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yeah true. that's why Ive been pretty much thinking it over, and really, it's not worth it. not even the sex. she's even got real close to me direct in front of me like she wants to kiss. but im sort of seeing that as kind of being a sl-ut, or a who re ...it's like she's not getting what she needs at home, so she has to go somewhere else..

Now the other element is... ta-da! She's married. That's what has really been keeping me off from going any further. It's like I want to but I know that's really wrong to do so... but if that's the case, why is she acting the way she is? Being so flirtatious..

I work at a mall kiosk(yeah I know it's pretty blunt) and there's this cell phone kiosk next to me. Well one day they got a new employee in. So one of the coworkers I used to work with(he's gone) said that she didn't pay attention to him. So I decided to go over and introduce myself. But before then when we made eye contact, we would just smile at each other, just showing her friendliness, I suppose. So after that, that's when I decide to y'know, talk to her. After a brief conversation we got to know each other a bit well, and that ended that. Later on we keep talking to each other, just making conversation. Pretty much after that I've noticed a lot. Like for one when I would leave she would lock on to my every move, even from accross the hall in the mall. She came up to my chair and put her arm on it, and grabbed my arm to see "if I was cold"(there was AC in the mall at the time). And dosen't stop there... Eventually it came about where she would come over and talk to me, smiling, in the morning mind you. Which isn't a bad thing at all. She would even I guess imitate my voice tone. So when she came over I'd be like saying "What's up" really low and she'd be like "What's up" in the same way. And I'd be like "hmm?" She's done it more than one. One time I said "whats up" and she was like "how ya doin?" I used to(and still do) make her laugh, we go deep into conversation, she tilts her head when she looks at me, and I've noticed that despite her wearing glasses, her eyes \always dilate just about every time we talk. When I approach her to talk, she'll be in a bad mood and I suddenly make her smile, and she'll have her arms crossed but when I talk to her she uncrosses them. She would look over the balcony and then as soon as I say somethign she'll just start smiling(with her teeth, not just lips). Even when I'm doing my job, talking to customers, she constantly stares the hell out of me(I see it in the corner of my eye), and when I'm talking to someone else that I know(coworker, friend), she tilts and even stares then. And now here's the killer... One day we were talking about eating at the food court sucks, and she think she's fat(she's really thin, don't ask) and I told her she wasn't fat. So she takes her pants and kind of lowers them and she shows me her pink panties. She then smiles at me and does it again, and I'm like "whoa". I didn't really know how to take that. Really at first I thought it was like "she really likes talking to me". But now it seems like something else. We've been talking for a few months now. Now it seems like it's not like she wants to talk to me, but it's like whenever I come around she gets kind of shaken up or something, like she's all of a sudden afraid to talk to me. I usually think I'm getting the cold shoulder but when I go talk to her it's like any other time we've talked. It's kinda like that feeling you get when you like someone so much you all of a sudden feel anxious around them and avoid eye contact. So how would you all take this? There's another key element to this situation but I'll save that for later.

I successfully(kind of) flirted with a customer at work today... Let's just say I need to think before I talk. -___- As I was leaving from work I saw this woman who caught my attention(yeah I'm 18 and she was a bit older than me, so what big deal) so I said hi to her and asked her did she need any help. Well she was one of those D.C. girls whom you can tell my the voice and attitude. She didn't have a bad attitude or anything, it was just "there". Soo turns out she wanted a new PC so she followed me to the PC section and she was asking me or "testing" me which ones was better than the other. I always have this trait when talking to a girl/woman I like where I act stupid by making totally nonsense jokes. So eventually after lots of eye contact and touchy feely and sort of making her laugh and spurted out "So are you single?" And she was like "I gotta a man hunnie" and showed me her ring. Well it dosent hurt to ask does it? I mean I wasn't devestated or anything I just wanted to know, start out. But I think I rushed it. I even gave her a happy belated birthday hug. After meeting part of her family(mom and niece), after joking around with them thats when things got serious. She told me that its cool be confident and such, but she said in her opinion of all young people, that I was too c*cky and I was almost crossing the line at times. She was saying things like "Hes a salesman flirting with me and hes not even supposed to be doing that!" But not in a serious kind of way just you know, jokingly. But still, she thought I was c*cky and I guess over-confident. This is going to be on my mind for a long time...

Well it's not really a certaina someone, well it kinda is, but I was just want to know from everyone's knowledge how aperson would present themselves as being hurt. For example stop looking at you, talking at you, kind of influence her to stop talking to everyone else(before she was social, but she then became anti-social). You know, stuff like that.

Out of general curiosity, (both guys and gals can reply), what are the subtle signs that a girl that used to like you but you hurt her feelings unintentionally?

I don't know. I gues she just took it to the extreme I guess... Well it's over with now, I was just feeling false vibes I suppose.

Well what I did was that I playfully blew air in her face. SHe giggled and smiled and few days later BAM you offended me. So I just don't care anymore. Like you said, apparently she was hot and now I believe its because I sort of rejected her, she feels like she dosen't want to be bothered with me anymore. Meh. Women are strange and can't be figured out.

