Maverick32x

yea, i took out my eyebrow piercing for thanksgiving, it wasnt a big deal to me at all, it was just a piercing, so i take it out whenever I want... Its almost impossible for me to just "stop relying on my parents" I feel like if I do that, my life will just reach a complete stand still.... I don't know if this is true or not? maybe they have just raised me in such a way to make sure that I always feel like they have some type of "power" over me... I'm not sure.... If anyone could give me more information on taking out loans that would be really nice, everytime i search on the internet I get stuff about house loans, or car loans... and I don't know if I can do something like that... also can i take loans out of the university at all? I have no idea!!!

What do I have to do to take out a loan? I'm really sick of eating out of their hand... Its frustrating and humilating.... I skipped Easter last year, and I really am thinking of just staying at my home at school for Christmas.... But I really would hate to tell my friends why I stayed at school for the entire month as for taking the piercing out.. they might? I'm not sure.. they are EXTREMELY unreliant... One day they can tell me one thing.. than the next is completely turned around.... Its like I feel like I'm talking to two diffrent sets of people... really weird... and nah, I didnt get it to tick them off, I just thought it would look cool, and when I'm sick of it, I figure I can just take it out.. wasnt a big deal to me...

Well, I'm here to vent.. so bear with me if it sounds a bit crazy.... But there are probably a few things contributing to this bad mood I'm in.. however, this was the most recent, and what pretty much is making me the most furious.... I go to College away from the family, so I come home for thanksgiving, which I'm beginning to dread because I ALWAYS have to deal with some sort of bull * * * *, and I always leave saying to myself (Next time I just won't go) But I want to see my friends that are still here, and I always just assume that ... this time it wont be that bad.... Well, the beginning of the school year I got my eyebrow pierced... which I guess was something my mom didnt like.. which is fine.... she went on her usual tiarad about how I'm low class, and how I'm scum, and how i disrespect the family.... Oh ya, did i mention that I'm a state champion swimmer, and am in charge of a mentoring program to help struggling kids in a local school??? Or how bout the fact that I'm in a research project to study theta waves in rats (which some of you might not think is cool, but i do).. Oh ya, I'm REALLY low class mom!! THANKS!!!! I don't mean to blow my own horn.. but god... some of the things that come out of her mouth just make me furious.... The rest of this family is headed NO WHERE, god forbid I'm the only one who makes something constructive out of their life!!! Oh ya, this is pretty much the first time in my LIFE I've ever gotten straight A's.. since like.. middle school... which to me is a big deal.. I finally feel like my life is going in the right direction... but everytime I'm home I jsut feel like I've screwed up some how... OKay, well time to hit the BIG thing... we have a may term at my uni... which is an oppurtunity to take one class that you might not normally take during the regular school year, for one month... Well, there is a travel trip to Italy/Austria that I wanted to go on.. and there was an interview and such, it was actually very competitive.. and i was able to go!! And I was really excited about it.. I had to double check with my parents to see if they were willing to pay for it.. and they were all for it, telling me they were really excited about it, and offered to pay for everything! Well, I get home, and they see the eyebrow piercing and flip a #$%#$ ... well, now my mom is telling me that she wont be paying anything for the trip... not for my passport.. food, airfare..... There is absolutly no way that I can afford this trip.... I'm pretty much compltely broke... My best friend always gives me crap because I cant go out to eat on the weekends and am stuck inside eating ramen and such.. and he often times even offers to PAY for me!! (which i refuse) I just have no idea how someone can be say "ya, we'll pay for it!! go sign up! blah blah blah" Than when the time comes, they just completely back out.. and leave me stranded.... I won't bore you with details. but this is a reacurring theme.. And I honestly can't wait to start making money so I can just turn on my parents and spit in their face and tell them to have fun with their lives and that I hope they enjoy their meaningless existence!!!!! ahh!! I'm just so ANGRY, i feel like I should be in High school and saying all this.. not 20 years old....](*,)

Don't expect your first time to be anything... err.... 'special'... think "awkward"......

