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  1. loveydovey
    I know it may be hard to do this, but try not to base your decision of who you'll ask out on who is least likely to turn you down. In other words you may like Girl #1 better but you may have an inkling that Girl #2 won't turn you down. That's taking the easy way out. Now if you FIRST sincerely lose interest in Girl #1 and THEN develop interest in someone else, then that's another story.
  2. loveydovey
    I think you had a good answer. After you hang out, then for you 2nd first date , you can make sure it is 'official'.
  3. loveydovey
    Please take to heart what everyone has said thus far. And let us know how it goes.
  4. loveydovey
    Women, have you ever chatted online or instant messaged another female? Just wondering. I have only chatted with guys because of a sincere interest or because they were truly just a friend. I feel bored right now and just wanna chat with a fellow female. I am at work and will be here for the next 2 hours bored outta my mind. What are some things you do to pass the time?
  5. loveydovey
    Oh my. I am so sorry you feel this way. I know I don't even know you, but I almost shed a tear for you. literally. I know how you feel. My boyfriend did the same thing last week. He was going through something and then once he told me about it (which took 2 weeks), it turns out it was about me. He said he felt alone and like he can't talk to me and blah, blah, blah. And then I started to cry because I was upset he was hurt and because I KNOW that I'm normally an attentive person. Well he did it again a couple of days later but this time it was about something else I did. I don't know, its confusing to explain, but what you described sounds slightly similar to what I am experiencing. I also have had anxiety attacks...because of stress and frustrations caused by school, my relationships, and hurricane after effects. I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. Once, again, I'm sorry you are going through this pain, and with your husbanc at that.
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    I haven't been here in a while, but I felt it was time i come "home". Well guys, I feel sooo lonely. I don't know what to do. I think I may drive somewhere and not come back until the morning. I just don't know how to comfort myself or anyone else. Anybody ever felt lonely, then had friends who also felt lonely? Thats my situation. I have maybe 2 or 3 friends in particular that opened up to me and told me they feel lonely. Only, I didn't tell them that I've been feeling lonely too. There was no point in two lonely folks sitting there looking at one another, so I put up a front to make them feel better the best I can. Sometimes I think I want to just take a break. Maybe for like 2 weeks. But actually, I'm trying to figure out if moving out will help my sanity and my emotional health. I am going to be finished with school this December and initially I thought to just continue living at home to save up some money for a while. But, now I'm thinking about branching out sooner rather than later. When I lived on my own the first time (last year), I seemed to be soo much happier, at peace, and I just had so much clarity. I guess I'm just venting so I can have someone to talk to. If anybody has any words for me or can offer some suggestions, you are more than welcome. This soul needs some help
  7. loveydovey
    If you're not a glutton for punishment, then I say end it. Why voluntarily subject yourself to feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy ? Please don't do that. You deserve better. The fact that he was upfront with you should have given you the motivation to say "Hey, I'm not anyone's rebound". Instead, it seems as if you just got so swept away by it. You come accross as a very smart and perceptive young lady. So I would say please proceed as such. It's just that I don't like to hear about people viewing themselves as something they're not . And since you said all of this has been just for a month, I'd say it shouldn't be so hard for you when you tell him it's over. Because think about it this way, while he's using your 'rebound relationship' to get over his ex and heal his wounds, tell me who is going to heal yours? It needs to be you, hun HTH!
  8. loveydovey
    lisica, good question. That's the make or break
  9. loveydovey
    In my experience, it did not work out. It can definitely be a mental or intellectual connection, but a long distance relationship that will still be long distance a year from now (not speaking directly about your situation) is a strain. Unless it's a temporary situation, I don't think they are worth it.
  10. loveydovey
    I would say just outright ask her if something is wrong. And then go off of that. At least that way, you won't be playing the guessing game.
  11. loveydovey
    Okay, well yeah, that'll do it too. Going a while without being active (even as short as a 3 month period), can leave the vaginal muscles to get back somewhat tight. So I would say just take your time and wait it out. It shoudn't be very long before it is pleasurable instead of painful for your girlfriend.
  12. loveydovey
    Well, I agree to leave him alone if he brought all of that into your life. But, to answer your question....I see it all the time and I wonder the same thing. My theory is that when you are in a relationship that turns long-term, one starts to think about the future, marriage, etc. But then the unimaginable happens and a breakup occurs. Well, after say 3 years of being in a relationship where the next stage was marriage or moving in or what have you, some folks just don't really feel like starting alll the way over from square 1. I think some people don't know how to get back into the grove of starting over; it's like their set in that one gear and the next person that comes along basically picks up where the last left off. Now, it may not make a lot of sense to some and I hope I haven't stepped on anyone's toes, but this is just my theory. It may not happen all the time, but this is just the way I have observed it.
