EpicOfAnguish

The thing is, my husband goes completely crazy when a women shows him any attention or shows the slightest interest in him. When my other friend made a pass at him he said maybe we shouldn't have her over to the house anymore because of this. I don't know if he meant he couldn't resist her, or if he just wanted to avoid an ugly situation. But also, two years ago he had a pretty inappropriate relatioship with someon online, all because this online person showed an interest in him. It was like he liked seeing me get jealous, and liked knowing two wmone (assuming this person even WAS a woman) competing for him. So yes, I may trust him not to actually DO anything, but I don't think he would behave himself either. Her and my husband get along well. All four of us (the fourth person ebing her husband) have a lot of things in common. I don't think she is physically his type, but neither was my other friend who hit on him either. But my husband does seem to be more friends with her husband then with her. I still can't igure out why she said he was her best friend in this internet survey, and then sent it to me. I am afraid that if I tell my husband my concerns, he will let it all go to his head and start intentionally stirring things up with her just to get me good and jealous.

Just a quick afterthought... She once claimed in an online post that she lies, uses people, and does things she regrets on a daily basis.

I have this good friend who I think may have eyes for my husband. My reasons for thing this seem crazy, even to me... -Lately I have noticed some animosity from her for no apparent reason. -I made a comment about how my Mom said my husband was ugly once, and she said she found him attractive. -I was reading one of those stupid internet surveys people pass around from her, and one of the questions was "Who are your best friends?" She listed my husband first above everyone else. This was unusual because it doesn't really seem they are that close. My husband is actually good friends with her husband. -She has tried to talk her husband into having an open marriage, (which he won't do). She has gone on to me about how she doesn't think sleeping with someone other then her spouce is wron because it's just sex. -She is a practicing Satanist. (I am IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM saying this makes her a bad person, but from what I understand Satanism preaches the philosophy that if it feels good, do it. -I was confiding in her about a disagreement my husnand and I had, and she seemed to side entirely with him. I had another friend make a pass at my husband once. NOthing happened, but he enjoyed the attention way too much. So now I'm worried that this current friend may try something with him. So am I being paranoid? What should I do about it? Typing this makes me feel better though.

Ok. I am not one of those women who wants to hug and cuddle and talk about feelings all the time, but when my husband is upset he won't talk to me. There are time when I know something is wrong, and I ask him, and he gives me answers like "It doesn't matter." or "Don't worry about it." There have been times when I have asked "was it something I did?" and he will reply with "Maybe." This is really frusterating. There have been a few ocasions when we've had arguments and he will say that I do things to upset him, but when I ask what these things are he won't answer me. How am I to fix the problem if I don't know what needsa fixed? It's like he expects me to be a mind reader...

now that is possible too, lol.

Well actually this isn't where the hair is.

This morning I woke up with some kind of sore on the inner part of my labia (near the clit). IT is not an open sore, it's itchy and red. I've considered some possibilties. I thought It might be a spider bite *shudders* But I don't know how a spider could have bitten me there. It's not like it's an easy access area. I've thought It might be just a pimple, but I've never broke out there before, and pimples usually don't itch. Now to the big and obvious one that everyone is going to jump to, and STD. I don't know how this could be possible. I've been in a monogomous relationship for three years. I have not reason to suspect my husbad has been unfaithful. So, any ideas? I'm pretty worried.

I recently met this girl and we started talking. I thought we really hit it off at first. We have a lot of things in common. But the more I talk to her I find her kinda annoying. She interrupts me constantly and I can't get a word in edgewise. I went to her house earlier today and she lives like a pig. There was garbage everywhere, etc. But, when I met her she told me she plays the violin. This is something I have wanted to do since I was a teenager. I just couldn't afford to pay for the lessons and for the violin itself. She has offered to give me lessons at a next-to-nothing proce. She also has two violins and she is willing to loan me one to learn on. I am happy being aquaintances with her. I can't see myself being good close friends with her though. So if I continue hanging out with her based on this one thing she can do for me, how bad a person does that make me? I know I'll probably get flamed, but I want to hear opinions...

