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one door closes and another door opens. YOu are looking at it all wrong, focus on the NOW, what do you have to do NOW and enjoy what you have going on NOW. You hve to stop looking at the past and look at now and what you can now now to further enjoy life. I agree with RayKay when she says you are limiting your posiblities for happiness by limiting your options so much that it may not ever happen. You are going to have to re-assess what a relationship is all about within yourself. Relationship is about giving and taking and acepting. As far i see that you have fixed agenders that really hurt yor opportunities. Don't get me wrong, i am not suggesting that you jump into bed with the next guy that comes along, but if a nice guy comes along religious or not, virgin or not, check it out, you might never know the happiness that might come along.
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Tired of being the loser...Need help on attraction
Skippy replied to office_space's topic in Dating Advice
erhhh.. put simply when you snapped you showed that you have a stronger personality. It is attractive to women that men have strong personality and know where the line is drawn and stand by it. It isnt about being rude, nor being a jerk. It is about knowing where the line is drawn to YOU and not letting people cross it and standing up for where that line is. IT is just natural that people respect others that can stand up to their principles. If you are 'nice' and i use the term with inverted comma's, and you let people walk all over you principles and not stand up for it, how do you expect ppl to respect you even less a girl? You can but nice and still stand for you principles. Now i will say, that is attractive to men and women. -
bad idea..... be strong.... only contact her when you don't think about NC. Which means you are healed and can't be bothered if she ever wants to go out with you again. Which means months from now
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I Really Need Advice!! I Don"t Want To Hurt Anyone
Skippy replied to lostheart23's topic in Breaking Up Advice
tell THE truth!! tHE Truth hurts initially but in the long run BOTH of you will grow stronger and healther. Say you have been hurt by this relationship for far too long that you have decided that you dont want to be in a relationship with him. There is too much pain there. Tell him you are going to be out of state with a friend over summer to help heal yourself because that is what you need. Apologies for ending it like this but you are going to have to help yourself. Start NC when you go away as distance helps. DO not just disappear, it is a cowards way out and it is WRONG! About the new guy, be aware of the rebound thing which will cause you more pain. Right now any decent guy is going to be overrated as you are breaking up. Hope this helps BTW. leave out as much details about your 'friend' when he ask. (cos he will) say that it doesnt matter who it is and stick to the subject which is endig the relationship. -
i agree with you the beyondthesea... but i still think there is more, alot more. My question is, how is she in the area of respecting her mother? has this always happened since childhood or only when she hit her teens?
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yes shoes are important. Dont go and buy any BRANDEd shoe because each shoe is designed to accommendate different pronation. (rotation of the foot when your foot hits the ground). Types of shoes also take into account high arches or low arches. If you are a runner it is important to invest in a good pair, after all you feet is going to holding you up for the lenght of your life. (Whether in pain or not isup to you) It is a simple procedure in which you can take at any GOOD shoe shop. They would have a coputer tht would read your stride, which would then recommend the type of shoe that would fit you. You will pay a few bucks extra for the shoe compaired to the competitor shop outside BUT u will not regret it.
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hmmm... is she provoking her mother? Is it that she is on the phone and ignoring the mother the provokes her mother to react. Somehow i have a feeling that there is alot more to the story, after all we are as 3rd person news.
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shin splints are directly related to you shoes that you are using and whether they match your running style OR the age of you shoes.
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LDR are hard and frustrations are built up. You may think that you can put these small things aside butthey build up. Talk everyday, be open about each others feelings and dont give mix signals.
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Momene, Haw haw haw, this generalisation this is goig to haunt me right ? and you are notgoing to let me forget it huh? but seriously, i am interested in the statistics when it comes to men coming on this board a expressing themselves about their relationship breakups. Reason being, does being anonymous increase the likely hood of men expressing themselves more, or is it a fact that the male gender doesnt express themselves as much as the female gender?
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iamteddybearfeelmecuddle, Actually, i was quoting thegirl_20's statement when i said it was an excuse. It had no reference to you and your statement. The simple fact that when you start to look for something better you should have ended the relationship you are in because it isnt forfilling you. Now as for you, i have no idea about your situation, you didnt state that you were looking for something better. (though i think you should IF someone is abusing you) but again i say, i dont know your situation. We should however get back to the point of not hijacking this post.
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Is there anone here that can tell me what is the male to female ratio in the forum? What the the ratio of male coming in the relationship/ breakup section which is the dumpee.
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The is just an excuse. WHen you start to look for something better you should have ended the relationship. it is just self explainatory. basically you do not love the person, you are only staying round till someting better comes along. It is wrong not for the relationship but for yourself too.