I broke up with a girl that used to write me love letters back in HS, and I kept all of them in my backpack.. I still have them.. and its been a couple years since we dated.. but i still use the same backpack in college as i did in HS.... I don't think i have read them in a verrrrryyy long time.....

too tight? too much pressure(stress)? Maybe you need to relax a bit.... or buy condoms that arent as tight...... I dont know... maybe someone else has better advice

lol@ him not having an interesting life... since none of us really know him Okay, so lets see here... the major problem is you are getting older and dont have as many 'friendship making oppurtunites", and don't want to sever ties with someone you are deeply in love with... on multiple levels... romantic, and as a friend..... However, I think you need to have CONFIDENCE that you can find someone else... I'm going to have to bust out an old saying "There are alot of fish in the sea" But i think its very relavant here. You seem to be so sure that this girl is THE ONE. When in reality, she is someone else's, and you are left on the outside.... not fun!! I personally think she is trying to leave you on the backburners, and realizes how much you like her, which is kinda crappy, but oh well.... So, lets see if there is any advice to help you find these other fish in the sea.... sadly I'm not very experienced at the whole "finding girls" thing when you get older.... so you have a hobby... thats good, however maybe try something that has a bit more intereaction? Maybe go to a gym, or take some classes, or something... lol, I really dont know where a good place to find girls is when I get older... i should figure that out...... either way, Start looking for OTHER PEOPLE, you are stuck in a state of helplessness, and you can't give up!!! You feel there is one sure thing, and that is this girl... however, you're WRONG!!!!! She will only be a friend, and it seems like you want a bit more than that in your life, so go get it!!! oh ya, final point: Seeing a therapist isn't all drugs and sudh. Some of them will just help talk through your problems, which could be beneficial : )

ya i can honestly see how someone can have this view point, I am actually kind of close to this as well. I won't go as far to say i NEVER make mistakes, but I defintly am a pretty self-rightous indivual, and i personally hate it. But ok, so you're frustrated that she wasnt strong enough to make her own choices, because in your life, you are strong enough to make ALL your choices, and the reason you say you never make mistakes, is because you feel that you think out every option, and than act on the one you think is best, thereforeeee implying that you always make a CHOICE, and as long as you make a choice that you think through, you never are making mistakes, and never regretting them? (holy run on sentence batman. Hopefull you get what I'm saying But the problem with thinking that way, is that you need to realize that not everyone thinks like this, and some people are influenced by their peers much more than others. I'm sure you are a person that doesnt really buy into the whole "Peer pressure" thing... and you feel its just an excuse to do what you want to do, deep down inside.... (well thats how i feel sometimes atleast My advice would be to simply TRUST HER. Its probably frustrating as hell that she could make such a big mistake, but the reality is that she did, and you need to get over that... or the relationship is over. Sometimes you just need to forgive and forget. You will meet alot of people that have made mistakes, and guess what? YOU will make mistakes also, we all do it!!!

in theory... sure, that all makes sense... most of its pretty cliche to be honest... however, in the real world, that doesn't always fly~ your major flaw of reasoning is that ASSUME you KNOW the diffrence between following your heart... or following your sex drive.. or knowing the diffrence between "just wanting to be in a relationship" and "actually liking someone" when you are in the moment, its not very easy to tell these things apart... and hindsight is ALWAYS 20/20..... either way, its good stuff to keep in mind, but good luck applying it all the time

well welcome to ENA.... I don't think you will experience alot of flaming or angry posts on these boards... no one is here to judge you, so you can remove that thought from your mind.... As for your situation..... It sounds like you are in a terrible state (like you needed me to tell you that ) You seem to have tried all methods to "get over her" with no success..... all i can think of is to stop having relations with your girl from long ago.. due to the fact that she IS married.. and you should respect that.. and tell her that if she wants to be with you.. she cant be married.... after telling her that... stop talking to her completely.... go complete NC (no contact) and HOLD TO IT!!! Than get a hobby, find something you enjoy.... perhaps your marriage didnt fail due to this other woman.. maybe it was just that you and her werent meant to be? I don't know.. its hard cuz its been such a long passage of time.... I'm sorry man : ( I hope someone can give good advice....

her ex bought her a sex toy.... they spent the night together on a trip to see HIM. And she admits to kissing him.... I think its pretty obvious that she cheated on you, but if you dont think so, if she goes on anymore "trips" i would defintly break it off instantly....

break up with her. She hardly seems worth your time.. and probably cheated on you....

