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    I find it so sad that your friends started doing it when you did. I think it is great that you are reaching out for help - but it is necessary you talk to a doctor. To quit this kind of thing, you have to REALLY WANT TO. You can't just half say you want to, knowing deep down that it'd still be worth it. You have to think of the negative affects cutting yourself has. For Goodness sakes - do it for your friends! You are a beautiful young girl and I would hate to see you waste that. Please talk to a doctor. To get to a better place, it can be hard, but it is worth it. Good luck.
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    For me - the answer is no. I mean, it would be maybe sending the message that he still cared for me as a person - but still interested doubtful. After three months, for me, it woudl be a relief, b/c it would show me that he is willing to do something as simple as sending a card (no pressure in a card right?) thereforeeee maybe he's ready to be friends. This is just my perspective.
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    thongs

    emma34 replied to ludedude's topic in Sex and Romance

    there are many different kinds - thereforeeee I'm sure she can find a comfortable pair.. I find they are comfortable - no problem. They're also pretty sexy, so why not hehe
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    cooking together is fun - looking at old pictures - playing cards...i dunno, but watching movies is always a gooder!
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    I would also like to congrats you! You are quite the inspiration! Your right -working out can be boring, that's why I find switching it up really helps. I used to buy a workout DVD and just be so excited about buying it I would do it everyday, and then that would fade and I'd have to buy a new one. Now I work out at the gym sometimes, do yoga (which i LOVE), occasional pilates, jogging...just whatever I feel like that day. I would also advive talking to a personal trainer or even a doctor to see what would help YOU personally. Get some friends involved - that always makes it funner for me. And the dancing is also a great idea...do something that's fun. Good luck - and keep up the good work!
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    put some candy in your mouth - give her a little treat! p.s. chai714 that is an excellent idea! lol
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    put your candy in your mouth - give her a treat!!
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    Absoloutely there is nothing wrong with you. It's different for everyone. For me, with my first sexual partner it took me almost a year. I agree, clitoris action would possibly help - oral sex would make it easier for you to get off. But my advice would be not to stress about it. I remember I had the exact same problem and I asked a friend of mine and her response was kind of weird but it worked...she said 'when he's giving you oral sex, pretend like he's not even there, and ur pleasuring yourself. thereforeeee it takes away all your inhibitions and stresses about. don't push it, just enjoy it.'
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    Basically they fall in love, she has to go, they are obviously still in love. She gets engaged to somebody else because he's rich, shes goes back to see first guy, realizes love is more important than security...blah blah, puke, love, the end.
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    this may not be of any importance to many of you...but I would just like to strongly advise anyone that is recovering from a break up to please, do not watch the movie 'the notebook'. While I have focused my entire being on letting go of my ex (by my choice) and trying to believe that love isn't everything, I watched that movie and unfortunetly my numbed emotions broke through. Just please, don't watch it.
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    wow i have to admit after reading that post, i sincerely feel that it seems that deep down you have it all together. Your mission of personal growth really impresses me, and I think you are definitely on the right track. Your ex sounds like a loser who didn't have his priorities straight. Expectations can be a funny thing, sometimes you just have to accept what life hands you, obviously your ex did not understand this - and you were as supportive as you possibly could. The way you treated your ex's situation, and still stayed committed also impresses me. Sure it seems odd to thank your ex, but somehow it's a good thing he let you go, because I'm sure you could do better. I wish you all the luck in the world -and your post has truly inspired me as well, to move on from my own "toxic ex".
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    I could defiantely see how you would feel frustrated with this situation. Sometimes, no matter how much advice you give, people only will listen to what they want to hear. Unfortunetly in this case theres not much you can do if your a loyal friend - whch I assume you are. It seems odd that your friend would be enganging in an affair, with the church indirectly being involved. Maybe a talk with the minister (or priest, or whatever) would be helpful? Good luck and I hope your friend sees the light.
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    I also agree.. writing the letter that's never sent almost equally works.
