a ruptured appendix. A bit of time has passed this morning since you posted this , so I hope you come back and let us know if the pain subsided and if you went to see the doctor?

^Slightlybents line^ sounds as good to me as anything to get your point accross and yet not have to explain in detail your thoughts and beliefs.

In my opinion I do not think it would be a good practice to indulge in the choking/asphyxia during sex. There are just too many risky possibilities of things that could happen. I am sure you would never intentionally take it too far, but accidents and unintentional things sometimes happen no matter how careful we feel we are being. Use much caution if you proceed with this activity.

I am also in agreement with Rose. I think if the signals are right and you are feeling the urge to kiss her, then I would say go for it.

I am very sorry to hear about what happened to your pet. I certainly understand your pain. I have lost many dogs and cats over the years and it is never easy.