Maverick32x

sounds like he made a joke.... the joke was that your friend wanted to be in a relationship that was full of "love" and she saw her friends in "relationships full of love" When you told your husband this, he figured he would crack a joke that she would "steal him away from you"... when in fact, she probably is really conservative and is the LAST person to EVER do anything like that. thereforeeee, using Irony, to make the joke... I hope that explains it....

mmhmm.. i talked to my house mate a bit about what that guy meant... and im leaning towards.... he made a move on her.. and she shot him down... and he THINKS i got shot down since i didnt end up spending the night with her? So he feels that we are in the same group..... I tried to talk to him about it afterwards, but maybe he found out the truth and is a bit embarrased? I'm not sure... Sometimes i feel like i should just forget about it... but i keep getting that "what if?" in the back of my mind... I kinda thinking that i'm just gonna leave this on the back burner, and see what happens...... not gonna stress over it Thanks for the replies as for the "crazy girls" comment... i just meant that all girls are crazy

It sounds like he is just trying to "play the field" It sounds like hes just young and doesnt really know what he wants. I would just put this guy on the back burner and move on, he seems like hes interested in every girl and the only thing you did when you told him you liked him was feed his ego~

update: Ok, well heres the latest in this small saga of my life..... I came back to my buddy's house again (and she was there) and we ended up sitting next to each other on the couch and watched some chick flick... yada yada yada we ended up doing the same thing that kinda started these shananigins (is that how you spell that?) And well, it was fine w/e... Well, the movie ends, and she just kinda gets up and hangs out with people out of the room, and i just stayed where it was and talked to my buddy's GF for a bit... Well, its pretty late like 3 or 4, and my buddy's GF goes to grab a dirnk and comes back and is pissed at her BF cuz he hands his arm around the girl that was just with us.... WHAT!?!?! so im pretty confused right there...... So, i decide that its time to head home, and thats the end of my night.... Well, i wake up and check my away messages, and i have an IM for some guy that lives with them, that i dont really even KNOW that well.. (like.. i say hi to him in passing... the end) and it says: i'd like to be the first to welcome you to the club To which im totallly confused.... I know hes VERY good friends with that one girl.... like.. they are very close..... I have no idea what hes talking about, and when i IM'ed him back "what club?" he just brushed it off...... I'm very confused, are we interested in the same girl and he got shot down? and thinks i am too? Is the girl just a flirt and leads guys on and hes speaking from experience? I don't know;; but i wasn't really interested in all this drama....

thanks, i'll keep you guys updated!! Last night i was with her and it seemed to be a bit more relaxed (considering we shared the same bed) nothing happened..... but atleast its not real weird or anything~

well to be honest... i lost my nerve about pushing it further... I just am getting a bad vibe... i don't really know.... I'm getting this feeling that shes not interested... and i'm not sure what i can do!! I'm thinking i might just hold back for a bit.. since i dont want to screw up the friend thing.. but if she ever opens up to me... i think i might try to make some magic happen ha! We'll see, her actions that night seemed to show she was interested... but ya never know with these crazy girls oh ya, I've been talking to her a bit now online, so we seem to be getting to know each other a bit more.... so we'll see~

ahh.. you guys bring up some good points.... i think imma do it friday-ish.... haha thanx for the tips guys

do you talk on aim? do you have each others phone numbers? there are alot of ways to keep in contact with her... but i think you should stop worrying about the future, and think about the present.... you say that she just sees you as a good friend, but you seem to really be into her? Maybe you should start trying to make a relationship out of that?

i'm confused you think you would stop talking? If you are so in love with her, you will make the effort to keep in contact with her.. and it wont be THAT terrible of a thing....

people you are actually friends with, you will still stay close with... the people you were "pseudo-friends with" will eventually fade...... and college is probably the coolest thing in the world, so look forward to that too

agree with sarge. NC is the only thing you can do... she is simply using you as support until something better comes along

ahh!!! i didnt finger her!!! lololol, i just realized i totally worded that wrong!!!! Its like.. when you're holding hands and you just kinda do odd things with each others fingers... i dont really know how to describe it, but i always think of it like footsy with your hands if that makes sense!!