I'm upset right now because of this weekend's events... YEsterday I was supposed to meet an old friend of mine who I haven't seen in 4 years. He lives almost an hour away, my husband and I went to his town. We sat at the meeting place we picked out for almost an hour waiting, and he never showed. Not to sound like a cheapskate, but with the gas prices lately... Last night there was a message on the machine from a friend of mine, P, saying she would call me back at 2:00 today. Then my other friend, C, called me and asked me to go somewhere with her today. She said she'd pick me up at 3:00 today. Well, P never called. C never showed up, but she called me (finally) at 6:00 to tell me we weren't going. I think at that point I'd figured it out. And I turned down other plans today because of my plans with her. The friend who lives an hour away e-mailed me last night to say he was sorry. He said something just came up. Like he couldn't have called me before hand to let me know? My friends aren't bad people. They don't do this often. But whenever they do it's always the same thing "Your not mad are you?" and I'm always a chump and say "No, it's allright." because I don't want to start anything. How can I help this situation?

Not to sound cynical, but how does she know her suspicions are wrong? Someone is obviously taking her clothes. That's kinda creepy...

When he talked about her we weren't dating yet, so i guess I didn't have any right to be upset then. I did feel a little jealous though, seeing how I liked him and wanted to date him. Things started heating up between us and he only really talked about her once in a great while. Yes, she is married with three kids, but that means nothing. I understand she got married right after they broke up and a few months into her marriage she was contacting my husband (who didn't know me then) and wanting to have an affair with him. So, her being married now really means nothing. She was all about cheating then, so why should I assume she changed her week morrals. I did clear my history though. I wasn't thinking about telling him. I just wanted to know if not telling would be deceptive in any way.

When I met my husband we didn't start dating right away. In the period before the dating began he told me about his ex from quite a while ago. He said she will always be his only true love, and that if he wouldn't have screwed up (i.e cheated on her) thta he still would be with her. He also said he doesn't have any way of getting in contact with her, but he referred to "sitings." of her in our town. Like saying "I know she still lives here, just don't have her number. He told me then that he had tried searching for her on Yahoo people finder, and on link removed and never found her. THen we became a thing and I figure all thoughts of her are just memories. Everyone has that one fuzzy relationship in their passed. Well today I was looking up stuff on link removed. I didn't go to the same high school as he did, but I had a lot of friends who went there. Classmates allows you to search any school you want, weather you went there or not. So I was reading through names of people from this other high school. Well, I found her, and I swear I wasn't looking for her. I didn't even think about her when I signed on. I was just curious to find out if any of my old friends from his school were on that site. Now I am paranoid that he will get board one day, log onto classmates for the heck of it, and find her. From the way he talked about her before I don't know if this would spell disater or cause problems for us or not. Also, is it wrong if I don't tell him I found her on there? He obviously wants to know where she's at and what she's doing, at least he did.

Well, the job is a little more specialized. I would be investigating animal abuse cases. At first when she told me I thought of it as doing a good thing, but it would get so depressing after a while. I don't know if this place is no-kill, but I can find out. Thanks to everyone for all the information. I do have a very strong stomach,.

I have been job hunting lately, and my mom told me about this job opening at the pound. I know it's a county job with good benefits, but I don't know that I can handle it. She said I should go work there because I love animals. FYI, I have a small zoo in my house, (snakes, cats, a ferrit, and a Rose Terantula... I also have a pure bread Norweigen Elkhound that is staying with my parents because my landlord draws the line at large dogs.) I have heard horror stories about what they do at the pound. I am afraid if I worked there I would come home upset every night. Also, I am afraid that I will get attached to animals and what to take them home, lol. But it's the killing I am worried about... Does anyone have any advise, and does anyone know anything about what really goes on at the pound? Should I apply there?

Well, I am back after a few days of stewing... Yes it is a good point, and now I am really wondering if I should confront him with this. I can't believe how stupid I was for not thinking of this before. SHE ended it, not HIM. Now I really do have things to think about...