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My boyfriend's ex is driving me crazy
Skippy replied to Aschleigh's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
in understand what you are saying... but to be honest you are in no position to ask your boyfriend to ask his ex to leave his parents house. the ex has a relationship wih the parents, it is their house. You will be viewed in bad light if you think you can pressure your bf to ask hs parent to ask his ex to leave their house. you just be viewed as a control freak. Hmm, you are obviously an independent women but this situation cannot be handle according to only just your liking. this situation has 5 parties in it. YOU, Him, ex, father, mother and possibly siblings. Complicated. QOUTE: I think my boyfriend's loyalty should be to me and making me comfortable when I am in his town at his home. Wrong, you are going to visit his parents, it isnt about you, it is about you fitting in his families life. It looks like the family has adopted the ex as a daughter. You are going to have to handle it. Looks like you are not negociatable with this. You just want the ex out. seems that is visit has friction written all over. They will not ask the ex to move out for you. IF you are going to continue with this issue you ARE going to put yourself in bad light with the family and the relationship with you current bf will turn sour. My suggestion is, accept it, this trip isnt about about you, it is about introducing you in the good light to the family. If you sulk about this the family will spot it and again i say it... things wil get sour. -
My boyfriend's ex is driving me crazy
Skippy replied to Aschleigh's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
i think you are wrong there. your are judging her from your own experiences in life. You can't in this situation. Obviously this girl means something to his family. You might be able to expect him to tell her to move out to a hotel, BUT you can;t expect the parents to extertain YOU. This girl has a separate relationship with his family that has nothing to do with you OR her ex (your current bf, their son). hmmm, i think you are not seeing the bigger picture, you are seeing what you want and not consideing him, his family OR her. From the way you talk about what you want, ou have already planned out the structure of what you see in your relationship and you expect him to entertain you. Be careful of that. There is an age discrepancy between 2 of you, as you have said you have had 15 years of relationship experience while he has had alot less. You have to let him try to figure out and at time tolerate his mistakes. If his family sees you telling him what to do, you will become the enemy. He has some growing up to do, you have to realise that and give him the room to. For you, my advice is to understand that this is not only your and his problem, she is staying at his family's home and HE cannot tell her to move out of this Father/Mothers house. It is that simple. You are in a situation that you will haveto meet this 'special' friend in person and get to know her. Watch them when they are together and see whether he has chemistry with her. I see that you just dont want to handle this situation, but you are gong to have to meet his ex. Controlling him to get her out of view will not help in the long term as his ex has a close relationship with his parents and thus, may continue to be in his life. The choice is yours, this situation is as such, telling him what to do isnt going to help here. -
MP Meridien My opinion is that you are cheating. the reason you are not sure is because you have created a situation where you confused yourself. You cant talk about long ter commitment if you cannot commit to only one person emotionally. Put simply, youcant blame the first guy because he cant choose because you yourself cant choose either. If you go out with the second guy, you will putting him in the position you were with the first guy. What i am saying is, you don;t know were you stand with long term relationship either, until you do, dont blame the first guy for having goals for his future to secure his life and his future relationship. I think the first guy has his priorities striaght. His future looks to be set. My question is... where are you? and where do you wantto head?
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If anyone say that, i am outta there, because they are comparing and measuring 'love'. You cannot measure it. everyone has different values. it just tells me that the person is calculative and contolling.
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maybe it is your approach and your attitude that scare them away??
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I agree with you whole hearted, but why create this situation? End the first one before you start another. It is all about self control. I feel it is weak and selfish when this situation arises.
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generally 3 above my post. If you take the posters' post into context, a situation of falling "in like" with another person can be controlled. I suppose if am attached and a women comes up to me that would threaten my relationship i would control the situation where i would not fall "in like" with the person. I dont feel it is ok to be torn between 2 people. I maybe talking crap.. but my excuse is that it is 2am in the morning
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re we doing this generalisation thing again.?? hehehe
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My boyfriend's ex is driving me crazy
Skippy replied to Aschleigh's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
get out. dont look back WWWAAAAAYYY to complicated -
I disagree with the others. it is wrong when you create a situation where you end up being confused with liking 2 guys. You created a situation that compromised a relationship between 2 ppl by introducing a 3rd. I believe in self control and moving away from situation that may comproise a relationship. But i may be wrong.
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clearity comes when we manage our expectations and know our priorities.
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hey redhook, i an sorry to hear the it didnt work out. Hope things get better with you