Well.... I'm happy to say i've moved on from a previous girl... and now am activly looking for someone else~ And ive found a girl thats pretty.. well... lets just say interesting... lol Hopefully this post wont get too long, so i'm sorry if it does... I've started talking to this girl more that is in my "circle" of friends.... and i hadnt talked to her as much since i really never saw anything happening between us.. we were just.. "friends".... Well, we talk every once and awhile, and shes a pretty cute girl, but doesnt really go out and party as much as alot of us do... so i really dont get to see her in alot of real social settings (outside of when we are all together at someone's place, or at lunch) Well, we had a party at our house, and she ended up coming and she was pretty friendly and all with me, and i just kinda was getting a vibe... and realized i was kinda interested in her So, we started talking a bit more.... and she seems pretty interesting.... and here i guess is where the slightly embarrassing story kicks in... haha... WELL, i was out with a buncha people and we got REALLY drunk... and i went back to my friends place... and they were just kinda hanging out playing video games.. (none of them had been drinking alot) and i just kinda talked a bit, and watched them play... Well, she lives accross the hall from them and she stopped by to say hi and see what we all were up to... well im sitting on.. i dont know how to describe it... like a lounge chair but you dont lean back in it.. lol.. anyways, shes sitting on the arm of it and i start talking to her and i make a motion for her to kinda squeeze next to me, despite the fact that there was basically no room... lol.. so she squeezes in.. and than eventually just kinda sits in my lap.... Well... one thing leads to another and we are kinda holding hands and just kinda doing w/e.. that whole finger thing (EDIT Its like.. when you're holding hands and you just kinda do odd things with each others fingers... i dont really know how to describe it, but i always think of it like footsy with your hands if that makes sense!!) .....oh ya, the lights are all off so no one was like.. staring at us, or really knows anything is going on... Well, i eventually pass out, and wake up the next morning and just kinda slap myself in the face for being so forward with her!!! And i have no idea if i just made a total * * * out of my self or not;;; I havent said anything to her, and we were pretty friendly, didnt act weird when we saw each other sat/sun/mon..... SO, she had facebooked me awhile ago, and i was bored, so i grabbed her SN and talked to her on AIM for a little bit.. and was kinda hesistant cuz im afraid i'm coming off desperate... but i'm so sick of just sitting idly by and letting NOTHING happen!!! so, i guess i want to know what to do next.... I'm afraid to be too forward since its a group of friends... and im not really one to date within a circle of friends.... however, I don't want to limit myself...... I guess, whats next? Or do you think i acted too stupidly when i was drunk? I dunno, anything you got!! lay it on me

He wants to stay in the same hotel room as his ex-wife... you must have aLOT of trust for him, since it seems pretty likely he will cheat on you. His excuse sounds like complete crap, and I wouldn't believe it for a second. Plus the fact that he still says "i love you" to his ex-wife makes me wonder what the real deal is....

I struggle with the idea of 'settling' constantly.... I have a very idealistic view of my perfect girlfriend... and i'm pretty sure she doesnt exist lol. And part of me realizes that i'm only hurting myself by creating unrealistic standards for someone to meet.. because quite honestly.. they never meet them... And i find myself so lonely that i do somewhat "settle" but than the minute i realize that i'm settling, and that this isnt my "ideal" girl... i get up and leave...... resulting in alot of loneliness.. and alot of broken hearts..... Its kinda ironic because i was thinking of trying to see what i could do (in terms of relationship) with this one girl... and i feel so shallow because i've dated better looking girls, and i feel like i would be settling if i were to go for a relationship with her...... So ya, I don't know what to do!!! I feel that settling is inevitable if you have unrealistic standards....

explain 'necessity'

Move out. Get away. I also am all for obeying parents and being a good son/daughter. But this is too extreme. You are 25 Years old, and haven't even begun to live your life. Do you have a job?

