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I have no clue what to do next. I am having what I expect is an anxiety attack about once a week. I am dealing with stress issues to the max on a daily basis. I want to get help, but I dont know how. I am embarrassed to go to my family doctor and not even sure if that is where I need to turn to. My family doctor is also my mother's close friend- and they work together. I do not want my family knowing I am going through this for fear they will think they did something wrong. My boyfriend of over a year is not dealing with it well either, and I think he is about to leave me because I am so unhappy on a daily basis. I dont go to work any more, only about half the time. I miss school about once a week. I talk to no one, except my boyfriend, then it seems like I try to bring up my unhappiness issues, and we argue. He says I need to change or he's gone... I dont want to lose him... I am physically and emotionally drained. Sex just doesnt feel good any more, and the things I used to smile and laugh about just make me sick to even think about now. I want to feel like I used to. I dont eat, and its not because I'm starving myself, I'm just so stressed about stupid things that I forget that I need to do that. What do I need to do? To go to couseling is kind of out of the question, because I have no clue what the problem is. I worry CONSTANTLY. It literally consumes my everyday life. Where do I need to go or who do I need to talk to?

Ok... I'll just start from the beginning. I'm 17 years old, and I've been in a relationship with "Joe" for 10 months. Joe is 22... and it doesn't even appear that big of an age difference to me. At any case, we have a lot of issues with drinking. For the first three months of our relationship, I was very happy and I had a lot of fun. We would drink together and I trusted him with all my heart. From that point its went all down hill. Its like he doesnt want me involved with that part of his life any more. Sorta like he's trying to hide something.... him drinking or the fact that he has a problem. Joe will go get a case of beer while I'm at work.. or just tell me he's with his dad, and by the time I get there, he's 3 sheets to the wind. He tries to blame this on me. He says I don't look at things the same way he does, and that its because I'm only 17 that I dont understand. I want to be with him for the rest of my life... there's not a minute in the day that goes past that he doesn't cross my mind. Joe has a problem- simply put. Honestly, maybe I'm wrong, but anyone who drinks at least 3 days a week is an alcoholic. And if he's not, he is well on his way. I just want to be happy. Tonight he said he was mowing his grass... I once again let my guard down and didnt have a problem in the world with him doing so. At 6:30 he calls and says he done and that he's coming to pick me up. I could tell by the tone in his voice that he had been drinking... pritty heavily. But beyond my best judgement, I went with him. Within two hours, he was passing out on the couch. What am I supposed to do? Its like 40 degrees outside, and I'm about 3 miles away from my house with no vehicle except his. I finally get him up... and we start arguing over the keys... one thing lead to another and he elbowed me in the face. This is the first time he's ever gotten physical to me. I am not forgiving him for this.. but I dont want to leave him. I almost feel like I've convinced myself that he has a problem. He has a disease, and I think it is wrong for me to leave him in his time of need. My cheek bone is alittle sore- nothing much. But its not only that. When he drinks, he gets emotionally abusive. He tells me I'm acting like "Kimmy"... she's his exgirlfriend. They were together for 2 years, and she was a complete nut. Tonight I lost my temper, I really did... Once he got physical towards me, I got crazy.. I said things I didnt mean, and I just dont know what to do.. I have no clue what to do... I dont know if I should run the other way? Try to talk to him about it AGAIN? Give each other some time... Please any form of advice would help. I just want to be happy again, and to be quite honest.. I dont think I could "leave him" without being harmed?

I'll start off with our ages.... I'm 17 and he's 21.. Not a big deal, right? Well it wasnt until tonight. We met at work about 4 months ago and sooner or later I got up enough nerve to ask him out, and luckily he said yes. We've been "official" for about a month and a half. He's the greatest guy I have ever been with in my life. He respects me, does whatever I need to be happy, wants me to be successful... you name it, he does it. He just treats me like a little angel. He never forces me to do anything sexual.. or even suggests it. He's just like.. my angel- and he has yet to make me think twice about our relationship. Thing is, he's 21. My parents both seemed to like him until tonight. He and his friend went to the bar after work for ONE drink, and my mother happen to be there. What do you know, she's quite angry. All he did was go in, get something to eat, and had one drink with a friend. My mother went up to him and said "I thought you didnt drink". He explained that it was a once in a while thing, and that he was pritty much only there to eat. She just said "well... you better treat my daughter good..". That was the end of their conversation and he left. When I got home from work, my mother called and flipped out. She started saying he was too old, he was worthless, its time to get rid of him or she will. It made me break down.. My parents are separated and my father's opinion of him has not changed a bit. He says that everything will be ok, and that he didnt do anything wrong.. But what am I supposed to do? I cant just tell my mother to f off... she's still my mother. I just want her to understand that I really care about this person, and he never influences me to do ANYTHING wrong. He's done so much good for me in the past 1.5 months that you could almost call him a hero!! How am I supposed to react with my mother? I want to be as calm as possible and somehow make her understand...any ideas? PS- I know all she is trying to do is do whats best for me... but I dont know how to show her that he is whats best??

