Maverick32x

alot of people do things drunk that they dont have the guts to do when they are sober. So if shes a shy girl she might be interested in you? Your best bet is to hang out sober and see what happens.

ya, i dont want it to seem like i WANT to date both girls, but i want to make sure i make the right choice? since they are both really great girls and i enjoy spending time with both of them... ive hanging out with one for about 2 months now, and the other for about 3 months. So it hasnt been THAT long. I have no problem with them going out w/ other guys and stuff, since im not exclusive with either of them. But i defintly dont want to lead either one of them on, but its hard to make a decision!!!!

Ok, so heres my drama..... offer whatever opinions you want.. either in the form of advice, or just comments I recently just got over this summer relationship, and was looking for someone else to sort of "fill the void" and had been with numerous girls, but hadnt really found any i was interested. well to make a long story short, i hit it off pretty well w/ an ex-friend of mine, from like 8th grade (im 20 now) and we had a great time, she was great looking, alot of fun. Well, my best friend (and room mate) totally hated her. he thinks she isnt good looking at all, and me and her could never work. Well, i make my own decision, and went to see her some more and im pretty interested in her, however there are some things about her that arent that desirable. And admittably she isnt as good looking as most of the girls are that i date, but its not really a big deal to me. Well, i recently met a girl that actually goes to my school (the other one doesnt) and she is drop dead gorgous, and super interested in me. However, her and my room mate had a thing the year before, and i know he gets sort of jealous when i hang out with her. And the most ive done with either girl is make out, since i'm not one to lead girls on too much, and i am interested in a relationship. but i have no idea what to do!??! I want to date the orginal girl, but she goes to a diffrent school, (which is only 30 mins away, no car.. but i could take a bus?) but the other girl is way more convient, but can i live w/ my bestfriend/room mate's jealousy? I'm trying to hang out w/ them more in diffrent situations to try to figure out who i like the most, but they are so diffrent its becoming harder and harder and i know they are both interested in me, and when one is calling me, and im with the other one just hanging out, its weird. And i dont want to be a player, and i try to be honest with them, but its hard since i dont want to push one away and end up getting screwed in the end. My one friend said im just dating so theres nothing wrong w/ seeing 2 people, but im not sure how much longer i can stay just friends before commiting..... so any advice/comments/thoughts are welcomed

I would say keep going with him, but dont limit your options.. if he wants to hang out as friends thats fine. Just make sure you arent exlusive with him, and just look around. Since it sounds like if his ex asked him to come back, he would.

i honestly dont see how hes worth it, but as long as you say so. You sorta have the leave the note, because if you are trying to build a relationship on trust, than you should be honest with him. and if he cant get away from these other girls, maybe you just need to leave for good?

Well... maybe by telling him off in your office he kinda was hurt by that.. and if he's shy.. he might be insecure.. so hes probably pretty embarrased around you now >_ also, maybe he wanted to see if you were interested in him.. so he cooled off for a bit. And he had a change of heart, and decided he DID want you, so he went back to try to fire things back up with you...

Its all about adapting. I learned freshman year in HS if i wanted to date girls, i had to be a cocky jerk... and welll, i built myself up as super confident and full of myself. And than won state swimming and it helped build up my confidence even more. When the whole time on the inside i knew i wasnt being who i really was, and it sucked. Reached College and its no diffrent.. girls still want guys who treat them like ****... diffrence now is, i could care less.. i realized that its not about how many girls you get with, its quality. so i gave up my super cocky life style of being a jerk to girls, and just went back to doing whatever i thought was right at the time, and its been working for me

it sounds like you just really like him alot. I had a girlfriend that told me the same thing one time at dinner. we just kind of laughed about it (like 3 months into the relationship!!) But she was legitamently concerned that i wouldnt like her... but i really did!!

