kwk0821

Well it was a bd day yesterday. I found out he not only has not paid me child support but he has not made 2 house payments. Which are court ordered. I phoned my lawyer and they are giving him until today to make both house payments and 5 weeks of child support or they are bringing him in contempt of court. I really think he has lost every piece of sense he had.. He was the type person who would freak out if a bill was late. Now he don't seem to care. He puts the girl up but what about OUR SON!!!

Please fight for what you think is right, my husband walked out on me and our baby in July. I am happy to see there are fathers who want to be a part of their kids life. DO NOT GIVE UP! I pray that she will see that she will see that she is making a huge mistake.

I really do want to thank you both for your help. I am just so confused I guess that is the best advice I could have gotten. I wish over and over I would not have done what I done. But it is to late for regrets. I understand now once a cheater always a cheater. But do you agree if he really loved the "good girl" he would not have slept with me?

I have been reading post to try to understand what I am doing. I still do not have a clue, maybe you all can help. Here goes a long story... July 8, 2004 I came home from work to find a note on the table from my husband of 4 years telling me he was leaving me and our then 10 month old son, I did not see it coming. It was told to me he had a 18 year old gf, of course he denied it, but I later found it to be true. He began avoiding any contact with me, everyting to do with our child had to go through his mother. In September he called me and told me he loved me and our son and he wanted to make it work, that quickly changed exactly 1 week later. With anoter phone call saying he knew it would never work. I went to a lawyer and had papers filed for divorce. He ended up telling me that the girl he was with was a "good girl" and he had strong feelings for her. Boy did that hurt! Went went to court on Oct. 25 and in court he denied any involvement with this girl. But I still came out on top at the hearing. He quit his job the first of Sept. to go to Florida to rebuild from the hurricanes. We did not speak a word to each other from Oct. 1 until Dec. 17 when he had to bring our son to my mom's after visitation. Then he was the one I fell in love with. I told him one day he would regret what he did to our family and he said he never would. I agreed to let our child go to his grandmother for Christmas eve for a little while, and when he brought him back he was very sweet again and he told me he might regret what he done but he don't right now. He had our son from Christmas Day @ 2 until New Years day @ 6. On Monday Dec. 27 I called to check on the baby and I asked him if I could come over and see our baby on Tuesday and he said that would be fine. So I went and one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. Then Tuesday night he came by and asked if him and the baby could come to my house on Wednesday, and I agreed and we slept to gether again. When he was leaving he kissed me really passionatley and said be good wife. On Thursday I had plans with some friends and he asked me I would keep our baby so he could go hunting Friday, and I said I would keep him just to leave a message on my answering machine. He did and it was a very ugly message that his mom would keep the baby. He then called my cell and began to be VERY UGLY to me and asking me was I out getting drunk and having fun. Well he called on Friday telling me he was sorry for hurting my feelings and I accepted. Well on Friday night my friend seen him at a party with his girlfriend (after he slept with me 2 times that week) and he was very shocked to see her there, the gf kept trying to kiss him and he kept pushing her away, I do not understand that. On New Years Day he brought our son home and I was laying to the recliner and he just walks in my house with out knocking and just walks ovr to me and grabs my breast and I asked him what he thought he was doing, and he said he had to leave, so he left. I have not heard one thing from him since Sat. I jsut can not imagine anyone being like that. Please tell me waht you think and what I should do to make it better.