Of course it feels good if someone compliments your partner, or someone you are interested in..... However, I don't think it would make or break my decision to be with them.... I've had a female friend defintly tell me one time that I could be with someone that looked better, and I just laughed at them and told them that they "Just don't get it" I hate when people judge others physically and say things like " can do better".... Especially when they don't even KNOW the person!!!!

well....im glad you are ok atleast and hopefully you'll realize that no person is worth wasting your entire life...

well to be honest I think she did you a big favor...... I think her end goal is for you to be crawling back begging for her forgiveness.... I don't think its worth it.. but i'm a very "prideful" person... Its kinda pathetic that she is trying to get attention by going through her husband and your husband's friendship....

haha, my old girlfriend's mom said I looked like a beach bum and we dated for 2 years.... and I was the one who broke up with her.... But ya, thats a bit diffrent than a fluzy ;;;

than just go I don't think its a big deal, It might be fun to catch up with him~

Rebound. Simple as that

I dont know if your boyfriend is jealous, so thats hard to say... if he said it was ok, than I'm sure hes fine with it, or fine enough that he wont let it bother him.... If you still have feelings for the other guy, and are second guessing if you chose right, than you probably shouldnt go get ice cream with this other guy... it wouldnt be fair to your boyfriend that you are pretty much going on a date with someone else..... However, if you really are just going to get ice cream to catch up with an old friend that is a guy, than go for it, i don't think its a big deal....

good advice I completely support that... I will be very happy when i dont see this thread updated anymore!!!! (and the kid leaves )

Well good luck Maybe with another outburst just walk away? I don't know how you deal with arguments usually, but it sounds like you were defintly caught off guard... so perhaps just try to avoid confrontation in general.. and if it comes up, just leave.. I don't know if people would consider this childish or not, but it seems like this girl just needs attention, and is trying to get it from somewhere...

I would take some serious time to think things through in the long term. No ex-gf is worth pretty much destroying your entire life... If you think sending a kid to the hospital because you beat the hell out of him will improve your situation you are VERY wrong. If you decide that beating up this kid is the only way to settle this you are looking at Obvisouly getting kicked out of school and losing all your friends. Having to deal with therapy for a VERY long time. Probably losing your parent's respect. The extra cost of all this on your parents. Perhaps jail time. A bad education. No college. No chance of rebuilding friendships, since most people will be at school moving forwards. And ya, a pretty boring, meaningless life, all because you felt that revenge was the best path..... go to school, ignore your ***** girlfriend and the ***hole that was part of it.... hell, if you want revenge you can always just destroy her reputation... thats still a big thing in high school right?

ahh!!! thats crazy!! lol, She sounds like a TOTAL drama queen!!!! What did she expect.. everyone to just shower her with praise the entire night? It wasn't even her birthday!!! GROW UP!!!!!!!!!!!!! You totally handled it better that I would have haha Either way, I would just do your job with the pictures, and maybe just not drink with her? or get drunk with her.. since I'm sure that just makes her act even more crazy..... what does your husband think of this? also, is there any possibility of some pent of jealousy? If she got mad at her husband for backing you up... and than called you out, despite all the other comments being made, it might be that she has been meaning to take you down a notch.. and this seemed like the best time to do it....

dont blame it on your age.... Everyone goes through things that are hard for them... I was head over heels for this one girl i worked with... went on a couple dates, fooled around a bit... and she shattered my heart..... guess what? I still had to work with her everyday... and I hated seeing her, but I still went to work cause I had to. To you it may seem like the end of the world, but for everyone else its just another obstacle that you will have to live with.... Not going to school is NOT an option.... letting something as trivial as this (and yes, it is trivial) Ruin your life is simply ridiculous.... Your dad sounds like he argues from a very rational standpoint.... and perhaps you should take a page out of that book.... you claim he states facts that make you feel guilty.... Well, I guess the truth can hurt sometime... and in the real world alot of people dont care about emotions too much... I think your dad might be being a bit insensitive to you, but he is simply telling you the facts, there is no compromise on this.. and I think he is doing the right thing by saying you can't switch schools... you can't run from your problems forever...

Well good work at being straight forward... lets just hope he can handle it.... good luck.. (again) ;;