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  1. Skippy
    I would agree with Deviate Kate. But do you mind if she still has interactions with the people she used to have sex with? That is for yourself to answer.
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    more info pls
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    good grief.. why do people waste the courts time and suggest an restraining order?? This is a small issue. I feel that getting a restraining oder over this is wasting the courts time.
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    usually, the words. STOP we have ended. I dont want to know you anymore. if he keeps calling you change your number or tell your phone company to block his number. Not that hard
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    funny how people here see things. Many here have not been married talk about Maturity, experiences etc. The only real person to answer this question is yourself and going thru it. Even people that have been married will have different points of view on this. BUT imagine, arranged marriages. They havent seen each other! but somehow they work, ad they work very well. But there are others that has been terrrible. This is one of those questions that i would chalk into personal experiences, but personality i would never ever live with someone before i get maried even less engaged to. Why should they marry? Any advantage? There is no advantage for a married man nowadays, only troubles and risk. As man you have to pay in case of divorce...alimony for the wife, child support for children you never will see again... The number of children is also declining, as parents have no rights anymore, only obligations. Abortion is cheaper... Divorce: Divorce rate in some countries is 50 percent or higher, the risk is now too high, especially for men. To pay? For what? Better stay single. For example, in Canada: Ontario's Bill 117, enacted in the year 2000, requires that if a woman merely *claims* that her partner has been violent to her, he is ejected from their home, his assets are frozen, and he is jailed. It doesn't matter whether she manufactured the allegation, as is frequent with many angry partners on the verge of splitting. It doesn't matter if she has a history of frequent lying and if there is no evidence of violence from him. It doesn't even matter if she feels guilty about lying and withdraws the accusation. The man is automatically assumed to be guilty until proven innocent, forcibly removed, financially disempowered and jailed for the evening. He can wake to find his partner has applied for an intervention order, that he now owns nothing and has no place to go. He is not asked for his side of the story, because he is male. So put simply before i get myself into a marriage i bloody well better know the women through and through before i even consider the 'M' word and that means living with her because i have more to lose then her..
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    examples of what really got to you, what really convinced you that you were safe, loved and able to express your feelings, who you are, your hopes and dreams with someone I would appricate it a lot. Not to be judged for our past,our present and our future. For yOu to accept who we are and what we are. For you to accept our lives the way it is anf not go about trying to change it because it doesnt suit you. Basically, we know we have faults. It is ours to change and it is our choice. I cant love someone that is trying to change me because they have a problem me. It just doesnt work. Kissing, hugging and fussing is all so important but i cant possibly open up and trust a woman that cant accept ME for who i am. In my opinion, if she cant accept me, we had better not have a relationship. I cant oprn up to someone that is going to react in a big way and have a HANDLE things i say, do or has happened in the past.
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    Hey aschleigh, i think you really need to step back to look at this. You are feeling insecure. I have to say this, but your bf didnt finish his relationship withhis ex properly and i think you are the rebound. The gf has a part in this but, it is your bf that is the problem because he is bringing up all the insecurity in you. Because you are feeling so damn insecure and you are trying to control YOUR insecurity. You are now directly controlling you current bf. I dont think it is a good thing to start controlling other people to stop YOUR insecurity. I know that it is hard to do. Trust me i DO know, but it looks like you are in an unhealthy relationship, I am not saying that you have to drop him because of this baguage What i am saying is that u have to take a step back and learn about his baguages. To be honest, you guys have been out for a few months now and livng together. why is it only now he mentions about the possible pregnancy? and about his depth of his relationship? It seems to me that u have to sit down and have a heart to heart talk about your baguages to see if you can ACCEPT things. (NOT HANDLE IT) I think you should not have to tell any bf/gf to stop comunication with an ex or a threat. They should do it automatically if they care enough, otherwise, they just don't care enough and it is time to walk away. What i am trying to say is, that he isnt wrong or he isnt right. His life has it's baguage and yours too. YOU have to figure out if you can ACCEPT it ( BUT not controlling it). If you cant.. it is time to walk. A buddist taxi drive shared this with me... If it comes it comes.. if it goes it goes. By forcing it to come you only make your life unhappy because in the end it will still go. (you knew it from that start of the relationship). Life is no meant to be hard. You just have to let things go and not think too much.
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    I would tell it straight as it is. At times i dont even know that i am screwing up in life and thats is when i need a good friend to tell me as it is. She is cheating and she is a silly girl for doing this. If she doesnt have a problem with it, then tell her tat you saw her boyfriend kissing someone else and see her reaction. Of course you tell her immediately that it is a lie, but that point has to be made. I rely on my friends, if they cant tell me the truth as it is , they arent my friends.