So by aggressive look you mean he was kind of looking at you like a piece of meat? It being Starbucks makes me wonder how "aggressive" the guy really is.... since its not a big tough guy spot.. if it was at a bar or something i could understand. He could just of thought you were attractive and was trying to think of someway to get your attention.... and couldnt think of anything lol, it happens~

my best friend is in this exact same situation... my advice would be that you really need to give an ultimatum almost.... you should defintly hang out w/ her, be friendly.. yada yada yada..... but if she is guiliting you into not socializing with other girls... it sounds like she just wants to have her cake and eat it too.... i assume her BF goes to a diffrent school? she is most likly usuing you as a crutch. and you deserve way better than that... she either needs to A JUST be a friend B Break up w/ her Boyfriend easy to say from the outside looking in, but those are your best options in my opinion. Also, if you become just friends... dont let her treat you like a boyfriend.. it only makes it worse...dont allow yourself to be in a position for her to sit in your lap.... and dont call her all the time.... those are things her boyfriend can do

hey, im having the EXACT same problem.. but im on the flip side.. im a guy, and have no idea how to start the whole "dating thing" in college ive dated a few girls in HS.. (1 for like 2 months.. another for 6.. and my most recent almost 2 years) i've been able to mess around with people when im drunk, but when it comes to making a meaningful relationship, i have NO idea where to even BEGIN!!! i've tried talking to girls in class, and it always goes really welll... but so many of them always seem to be either out w/ sorority sisters, or w/ other friends, that i feel like a total idiot if i just asked to hang out... oh ya, and i dont have a car at school -_- any advice or help on this would always help me out!! ps Sorry i couldnt help you at all

Thank you for your respones, and all the good ideas i'll try to talk to her, since i dont want to make it a big family thing if it doesnt have to be

yes, actually there has been kind of a history of err... "Crazyness"? in her side of the family........ .... ... but i have asked her why she hates me, and she flips it around on me, and tells me that its actually my fault, and it really isnt, ive never said or done anything to make these things happen and oh ya, the one thing she says that really infuriates me.. is when she tells me that i have no respect for women...... which is so far off base that its the one thing that actually makes me show that im upset, since i usually try not to react to what she says... but it defintly makes me yell at her because i get so upset, since so many of my friends ARE girls, and i actually get along better w/ girls than guys, and for someone to tell me that i dont respect my friends really makes me mad... and when i say "yell" its not like i go crazy or anything, but i defintly just try to walk away since i dont like to get really mad at people, even if they are clearly trying to make me get mad

Ok, so i am 20 years old, and for the past 2-3 years, ive been having HUGE problems w/ my mom.... and i dont know why?! ive never had a problem w/ her before, but for some reason she has completed turned against me... and tries to get the rest of my family to also hate me for some reason? shes very spiteful and will do things such as, tell my youger sister (14) that i date * * * * * * and tell her what a horrible person i am (ps: the girl i dated was in the top 10% of our class and never slept with a guy) so im not really sure what her motivation was behind that? and she always shows me as a bad example of what to be but im a state champion swimmer, and got into a private university so im not sure why im such a bad example..... but my family keeps me on a VERY small leash.. or atleast they try... ive been away at school, and when i come back its the worst. she openly tells me that she hates me, and that she cant wait for me to move out all the time. I just dont understand why im having such problems, i get along great with everyone, but for some reason my mom absolutly hates me recently she took my car away (They paid for that too ) all because i left an empty glass down in my basement the other night.... It sucks when i come home for school, since its hard to meet up w/ friends, and go to work when your parents take your only means of transportation, and im too embarrassed to tell them "hey, i left a glass in the basment, i cant go out tonight" its just ridiculous!!! anyway, i was wondering if there is anything i can do? or some sort of explanation that you can offer?

Hey, so im 19, almost 20 going to my friend / ex-boss's wedding in about 1 hour!! and im pretty excited, i have a date, but its actually my CURRENT boss (haha keep it in the work place i guess) and shes 24, and we are just going as friends since we both know the people getting married.... I am pretty excited, and want to meet some people... girls... lol, and was wondering if anyone has any advice? i probably WILL be drinking, and i usually dont have trouble coming up to girls at school and stuff, but im WAY outta my comfort zone since ive only gone to like one wedding when i was really little ... so any advice would be awesome

thanks for all the insight and i defintly will keep in contact with her. and she is a pretty social person, and is a sophmore in college like me too~ but i actually saw her today, and she wanted to have plans to "catch up" and stuff.. so ya. we'll see i guess~ thanx again`