wow, some people really want to bite this guys head off!!!! I totally agree with DN that you need to look after your wife and soon to be kid before you make any decisions.. could it be that passion is low because she is pregnant? Hindsight is always 20/20 and it really doesnt get us anywhere by telling you what you "should" of done.. the reality is that you are where you are.. and you need to make a decision based on that. I feel that you NEED to be straightforward with your thinking. And maybe you need to take an active role in bringing "passion" to the relationship.... If you feel that it is hopeless to continue living with your wife than divorce is an option...... On one hand you will have a child that can potentially live in a broken home, and all that comes along with that... but on the other hand its not much better to have a Father that is withdrawn and doesnt love his wife or kid.. or resentful of them.... Make sure you give the marriage a really good chance.. you've been with your wife for a significant amount of time!!! Good luck, and hopefully you get some good advice here

good story...... so.... whats your question? It sounds like you havent completely gotten over her.. and she didn't have anyone else to sleep with that night? If you think there is potential for another relationship..... I'm going to have to throw it out there that I don't think its a very good idea... but its your choice

I don't think he would think you were "using him for a ride"..... He isn't going out of his way to drive you anywhere PLUS, its a great oppurtunity to get to know him!! How far of a ride is it for you? But ya, I'm not sure what "Ruh Roh" was trying to say, but if it was "hes just trying to nail you" I'm going to have to go with a big fat NO. Good luck, and you really should make some kind of a move or else you'll always be wondering!!! (thats the worst!!!)

i'm going to quickly throw in there that grades are not everything!!! I go to a pretty selective private university, and i know for a fact that i was WAY below the cutoff for grades... BUT, I became friends w/ the dean of admissions, friends with the swim coach,(i was a state champion swimmer at the time) and overall just showed an incredible amount of interest in the school.... Its a D3 school, so i doubt my atheletics helped that much, but making sure that i was really interested in the school seemed to work. I assume this only works in smaller private schools, since the larger state schools could care less... but i guess the school of my dreams WAS a private university, so it worked out well. Defintly getting the A's however WILL make it ALOT easier.. if i could do HS all over again, i would just do the busy work, and get the A.. applying to selective schools w/ a C average was the most stressful thing i ever dealt with... plus all the rejection letters made me sad

its not so much about being genuine that you need to work on.. maybe trust? If you are making the effort to talk to him, and actually DO talk to him and have some meaningful conversations... it will be EASY to go on a date or anything like that once he starts to get to know you a bit.. if he lives right near you, it shouldnt be THAT hard to strike up a conversation!! maybe ask for a ride home?? the note is pretty risky unless you know they are interested in you and are just too shy to make your move.. and apparently you arent too sure about it.. PLUS you arent entirely comfortable with it which is ok But ya, a straight forward approach defintly wouldn't hurt.... You've got alot of options.. the only thing you know for certain is that you should do SOMETHING Good luck keep us updated~

hmmm... he sounds a bit shy.... (as you all ready know ) and he might be a bit defense about someone being so forward with him.... He might be wondering how genuine your atitude really is? In my shy days I would be very suspicious of a girl that would just come up to me and talk to me for no good reason..... I'm sure hes just nervous around you, and doesn't know what to say... I think the small talk about his car probably helps actually since its something he's interested in..... Most people I know arent quiet because they hate someone.. they are quiet because they don't know what to say.... I would try to relax a bit when you talk to him and try to keep it casual.. you guys have a class together, and he lives by you... maybe try to set up a study session? That seemed to work wonders with me back in HS.

i personally don't like to eat a full meal before i go out partying that will involve alot of drinking.. i'm a bit of a cheap date, and I usually will get sick if i eat a big meal before i go out... that being said, i usually will get drunk way faster without food, and back in my freshman days.. it was alot easier to throw up just liquid and stuff than to throw up my entire meal.. lol

I watched an episode of Penn and Teller and they said all those exercises/pills/gimics are all BS (hence the name of the show!)