mom-of-3

I have been marrried 21 yrs. Got married at 17 yrs.old, now 38. I feel my husband is at that point now (mid-life). Mostly because of $ problems. We can never seem to catch up.We have 13, 15, & 20 year old. children. Neither is a big spender so we can't put blame on that. I am in very good shape, but have several flawes I feel he can't overcome, stretch marks,not normal nipples. We just don't discuss them and we hide which is very unhealthy. Sorry to have gotten off track--- everytime I feel he is out of love w/ me I let God help. And everytime I feel like I am getting frustrated about how I feel, again I ask God to help. He is incredible. He has been there for 21 yrs. & turned things around for us. I need his help this week as well, as my husband is down about where we are in life. I hope you can think long and hard and ask for HIS help before you give up. Take care. The grass isn't always greener w/ someone else either.

I am a dental assistant. As the other lady stated, the ones that have the most fear are the military guys age 40-60's. My dentist is great!! We let the patient be in control, we will stop if there is any discomfort. Sometimes knowing you have some control helps. But fear is fear and it takes time to overcome it. I get excited when we have patients like you who finally begin to say -"I don't mind coming to see you." Don't stress over having the fear because it will be harder to overcome. Some patients don't like the needle, the noise of the drill ( use an ipod ), or are clastrophobic (sp?). Please do let your dentist know what bothers you. It really helps. Also, make sure you find a very kind dentist that you feel you can trust. Take Care. I know you will schedule and do great. Yes, it is a normal fear!!

Thanks for are your post!! I've needed to know that my nipples and areola aren't deformed. Only my OB/GYN, husband, and myself have seen them. I want to feel like I can flaunt them to my husband!! Thanks for the encouragement! I was told when I was 8 yrs.old and had a speedo on that it looked like you could play connect- the -dots on my nipples per a 12 yr. old boy. The bathing suit was fitted and they "all stuck out". It made me hide them ever since. But I am ready to Love them--I hope. Thanks again. I have wanted to have "areola surgery". Guess not uh?

Thanks you guys for your imput. Iam very insecure about them, but i guess I just need to love them huh? Thanks again

I have the ugliest nipples. They are not smooth at all. I have never changed clothes in front of anyone that my back wasn't towards them. My husband is caring about them to me, but i know he would like to look at pretty ones. They are rough looking w/ lots of mont. glands. (pumps) When cold and all they look like prunes.HELP! HELP! Breast are nice size and perky. Nipples -Yuck! I am told i'm an attractive woman. I am glad I can hide it to the world, but I want to give my husband what he deserves!!!!!!! Are all nipples Beautiful??!!

Are all areolas smooth? I have many small bumps on mine.They look old and ugly.I feel I look ugly to my husband,but he tells me no. He doesn;t always touch them & never tries to take my shirt off. he knows I don;t like them. But iwant him to love them. I have never changed in front of anyone, not even my husband very often. I am 38, been married 20 yrs. I have always hated my nipples, because of not wanting to be a turn off. I am a nice looking woman, heads do turn when I walk by,and I can hide them from the world, but I want them to be beautiful for my MAN!!! Should I opt for any surgery?i