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    This is a difficult question since she is serious about you trusting her.. Sometimes when someone gets very defensive about 'trusting' it means that they have something to hide - but because i don't know your girlfriend, this of course is not necessarily true in your case. Since obviously you are having trouble just sitting back n' watching her go out and work with this guy often, involve yourself. Make friends with him. Why not? Next time you and ur girl are going out to a movie or something, invite friends, make it a group thing, and advise her to invite that guy. Say you wanna get to know him. Since he's a part of her life, why not yours too? I don't know if this helped your situation, but of course I would always advise just to trust, because if shes cheating on you, she'll either learn to stop, or it'll come out and you'll find out anyway.
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    Any thoughts, suggestions, etc. is all welcomed! Emptiness, Embodies me like a straightjacket. Witnessed from the sky, A life in which I cannot subsist. I am torn amid hope, desperation, or utter dissatisfaction, Along with lust; in which I rely, supporting my sanity. Time is fleeting. Like Prufrock, lost in the surroundings of meaningless personas. Questions of Jesus, And significance. Questions of love, In which I loathe more than man itself. My souls' wings broken - unable to fly. To stir forward, Or to rest upon this drained cloud of anxiousness, Where I have accustomed. I yearn for a solid ground, Where I could place my heart in tranquil ease with pleasant thoughts of summer mornings and naïve embrace. Shall I dare comprise a babe – while I have not unleashed another? Oh, my heart does ache with inquiries of such questionable desires. So I will pine, long, linger in this place of vacant faith, And wait… To be loved, To be loved.
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    i find that it can either take a LOT longer the second time - or go really fast. it's normal either way.
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    Of course this depends on the situation and how it would affect my life - but personally, I would choose ignorance, especially if I had arleady been lied to my whole life. I can't really justify this answer b/c I know that it's prboably not the right choice 'morally,' but I'd rather be naive and happy.
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    well it's been three and a half months so far. definitely not even close to being over him (i was the dumper)...my estimation would be one to two years...or never.
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    this is totally common.. I for one feels those winter blues every year - and it sucks. It just makes sense, christmas isn't for a long time, your usually broke because of it, by this point you've probably broken any new years resolutions, pressure to get back to work after break, inbetween holidays (christmas vs. spring break), cannot WAIT until summer, and of course...Valentines Day. I'm also surprised about the lack of complaints going around about the whole thing. I even have someone new and still I am reminiscing of lost loves (especially the one from last three years...still recovering) But no less, Valentine's Day has become so much more about consurmism than the actual meaning of love - that v-day means nothing but candy, meals, teddy bears, and flowers...which heck, who needs that anyway? I think this holiday should be spent celebrating your own independence, yanno? Good luck - and trust me, you are not alone.
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    So I have never got any of my boyfriends gifts on v-day. In my mind set (i'm not sure why) V-day seems like a day for a man to shower affection on his girl and celebrate love in general. I mean it's not ALL about women, it's about both, but should the girl get the guy a gift too?? If yes, what to get?
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    my theory: men are attrated to 'strong' women. Strong can also go along with controlling, moody, even mean, etc.
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    I totally feel your pain..When you go thru a big break up, it seems like dating around would be beneficial - but it can be serioulsy disappointing. And of course this comes with constant comparisons to ex...i certainly hope that goes away. But of course, keep faith, there will be a man out there for ya, just don't settle for an okay guy just to get you by - wait till you find the perfect man for you.
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    absoloutely..it does not matter the age, more so maturity level. I fell in love when i was 15 - I am 18 now. Younger ppl often for the 'lust' factor, or the 'i love them and they don't even know me' stuff..i don't think that's really love. The thing with teenagers and love is they want to grow up so fast - not always the best thing.
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    ask most ppl what it feels like after they've been broken up for awhile and have passed the depressed stage...it's bitter.This is completely normal and I think most everybody experiences this kind of bitterness. Love just doesn't seem worth it, hey? Besides that, the opposite sex seems somewhat evil...believe me, i've gone thru this, had to break a few hearts before I felt I could trust a man again. It gets better though. It's just a phase. Then someonday you'll fall in love, you'll have no choice, adn you'll forget all of this. Good luck.
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    i don't think you HAVE to lean back when your on top. When I do, there basically two ways. One is to sit straight up (gives em the full view) and either he thrusts or I do, which is less comfortable. But more so I like to pretty much lean forward as he would do if he was on top, cause then you can rub your body all along theres. I dunno if that answered your question...but hope I helped anyway.
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