lol, well i paid for about half id say, and got a few good night kisses.. among other things... lol, i did tell her before we left that i really wanted to try to make some sort of a real bf/gf relationship (going out on a limb that her best friend told me i shoulda gone on >_

no, we went out on alot of dates you could say? dinners i paid for... baseball games, movies... doubles volleyball.... so she knew 100% i was interested

ok, so last summer i "thought" i really connected to this girl that i was really interested in.. i made a few posts here about it.. and it seemed like things were really working out well... and than when we went to school i thought we might be able to keep in touch, and maybe make something happen.. (we go to school about 45 mins away) Well, that didnt happen and within the first 4 weeks we stopped talking completely, and i didnt even talk to her at all..... however, we were planning on working at the same place over winterbreak since we figured we both would need money by than, so i assumed i would see her at work.... which over the summer seemed cool.. but now i really didnt know how to act if i saw her? since i really do like her, but im not sure what she thinks about me.... well, out of no where she ims me, and starts doing the whole.. catch up thing, and starts telling me how we need to watch x-mas movies and cuddle up on the couch..... whats this girl thinking? is school more exciting than home? so this is jsut something to do? or what? since she clearly doesnt seem to care at all about me haha man i sound like a chick ;; basically, whats she thinking is my question thanx~

im usually kinda shy... but when i get a few drinks in me i REALLY REALLY open up alot more i think its for the best, since i dont drink to a dangerous amount, but i like to drink to a point where i dont feel self conscious about asking a girl to dance, or w/e...

ya, mentioned it today, and he was a huge @!#@! to me... so im kinda pissed and now kinda hopes that it all blows up in his face.. maybe he'll learn a thing or too.....

k, problem is im not really friends with her at all >_

Ok, i go to college and am a 2nd year student here and live with a room mate. He is interested in this girl and tells me how much she means to him blah blah blah... but... the catch is... she has a boyfriend.... and from the looks of it, its a serious relationship.. (he bought her a diamond ring) and despite that she is in a serious relationship.. he continues to pursue her.... with success ... i frequently come back from the library to see the door locked... and for her to leave at around 4am.. and for him to tell me how they fooled around and stuff... So in a nut shell.... i know they fool around alot.. and its getting worse.. (nearly every night) My question is if any of you have advice to try to get him to change his "cheating" ways... he almost seems proud of it for some reason? i know for sure that he is really interested in dating her... but if she cheats on her boyfriend now... why would he be any diffrent? and i brought that up to him..... ive tried to talk to him about this before, since we are REALLY good friends... but he just wont listen..... he doesnt seem to see how he is ruining a relationship, and in the end going to just end up hurting himself..... Everyone knows what he does with her, and its getting out of hand, and he is becoming more and more distant from his close friends... Any advice is helpful, and if you have any questions go ahead and ask Thanx~

go w/ someone who is interested in meeting people... when you are approaching a group of girls at a party its ALWAYS easier if you are with a friend.. cuz some of them will want to talk.. and others wont be that interested.. so as long as you got a wingman.. you will find its ALOT easier.... not sure of your views on drinking.. but if you are at college... alot of people do drink... so... ya... you can make your own decisions.. but be responsible either way.... just go in there trying to make friends w/ whoever looks over at you.. and you shouldnt have a prob. the majority of people at a party WANT to meet other people... so keep that in mind and approaching people will make it alot easier... if you are the shy type, my advice is to just look for people that look like they want some guy to talk with... this may be hard at first.. but after going to a few parties you should get the hang of finding the people that are looking for people... they usually will be looking around alot, and if they are talking to their friends..(usually girl friends) they wont be really paying that much attention to them.... there are other obvious hitns like drinking alot, and walking around the party alot.... if you are interested in a few more specific suggestions shoot me a PM, i got to head to swim pract >_

i think you guys should just officially break up... and than see if you want to get back together after shes "tried out" other guys... this sounds like you are just going to get your heart broken knowing that she is frenching some other guys in order to "test them out"..... If you both want to be together.. you will be... but it sounds like you are just making this a very extended break up... i know i would feel horrible if i was kissing some other girl and i had a girlfriend >_