  13. loveydovey
    Well, this may be a little silly, but it always works for me. When a guy has his finger on me or starts sucking a nipple and it gets to be too much or unenjoyable, in the middle of my moaning (which is real by the way), I'll say "Ouch" or "Oweee" very softly and normally he'll ease up. No need for me to endure something that doesn't feel good or for him to just continue doing whatever he's doing and sitting there wondering why I'm not getting off. 8) HTH!
  14. loveydovey
    Is your current partner or were the other 2 previous partners, a few knocks from having their virginity broken? Because speaking from personal experience, with my first steady boyfriend, it took a good 6 months for there to be no discomfort when he entered....And I would give a guesstimate and say he was anywhere from 6.5-7 inches and it was also pretty wide. Mine's eventually stretched to accommodate him quite comfortably. I must however mention that with most folks I think, the penis won't just glide in too too easily. I wouldn't think a guy would want that anyway seeing as how it would indicate a stretchy vagina.
  15. loveydovey
    Well, if it's his older brother and in addition, their father was never around. I could clearly see how he is greatly influenced by what his brother says. It's obvious that he doesn't feel comfortable yet making his own big decision or standing for what he believes in, so until he is comfortable it seems that he's going to continue doing what he's doing. If you still want to work it out with him, I would suggest for right now to build a good rapport with the brother. That's JMO. HTH!
  16. loveydovey
    So you want to be 100% certain that he does not have any ties with this woman? If you trust him with your heart, then you have to believe that he loves you and won't intentionally hurt you. Am I to understand that it was last November that this occurred? If it is, then is it at all possible for you to trust that all of it is in the past?
  17. loveydovey
    It's so weird that love is the ONE thing in our existence to have such a hold and power over EVERYONE. No one is excluded. I marvel at the fact that love (or lack thereof) can cause the strongest person to crumble and breakdown from pain and heartache. Relationship troubles are said to be #1 or #2 cause of stress amongst individuals today. With that being said, I agree that it will pass. Be strong and remember that it IS just a period that one must go through when ending a relationship. It'll get better. I hope that the words and advice here do not provide ample comfort for you during this time. Good luck!
  18. loveydovey
    Well, you know your boyfriend. Is he the type to say or do something just to get a rise or reaction out of you. If not, then I doubt he would say it. And honestly, to me, if a man was really lusting after some woman, I don't think he would DARE be bold enough to say it to his lady. In other words, he wouldn't go there for REAL with his brother's gf, so he probably didn't think anything was wrong with saying "She's hot" HTH!
  19. loveydovey
    I was in elementary school. Can't quite remember the exact age. But sometime like 3 years into it, I remember wanting to stop and I viewed it as an addiction. I would try to contain myself but then I would give in and do it. Finally, I stopped doing it so much when I got a REAL boyfriend. LOL.
  20. loveydovey
    I also get pain during intercourse if the penis is at a certain angle. Is it pain and pressure in her pelvic region? If so, it could be something like a tipped uterus. Try a google search for it. I've looked it up before but have forgotten the information.
  21. loveydovey
    Whew! It's over. Well we made it known the other night that we will only be seeing each other. He went to an event the other day where lots of couples were, and he told me someone asked him where his date was, and he answered, "My girl is back at home". So I asked him what does he mean by that....significant other? And, he said "yes ". So basically, I just took that and ran with it!! Lol. Thanks everyone for all your suggestions!
  22. loveydovey
    So, do you sometimes run into old flames and you know what happened between you and they know what happened but you keep your current partner in the dark about it? My current partner wouldnt know the ex's name specifically, but they would for the most part know what happened between me and the ex but also understand it's in the past. When I tell stories or recount an incident from my past, I typically don't make mention of the name (eg. My friend came over; I helped my friend do her hair; I talked to my friend yesterday). And so similarly, I do the same when referring (if need be) to an ex.
  23. loveydovey
    And also, I don't really bring up names. I don't think it's necessary
  24. loveydovey
    Well, me I tell them if its pertaining to our current topic of discussion. I won't just bring it up out of the blue saying, "Well, one time my ex......" or "Me and my ex used to always go to that restaurant". But general questions such as last time in a relationship, longest relationship, what issues I have with myself or the oppositie sex that may have been discovered from being in past relationships, or anything like that gets answered. No need to go getting into an emotional conversation with blow by blow information .
  25. loveydovey
    I third what the others have said. I was in a similar situation, with my best friend last year and she was a wreck over her fiance in Afganistan. But just try to let those types of comments roll off your back (as hard as that may be). It will get better and like Ms Omaniac and Hope said, it's her hurt, anger, frustration, and lonliness speaking. HTH!
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