Well..I asked him if he has a girlfriend, he responded with no.. SO I asked him for his number, and he said "sure, call anytime".. Just thought I'd let you all know.

I work at a local sub shop. We get to talk to the customer the whole time we are making food, and this time it led me down the wrong road. I have a crush on this kid. He's 19, and def. my type all the way. I'm 16, so no problems there. The thing is, we are both shy, so how do I ask him out on a date or something? I only see him the nights I work until midnight because he gets on break during that time... WHAT DO I DO?!?!

Ok... so I'm 16 now... and finally allowed to date, so I'm being sorta picky. Myself, I am picky. I like things my way, and if it isnt, go away... Thing is, I am attracted to weird guys. Like the ones that no one else is interested in, and they seem to mostly be quiet when I'm mostly loud. Now.. I have a crush on this kid from my school, you know, a little school girl crush. He is almost 18, and is adorable, but is VERY unique. He listens to funny music, dresses weird, and dates the classic way.. So.. how exactly do I get his attention and ask him out??

Yes, I have taken it before. I was in a complete depression and could not function for the life of me. Everything I was doing ended wrong. Finally my dad started noticing the changes and had me start taking St. John's Wart once a day, every day for about 3 months. By 2 months I was starting to feel the effects... so a month and a half later I quit using it. And now I'm slipping back into it. So I started taking it about a month ago, and I'm still feeling bad but it will soon kick in. Good luck!

Yes, I have taken it before. I was in a complete depression and could not function for the life of me. Everything I was doing ended wrong. Finally my dad started noticing the changes and had me start taking St. John's Wart once a day, every day for about 3 months. By 2 months I was starting to feel the effects... so a month and a half later I quit using it. And now I'm slipping back into it. So I started taking it about a month ago, and I'm still feeling bad but it will soon kick in. Good luck!

Yes, I have taken it before. I was in a complete depression and could not function for the life of me. Everything I was doing ended wrong. Finally my dad started noticing the changes and had me start taking St. John's Wart once a day, every day for about 3 months. By 2 months I was starting to feel the effects... so a month and a half later I quit using it. And now I'm slipping back into it. So I started taking it about a month ago, and I'm still feeling bad but it will soon kick in. Good luck!

Well... pending on our moods... We fight probably once a week. And they are more than likely very petty. We've been together for like 3.5 years off and on now, so its not like I'm not used to it. We had our first major argument on our 2 month annerversary.

Well.. to be honest its not something you can just snap your fingers and do. It takes time and effort. My opinion is that you could just try to not get mad, and think things through thoroughly. Whenever you are angry at someone, walk away, go somewhere quit and think about what you would do in there situation.

I've never exactly had this happen to me before, but hey, what's wrong with a girlf wanting it too?! Haha, More than likely, if you have ever not wanted to have sex, and they did, that's how they feel.

Just be patient. Its not that you seem to be rudely impatient, just wanting to rush things is what it sounds like to me. But that's just my opinion. He may have gotten held up by something like family, or just having a good time. I'd just wait til he contacted you again and easily ask him why he was there extra time. If he's a nice guy, he'll surely be able to give you an answer.

Ok, I know I'm young, but my parents did the same exact thing as I got to stand back and watch. First of all, this guy sounds flipping insane, and personally, in my opinion, I do not think you should sleep with him any more. He is currently sleeping with you for a piece and nothing more, because he also said his girlfriend was a "good girl". Either that or he wants to keep his cake and eat it too!! When it comes to you two's kid, for now let it go back and forth, and make specific days for it to be with you and specific days with him. Then once he is older, let him chose if it is needed. Hope I helped, even if it was the tiniest bit!!

Well.. to be honest, I kinda related with my old job. I used to work at a place where there was only one other kid that me, and it was mad boring. Personally, I just made things fun. I worked in a pizza place, so I'd make smileys with peporoni..haha. But since you are in the office you could always try doing things like crosswords and such to occupy your mind and to keep you awake. Also, when you wake up in the morning, watch what you eat. If you are visiting McDonalds at 7 a.m., knock it off, you are absolutely ruining things for yourself. Eat some fruit with orange juice or milk.. Good luck hun!! PS- Its ok to think about other things at work. I currently work at a resturant and while I'm taking orders from people I think about what I'm going to do when I get home or at my boyfriends. Use your imagination!!

