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  1. Skippy
    It has alway been that an engagement ring is not a present, it is a promise of marriage, a contract. Even though you proposed on valentines, xmas, or what ever the season, an engagement ring is seen as a contract by the state and not a present. If the marriage failed to occur the contract is void and all property is to be returned. It gives the woman an opportuniy to despute over the ring if given on valentines day if she says that she presumes it is a valentines day present, it then goes on to the man to prove oterwise. As you went on bended knee and you can prove it, it clearly signifies a wedding proposal.
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    remember you are not romeo saying and giving sweet sonnets, your are THE prince charming you do not need attentions from her she wants to give it to you.
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    sucking up doesnt work looks needy.. there is a guy on here that posted his attempt to win is ex back. it was a very details account. He made it his mission to win her back by trying tobe strong etc. I wish i could remember his nick. It would be a good idea for you to read his atempts. BTW, he went through hell and back, got her back etc. in the end ,. it ended. If anyone know that guy nick pls post it here.
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    forget about the flowers
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    hey, if you are goig to fight for her be smart and still have backup plans.. That means current evidence !!! As for yor tactic, you are heading the right way, be charming, be strong, be sure BUT DON'T LET HER WALK OVER YOU. That is the risk of being a gentleman, remember, you have to be charming, you have to be strong, you have to be sure of what you want without making yourself lower then a prince charming. Most importantly of all... YOU ARE A MAN. dont let her walk over you. Hope it works for you, there is one thing that you have forgotten in all this though. YOURSELF. your self worth is shot. somehow ou have to get it back at the same time as getting yor wife back. It is going to be a bumpy ride as hang on tight.
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    Take time off. give him room to breath and figure things out. Dont crowd him.
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    doesnt matter, it is an engagemtn ring right?
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    no you are not getting the point. you are too much in love with her. you should step back because when you were single, we didnt need conformation. Step back
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    ok.. this my sound stupid but try this.... You have survived without him, You have done well before him. So, right now you are looking for conformation of your value to him, = bad TO solve his situation, breakup with him in your mind. Step away. (this hurts for a day or two) I mean it. DOnt tell him. Just do it in your mind. then, go out with him again. YOu will get a different prespective of the relationship and your value. but you will still love him. Weird i know. but i have seen it work.
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    The reason why it kept coming up again and again is because he didnt trust you. He wants to trust you but he cant, because he knows that you have not come CLEAN. He didnt have the evidence so he tried to sollow it and relationships doesnt work that way. This is out of your hands, if you lie, it will continue coming up to haunt you and him. He will coninue trying to find out about it and thus it will poison your relationship slowly and it will KILL you relationship. My advice is to come clean, tell everything. The fact that you were stupid and you made a mstake. People are allowed to make mistakes. There is nothing that you can say to prove to him about you not sleeping with this guy so you have to stand strong and say that. you flirted but you didnt TOUCH. He will be Frigging mad, I just have to hope that he cools down and see the bigger picture. Repleat and stand your ground in terms of not having sex or touching, and admit you flirted no more. Stand your ground on that one. Admit mistake.
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    i agree that it is a red flag. Anything secretive is BAD especially if there is someone going to be there in the future. Arrange a meeting t o rest your mind and talk to her about her relationship with this guy
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    Ok. You are confused and you are not letting go and i'm sorry about that. If you think you want to manipulate the situation to your benefit you are going to hurt yourself. Hoping doesnt help this situation. Doing something does. YOu said that, it has been 3 weeks and u dont feel better, getting the ring back will give you closure. So go do that. Your aim is for yourself right now. GET THE RING. As for showing that you cared for the ring more then her, that is your mind playing with you, IGNORE IT! you gave that ring for a reason and she knew that reason. The longer I go without contacting her, the more likely she'll realize what she is missing. Taking the ring back is showig that u are taking control of your life. The further you pull away the better. If she wants back, she will come back whether she has the ring or not. The longer she goes without contacting me, the more she'll be likely to move on, find somebody else, You shouldnt care about that, this time is for yourself. Focus for yourself and on yourself. perhaps sell the ring (although I don't believe she's that cruel) Dont hope, take control by taking back your ring. GET IT BACK, control the situation and dont be the victim.
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    The engagement ring is about the promise of marriage. If the marriage does not happen the ring always goes back. It is not about the cost. It is about the principle, and her being a woman knows this rule.
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    why write a letter. Go and visit her and ask for it back.
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    perception - is a variable from one moment to the next. You can be dressed as a sophicated women in a busness suit and next you can be dressed as a tart in that same business suit. People pereptions are variable and it is difference from one person to the next and one moment to the next. It is not something that changes over night but it can change. We are humans. The question is .. do we want to change our perception. It is not for us to change someones perception of us because then we put more value in their perception then in ourselves. If your efforts are for yourself and you are changing for the better then that is all that matters. As for their perceptions of you after you have changed, it doesnt matter. It is for them to see for themselves.
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    Save her msges. IF you cant because of a password... bring the whole computer to a store and do a computer HD duplication so u have evidence if u need it. If u have her email pwd copy her emails too. Everyhing and anything to have evidence that she cheated on your marriage.
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    look what i am trying to say hee is there are other avenues that has not been tried YET. People stop bringing the subject of authories just to manipulate the situation. The authorities have enough on their plates then to handle the thought of small issue like this. GRIEF! It is just to early to get them in this situation
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    Kellbell, none of those post showed any reason to get a restaining order. At no time did he threaten her. he is a pest but it doesnt require a restaining order. This problem is easily solved with a bloking of his number or changing of her number.
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    GOOD god!! stalking now!!1 come on guys.. the words over reaction and PHOBIA comes to mind.
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    i believe in a firm word. Is usually strong enough in this situation
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    getting a restaining order is using courts time, who signs the restaining order? It is a process. You do not have to go physically into court to be using court time. Avman, as i said "this is a small issue" I suggested first to block or get a new number. My feeling is that you should try other ways yourself before getting the authorities into stupid crap like this. If the problem esclates by all means call the authorities into it. But bloody hell because of phones call and text msges saying "good night" you would suggest getting a restrianing order. TOo much
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    do youthink this guy from overseas is going to give a damn about you? NO!... Are you hoping that the guy will see your wife and go YUKS i am not going to sleep with her?? DOes it matter??? NO. If you are hoping you are sitting down and lettings things happen and you are acting like the victim. GET UP!
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    are those only your options? DO you want her to see this guy. if she sleeps with him, are you still going to be with her? COme on THINK as a MAN!!!! FIGHT for YOURSELF....FIGHT FOR YOU DIGNITY!!.. Christ sake, don't just lie there and let her trample all over you.
  24. Skippy
    I would agree wit Beyondthsesea..It is the first 30 days... and it says wants to spend all his time. Doesnt say NEEDS. I would like to spend all my time with my GF but i know it isnt healthy so i don't. Boy these things can so easily be taken out of context.
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    let me tell you . even if she has this romance thing in her head.. She is going to see him, she is going to be horny, and she is going to want to bonk him This is a fact. she has this whole romance thng so far gone that she believe it! And you are going to sit there and think, "well she has a man that loves her and she has a family". WAKE UP!! Are you just going to sit there and ust let it happen? Come on!! stand up !! If you arent going to do anything, YOU ARE GOING TO LET YOUR WIFE BONK A MAN! DO something, anything just dont frigging sit there and act so damn helpless, Get a backbone!
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