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  1. loveydovey
    Yes, I agree with everyone else. Also, I think it's good that he feels comfortable enough to talk with you and be honest without having to feel like he's got to bar himself from saying certain things to you. Yes, please just take it with a grain of salt and don't sweat it hun' 8)
  2. loveydovey
    Please, please, please do not allow him to disrespect you anymore. Do not allow him to be nasty to you anymore. Do not allow him to treat you like a yo-yo. I'm telling you because I've been there. Although I'm not in your shoes and don't know what's in your heart, I can say with full confidence that he is NOT considering your feelings in all of this. Please get a grip...shake yourself (I say this because this is what I had to do to myself) and open your eyes to what's right before you and it'll be easier to understand....it'll be like a lightbulb turning on. Please don't waste anymore time, thought, or effort where they are not returned.
  3. loveydovey
    Well, no me personally, I wouldn't think of it as cliche because I'd be too happy that my boyfriend is spending time with me and wants to make my birthday special! Now, for an added touch, give her something made. Make a card, make a CD with your voice on it, make (write a poem), anything that adds your personal flair to it. She'll LOVE it.
  4. loveydovey
    Well, being that you have feelings for both of them, I don't think you need to do anything just yet. Only when you feel much stronger for one than the other and when you feel that you want to take it to another level (couple status) with that one girl. So just take it easy, take it slow, observe, and enjoy!
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    Well, my tip is instead of making it seem like a question answer session, try to dwell on a particular 'set' for as long as possible. For example, when you asked 'How was it?' and then she explained, try then to say something related to what she did. Perhaps you or someone you know has a 'story' that's relavant. When you asked 'What are you doing for the weekend?' and then she explained, try telling her how interesting that sounds or how fun that sounds. Then that could lead into you talking about what fun things you like. Then that could lead into what fun things you did as a child..... See where I'm going . Keys to Remember: 1. Don't hop questions too much. Dwell for as long as reasonably possible 2. Flow naturally, (eg. weekend to fun to childhood to games to theme parks to locations to cities to places you've visited....) 3. And finally, don't think too hard about it HTH!!!
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    Well, there's nothing wrong with waiting on love. I know several guys who take the laid-back approach to pursuing love and relationships....it's not that they do it on purpose, it's just their nature, lol. So I think there is nothing wrong with waiting, just as long as you don't become lazy with it. Because there is a difference between the two. Also, it's okay to just 'wait for love' itself, but if you see a girl that you feel is truly special, then don't you 'wait' on her my friend....go bust a move!
  7. loveydovey
    Well, I know that you may not want to hear this, but it is going to take some T.I.M.E. Believe me, you will stop seeing her in every new woman you meet. Just take it slow. Take a break from women altogether if necessary (if possible), and that way you won't be doing the constant comparisons or the frustrating paranoia that something's going to go wrong. I know it's hard to not think about someone who after years of being together, just up and broke up with you....especially when they seem to just vanish out of your life. It's hard to deal with, but I promise you a brighter day for you is going to come. Keep your spirits lifted high
  8. loveydovey
    Well the thing that sort of stood out to me is when you say 'it will hit her hard because you don't think she sees anything as wrong'. So does that mean you havent told her? And I mean really tell her. I suggest picking a time and atmosphere that allows you to be honest, sincere, and thorough in expressing to her what you're thinking/feeling. Let her know just how important she is, intimacy is, and intimacy with her is. And, hopefully, she's see it a little differently. HTH
  9. loveydovey
    Well, as you said, you guys are in a circle. If you truly...and I mean truly want that circle to end, I suggested not worrying about why he calls or when he calls. Just take care of you for the next couple of days or so.
  10. loveydovey
    My opinion....there is absolutely NO reason to tell him, and no cause for concern. Like DN said, just leave it alone
  11. loveydovey
    My mother is a beautiful beautiful lady. She is a single parent who raised my sister and I on her own starting when I was about 10 years old, after my parent's divorce. I love her sooo much and the things that she does and has accomplished astound me! The problem however, is that I worry so much about when my sister and I move out of the house. I am 23 and am going to be on my own in the next 6-9 months. My sister is college aged and will be graduating in about 2 or 3 years. Right now, if we were to leave, she would be in the house by herself. And omigoodness, i do NOT want my Mommy (yeah I know but i luvs her to pieces) to be alone or feeling lonely. Sometimes I think of that movie The Parent Trap and try to figure out how I can get her to have a boyfriend or some companion in her life. I don't know what to do but worry and sometimes I feel like I can't ever see myself moving out and leaving her there. Anyone else ever feel like this?