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    i am sorry to hear that you ar finding these things out now. Personally i would only advise you one thing, to get out. I know you love him, you have fallen for him pretty hard. You are just finding out important information about him and his charaeristics now and you are trying hard to over look it. There is a problem with his ex, but i think he is also a problem. Maybe a bigger problem. PLease step back and look at things in the bigger picture before you get caught up further with your feelings. Look at the picture for what it really is. She is not the only guilty one here. I hope things work out for you
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    kudos for them!! its extremely rare!! conviction.
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    I would agree with beyondthesea... I personally think there is a due by date inall live in relationships. The 3 and 5 year rule i cal it. If you have already lived together for 3 years and nothing is happening it is either time to bail out or time to ask to get maried. if you havent lived together 5years rule apply. This of course is a generalisation. IN which so many people here are against
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    i would rather live together befor egetting married. You dont know a person until ou live with them and have been with them 24/7. I dont think even if you have been with the person for 7 years that you really know them until you live with them. Personally it is my requirement before i get married.
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    you cant contract what you have already said?? life sucks.. it has really done the damage.
  14. Skippy
    So I sent a few nasty messages on lavalife, does that answer your question? ther is no reason to be nasty..
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    ouch that hurt
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    you should feel happy that you are able to make a stand and know what yo need in your life. Change never happens if the other partner does know what you NEED. As for showing you affection, he needs encouragement. Maybe he want to just to lazy or dont know how to. So you must show him what you need in terms of affection.
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    Selfish?? definitely NOT!!!.. it is your time! you have gotten yourself together and it is time to go on cruise control, smooth sailing!! well done for you. Things will happen in the bf scene when it happens. Good on ya!!
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    oookkkkkkiiiiiieeeee
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    jezzz. i dont think that you should beat around the bush, My opinion id that you are honest. I think you should say, hey, you know that i dont come from a well off background, and i want you to meet my family too, but i feeel awkward that my family isnt as well off as yours.". Then talk about it/ There is nothing to be ashamed off at all. Your pearents worked hard.
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    she knoew of my extended family but not well. The are quite influencienial so when she got me on board and found out that they were my family she used that you her benefit.. B!ITCH!! Besides the point, i have to learnto get over these things or they are gogto eat at me. Some one help!! I am not new to dealing with people, but this is a total different level that i have never coe accross. It is eating at me.
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    what is worst it this, i catch myself doing things just the annoy her. like, at the end of the shooting schedule, i would say "it's a wrap!". she would then tellme she want something shot in another location. SHe has been on set for hours and she tell me at the end of the day!!.. So i would turn to her and say, i called a "wrap", it ia a wrap, the crew isnt going to shoot any more, you should have told me earlier, This seriously pisses her off! i ignor it and do my things. I am surprised she hasnt fired my * * * * yet. But she need me now, at the end of the project she WILL fire my * * * *. uless i leave before that. But that is the thing, she is driving me to act unprofessional.!!!
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    the other level is that she doesnt know where to daw the line. work is work.. where does she get off complaning to my family members and affecting my relationship with them? Really, she is a b!tch!! but i cant leave just yet, and even when i do she has affected my family. Really, i think it is un-ethical what she has done. But i have to get over it or i am going to ..run her downwith my on set forklift!!
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    itsallgrand. it is like this, i am in media productions, everything is based on pre-production. If ou dont plan, you pplan to fail. She doesnt plan! she even write script on set!! she even has to stop production to write HER script to replace the existing script. for me as a director and a DOP it is frustrating. The crew look to e for leadership but when ever she steps in to the scene the whole production schedule goes up in smoke. we ALL have to work overtime with no extra income. But the is not the point, the point is that she blattenly disregards how the whole crew feels. btw that is 10 of us on set excluding the actors. It is just so damn frustrating. Hr additions to the script doesnt add anything special. It could have been done the night before. She steps on set and not knowing what is happening re-organises the shooting schedule. God, i am so pissed off!!! i have shown her the problems she has caused, the in-effiency. She take it the wrong way, she then says that i am organising the crew to be against her. I become the bad guy with her, the crew like me cos i dont take no crap and when i am on set i am in charge, BUT when that happens she puts her foot down.. blahblah blah... She has then become a personal family friend, and she bad mouths my behaviour to my family. ( which i dont really care but the point is that she shouldnt be *it is unprofessional and unethical*) I know i am beating a dead horse.. i just have to find some way of gettig over it. Other then sticking a knife in her.
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    the best way i can describe it is... i am a spoilt brat that is trying to handle how to get over it... i am trying to find away to get over the situation and accept it. (Not that i am a spoilt brat.. but relating to it)
  25. Skippy
    itsllgrand... ok.. i can understand what you are saying... somehow what i am trying to say is . i am havng problems accepting the "dead horse", and i am stuck in a situation where i cant leave this job.
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