Hi, long time reader first time poster.
Along with many people in this forum I have a problem attracting others because I am too nice to them. I am currently talking with someone and as soon I do something rude they seem to be more interested in me! I can't stand this because being rude is not my nature. I care about people I have feelings for.
Here is another example to prove my point. My ex walked all over me and finally dumped me. I was devistated. I tried to get her back, tell her how much she meant to me, etc... but she went and dated someone else. One day I snapped and cut contact and stopped answering her IM and basically everything I did (or didnt do, ie no contact) was telling her to screw off. Next thing you know she trying to get me back and even apologizing for how stupid she was.
I am looking for some advice for people that have been through this. I really like this girl I am talking to but I have no idea how to higher her interests! I actually think I need to learn to act less like a caring interested guy and start acting more like a "I don't care about you" jerk in order to be successful in my relationships.