Well I talked to her this morning. Apparently I did something that in my eyes, didn't, but I offended her in someway she took as sexual harassment blah blah blah. It was something real petty and not even worth the time, but she did it anyway. So I apologized to her and told her what I did was inappopriate. So she's all like she dosen't come to work for friendships and such, and I understand that. But when I was talked to her, it was like talking to a wall. She just didn't seem to understand what the hell I was saying. Eventually she told me that "I was so disrespectful I just stopped looking at you, talking to you, because I was that much offended". If that was the case, you should've told me instead of keeping it in the whole time! I told her she needs to leave whatever she has against me in the past, but it just didn't go through to her head. So I just said "forget it" and left it at that. It's like she still didn't want to communicate with me at all after the talk, and it's like I failed. But I know I didn't because I felt good gettng those feelings off my chest and despite how she feels, I've already said my part.

Well it's getting worse. She looks horribly depressed when I seen her today. I asked a co-worker how she looked and he said that to him she looked pissed off. Now ever since that incident I rarely talk to her now, and I don't know if it's me putting a negative vibe on the situation, but I can clearly see how she really feels about me now. And to think I used to make her laugh, smile, joke around and what not. I mean she looks like she's been crying for a long time. It really makes me feel bad, but in the end I choose not to care. I was contemplating on talking to her about this situation, but I dont want to end up in more stuff than I'm already in now. So I've decided to stay low for awhile. So now I just come to work, do my job, and completely ignore her. She has looked at me a few times today, only to turn away in an instant. Methinks that her personal feelings got in the way, because she used to sort of "show off" for me, making all these jokes and whatnot, but I didn't mind it because I didn't want to get in trouble. Nor did I care of that matter. Do you think that's real harsh to do? I mean other people come to my cube and I talk and joke around with them and other people, besides her. I don't want to be mean, but how she's treating is me, is like others said, "real immature and unprofessional".

Haha I figured someone would remember that topic I made awhile back. lol Nah, not really. I didn't tell her that, I didn't mind the admiration. It felt nice to have someone like you instead of dissing you. But seriously, she literally hates me now and she gave the most evil look today as I was walking down to my desk it made me tremble...

I was just recently transferred over to a new area of the department at work. I sit accross from a middle aged woman named "M". I'm 18 as well. This was a few weeks ago by the way. So when I get over there she misses the Monday and the next day she comes to work with a new hair-do. Nothing go say "wow" about, but she had a lot of make-up on, and she wore a skirt with no stockings on. Then she asked me if she was sexy and to play it off and avoid getting in trouble, I just acted like I was sleepy that morning.(And I really was, lol) This lady is married and has kids by the way, supposedly. Eventually her and I start flirtariouslly messing around with each other, her touching me, etc. She would make little jokes, calling me freakboy, and she called me sweetie by "accident". Not such a coincidence if you ask me. She would keep looking over to my desk and gaze, and when someone asked her what she was looking at, she had said my name. Oddly enough, she asked me about was I seeing other women, and that she noticed me with "other girls", basically trying to get an insight if I have a girlfriend or not. So in the latter while, if I talk to another girl, she would sort of "follow" me, and keep looking at her and I talk. Then she would pout and look sad, as if she were jealous. Since M is my team leader(first in assistant to the supervisor) I have to talk to her business wise. Apparrently someone claimed to hear me say something about her in a negative way, she's pissed off now and she won't even look at me, nor talk to me. I told her multiple times i don't know what the hell is going on, but I didn't say anything about her. She keeps getting an attitude, and she had to mention that in the rumor, I said that something about "other girls". Now I know that's not true, because I hardly talk to anyone at all in the department. Now M emails me to ask questions(rememebr we sit right accross from each other), talk business etc. I noticed in her cube is a little printout about how people in the world will always be important in your life to help you succeed. Apparently she has some type of grudge against me. I tried to resolve it, but she acts so immature about it, I don't like talking to her. When someone comes over and mentions my name, she catches a bad vibe and it's like she literally hates me now. When I ask her a question about work, she avoids making eye contact with me, and sounds like she dosen't even want to tell me. It's like her self-esteem just went into the cut. It's not a good feeling to come to work every morning to sit accross someone who hates you due to some stupid rumor that was believed. I've been told not to talk to her, to forget about it, but this is really getting out of hand. She is really pretty and I really do like her, but I'm afraid this is going to go on forever. Please give me some anonymous advice =P.

Lol I mean she's cool and all, and her crushing me hasn't really affected my ego or anything, it's just something to think positive of. But since she's married, I'm just going to have to say no. Definitely at work too.

Yeah she's a cutie. But still, it's just weird

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a sexist person, but what's up with women flirting with guys when they're freakin married!? I'm in a situation were I was just promoted to a new position and my seat is accross from this woman I've seen around and said Hi to before in the office. Now that I'm over here, she got a new hairstyle, she's wearing more revealing clothing, and she asked me one morning if she looked sexy! But she's married, I mean come on! Then I caught her talking about me to someone else(more than once) and apparently she's been talking to her little girlfriends about me too. Note that I had to train this girl(lets call her R), and each time R would come to my desk, M(the other woman) would all of a sudden get upset for some reason because I would leave to go with her! So I go to her desk, and bam, there's M right there near the file cabinets watching me! I mean WTF! Each time another girl comes to my desk to talk or joke around or anything, she's always looking at us, and it's really disturbing. She even says stupid things like if I ask her a question, she goes "Well why dont you go ask R or whatever her name is". And I'm like "Come on was all that about!" And she's married and has kids! I'm 18 and she's like in her 30s or something, and she's acting well...strange! She also keeps asking me questions like "Who was that girl you were with" and "Why were you with her", etc. And I caught her staring at me many times before, and one of our other co-workers thats on our team asked her what she was staring at and she "all of a sudden" called my name to get my attention for something work related. And for the last time people, she's married!!! Gah help!!!