  12. loveydovey
    That's hard to say. Sometimes if a woman is pretty straight up about being friends and she is saying, "no no ....don't want to get back together", then it seems to me that she just wants to be friends with you. And it sounds like to me she wants to have you in her life for possible future access although she currently just wants to be friends. So at this time, my guess is Yes, she wants you to remain in her life (whether its because she's used to you being there or because she wants you to be back up), but No, she does not want you back right now. This is what I think, but you know her better than any of us, so maybe you can read between the lines more
  13. loveydovey
    Okay, I may be wrong....but I think she consciously knew what was happening, but she couldn't really stop herself. Yeah, I'm one of the folks that doesnt need to drink....it literally takes away your judgement to stop or continue to do something even if you're totally aware of what's going on. So in a word....No. I would not be upset with her or him for instinctively turning to look at her. Now my question to you is, do either of you normally do that sort of thing? Meaning, changing in front of each other and so forth? Because if so, then I even moreso wouldn't let it bother me too too much.
  14. loveydovey
    Ditto on what kskm said
  15. loveydovey
    Congratulations! I'm going to be right behind you this fall with my B.S.!
  16. loveydovey
    Well I feel that fortunately or unfortunately, love is blind--better put, the things that would normally make you high tail it out of there with any other person, are the same things you would weather out with the person you love. I say that to mean. Once the 'true' selves emerge, I think this is the true test--is it love or is it just deep infatuation. Its one thing if you two are going through something right now and your just extremely upset and frustrated....but it's another thing if your feelings for her went from love to zilch in a matter of a couple of days (or weeks, did you say?) Just my opinion, though.
  17. loveydovey
    Does she call you names? Because if so, then I see where that may be potentially offensive. But truly, if she is just speaking from the high of her orgasms (which I'm assuming she really enjoys), she probably can't help but scream with ecstasy. You're absolutely right. You may not like everything the magazines say a guy likes. But the important thing is that, although her approach may be wrong, her intentions seem nothing but in the right place. Maybe she feels like "naturally" doesn't come naturally for her, hence, she turns to an article. Maybe you can just openly tell her what you like? And you're totally correct on this too. Let's just forget about what everyone "thinks" is perfectly normal and tells you you should be appreciative of. Just think about you girl.....If she digs it, she's should be able to dig it. If she wants to get loose and enjoy her man, she should be able to. It seems to me that you two have two different styles and the most important thing is to have a talk so that you can both come to some sort of compromise or understanding. This is just my opninion thought. Good luck!
  18. loveydovey
    Hello. Just wanted to say sorry about what happened. That both upset me and made me sad just hearing about how everything went down during your breakup. But I just want to tell you to look at it this way...her "relationship/marriage" started at the tail end (or perhaps the middle) of you two's relationship. It started in two people being dishonest, dishonorable, and thoughtless. So what kind of relationship/marriage do you think that will really make . Not a great one if you ask me. On the brighter side, when you find that special person, the love (REAL love) that you share with Ms. Right won't be tainted with such things. You'll have a fresh start and a greater chance for a happier future ! Good Luck to You!
  19. loveydovey
    Yes please get to a doctor. You just scared ME so bad.
  20. loveydovey
    So the two of you are mainly concerned about taking it slow? And you don't want to make each other feel awkward by bringing up intimacy just yet? That sounds like a good idea. Don't worry about feeling any pressure to move from "just friends" zone to "more than friends" zone deliberately. Just let it happen smoothly and naturally on its on . You two already have a solid foundation since you've been friends for a while. What kinds of "dates" have you two gone on?
  21. loveydovey
    So your interested in exploring a possible relationship with this woman? Okay that's cool. So you say you emailed her a total of 3 times, and out of those 3, she replied to 1. Well, do you know whether or not she is involved with anyone? Maybe that could be the reason. Or maybe she is just a very busy person, as you mentioned that she participated in a number of things. Have you ever thought about asking her in person to have lunch or hang out?
  22. loveydovey
    Well, if you don't want to be in a relationship now, and don't really see yourself warming up to the idea anytime soon, I would say end it now. He'll be able to deal with it better now than 3 months from now where he'll become more attached to you and to the idea that you two are in this together for the long haul. This is just my opinion. Have you two been together for ver long?
  23. loveydovey
    Well, what exactly goes wrong when you get together?
  24. loveydovey
    Oops sorry....I mean feisty. But like animated, vivacious, energentic, clever, zingy, etc. ya know? But that's why I mentioned being feminine with it too. Because, you don't want to come off seeming like you are hyper or anything like that. The way I flirt is very laid-back/feisty/feminine....making it look almost like an accident, like I don't even know I'm doing it. 8) Oh shoot, i don't know I just do something and it works for me. Most important thing though is be yourself and be natural! Hope this helps
  25. loveydovey
    Just be yourself. Most of all just loosen up and try to be fun (funny if possible) and a little fiesty, but still feminine at the same time. I've found that guys like that for some reason. Help me out guys. Am I right?
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