Sit down in front of the TV and eat at a jar of peanut butter.. I'm telling you, it works every time. But seriously, if you talk your feelings out with her, things will get figured out much faster. Try that!

Well.. let me start off by saying my boyfriend (Mike) and I have been coming down a very long and windy path. It started off when I was in 7th grade. I started dating Keith, my now boyfriends best friend, him and it lasted probably 2 months or so. After so, I dated Mike, for about nine months, then breaking up. After this, we broke up and both stayed single. Then, at the beginning of 9th grade, I dated his best friend Keith again. It lasted 4 months this time and I was in love. I would have done anything for him at this time. But Nicole got involved. She broke us up then they started dating. I got back together with Mike for a VERY short time and she started after him. He picked her over me, and they were together for almost a year. Now my once again boyfriend Mike, wants to be friends with her again. I really dont want him to be, but I dont want to be that jealous bit chy girlfriend that everyone hates to have. My question is what do I do? Do I ask him to not talk to her or do I let things run their own course and wait to see what happens?

He is def. very independent, and I think that's what he also wants me to be..who knows. I am very mature, I just do not like being controled!!

Ok...Umm... I'll be 16 in about a week, January 9. My boyfriend is now 19. As you would guess, we are at total different parts of life right now. I'm getting ready to drive and still going to school. He has graduated, works 12 hour days 5 days a week then 8 hours on Saturdays, has his own house, and is starting to want to hang out with friends. This doesnt bother me and I'm not jealous of him wanting to spend time with them because that just gives me more time to spend with my girls!! I just dont know what to do, we're falling apart, again. We've been dating off and on now for 3 years and I dont wanna lose him again. Last night, he had a very small party at his house. I went and he had left to go pick up something for one of his friends. When he got back, he was mad because I was playing beer pong with one of his friends and starting to get tipsy. My question is that how do I make him realize that I am still a kid, and all I wanna do is have fun, not tend to everything to make him happy???

Well.. Thursday night after work I am supposed to go with my boyfriend to his house- and no one will be home. I want to have sex with him, I have totally decided. The thing is that it is my first time and I know I'll be nervous, but I know I want to do it. I thought about being on top, that way I could control how things are going...but I dont like my body and wont want him to look... Any tips on how to just wein myself into it?

My boyfriend went down on me for the 2nd time now, I can absolutely not have an orgasm.. I dont know why, it feels awesome, but I just cant get THERE. Anything I or he could do get this figured out? I heard of fingering and getting ate out at the same time, but I duno?

Well hunny, I know exactly how you feel. I felt this way for such a long time about 6 months ago, and just like you, no one would help me. Personally, what got me is that even my "best friend" didnt notice that all I did was lay in my dark cold room and sleep. Sometimes I wouldnt eat for 2 days, then others I wouldnt stop eating. I started cutting again, after I had stopped 2 years before that, and once again started smoking. I was doing drugs. I even starting developing an eating disorder. I'm not sure how I got through this, but I honestly think it was school. I know that sounds weird, but it did help. After I realized that what I was doing was idiotic and that everyone loved me (and wanted the best for me) I came home, forced myself to stay up, and did all my homework. Needless to say, I hate straight A's at the end of last year. Good luck babes, and private message me if you need any more help.. or even someone to talk to. Stephnie

Little story for you all...I need your opinions. Last weekend at my boyfriends we were expiriementing. He's 19, I'm going be 16 in 2 weeks. We ended up doing everything, except sex. He started going down on my but I stopped him and said "I wanna have sex...do you". He responded with yes and saying that he would be right back. We continued to fool around and he asked if I was ready. I said yes...he put the condom on and pulled off my pants. I started shaking and crying... I didnt know what to do, or say. My question is that he thinks I'm not ready, but I know for a sure fact I am, what do I do to calm myself down?

Ok..Umm..just a thing to say, it wasn't a drunken mistake. At 16, you should know well enough how sex works, and how you react to drinking alcohol. I admit, I've done stupid things whilest drunk, but I have never blammed it on alcohol. And if you include that with the talk with your parents- it will make it worse!!

Well..I think this guy is actually confused on his sexuallity. When you two move in together, ask him exactly what he feels like. Maybe you will get a surprise with his anwer..good luck hun. (and congrats for coming outta the closet)